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I have been surfing around on VJ... :( I am feeling kinda bad... maybe it is just me and I am all emotional.. but.. some ppl on VJ are sooooo Catty... or Pricey as my Hubby would say... on almost all the threads that I was reading it seemed like the person who posted the question was attacked... and then worse... if they managed to get someone to answer politely then that person was snidely commented against.... geeeze... I dont know if I would of stuck around if I would of gotten that type of response to a question.

I thought VJ was a place to come to learn, share thoughts, ask questions, vent..... VJ was over whelming for me until I got the hang of it... is it too much to ask to show some compassion to the newbies???


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VJ wasn't like that when I was a newbie. In a way, this site has become a victim of its own success. With too many posters comes too much noise, and with too much noise, anything good and helpful tends to get drowned out.

Good luck with your visajourney. Grow a thick skin, and learn to wade through the ѕhit to find the gold. It's still there, ya just gotta look harder (and longer) now than I ever did.

Wise words.


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You've been here a while, Melody - maybe it's time to write up a wiki entry?


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Wise words.

Agreed. :thumbs:


Don't just open your mouth and prove yourself a fool....put it in writing.

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VJ wasn't like that when I was a newbie.

That's because it was overrun by libs, who did most of the attacking. Thankfully the power has now balanced out.

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According to the Internal Revenue Service, the 400 richest American households earned a total of $US138 billion, up from $US105 billion a year earlier. That's an average of $US345 million each, on which they paid a tax rate of just 16.6 per cent.

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Well... it wasnt even like this a year ago when I joined... I wasnt talking about me... I was only feeling bad for some of the new ppl that have been asking questions... I agree that you have to grow a thick skin ... it just seems like some members are getting kinda hateful and crusty... Why answer someone if you are just going to be mean?? Thats my point.. seems like 'older' members are sick of ppl asking... whats next after the NOA2... wow whats the NVC like... etc..

I'm just sayin... If someone ask a question and it annoys you or you think it is stupid... why be an a$$ to the person? why not let someone else with more patience come along and help them?


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22 days at NVC

03/18/2010: Case Complete!

03/25/2010: Called NVC .. INTERVIEW May 27 @ 7:45!! Woot Woot

05/27/2010: Approved at the interview, but put on AP afterwards :(

06/27/2010: Really missing my Hubby :*(

07/29/2010: Visa Issued!! AP is OVER!!

07/31/2010: Visa in hand!!! Thank you GOD!

09/01/2010: POE JFK

2 Amazing Years Later!!!

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Well... it wasnt even like this a year ago when I joined... I wasnt talking about me... I was only feeling bad for some of the new ppl that have been asking questions... I agree that you have to grow a thick skin ... it just seems like some members are getting kinda hateful and crusty... Why answer someone if you are just going to be mean?? Thats my point.. seems like 'older' members are sick of ppl asking... whats next after the NOA2... wow whats the NVC like... etc..

I'm just sayin... If someone ask a question and it annoys you or you think it is stupid... why be an a$$ to the person? why not let someone else with more patience come along and help them?

Do you have an example we can look at?


According to the Internal Revenue Service, the 400 richest American households earned a total of $US138 billion, up from $US105 billion a year earlier. That's an average of $US345 million each, on which they paid a tax rate of just 16.6 per cent.

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I have been surfing around on VJ... :( I am feeling kinda bad... maybe it is just me and I am all emotional.. but.. some ppl on VJ are sooooo Catty... or Pricey as my Hubby would say... on almost all the threads that I was reading it seemed like the person who posted the question was attacked... and then worse... if they managed to get someone to answer politely then that person was snidely commented against.... geeeze... I dont know if I would of stuck around if I would of gotten that type of response to a question.

I thought VJ was a place to come to learn, share thoughts, ask questions, vent..... VJ was over whelming for me until I got the hang of it... is it too much to ask to show some compassion to the newbies???

I am sad to hear these things but I can not fault you for saying them. Sometimes posting in the regional forums is the best way to get answers. Here in Off Topic the conversation can be very heated to say the least. Always bring your baseball bat and asbestos shorts with you when visiting OT.

There are those here who are not comfortable with a viewpoint that differs much from their own. But real life also has its share too.

I know the mods say not to but you can PM me for anything and I will do my best to answer. Please do not take any of the flames that fly, too close to your heart. When its all said and done, we all walked in the same shoes to be with the ones we love. The answers to your quests are here but sometimes a bit hard to find in all the smoke.

Take care and good luck!! :thumbs:


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Do you have an example we can look at?

Can you cross reference threads?? If you can I can put the links to the threads in paticular... but I thought it was against the "rules"


~ NVC Journey~

22 days at NVC

03/18/2010: Case Complete!

03/25/2010: Called NVC .. INTERVIEW May 27 @ 7:45!! Woot Woot

05/27/2010: Approved at the interview, but put on AP afterwards :(

06/27/2010: Really missing my Hubby :*(

07/29/2010: Visa Issued!! AP is OVER!!

07/31/2010: Visa in hand!!! Thank you GOD!

09/01/2010: POE JFK

2 Amazing Years Later!!!

~Lifting Conditions~

08/09/2012: File I-751 Packet

08/17/2012: NOA I-751 Receipt Notice recieved!

"Distance means nothing for love. Even the sun is so far away; yet, its energy blossoms the flowers on earth."

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That's because it was overrun by libs, who did most of the attacking. Thankfully the power has now balanced out.

What a minute!!! I have yet to see a lib here....

There are many cconservatives claiming to be be libs but a true liberal?? Most here are so far to the right I can't even see them without a 40X scope....


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There are those here who are not comfortable with a viewpoint that differs much from their own.

Phil have you met Alex, Scandal, Len or Hal yet?

What a minute!!! I have yet to see a lib here....

There are many cconservatives claiming to be be libs but a true liberal?? Most here are so far to the right I can't even see them without a 40X scope....

I am talking 2007 and prior. Trust me, it was 4/5 Libs in OT.


According to the Internal Revenue Service, the 400 richest American households earned a total of $US138 billion, up from $US105 billion a year earlier. That's an average of $US345 million each, on which they paid a tax rate of just 16.6 per cent.

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hehehehehe yall are all cracking me up... :rofl:


~ NVC Journey~

22 days at NVC

03/18/2010: Case Complete!

03/25/2010: Called NVC .. INTERVIEW May 27 @ 7:45!! Woot Woot

05/27/2010: Approved at the interview, but put on AP afterwards :(

06/27/2010: Really missing my Hubby :*(

07/29/2010: Visa Issued!! AP is OVER!!

07/31/2010: Visa in hand!!! Thank you GOD!

09/01/2010: POE JFK

2 Amazing Years Later!!!

~Lifting Conditions~

08/09/2012: File I-751 Packet

08/17/2012: NOA I-751 Receipt Notice recieved!

"Distance means nothing for love. Even the sun is so far away; yet, its energy blossoms the flowers on earth."

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melody, are you talking about the OT forum or in the regional & visa forums?

OT - most are long in the tooth & short on patience.

regionals & visa - its completely uncalled for & should be dealt with by the mods. why does it happen...most likely the same reasons as the OT forum.


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