Out of the Blue.....

[DA BOMB 1]

I was thinking about posting the letter up to get everyones opinion on it, but I doubt if anyone really wants to see my misery.

I tried to talk to her yesterday but she siad she needs time to think and asked me to leave it until saturday.

This has confused me even more. If she has made up her mind then what does she need to think about?

This really is more than my heart can take, I have not slept, eaten or been able to work since this happened

I would not wish this on my worst enemy, everything I had has gone in the blink of an eye.

I just don't know which way to turn

I'll tell ya what works - STOP HANGING ON MYRNA'S EVERY WORD! If she broke up with you dont make yourself available for her. (Us women absolutely HATE to be ignored.) Trust me - this works. She'll phone you saying she was confused, bumped her head, was abducted by aliens, that her "clone" wrote that email....You need to give her the cold shoulder. Dont ask her why...dont even give her the luxury of "thinking it over" time...just disappear for a couple weeks and she'll come around. She's being wishy washy and us VJers have seen this time and again. I personally believe its from having too much time alone to think. The wait itself is a ball buster...."what if he's not The One and Im wasting my time?" You need to pull yourself away from her for her to realize what she's losing. Ok there's my Dr. Phil advice for the day. This is too sappy for me to continue.

[Niels Bohr 72]

Goto places like Vietnam, Cambodia, or Thailand for loyal SO. They are traditional, and will hold long distance relationship just the same as a normal relationship!

Keep looking forward!

[JoeMama 0]

She must have found a bigger #### . sorry bro . Go to vietnam, alot of lovely ladies there who will love you sincerely .

Nice Thai - thats probably JUST the thing he needed to hear. GAWD

Funny thing...usually when someone says something like that, the same thing ends up happening to them!

[JoeMama 0]

I just noticed that you were also asking about using an immigration 5 days ago before this post too. I wonder if she is scared of commitment. It is none of my business and do not feel as though you need to explain yourself and your situation. I will agree everything happens for a reason. Whether it be good or bad. There is always light at the end of the tunnel. It may seem dark now to you. Keep in mind, that which doesn't destroy you, will only make you stronger. Hang in there bud!

[Nicole72082 0]

There is no guarantee about this, but perhaps she's just really scared? It's a huge move and like others have said, she probably just got to thinking about is he the one, can this work out type of stuff.

I know my fiance loves me very much, but he's had his moments when he's told me maybe we should just be friends, he couldn't do this, couldn't leave his family. And yes, he's even said that he didn't care that much for me. The last time, I gave him his space, I didn't text or call him, which about killed me. But he wanted space, so thats what I gave him. 3 days later, he text me all worried about me. We've been great ever since.

Relationships are hard, couples have their problems. People are scared about commitment.. try adding 5,000 miles difference between you. The commitment to be together, its not just moving into someone else's house. It's their world. They have to basically leave behind everything they have ever known.

Anyways, I really hope this is all that has happened with you and your fiancee. If you guys make it through this, you'll just become a stronger couple. Good luck with everything.

[DA BOMB 1]

She must have found a bigger #### . sorry bro . Go to vietnam, alot of lovely ladies there who will love you sincerely .

Nice Thai - thats probably JUST the thing he needed to hear. GAWD

Funny thing...usually when someone says something like that, the same thing ends up happening to them!

Or happens to them all the time.

[RGNSCOT 0]

Well I guess this is a goodbye from me to all of you.

On Tuesday my fiancee sent me an email with a letter attachment telling me she can't marry me because she no longer loves me.

We have been together for almost two years, been through so much ####### together and just when everything was starting to fall into place she does this completely out of the blue.

Everything I have done in my life for the last 14 months has been geared towards finally being with her and now she has flipped my world upside down and left me nothing but a shell of a man with no idea what to do next.

I firmly believe that everything in life happens for a reason, i think this reason is going to take me a life time to understand

To everyone who has helped me on this forum, I thank you. To everyone on the journey I was on, good luck....

Andrew (Formally Myrna's Man)

I AM SORRY BUT UR RIGHT EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON TAKE CARE AND GOOD LUCK

[Thai Pham 0]

She must have found a bigger #### . sorry bro . Go to vietnam, alot of lovely ladies there who will love you sincerely .

Nice Thai - thats probably JUST the thing he needed to hear. GAWD

Funny thing...usually when someone says something like that, the same thing ends up happening to them!

Or happens to them all the time.

Sorry, my American friend used my laptop while I have the VJ window open . He also kept saying like my fiancee is banging some1 in Nam e.t.c ...

[DA BOMB 1]

She must have found a bigger #### . sorry bro . Go to vietnam, alot of lovely ladies there who will love you sincerely .

Nice Thai - thats probably JUST the thing he needed to hear. GAWD

Funny thing...usually when someone says something like that, the same thing ends up happening to them!

Or happens to them all the time.

Sorry, my American friend used my laptop while I have the VJ window open . He also kept saying like my fiancee is banging some1 in Nam e.t.c ...

Oh surrrrre....blame it on the American LOL. Tell your friend he's a dork.

[flutter95 4]

I'm really sorry this has happend, I know EXACTLY how you feel.

I've been with my now husband 5 years, we started the K-1 this end of july/beginning of August and in sept -dec 2005 we had the same problem, he emailed me bascially saying the same thing!

I do understand, I hope things get better.

[fozzie 41]

Hard lines!

I hope you get some closure some day so you can move on. Or fly out there and try to win her back..

[lucy_hk 0]

Friend, I am sorry to hear that..I have known my boyfriend for 9 years..but starting from last September we had a lot of fights regarding the k1 process. We have been better since this year. But tonight just found out our application was denied even before we have any chances of getting NOA2. Life is not perfect .. I understand the twisting feelings..

I hope you be strong and move on. Best wishes!

[Fandango 1,439]

Andrew,

Go visit her and if you're going to have a breakup, at least do it face-to-face.

It'll give you the closure you need, or it'll show Myrna just how much she means to you. Often times, it's hard when you haven't seen each other in a while...kinda like 'what are we fightin for?' sometimes a good visit is needed to keep the passion alive.

I have you in my thoughts and hope that everything gets better for you.

[bostonparis 0]

I think it's terrible that she told you that in an email. I'm sorry for your pain, but do you really want someone with such a low moral character that she can't even tell you something like this over the phone?

[JoeMama 0]

Friend, I am sorry to hear that..I have known my boyfriend for 9 years..but starting from last September we had a lot of fights regarding the k1 process. We have been better since this year. But tonight just found out our application was denied even before we have any chances of getting NOA2. Life is not perfect .. I understand the twisting feelings..

I hope you be strong and move on. Best wishes!

9 years? You've invested some time into your relationship. We're sorry to know you were denied. I hope it is something that can be corrected.