hes gones hes actually gone

[Madame-Butterfly 0]

Hello, yesterday was an awfull day!!!

for the past few months things have been rought for brett aka aussielad and myself, we woul,d talk end up arguing and all he would say was a few more months, then a few more weeks untill 2 days ago he say a few more days , we talked he saied everything was ok, he was trying to change i asked him he he was with some one else he said no then said he was with someone that made him happy asd whatnot.... then he himself said he was saying it because he new that would made me angry well yesterday he sais he was going to work... he calls like around miday and he has his phone on and i hear everything i hear my cat and 2 other guys chatting with him i hang up call him he says hes at work i was like ther are no cats were you work and he started gaggin and i knew he was lying , at around 4 pm i receive call to my work from the COPS that he has put a restraning order against me and i have a key wating for me , i get there all upset i drove 2 hours from work to get there to fine out he had taken my keys and when i got home i fiund not trace of hime, we were about to move so i whent up to the new house to find out he tokk everithing of mine all my personal documents my car my cell phone a cell i cant call cause if not im breaking the rules and can get arrested as to what i was told and my cat , took all the immigration paper my passport well you name it, where he is i dont know who hes with i dont care all i want it my stuff back, he lied from the very beggining he was only in it for the visa and now hes gone, we have to appear in court on july 30th , i cant sleep , eat i cant beleive he did this to me. to my family

i need some help what can i do who can i get in contact with please someone

[almaty 19]

you need to see a lawyer and do it quickly..you ahve a legal right to your personal property even with a restraining order....

[almaty 19]

you need to see a lawyer and do it quickly..you ahve a legal right to your personal property even with a restraining order....

[Madame-Butterfly 0]

i dont understand whys hes doing this , thank you i will get in contact with one

[almaty 19]

he is doing it cause he is a dickhead and wants to move on and be single with his posse....

[Fandango 1,439]

omG I'm so sorry this is happening to you.

I was also involved in a bad breakup with my foreign SO. Take a deep breath, and this too shall pass....you can't see it now, but it will. Just focus on contacting the lawyer so that you can make steps to get your stuff back. The rest will work itself out the way it's meant to, and you will get through this. It's prolly not the time to tell you this, cos you are still in shock, but it's true....just focus on one step at a time.

In my prayers!

[Der Bücherwurm 1]

Taking all your stuff is theft. You should definitely file a police report...and get a lawyer.

[lisaf 0]

that's rough, so sorry to hear... be strong

[Nessa 23]

how did he manage to get a restrining order?

[almaty 19]

very easy to get sister nessa...

Edited July 10, 2009 by almaty

[Madame-Butterfly 0]

we got into an argument and yes i addmit it it got out of control and we hit each other however when ihe was hitting me he said that he would do it in places that wouldnt show up as bad my leg hurts like hell the back of my knee my arms he had a few bruises since his skin is so fair he marks up and he said i had started it but what he forgot to tell the cops was hes was a mau thai ( however its spell) boxer over in australia thats why i got the restraning order i cant got to his work place university anything

Edited July 10, 2009 by Madame-Butterfly

[Nessa 23]

did he just say she hit him?

[ScottThuy 140]

Taking all your stuff is theft. You should definitely file a police report...and get a lawyer.

Police are very reluctant to call it theft. Since they lived together ..they look at it as a civil dispute... The same thing happened to me.. I went to visit my Mother for Easter one year and returned homw to find my house empty and my clothes shredded... GF was eventually arrested for destruction of property.. but not for taking all of my stuff and I never got any of it back... A lawyer is a big help at this point....

[rebeccajo 14]

omG I'm so sorry this is happening to you.

I was also involved in a bad breakup with my foreign SO. Take a deep breath, and this too shall pass....you can't see it now, but it will. Just focus on contacting the lawyer so that you can make steps to get your stuff back. The rest will work itself out the way it's meant to, and you will get through this. It's prolly not the time to tell you this, cos you are still in shock, but it's true....just focus on one step at a time.

In my prayers!

Your support of the OP is nice, but your situation wasn't the same. They are here together; they have scuffled and involved the law; and he has run off with her possessions.

[Fandango 1,439]

omG I'm so sorry this is happening to you.

I was also involved in a bad breakup with my foreign SO. Take a deep breath, and this too shall pass....you can't see it now, but it will. Just focus on contacting the lawyer so that you can make steps to get your stuff back. The rest will work itself out the way it's meant to, and you will get through this. It's prolly not the time to tell you this, cos you are still in shock, but it's true....just focus on one step at a time.

In my prayers!

Your support of the OP is nice, but your situation wasn't the same. They are here together; they have scuffled and involved the law; and he has run off with her possessions.

Yeah, I get that, but still giving the OP some kind words to help her through this. The initial shock that things are over is one of the most heartbreaking things to go through...I'm sure a lot of us here know that...so I was just offering a few kind words.

Secondly, clearly you can see her explanation of what happened came AFTER my post, so obviously I didn't know the details. Then again, I wasn't about to ask, because she will only explain what she wants to, and I didn't feel an explanation was needed to offer my support.

Is there a bigger point that I am missing or is this just you being pedantic?