Do I dare say this - "But I am GLAD for the long application wait".

[MelissaAndJordan 5]

yeah its pretty hard being apart for this long but i hope to hear something very soon from USCIS. i am the beneficiary and i do have a tourist visa that i can use to go visit but its cost lots of money. and we all know money its hard to come by these days. ha

That it is! When was the last time you were able to see her, if you don't mind me asking?

[jarta 24]

That it is! When was the last time you were able to see her, if you don't mind me asking?

this June was the last time that i saw her.

[MelissaAndJordan 5]

this June was the last time that i saw her.

Awww.. thats rotten . Well, I don't know how things run in Ghana, but hopefully the NOA2 comes soon and things run smooth and you'll be here soon.

[jarta 24]

Awww.. thats rotten . Well, I don't know how things run in Ghana, but hopefully the NOA2 comes soon and things run smooth and you'll be here soon.

thanks!!!

[chadobrian 0]

so true

[NoneYa 73]

I agree - this time for us has been a good thing by only convincing me more that I plan to marry the right girl.

[D N Medellin COL 75]

I agree - this time for us has been a good thing by only convincing me more that I plan to marry the right girl.

From a man's lips to God's ears......."convincing me more that I plan to marry the right girl". Perfectly said and also true in my regards.

[Rufus2012 175]

Rubbish. I'm fine with whatever rationalizations any of you want to employ to make the time go by better or to make it seem like a blessing in disguise, but it's BS. This wait is just the miserable byproduct of an inefficient, lazy bureaucracy that doesn't give a ####### about the people who pay for it.

None of the problems any of you have listed couldn't also be solved together, rather than on your own.

Alas, it will one day be over. But let it serve as a reminder for anybody who wants more government involvement in anything, especially health care.

[Robert&Karen 264]

We met in 2009 and just got together 3 weeks ago in the US. Worked out perfect. At first she was worried about missing Britain and all her friends there, but in that time she has closed house and has moved on. She never thought it possible, it only takes time.

[MelissaAndJordan 5]

Rubbish. I'm fine with whatever rationalizations any of you want to employ to make the time go by better or to make it seem like a blessing in disguise, but it's BS. This wait is just the miserable byproduct of an inefficient, lazy bureaucracy that doesn't give a ####### about the people who pay for it.

None of the problems any of you have listed couldn't also be solved together, rather than on your own.

Alas, it will one day be over. But let it serve as a reminder for anybody who wants more government involvement in anything, especially health care.

It is not employing rationalizations to cope.. it is accepting the reality as it is. As it is, perhaps because of bureaucracy on all levels, things take time. All things. Ensuring that each person wishing to come here is not a threat takes time. Saying goodbye to other loved ones and securing the transfer of funds and assets to another country takes time. Making sure that my private health care that I pay way too much for, considering I have never been seriously ill in my lifetime, will cover my type 1 diabetic fiance, who up until this point has had excellent care because he comes from a country that recognizes it's citizens are worthless if they are not healthy, takes time; also, preparing for the cost increase of that takes time. If everything was rushed, and anyone could just come through, then it wouldn't be a country anyone would be proud to call home.

While I know this process takes longer than we wish and it is naturally harder for some than it is for others, just because of the distance and circumstances involved, please don't assume that those of us who are OK with waiting are desperately employing rationalizations to cope. I accept that it is harder for you and wish you the best. I see you filed in June.. hopefully your NOA2 will be coming any day now

[GringoD 33]

I agree, but ... not exactly.

lol... she was ready two years ago, but...

She agrees... (in the midst of lament!)... that it's all coming right at the right time....

Who knows?

The planet might explode or the USA might implode right after she arrives, but...

It's all good!

Thanx.

[jarta 24]

if the system were faster, it doesn't mean you wouldn't have enough time to get prepared for your marriage. you could simple prepare and get everything ready before you apply for your visa. and those of us who don't need a long time to prepare wouldn't need to suffer the long wait in vain.

[Rufus2012 175]

While I know this process takes longer than we wish and it is naturally harder for some than it is for others, just because of the distance and circumstances involved, please don't assume that those of us who are OK with waiting are desperately employing rationalizations to cope. I accept that it is harder for you and wish you the best. I see you filed in June.. hopefully your NOA2 will be coming any day now

Either you call it rationalizations or looking on the bright side, it's a matter of semantics. And btw, there is nothing wrong with rationalizations when confronted with a hopeless situation (hopeless as in you can't speed it up).

It's certainly a complicated process to move such a distance, and there a lot of things to prepare and consider. But I would rather the timeline be determined by my fiance and me figuring out, together, what needs to be done and in what order, rather than just waiting. From timelines, it seems that things move relatively quickly after NOA2, but until then, the amount of preparation I've needed has long since gone by.

[MelissaAndJordan 5]

Either you call it rationalizations or looking on the bright side, it's a matter of semantics. And btw, there is nothing wrong with rationalizations when confronted with a hopeless situation (hopeless as in you can't speed it up).

It's certainly a complicated process to move such a distance, and there a lot of things to prepare and consider. But I would rather the timeline be determined by my fiance and me figuring out, together, what needs to be done and in what order, rather than just waiting. From timelines, it seems that things move relatively quickly after NOA2, but until then, the amount of preparation I've needed has long since gone by.

It would be easier if we could determine the timeline for ourselves. Unfortunately, we all fell in love with people from other countries. But, fortunately, we fell in love. I suppose talk to me when I am in your position, 4 months later, and see if I am still so accepting of the process.

Fingers crossed your NOA2 comes soon!

[Rufus2012 175]

But, fortunately, we fell in love.

That is the key. I'd rather be in love waiting for some f-ing paperwork to complete than be alone and flaming people on message boards late at night.