She wants to go back Home (Philippines)

[nate and riyn 11]

I have two boys with my X and if my now fiance ever hinted that she doesn't want me to have my boys or any communication with them I would have to let her go as much as I love her. Gosh I am so sorry that this is happening to you. Perhaps she will have a change of heart? Unlikely but maybe...Good luck to you.

Andy

blood is thicker than water , let her go if she dont love your kids.. if she loves you she better love your kids as well.. as for me, i am fine with the kids.. i love children but it is quite a big deal for me if my husband is keep on communicating with his ex like as totally always but for the kids.. og gosh i love children, let them stay with me and not coming back to their mom...lol

[kennym 275]

ohhhhh man! otra vez, this is soooo "Maury Povich"...

1st problem, somebody jumps on here with a 3 line dramatic and intense "opener", but very little facts, then disappears..

2nd Everyone offers dangerous life-changing advise and cant possible know the root cause..

Just love how this becomes like the Maury Povich Show..

My advise,

DONT SEEK RELATIONSHIP ADVISE ON THE INTERNET !!!!

Talk with someone that knows and cares about the both of you.. regardless where that takes you, its a zillion times safer than the internet...

Seriously VJ, stop with the dangerous advise.. These people are vulnerable and can actually follow your suggestions without realizing its unqualified.. Their problems, can be any range from of seriousness, but we really cant tell..

If the questions relates to Immigration, for example, "my wife came here stole my toothbrush and left with my 72 chevy, how do I file the AOS?" then maybe we can answer answer.. and possibly, offer advise about AOS

Remember, the gain to be had with VJ is about Immigration Help.. Not how to save or destroy a relationship..

Edited July 15, 2012 by kennym

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My advise,

DONT SEEK RELATIONSHIP ADVISE ON THE INTERNET !!!!

Oh, the irony.

[Sayha or bust. 71]

I can relate to this.

Based on my research, I came to the conclusion that this "shipping" of kids back and forth was detrimental to the kids. In my case I yielded 100% custody to my Ex Wife.

I personally think the OP should be thankful that this came to life this early in their relationship.

Not all Fiancees/Wifes are Mother material. Perhaps OPs Wife came to that realisation. She deserves to be happy too so if her being a step mother is not part of her plan then a dissolution is the only way to go. How does the Ex feel about getting the kids back?

It's a delicate situation.

In no way shape or form should he ship his kids back to his ex to make his current wife happy! Very selfish of her and you or whomever it may be to give back your kids. Your children are your # 1 priority your life! If the kids were of age and they were mooching and worthless then you should make reparations to keep your wife happy. Look at his pics, his children are still young.

[kennym 275]

Oh, the irony.

[adiiann 163]

I find OP's post lack of essential details to come up with most likely better opinion.

Kids are precious, giving up them isn't right. But my question is, did the kids accepted her as their step mom? Did she said of getting rid of them because she's tired of trying to be a good step mom to them? Let's be real, some kids are mean. Did you make balance the relationship between your wife and your kids? Did you ask your wife how her life affected by your kids? Maybe the OP needs to examine the whole relationship if he is being fair to his wife and how could he reconciles his wife and the kids to be able to live peacefully amd happily in one roof.

[brett and alma 12]

Iam a filipina and I feel so ashamed with the attitude of your wife. Don't let your kids go, sorry to tell, but your wife is so selfish.

Very true,she is very selfish.

Send her home and find another one who can truly love you and love your kids.

[livelife2dfullest 7]

Im a filipina and my husband has a child from an ex gf before. When he proposed marriage i told him straight that i am not going to take good care of a child from your past and yes i was selfish but at least i was honest. He understand me we got married 7 years later we have our own 2 kids and my stepdaughter still never lives with us. My husband pays child support and we often pick her up so she still see her dad and our kids often. I wish your wife was honest enough to you before the two of you got married. Well if she wants to go home then let her. A wife can be replace but you can never replace your kids.

[Sandra G. 5,016]

To ask a father/mother to choose between the relationship and the child from a previous marriage/relationship is despicable, to say the least. The more I know the human being, the more I love my dog.

Edited August 29, 2012 by sandranj

[hope2018 25]

I Didnt want to comment on your topic because it opened my wounds.Before i was with my fiance i was with another man who had a Son and i must say i loved that child so much u couldnt tell he wasnt mine unless i told u,the boy could spit on me rub soap in my eyes and do alot of horrible things to me but i never spanked him,i loved him cos i wanted to bond with him-his father however broke up with me for no reason,i was hurt cos i had bonded with the kid by then and the seperation hurt me.Am happy now though,however Sorry to say but your wife is selfish.she should accept your kids as her own and bond with them so that when she has her own kids eventually she will have no headache introducing her new born baby to your boys.Love is Sacrifice it shouldnt always be about you but about your partner-For me my partner comes first all the time and i second,hes a king and i tell him that.Even if he cheated with another woman and had a kid trust me id love that kid no matter what children are blessings from God and it shouldnt matter who brought them or how they came into the world what matters is loving and raising them the right way.i hope u have a talk with her and solve issues with her.Goodluck

You sound like a wonderful women. It is hard to find someone that loves your kid as his/her own. Your ex is not very smart for letting you go.

I wish you all the best.