i love you phrases cause denial of visa

[Enigma11561 336]

As you stated perfectly yourself, being together physically does not automatically make it love. The Internet has allowed for many people to get to know each other that otherwise never would have. You can get to know someone very well without ever having seen them physically face to face. In a long distance relationship, there are only so many ways you can spend time together, and talking is the major one. Talking for hours upon hours for days, weeks, months and even years can allow 2 people to get to know each other very well. There is no reason love cannot develop just because they have not been able to physically hug or kiss them yet. Love is not just a physical thing, that would be lust. Spending time together in person is important to make sure the relationship is strong enough and you are compatible enough(including physically) to share your lives together. Being together in person physically and meeting and getting to know their friends and family is important indeed, but you can be in love with someone before ever reaching that point.

I agree with you on the first point.But as far as the second point I would use words like "caring" or maybe "infatuated" or maybe "deeply involved" but love is something that takes time ( as you said) and being together for more than a week or so. Again, there are always exceptions, but just about all the folks I know, from many different countries, all seemed to have taken their time in getting to know their potential spouse before marriage.

[KayDeeCee 4,902]

I agree with you on the first point.But as far as the second point I would use words like "caring" or maybe "infatuated" or maybe "deeply involved" but love is something that takes time ( as you said) and being together for more than a week or so. Again, there are always exceptions, but just about all the folks I know, from many different countries, all seemed to have taken their time in getting to know their potential spouse before marriage.

I agree about it taking time. I just disagree that people cannot be in love before they physically meet face to face. Love takes time to develop, but I do not think it takes a physical presence to form. Took my time getting to know my husband. I already had a previous marriage end in divorce(physically together in that relationship from start to finish) and wasn't looking to rush into anything, certainly not another marriage. Did not meet in person physically face to face until we were in a relationship for almost 3 years. I was already in love with him by that time. Like I said, you can get to know someone very well being in a long distance relationship. Communication and connecting is a huge factor. We got engaged 8 years into our relationship and filed for him to immigrate here 10 years into it. Most people do not go that slow, but everyone falls in love and develops their relationships at their own pace and in their own way.

[jui_uy 1]

How applicable can the song "i knew i love you" by Savage Garden get? "I knew I love you before I met you... I think I've dreamed you into life..." That CO needs to get a love life of his/her own... With this kind of world we are living right now, your being hopeless romantic might save you from being cynical in this world.

[Austramerican 83]

My heart knew I loved him before we met, my brain was calling me to be cautious, even when I first saw him waiting for me at the bottom of the escalator at the airport I knew I loved him, my heart knew he was my husband to be, but my brain was like Be careful! Make sure you can live togethe before you get carried away!! And now that we had lived together for a year and are engaged, my brain finally caught up with what my heart knew all along so I think you can love someone before you meet them, but it is also a good idea to live with someone before you commit to a lifetime with them imo anyway

[Nicoco 26]

Does that mean they can deny us based on other stuff we said to eachother on chat? I better cut out the bashing of the US Embassy part of our facebook chat... seriously

Maybe you meant my other communication like email or whatnot, but do they seriously sit down and read all of those 500 pages of chats?

Edited November 20, 2011 by Ni-ing & Ice

[TBoneTX 47,551]

Does that mean they can deny us based on other stuff we said to eachother on chat?

You (meaning everyone) would do best to edit what you give them so that they see only what YOU WANT them to see.

Maybe you meant my other communication like email or whatnot, but do they seriously sit down and read all of those 500 pages of chats?

Tailor the material so that it's a healthy amount and it contains what YOU WANT them to read.

[cmn2minn 0]

When you spend one to two hours a day talking to a person online... I believe you do get to know them. Love them. Past local realationship I hasn't spent as much time getting to kmow the guy, before I love yous. They are looking for hi.. What's your name... Where are you from... I love you... Scams. I'm sure anyone who has done online dating knows what I'm taking about. However love can start with first "Byte". Talking to a person in love.. You can see it in their eyes. Hear it in their voice. Hear the excitment for their partner. Smile when their name is mentioned. So it's not just QUICK I love yous. It's the whole process we all are going thru. This crazy, pain staken at times, wonderful journey. This just my opionion thou.