Need a dvice please

[davort 0]

Hi Guys, I'm a december filer and I don't know if I want to keep going with the prosses. This is what happend. I found out that my fiance was unfaiful to me. She said that she travel to singapore for a working purpose and I found that she really went there to spend a weekend with a guy. I feel really bad because I was taking things seriously with her. I can't not sleep because of this. There is not doubt that she sleep with this guy. One of my fiancee cousing knows her pass word and she feel bad of what she was doing to me and she told her that she gave her 24hours to tell me the real reasons she went to singapore or she will tell me the true. so my fiance all wasy said that she did not sleep with this guys so what I did write the guy that was with her and singapore and he told me that yes that she spent the weekend with him. That he paid her for the ticket and give her 250dls. Then I thought that her couising should know more about this history and she did sent me a e-mail where she wasn sending him her pass port and tell him that she can not wait to be with him. This really broke my heart. Afther I show her the e-mail with the pass port that she sent to him she admited and told me that she god blind with money that she does not know what she was doing...A few hours ago I talked to her in the camera and she was crying and told me that she will kill herself if I liave her....could anyone tell me what I should do? After this all that is in my mind is that if she love me she should not had done this to me....please help.......should I just stop talking with her? she is being calling me and calling me trying to get my forgiveness

[JaEnglishGirl 34]

Hi Guys, I'm a december filer and I don't know if I want to keep going with the prosses. This is what happend. I found out that my fiance was unfaiful to me. She said that she travel to singapore for a working purpose and I found that she really went there to spend a weekend with a guy. I feel really bad because I was taking things seriously with her. I can't not sleep because of this. There is not doubt that she sleep with this guy. One of my fiancee cousing knows her pass word and she feel bad of what she was doing to me and she told her that she gave her 24hours to tell me the real reasons she went to singapore or she will tell me the true. so my fiance all wasy said that she did not sleep with this guys so what I did write the guy that was with her and singapore and he told me that yes that she spent the weekend with him. That he paid her for the ticket and give her 250dls. Then I thought that her couising should know more about this history and she did sent me a e-mail where she wasn sending him her pass port and tell him that she can not wait to be with him. This really broke my heart. Afther I show her the e-mail with the pass port that she sent to him she admited and told me that she god blind with money that she does not know what she was doing...A few hours ago I talked to her in the camera and she was crying and told me that she will kill herself if I liave her....could anyone tell me what I should do? After this all that is in my mind is that if she love me she should not had done this to me....please help.......should I just stop talking with her? she is being calling me and calling me trying to get my forgiveness

I wouldn't want to spend a moment more with this person. She only admitted AFTER being confronted, and admitted she wanted the MONEY?

You deserve better.

[mmb 0]

This woman, who you have never met, spent a weekend with another man for money.

She has engaged in prostitution and that is enough to deny her a visa.

You should let this one go.

[David-and-Mae 15]

I'm so sorry for what happened. I really don't know what to say... Don't fall for her threat that she'll kill herself if you will leave her... You deserve someone better!

[Nagishkaw 510]

Forgive the woman , move on and don't look back.

[Lizzy 0]

Hi Guys, I'm a december filer and I don't know if I want to keep going with the prosses. This is what happend. I found out that my fiance was unfaiful to me. She said that she travel to singapore for a working purpose and I found that she really went there to spend a weekend with a guy. I feel really bad because I was taking things seriously with her. I can't not sleep because of this. There is not doubt that she sleep with this guy. One of my fiancee cousing knows her pass word and she feel bad of what she was doing to me and she told her that she gave her 24hours to tell me the real reasons she went to singapore or she will tell me the true. so my fiance all wasy said that she did not sleep with this guys so what I did write the guy that was with her and singapore and he told me that yes that she spent the weekend with him. That he paid her for the ticket and give her 250dls. Then I thought that her couising should know more about this history and she did sent me a e-mail where she wasn sending him her pass port and tell him that she can not wait to be with him. This really broke my heart. Afther I show her the e-mail with the pass port that she sent to him she admited and told me that she god blind with money that she does not know what she was doing...A few hours ago I talked to her in the camera and she was crying and told me that she will kill herself if I liave her....could anyone tell me what I should do? After this all that is in my mind is that if she love me she should not had done this to me....please help.......should I just stop talking with her? she is being calling me and calling me trying to get my forgiveness

Hi,

She lied to you saying she was going to Singapore and she met with a guy.. if this was me i would not be spending my life with this girl.

also if she loved you she would not be sleeping with ANYONE! This is just me and my husband but we have a "no last chance policy" one of us cheats and there out, sounds cold, but it works for us.

If she is calling you and you do not want to continue with the K1, change your telephone number, i know it sounds horrid, but what else can you do?

If you want to work it out you could try but if you where me (famous last words) she would be dust.

Regarding her killing herself, this is called emotional black mail and should be ignored.. you where not the one who cheated.

[Jeff and Boo 0]

Hi Guys, I'm a december filer and I don't know if I want to keep going with the prosses. This is what happend. I found out that my fiance was unfaiful to me. She said that she travel to singapore for a working purpose and I found that she really went there to spend a weekend with a guy. I feel really bad because I was taking things seriously with her. I can't not sleep because of this. There is not doubt that she sleep with this guy. One of my fiancee cousing knows her pass word and she feel bad of what she was doing to me and she told her that she gave her 24hours to tell me the real reasons she went to singapore or she will tell me the true. so my fiance all wasy said that she did not sleep with this guys so what I did write the guy that was with her and singapore and he told me that yes that she spent the weekend with him. That he paid her for the ticket and give her 250dls. Then I thought that her couising should know more about this history and she did sent me a e-mail where she wasn sending him her pass port and tell him that she can not wait to be with him. This really broke my heart. Afther I show her the e-mail with the pass port that she sent to him she admited and told me that she god blind with money that she does not know what she was doing...A few hours ago I talked to her in the camera and she was crying and told me that she will kill herself if I liave her....could anyone tell me what I should do? After this all that is in my mind is that if she love me she should not had done this to me....please help.......should I just stop talking with her? she is being calling me and calling me trying to get my forgiveness

i feel sorry for what had happened to you..its not yet too late.. be thankful at early stage you have seen what kind of girl she is I believe there's really someone meant for you ..someone who is honest and faithful as you are.. Just keep on praying HE always listens...

Boo

[rebelheart 0]

Sorry to hear this situation you've facing now. But I'm not pursuing anymore this petition for her. She lied and lied to you. And now acting suicidal because you file already a petition to her?

Why do u think she does says to other guy can't wait to be with him? maybe the same words she told to you. She lied to you once, it won't stop from there, why? will you wait the time you've already married with her and she keep making lies to you? Think of the consequences "might" happen someday.. like old stories of .. met someone new after few months/years being in the US and decided to leave you easily.

It's not our stand to judge person in terms of this petition, that's why USCIS do this IMBRA thing, but the thing is ... it should be on both side case not only guys who they "guessing" would be needed a background check.

Goodluck on this.

-Ryan

[Sweet Love 0]

Oh my God! I'm so sad to hear about it.

Man, you should forget about her and move on. She is not deser for what you did and doing to her. She did tell lie and that lie is too awful for you (who is her fiance and will be her husband soon). Think about it! She prefers money and go to the US (not you and your love) i think. That's horrible to know (but should face to the truth). Don't be too upset, you should be happy that you know more the truth about her before it is too late. If i were you i would be very very upset (I'm a sensitive girl) but should be strong. Time will help to curle the hurt and There is A REALLY GOOD GIRL and TRURELY LOVE YOU (who is waiting for you to find). I'm sure you will because if you are a good person and do good you will get good things.

And I don't think that she cried on camera and told you those words that she is guilty. I don't think so. She just loves herself. And now that she knows you know the truth and she will lose you.... and do it to make you back because she knows you love her. Don't be silly and joy her games.

(I'm sorry my English is not good enough to write you more but i hope from what i just said and other friends on VJ and special from yourself (don't hurt yourself) you will find out and decide what should do).

All Best wishes!

*Hugs*

--Hang.

[Ngoc-Anh 1]

Hi Guys, I'm a december filer and I don't know if I want to keep going with the prosses. This is what happend. I found out that my fiance was unfaiful to me. She said that she travel to singapore for a working purpose and I found that she really went there to spend a weekend with a guy. I feel really bad because I was taking things seriously with her. I can't not sleep because of this. There is not doubt that she sleep with this guy. One of my fiancee cousing knows her pass word and she feel bad of what she was doing to me and she told her that she gave her 24hours to tell me the real reasons she went to singapore or she will tell me the true. so my fiance all wasy said that she did not sleep with this guys so what I did write the guy that was with her and singapore and he told me that yes that she spent the weekend with him. That he paid her for the ticket and give her 250dls. Then I thought that her couising should know more about this history and she did sent me a e-mail where she wasn sending him her pass port and tell him that she can not wait to be with him. This really broke my heart. Afther I show her the e-mail with the pass port that she sent to him she admited and told me that she god blind with money that she does not know what she was doing...A few hours ago I talked to her in the camera and she was crying and told me that she will kill herself if I liave her....could anyone tell me what I should do? After this all that is in my mind is that if she love me she should not had done this to me....please help.......should I just stop talking with her? she is being calling me and calling me trying to get my forgiveness

In this case you should consider your whole relationship again since you know in what your fiancee is really interested in.....MONEY!

Sorry that you got hurt so bad but now it is important to keep your mind clear and think about your situation!

[J&D_anon 0]

I am sorry to hear that, seriously!

Don't bother yourself any longer with her. Why forgive her that she cheated??? I wouldn't forgive her anything...she did that on purpose..she lied about it and she didn't admit it at first. F*** her, sorry if I sound harsh, but stuff like that just pisses me off!!!

Let it be, DON'T give her another chance or you will regret it, that's what I am sure about!!!!

My fiance and I don't really have this "no last chance policy", but we both know, how much it hurts to get treated like that, so I am 100% positive, that he would NEVER EVER cheat on me....and I wouldn't do that to him either!!!

This is what a relationship is based on: TRUST! And if you can't trust your fiancee anymore, what is the reason for staying with her?? It will kill you, if you keep going. Because you will always think about what she's doing now....while you at work, while you with friends etc.

Let it go...believe me and the rest on here!!!

Diana

[milimelo 4,867]

Sorry you had to go through this but it's better that you found out early and not after you are married to this person.

I am sure you can pull the filed petition early on and it is the right thing to do. I certainly would not want to be with someone who is cheating on me, and no type of blackmail (including this emotional one) would work on me.

You need to stay strong, break off whatever you had with this person and move on - I am sure you will find someone special who will love you for you (and not for money or getting into States) very soon!

Best of luck to you,

milimelo

[JenT 0]

Any relationship, especially long distance ones, are built on a foundation of trust.

That trust has been betrayed.

Do you think you will be able to regain that trust? Are there other things about her behavior that indicate that this would be a trend? Is the relationship worth the risk?

Everyone here has had an opinion, but no one is in your shoes. If you choose to leave, you are not responsible for her emotional well-being. Remaining with someone just because they threaten suicide is a mistake. If you leave, I would make sure that her family knows of her threat and then stop all contact with her and any friends/relations of hers, forever.

Jen

[SoL. 0]

Forgive the woman , move on and don't look back.

I agree.

She will do it again. It's better that it happened now while she was still there and not here with you. And she still has the nerve on blackmailing you?

Good luck!

[Rob and Melinda 0]

It will hurt less to end this now than to continue on and be hurt for the rest of your life with an unfaithful woman. End it now and find someone who wants to love you and be faithful to you...there are lot's of them out there!

Rob and Melinda