No longer wants to marry me

[D N Medellin COL 75]

Let's all face it, you never really know a person until you live with that person. You could have grown up as neighbors on the same block, then dated for years, proclaiming your undying love and respect for each other, then you marry and live together and a year latter your asking yourself "who is this person I thought I knew, trusted and respected". The heart is tricky, who knows it.

Wish you both the best of luck.

[del-2-5-2014 1,339]

K1 needs to be done away with in it's entirety.

[clairegie 265]

sorry to hear that. and yes, you need to go back home if your fiance wont marry you.

[Cathi 5,624]

K1 needs to be done away with in it's entirety.

Agreed

[Avery Cates 1,141]

K1 needs to be done away with in it's entirety.

What?

[del-2-5-2014 1,339]

What?

Yes. Completely abolished.

1) It will remove the ambiguousness of proving intent to marry. Guess what Mr. CO, we are exactly already married. Thank you Sir.

2) No more of the; I came into the US and my Boyfriend who sworn to marry me has reneigned. Now what? I can't go back home shameful that my relationship failed.

3) I believe that it puts both bene and peti on equal footing when the pet is not holding immigration status on the head of the bene.

Of course I am just Gowon, just my opinion, I am neither USCIS nor DOS.

Edit: Oh yes happy xmas and all the other good stuff.

Edited December 25, 2013 by Gowon

[NigeriaorBust 4,087]

Eliminating the K1 would stop some relationships dead in their track no matter how legit they are . I do believe that the petitioner should be responsible for the return travel expenses if they back out and that they need to use a legally enforceable affidavit of support not the I134

[del-2-5-2014 1,339]

Eliminating the K1 would stop some relationships dead in their track no matter how legit they are . I do believe that the petitioner should be responsible for the return travel expenses if they back out and that they need to use a legally enforceable affidavit of support not the I134

You see now we are talking.

My goal is to reduce/remove the same heartache that my Wife and I faced. Let's have whatever it takes to see a higher increase in approvals. Increase the poverty level requirement, etc

Will there be collateral damage? Of course but they can always get married.

How many scammers will go through the hassles of marriage, etc. I know some will.

Edited December 25, 2013 by Gowon

[NigeriaorBust 4,087]

I think I now more scammers that chase Cr1 visas that K1. They believe it is easy to get a CR1.

[Avery Cates 1,141]

Yes. Completely abolished.

1) It will remove the ambiguousness of proving intent to marry. Guess what Mr. CO, we are exactly already married. Thank you Sir.

2) No more of the; I came into the US and my Boyfriend who sworn to marry me has reneigned. Now what? I can't go back home shameful that my relationship failed.

3) I believe that it puts both bene and peti on equal footing when the pet is not holding immigration status on the head of the bene.

Of course I am just Gowon, just my opinion, I am neither USCIS nor DOS.

Edit: Oh yes happy xmas and all the other good stuff.

I'd say if any of that is the issue, they should just do away with visas from high fraud countries. That would settle the majority of all that from both visas.

A lot of that could also be solved simply by two people doing things responsibly and get to know the other person first, instead of rushing into it.

Removing an entire visa because people aren't making good choices in the first place is a bit daft. Either of the two things above would solve a lot of problems across multiple visas, including K-1s.

[del-2-5-2014 1,339]

I'd say if any of that is the issue, they should just do away with visas from high fraud countries. That would settle the majority of all that from both visas.

A lot of that could also be solved simply by two people doing things responsibly and get to know the other person first, instead of rushing into it.

Removing an entire visa because people aren't making good choices in the first place is a bit daft. Either of the two things above would solve a lot of problems across multiple visas, including K-1s.

What's really daft is doing the same thing over and over again but expecting different results.

Asking people to get married instead of using the Fiance visa will streamline the process, it's an astute recommendation.

My suggestion doesn't banish applicants and beneficiary. Yours on the other hand does, and is rather insensitive and isolates.

[Caryh 5,206]

What's really daft is doing the same thing over and over again but expecting different results.

Asking people to get married instead of using the Fiance visa will streamline the process, it's an astute recommendation.

My suggestion doesn't banish applicants and beneficiary. Yours on the other hand does, and is rather insensitive and isolates.

Banishing the K-1 wouldn't solve any problem beyond the unmarried and abandonded fiancee. We'd just have more abandonded immigrant spouses who don't know how to survive in the USA, and as many that to want return without the means to return home. Requiring the purchase of an open return ticket for both cr-1 and K-1 might help though. And how many times do we hear they got here and split as soon as the green card arrived complaints?

what's the big difference between a couple that meets for two weeks on vacation and files a K-1 as opposed to one that meets for two weeks and gets married to file a cr-1?

No matter what visa it is, people are going to rush in without truly knowing the person. And even when you think you really know them, threes lots to learn when you're no longer on vacation and living together.

Edited December 26, 2013 by Caryh

[del-2-5-2014 1,339]

Banishing the K-1 wouldn't solve any problem beyond the unmarried and abandonded fiancee. We'd just have more abandonded immigrant spouses who don't know how to survive in the USA, and as many that want return without the means to return home. Requiring the purchase of an open return ticket for both cr-1 and K-1 might help though. And home many times do we here they got here and split as soon as the been card arrived complaints?

what's the big difference between a couple that meets for two weeks on vacation and files a K-1 as opposed to one that meets for two weeks and gets married to file a cr-1?

No matter what visa it is, people are going to rush in without truly knowing the person. And even when you think you really know them, threes lots to learn when you're no longer on vacation and living together.

1) Abandoned CR1/IR1 bene = one that can stay legally (no risk of bans, being scared of deportation, etc), find some work legally. Pretty much the USC has nothing to hold over that person.

2) Abandoned K1 bene = has to leave the US, can never adjust except to abuse VAWA, no chance to work, etc. At the whim of the USC mostly.

[InHisTime 110]

1) Abandoned CR1/IR1 bene = one that can stay legally (no risk of bans, being scared of deportation, etc), find some work legally. Pretty much the USC has nothing to hold over that person.

2) Abandoned K1 bene = has to leave the US, can never adjust except to abuse VAWA, no chance to work, etc. At the whim of the USC mostly.

Hey, Gowon, you've got points in your idea. However, I think there should be an extensive research to be conducted, like percentage of unsuccessful relationships from K1, causes and effects, etc....whatsoever.

In my case, I am thankful that I came to the US on K1 visa, not CR1. If not, I might be filing for a divorce and more heartaches and expenses.

Yes, K1 visa is risky by chance, if the beneficiary intends to come to America solely to immigrate, not purely because of love, or maybe both love and immigration. It depends on the situation / status of the beneficiary.

CR1 is much safer for the beneficiary if he/she is not set to come home once marriage fails or not working as expected.

It is a case to case scenario. On my behalf, at least, I wasn't married to him yet, and when I realized it wasn't worth of my sacrifices, I was able to come home faster, and not deal with any hassle of getting divorce. I was able to come back immediately to my work at my home country, which really sucks if I didn't get it back as I really do have a good and stable job here. Out of love, I tried to come to the USA thinking it will work out (of course, at the beginning I never thought it wouldn't). But things changed when I arrived in the US and I didn't like how I was treated. I left confused and felt not ready to marry and so I came back before 90 days. So for me, K-1 is better.

In short, it really depends on the situation of the beneficiary...how stable he / she in her home country, or does he / she wants to immigrate to US, or maybe any other reasons. At any rate, I'm thankful I got the chance to enjoy shopping and see a little of beautiful spots in America. I came home devastated, but I would never regret of my decision in coming home. Everything happens for a reason. And I got mine. Thanks VJ friends.

[NigeriaorBust 4,087]

And what or the people that come on the CR1 and the beneficiary runs off and sues to petitioner for support. There is abuse of both classes of visas usually caused by some fool that is hell bent on marrying someone they have had less contact with than their kindergarten teacher.