Kinda wants to Give up....

[missing_tulips 4]

I am still here in Philippines and lots of bad words i receive on my husband. I am just wondering if im going to stop the processing cuz i dont want to deeper.. i am so hurt by his bad words. and kinda jealous some couples out there they are so excited and happy to be with their husband...

[Inky 1,111]

Moved from NVC forums to Philippines forums as OP is not having an issue with NVC and should get better support from here rather than NVC forums.

[Alaska2012 462]

If he doesn't treat you right now, why do you think he will treat you better later? You think he'll change?

[apple21 953]

Don't pursue the medical and interview anymore. That will stop the process. But if you change your mind later, you'll probably have to re-file everything again and pay a new fee.

Edited April 21, 2013 by apple21

[precious11 1]

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I am still here in Philippines and lots of bad words i receive on my husband. I am just wondering if im going to stop the processing cuz i dont want to deeper.. i am so hurt by his bad words. and kinda jealous some couples out there they are so excited and happy to be with their husband...

Hi, i know what u feel.. Ive been there.. Ive been on an ir1 cr1 tooo but that was in 2011 and my marriage ended coz i want it too end coz he treats me like im not his wife.... Toooo horrible to be feeling that way, specially if he is not even trying his best to communicate. I work during the day and at night/dawn i wait for him so we could talk and all but seems like im begging for that. And imagine i stay up all morning just to talk to him and when we talk i feel like im rejected coz his even more busy with talking to other girls. Not just that, also i hear bad words to him, and feeling like his not my husband, its sooo horrible.. I feel like i wanna cry typing this but im glad i gave him up coz i found a guy thats better and able to respect, support me to his hardest and love the way i am and doesnt want to change me.

Its your decision if u wanna try living with him. My ex did try to convince me to live with him for a few months and try the relationship if its gonna work but i rejected it coz i dont wanna be with him anymore and im done with everything he did to me. I was emotionally troubled and abused during our relationship and i dont want to prolong that, specially we live together and his gonna hit me or hurt me physically, thats super scary, and specially ur not leaving in ur own country u do not know anyone out there, not unless u have family there.

But im with you.. I feel you. Please be strong and always pray. That all your troubles will go away and that GOD will help in everything u wanna decide. Goodluck..

Xoxo jj and mm

[mama&papa 2]

Leave him. It will be worse when you go on with that relationahip and later suffer. 'Precious11' is right

[Jawaree 718]

If a man treats you like dirt he will never stop whipping his foot on you...move on

[calibob 73]

You know the proper answer that is inside you ...... listen to the inner voice, it's usually right.

Best of luck and there's a billion more men who'll treat you better!!!!!!!!!!

Bob

[Mogambi 96]

If he mistreats you, then please call it off. He will never become 'better'. Things will only get worse. If you are marrying someone just so you can get to the US, then it is a big mistake. Better to wait and find someone who is kind and gentle and caring. If not, then you will be so unhappy.

If your fiancé is a jerk, then never mind him, he's dangerous and who knows.

Better to end it now, sorry

[cardilene 26]

Do remember that frustration can lead to a change in attitude,...

He may be having a hard time dealing and coping with the wait,...

Give it time and just talk it over, you might end up regretting such decision in the end,...

[ppihtr123 68]

Hard to tell from the short post what the issues are but....

Try to communicate exactly how you are feeling and what he does that bothers you. Even the best husband is not a mind reader (it just sometimes seems that way). Also acknowledge that there may be some communication issues that are amplified by the cultural differences. For instance, if you tampo, he may think you are agreeing with him instead of understanding your unhappy. It gets even harder through long distance to understand. Another aspect is religion. If there is a large disparity in beliefs between you, you need to talk through them and find agreement. He may also not understand the affect of his cursing on you. In the US many people use curse words as adjectives, nouns, and verbs without meaning to disparage anyone. I recommend for a while, you try to openly and honestly communicate and ASSUME NOTHING. Also implore him to do the same.

With that said, if he is cursing you directly or being verbally abusive directly toward you, be careful! No one deserves to be mistreated.

[Tahoma 2,292]

He's not going to change. It's only going to get worse.

Do you want to feel bad for the rest of your life?

You deserve love and respect. Nothing less.

You know what you need to do. I hope you find the strength to do it.

[Darnell 8,478]

was his bad words centered around filling out the DS-230 ?

[Sunrise_t 3]

Hi! I just read your post and i saw the date was 2 years ago..

Just curious, about your decision..... I hope and pray that you're happy wherever you are now...

Yes, we should be treated the way we deserved...

I don't let men abuse me...I was in a relationship that was magical at first then it gradually changes.... . It gets to the point that I was uncertain about the future... I loved him and gave my all that, there were nothing left for me.. but One time I just realized that I have to love myself and so I will be happy....and I called it off after 6 years.. and Never looked back.....

Now I am happily married....... COZ I CHOSE TO BE HAPPY......

JUST BE STRONG AND THINK ABOUT YOURSELF and PRAY.....

[VOL 425]