my life is over , i just got released from jail, i'm innocent, husband he did it

[nancy55 6]

Hi, i feel bad, i feel i'm official criminal today , i never thought i will be writing something like that never ever , i was victim of domestic violence last year and like this month i forgiven my husband in the court, his case was dropped from felony to no charge due to my words all the time to forgive him, since then , i insisted to don't call the police against him because like he said this time they may take him to prison, and i knew if i call the police the second time we have to get divorced, the husband he became worse thinking that i will never call the police again, he started spitting in face , slapping, ect, few weeks ago he became mad at point he split my t shirt from my body ,it was my favorite t shirt i take a pictures of my split shirt on my phone one day he saw the pictures , any way last night there was a fight, when he do not smoke his herbs/ drinks he start tripping calling me names and pushing my hair this is what he did i found his phone locked for the first time because he was lying about the presence of some of his Friends to city and saying he is going to his job while he was spending time with them, he was fighting, i felt very upset from what he did to me to my hair ect and i told him i will call the police and you will see, he left feeling scared that i'm going to call the police , i left to buy some medications thinking if i call or not, by the time i came back i was changing my clothes some person called my name and knocked the door, when i opened there was the police, even they saw a lot of proofs they said you should go, i feel i dream they take me and i was told that the charge is felony ????????????????? he told them she split my shirt and injured my face and i don't know more, i had some small money that i will use tomorrow to pay they told me in jail i can call him to pay because i don't work, but the bail agency accepted just the money i have with his help or without and i will pay the rest later, i' done, I'm finished he did it, he run before me , i was counting days to hear back from some job interviews that i take, now nobody will hire me , everything will show up in background check yes? is what i'm thinking about is true, i have now to stop applying because i feel not good saying i was arrested. no not me !how can i find job now, i will see the judge in 8 days, they told me take my DV papers hopefully the judge do something and save me , please any help will be much appreciated

1 question i forget if he want to pay the bail in my behalf is this will help my case or no? my life is finished i'm crying i just came to the house i found him sleeping loudly when they arrested him last year i was crying like someday died at the house , if he put restraining on me i will be in the street, please any ideas, i was arrested for something i did not do , i should just call before him and stop loving love gave me nothing , now i'm in troubles, please do not hesitate to give me advice

thanks

by way i changed the picture on my profile

Edited August 16, 2015 by faatima

[rawas 13]

oh friend, don't be upset think about your life we will give you some advice relax i know how much you were excited to find a job i'm not sure if whats happened to you will show up in your job backgrounds or no, more knowledge people will answer soon and they will answer: saying he want to help paying the bail because he knows you are not working if this helpful and good to your case or no, i will do my research for you

[begood 8]

Hi friend don't worry too much you may need to see an immigrant attorney may be this will affect your removal of condition process i don't know, you will find a job don't worry

[begood 8]

This is weekend you will get more comment when people they come

[CaliforniaBae 3]

Hi, i feel bad, i feel i'm official criminal today , i never thought i will be writing something like that never ever , i was victim of domestic violence last year and like this month i forgiven my husband in the court, his case was dropped from felony to no charge due to my words all the time to forgive him, since then , i insisted to don't call the police against him because like he said this time they may take him to prison, and i knew if i call the police the second time we have to get divorced, the husband he became worse thinking that i will never call the police again, he started spitting in face , slapping, ect, few weeks ago he became mad at point he split my t shirt from my body ,it was my favorite t shirt i take a pictures of my split shirt on my phone one day he saw the pictures , any way last night there was a fight, when he do not smoke his herbs/ drinks he start tripping calling me names and pushing my hair this is what he did i found his phone locked for the first time because he was lying about the presence of some of his Friends to city and saying he is going to his job while he was spending time with them, he was fighting, i felt very upset from what he did to me to my hair ect and i told him i will call the police and you will see, he left feeling scared that i'm going to call the police , i left to buy some medications thinking if i call or not, by the time i came back i was changing my clothes some person called my name and knocked the door, when i opened there was the police, even they saw a lot of proofs they said you should go, i feel i dream they take me and i was told that the charge is felony ????????????????? he told them she split my shirt and injured my face and i don't know more, i had some small money that i will use tomorrow to pay they told me in jail i can call him to pay because i don't work, but the bail agency accepted just the money i have with his help or without and i will pay the rest later, i' done, I'm finished he did it, he run before me , i was counting days to hear back from some job interviews that i take, now nobody will hire me , everything will show up in background check yes? is what i'm thinking about is true, i have now to stop applying because i feel not good saying i was arrested. no not me !how can i find job now, i will see the judge in 8 days, they told me take my DV papers hopefully the judge do something and save me , please any help will be much appreciated

1 question i forget if he want to pay the bail in my behalf is this will help my case or no? my life is finished i'm crying i just came to the house i found him sleeping loudly when they arrested him last year i was crying like someday died at the house , if he put restraining on me i will be in the street, please any ideas, i was arrested for something i did not do , i should just call before him and stop loving love gave me nothing , now i'm in troubles, please do not hesitate to give me advice

thanks

by way i changed the picture on my profile

I am so sorry to hear about this. Are you safe now? Away from your husband? I hope you are in a safe place.

I'm sure they will provide a lawyer for you. Please let them know that you are a victim of domestic violence. You dropped the charges so I assume there must be some kind of record. I understand the hesitancy to call and tell on your husband. Please go somewhere safe. I hope you know someone there.

You're afraid that you will not get a job because of the arrest?

Innocent until proven guilty.

[nancy55 6]

I am so sorry to hear about this. Are you safe now? Away from your husband? I hope you are in a safe place.

I'm sure they will provide a lawyer for you. Please let them know that you are a victim of domestic violence. You dropped the charges so I assume there must be some kind of record. I understand the hesitancy to call and tell on your husband. Please go somewhere safe. I hope you know someone there.

You're afraid that you will not get a job because of the arrest?

Innocent until proven guilty.

i have no body to go to, i just came back to home, he told me be ready for me pressing charges on you and find a place because he want to file for restraining order i don't know where to go

now anytime i want to apply for jobs i should press: been arrested right? sure i will have 0 interviews already i was having a difficulty to receive interview call without any charges

Edited August 16, 2015 by faatima

[aaron2020 11,651]

Hi,

Sorry for your situation.

You need professional help. Not help from an bunch of folks online.

Contact Catholic Charities. Here is the website for the one in Los Angeles; http://catholiccharitiesla.org/

Contact a women's shelter. Here is the list for LA; https://www.google.com/webhp?sourceid=chrome-instant&ion=1&espv=2&ie=UTF-8#q=women%27s%20shelter%20los%20angeles%20ca

You need a lawyer.

Best of luck

[CaliforniaBae 3]

i have no body to go to, i just came back to home, he told me be ready for me pressing charges on you and find a place because he want to file for restraining order i don't know where to go

now anytime i want to apply for jobs i should press: been arrested right? sure i will have 0 interviews already i was having a difficulty to receive interview call without any charges

Please do this, okay? READ THIS(not shouting just emphasizing, I'm on my tablet)

http://www.uscis.gov/news/fact-sheets/information-legal-rights-available-immigrant-victims-domestic-violence-united-states-and-facts-about-immigrating-marriage-based-visa-fact-sheet

Know your rights. You are a victim of domestic violence as you said. You have rights.

You can call this number 1-800-799-SAFE(7933)

I think they can help you.

Edited August 16, 2015 by CaliforniaBae

[kareelina 42]

I didn't see any crime you commit to be arrested , they arrested you just for his T-shirt which is not even true , what if you really did that , so what , You should have told them it was self defense . May God be with you , I am really sorry for what happened to you , When you first met your husband , you didn't feel that he is a bad guy .

[Shauna&Wael 211]

Firstly, your husband deserves a fate which I will not list here but I hope you know where I'm going with it

Secondly, I really really hope this will be a huge lesson in your life. Please do not forgive him anymore. You have given him too many chances.

Lastly, it is time to leave the toxic home. Do not worry, there are solutions for you. Your life is not over, I promise you.

WHAT YOU NEED TO DO NOW AND QUICKLY:

-Gather ALL evidence, documents, paperwork for your immigration and both your domestic battery cases. Do NOT leave anything behind.

-Google the nearest battered women shelter, find which one has open rooms

-If the house is not safe to stay one more second, take all belongings and paperwork and go to the nearest police station.

YOU WILL SURVIVE THIS, and I believe in you. We are all here for you.

Edit: If you are scared he will beat you if you try to leave, call the police now and let them be with you while you gather everything.

Edited August 16, 2015 by Shauna&Wael

[Karmalious 50]

Wow, I am so sorry about this....

Unfortunately, Domestic Violence & false accusations of Domestic violence are common here in the United States. I was also arrested for domestic violence on a false accusation. I have since those years ago become a nurse and an advocate for victims of domestic violence.

worst of all, if your arrested at all. Even if it was a false arrest, it will always be on your record!!! A police officer 10 years from now will still see that on your record search if anyone ever looked.

ONLY A FEW SOLUTIONS EXIST: ( for your legal problems )

1. It sounds like you need legal "defense", a lawyer. You need to find a lawyer or a "company/firm" that not only works in criminal defense but also immigration! You may need some immigration protection depending on the type of "charge" you received. This process here in #1 is lengthy and the law system here in the United States is known for being slow. However, it is also known for being a money-#######. While bribes are illegal in the United States, I have realized from experience that money can pretty much make any problem go away. So, if you value your new life in the United States, then get a lawyer!

2. You could just do nothing. Our legal system in America provides you with a FREE criminal attorney to you if you cannot pay for one. You will goto a pre-trial conference. The prosecutor ( the people who are after you ), will probably offer you some sort of plea-deal. They will offer you something like "Plead guilty, and we will drop the charges down to a misdemeanor and give you 1 year of probation. If you accept that deal, then you are finished. Or you can refuse the deal and the entire process will go to court ( like you see on TV )..... The biggest concern of mine that I have for you; is THE Exact charge they arrested you for. Because usually a person who is arrested only for their first time, usually does not get a felony for domestic violence. what did they charge you with?

3. You could abandon your citizenship. When you are released out of jail they tell you not to leave the state or the United States. But, it's possible.... you could get on a flight right now and go back home. But you would be abandoning your citizenship, leaving un-resolved legal matters, and making it extremely hard to come back to the United States.......... I would know because my wife took this option #3 before we got married.

Again, this whole situation sucks. Often times in these situations, not everyone is completely innocent........ There are many more types of abuse that purely physical. If you need to chat, or if you need more detailed information on the "legal process" here in America... Send me a private message and I can help you navigate through it. I have been arrested more times than I would like to admit.

OPTIONS REGARDING ABUSIVE SPOUSE:

- Please read the comments above from Shauna&Wael.

- Victims of domestic violence are protected here in the United States.

If you have not already left your spouse:

1. First thing to do is call a "domestic violence" center in your local town. If true that the police were already there once before, then they probably gave you a letter or a hand-out paper that lists several resource centers in your home town.

Your Goals should be to:

1. See if you can file a temporary injuction. A lot of states have protections in place for you and frequently they can give you full control of the house where you live. Especially if you are the victim and you have nowhere else to go. This is state-dependent and not all of the US states are the same.

2. Or find other housing alternatives: friends, family, or such as a woman's shelter , homeless shelter,

3. Talk to a lawyer, and find the correct path for fixing your legal problems

4. JOB - Make that money $$, you will need it.

Escaping Domestic Violence is not something that is easily done. Here in the United States it can be even more difficult given the housing situation here in America. It is extremely expensive to try and leave a spouse with nothing on your back and not a dollar to your name. But, you should ask for those resources we have mentioned..... And all you can do is say that "I deserve better", and "you will get through this".......... Because, I promise you. You can do it....

God bless.

(PS) - Send me a message if you really do need some guidance. I can help you find local resources in your home town also.

Edited August 16, 2015 by Karmalious

[Jawaree 717]

OP my friend you need to call a women's shelter I your area, even the phone

operater will point you to one, OP all you were doing is defending yourself

from being beaten, you husband is an abuser you stated last yr he was arrested

& cried...go to Catholic charities regarding the immigration side of things.

No you are not a criminal & keep that photo with your T Shirt torn off...you

hae to get away from this dangerous man & take all your documents &

passport when you leave

Edited August 16, 2015 by Jawaree

[tomyka81 95]

try to get your husband to recant his story. Then, if possible, have your attorney try for a lessor offense, one not in the DOMV rhealm. Right now, you have no conviction record, just an arrest. If you can get it adjudicated to a lessor misdeamenor charge (fighting maybe), or dismissed if your husband recants, you can later have it expunged depending on your state. Under no circumstances should you take a witholding adjudication.

[nancy55 6]

Firstly, your husband deserves a fate which I will not list here but I hope you know where I'm going with it

Secondly, I really really hope this will be a huge lesson in your life. Please do not forgive him anymore. You have given him too many chances.

Lastly, it is time to leave the toxic home. Do not worry, there are solutions for you. Your life is not over, I promise you.

WHAT YOU NEED TO DO NOW AND QUICKLY:

-Gather ALL evidence, documents, paperwork for your immigration and both your domestic battery cases. Do NOT leave anything behind.

-Google the nearest battered women shelter, find which one has open rooms

-If the house is not safe to stay one more second, take all belongings and paperwork and go to the nearest police station.

YOU WILL SURVIVE THIS, and I believe in you. We are all here for you.

Edit: If you are scared he will beat you if you try to leave, call the police now and let them be with you while you gather everything.

O asked him to do not put restraining order on me, because i will pay myself the bail with alittle money i have tomorrow and the rest i will find options with the agency he said he has nothing to help me with, if i leave the house this will be worse, im trying to make him help me with myself because i know he is lying but it seems like he is enjoying it he believed he is victim, i don't know what to do

[nancy55 6]

I didn't see any crime you commit to be arrested , they arrested you just for his T-shirt which is not even true , what if you really did that , so what , You should have told them it was self defense . May God be with you , I am really sorry for what happened to you , When you first met your husband , you didn't feel that he is a bad guy .

he said he showed them his Tshirt that he did something to and small scratch in his face, there was some old friends that they came from another city visiting him and they helped him when he run scared from me calling the police they came take him to the police station who knows what he said more ???