No children allowed wedding, how do you tackle this?

[NY_BX 397]

hahahaha

It doesn't sound like you or your mother have a problem with telling people exactly how you feel. So I don't understand why you came here asking us whether or not we thought a "childless" wedding/reception is "unorthodox".

Maybe you just wanted to test the reaction?

If so, I think you got what you came for. Now go have a lovely time and continue to do it your way - just skip the drama you say you don't want.

Actually, no. I wasn't testing anyone. I really didn't know how to tackle telling people "no children." Most of my friends are divorced; they married very young and their weddings had children as guests. So I've never been invited, let alone participated, in a wedding where there's an age limit. In fact, since I am so blunt, that's why I needed y'alls opinion because I wanted to choose my words wisely. And I am thankful because I got good advice.

In my uncle's wife case, she's a sicko....

[Rebecca Jo 1,962]

I had another thought about your ceremony.

I'd suggest you somehow get the word out about your little cigar rolling party. In other words, make sure people have the option to leave before this all gets started. It's one thing for your friends to wish you well. It's another to have them pi$$ed off at you from the clink just because they didn't understand why the cops showed up.

[NY_BX 397]

I had another thought about your ceremony.

I'd suggest you somehow get the word out about your little cigar rolling party. In other words, make sure people have the option to leave before this all gets started. It's one thing for your friends to wish you well. It's another to have them pi$$ed off at you from the clink just because they didn't understand why the cops showed up.

We're not smoking weed! I actually have 2 artisans roll cigars, we have a batucada, we have a salsa and reggae band and we have alcohol in copious amounts. Although that doesn't prevent the cops from showing up.

My wedding ceremony will be in New York. The reception will be in Puerto Rico.

[Ban Hammer 12,900]

rj

[Darnell 8,478]

did yer mom say that 'to you' or to the aunt?

FaceBook Rocks !!

[NY_BX 397]

did yer mom say that 'to you' or to the aunt?

FaceBook Rocks !!

she's not my aunt. she married my uncle...

My mom told her that, not me.

[EminTX 131]

We are planning to use this site to customize each one individually with a name

http://www.says-it.com/concertticket/

Each person will have one and we plan to make it very clear that no ticket means no entry. I am hoping that the subliminal message of this looking official will help. Plus, it might be a cool souvineer for some of them.

I don't know if you can publicly (on FB or emails) start sending videos of unsupervised kids at weddings causing problems and lament about it. Example: "Oh no! I met this lady and I an terrified of any kids at my wedding after seeing this. It was her favorite niece and is always so well behaved. The stress just got to her!"

Of course, some people CAN'T figure out a hint. It might be worth a shot.

It would also be good for someone else to be designated the bouncer for such folks--that way, you don't have to deal with the stress of booting someone out on that day. If you have someone in the family that loves to be "in your face" then maybe that would work out perfect for dealing with the inconsiderate folks.

Edited January 8, 2012 by EminTX

[VanessaTony 3,567]

she's not my aunt. she married my uncle...

My mom told her that, not me.

Well she's your Aunt BECAUSE she married your Uncle... or do you make this distinction because you don't like her and Aunt denotes a relationship? Or do you only call your parents siblings "Aunt" and "Uncle"?

[Ruffie 22]

Heck, it's YOUR wedding so it's YOUR call. I would put it right there in the invitations "Adult Reception - NO children"

If somebody can't respect your wishes, you don't need them there in the first place.

[NY_BX 397]

We are planning to use this site to customize each one individually with a name

http://www.says-it.com/concertticket/

Each person will have one and we plan to make it very clear that no ticket means no entry. I am hoping that the subliminal message of this looking official will help. Plus, it might be a cool souvineer for some of them.

I don't know if you can publicly (on FB or emails) start sending videos of unsupervised kids at weddings causing problems and lament about it. Example: "Oh no! I met this lady and I an terrified of any kids at my wedding after seeing this. It was her favorite niece and is always so well behaved. The stress just got to her!"

Of course, some people CAN'T figure out a hint. It might be worth a shot.

It would also be good for someone else to be designated the bouncer for such folks--that way, you don't have to deal with the stress of booting someone out on that day. If you have someone in the family that loves to be "in your face" then maybe that would work out perfect for dealing with the inconsiderate folks.

OMG! This is the BEST idea! No ticket, no entry! LOL!

Thank you so much!

Well she's your Aunt BECAUSE she married your Uncle... or do you make this distinction because you don't like her and Aunt denotes a relationship? Or do you only call your parents siblings "Aunt" and "Uncle"?

I only call blood related relatives by their given title. And if they become a pain, I relate to them by name.....

So, yes, she's not my aunt. She's my uncle's wife.

[Darnell 8,478]

she's not my aunt. she married my uncle...

My mom told her that, not me.

Yer Mom is Cool ! Can I friend her on FaceBook ?

(Sorry, I don't use Facebook - but yer Mom is still cool ! )

[VanessaTony 3,567]

OMG! This is the BEST idea! No ticket, no entry! LOL!

Thank you so much!

I only call blood related relatives by their given title. And if they become a pain, I relate to them by name.....

So, yes, she's not my aunt. She's my uncle's wife.

I like the ticket idea too! I'd make sure there's a list at the door as well. Oooo you could do hand stamps like a club if they need to go to their car or something

Yeah that makes sense re the Aunt/Uncle stuff. We have to do the titles regardless of whether blood related. Once we get older we're allowed to just REFER to them as first name but when addressing we have to be polite and use their "title".

**Edit - Can't say I ever had to call a non-related (by blood or marriage) person by Uncle or Aunt but I've noticed that's quite common here for friends of the parents to be given that "title"... I think it's odd.

Edited January 8, 2012 by Vanessa&Tony

[NY_BX 397]

I like the ticket idea too! I'd make sure there's a list at the door as well. Oooo you could do hand stamps like a club if they need to go to their car or something

Yeah that makes sense re the Aunt/Uncle stuff. We have to do the titles regardless of whether blood related. Once we get older we're allowed to just REFER to them as first name but when addressing we have to be polite and use their "title".

**Edit - Can't say I ever had to call a non-related (by blood or marriage) person by Uncle or Aunt but I've noticed that's quite common here for friends of the parents to be given that "title"... I think it's odd.

In my culture (although I've seen it in other communities as well) we give the title to who's earned it by their own merit. So, my best friend has 2 children and they call me aunt. She, however, has big problems with her BIL (sister's husband). They call him by his name.

[Susita 175]

Just make it clear. "Adult event or reception" or something like that. Also remember to just put individual names on the envelope, no "& family." I also think it would be good to put something like this on the response card: "Although the bride and groom love children, this celebration is only appropriate for those 21 years of age or older."

[NY_BX 397]

Just make it clear. "Adult event or reception" or something like that. Also remember to just put individual names on the envelope, no "& family." I also think it would be good to put something like this on the response card: "Although the bride and groom love children, this celebration is only appropriate for those 21 years of age or older."

The wording is very polite and to the point. Thanks for the suggestion.