I need advice you all some VJ memberhurt me really painfully!

[aching-pain-sad 0]

1. Your friend is not your friend.

2. Sometimes competitive ppl want to cut others down so they can step ahead of you without regards for your feelings.

3. Go on with your life and live it and get all you want out of it and don't let anybody hurt you or block your way.

Thanks the Spice Pic cheered me up too! I feel better now you all are so nice!

[2xHollyx2 3]

If you leave him because you think he's using you for a green card, base your decision on something solid and not your friend's idiot opinion. Sorry but this is pretty ridiculous. Beauty comes in different forms, shades, shapes etc. Your love for your husband and the relationship that you have with him has to be strong enough to withstand one person's opinion on something so subjective as beauty.

exactly!!!

[Waldo 0]

1. Your friend is not your friend.

2. Sometimes competitive ppl want to cut others down so they can step ahead of you without regards for your feelings.

3. Go on with your life and live it and get all you want out of it and don't let anybody hurt you or block your way.

Thanks the Spice Pic cheered me up too! I feel better now you all are so nice!

Happy to derail a thread to help. One of the gals I work with once told me. Love can never be defined, rationalized, or explained. You can try but there will always be someone to say your wrong.

[aching-pain-sad 0]

If you leave him because you think he's using you for a green card, base your decision on something solid and not your friend's idiot opinion. Sorry but this is pretty ridiculous. Beauty comes in different forms, shades, shapes etc. Your love for your husband and the relationship that you have with him has to be strong enough to withstand one person's opinion on something so subjective as beauty.

exactly!!!

You're right! This is true, I got to build up my self-esteem! I am going to call him now!

[aching-pain-sad 0]

1. Your friend is not your friend.

2. Sometimes competitive ppl want to cut others down so they can step ahead of you without regards for your feelings.

3. Go on with your life and live it and get all you want out of it and don't let anybody hurt you or block your way.

Thanks the Spice Pic cheered me up too! I feel better now you all are so nice!

Happy to derail a thread to help. One of the gals I work with once told me. Love can never be defined, rationalized, or explained. You can try but there will always be someone to say your wrong.

I REFUSE TO LET JEALOUS PEOPLE RULE MY MIND!

Thank you for the uplifting messages and photos!

[one...two...tree 2,762]

Leave your husband. The evidence is clear.

[spookyturtle 9,466]

Leave your husband. The evidence is clear.

Damn you Steven, you read my mind.

[aching-pain-sad 0]

Leave your husband. The evidence is clear.

Damn you Steven, you read my mind.

Mister Smartypants that is exactly what I see "evidence" when I see your pic! "Evidence" of why you were actually selected for marriage! *wake up call*!

[Der Bücherwurm 1]

Where is your husband from anyway?

[=FoxyBLUE= 2]

Ok you all I need advice! My so-called friend has hurt my feelings very badly. I am sending this message anonymously because I do not want to let my identity be known but get advice from you all anonymously. Ok here is the story:

Ok, my so-called friend told me tonight that my husband may not love me because I am not his race. He is from another country and the women there are beautiful more than my race (she told me) and he must be using me obviously for green card. Ok, I am a woman of color, mixed race Cuban/Indian and African from the islands. I am not an ugly woman but since I am brown skinned it is a red flag that my huaband should have married a light skinned woman or a woman from his country. So, can you tell me what to do?

1. How can I know what to do? Should I leave my husband?

2. Is this person just being a jerk and should I just withdraw my friendship from her?

Please you all I keep crying. Do not judge me or think bad of me or make rude comments. I have been crying an hour. She really hurt me.

-Anonymous

OMG! The most meanest,selfish and bitchiest thing anyone can say......

Well,I really dont know your husband,so its still your decision..you'll feel the sincerity and the love if you just open your heart to it..

If you feel that he is just using you.....as you mentioned you're not ugly,then go for a much better guy...but if you feel the LOVE...then fight for it.....dont let go!

[Pooky 3,874]

Never fear I found a group of woman that are the perfect race, skin color, hair color, Eye color for EVERY MAN!

.

Dude, what on Earth possessed you to bring the Spice Girls up in a serious conversation?

You need therapy

[NickD 203]

My sister lived in a neighborhood where her next door neighbor lady was always coming over, I couldn't even visit my sister without her walking in the door. She was always saying negative things about my brother-in-law, that led to my sister divorcing my brother-in-law, he was really broken up, I liked him very much.

My sister purchased a condo miles away, brother-in-law couldn't stay in that house anymore with my sister gone and moved, buying another house miles away, would visit both of them frequently, but actually never gave advice, just gave consolation. But on their own, they got back together, sister sold her condo and they been living together ever since. Key point here is that my sisters best friend was the cause of her divorcing my brother-in-law and moving away from her got them back together again. I know this sounds unbelievable, didn't believe myself something like that could happen.

This is just one example how a close friend can break up a relationship, let's call that a so-called close friend.

My best friend is my wife, we became very good friends before we fell in love or maybe that happened together, I was warned by my best male friend that my new friend may just be interested in me to come here, that is always a possibility, but thanked him for his advice. But he also saw how I changed after meeting her and was my best man at our wedding. I do not share a bed with my best male friend, but I share a bed with my wife, and I spend more time with my wife than any other person in the world.

So how is your relationship with your husband, can you share your most deepest emotions and secrets? Are you a good team and talk over everything? Race can play a role in your relationship if you have "friends" that are prejudice. Only you know the relationship you have with your husband, is he your best friend?

[mt pleasant 0]

gal,

this is your man, this is your husband. despite all the stereotypes in this world, at the end of the day, we are one people different looks and style but as people no one is more superior than the other one. some people may make you feel that you have made the wrong choice but hey, dont divorce your husband, don't cut your friendship with your friend but instead love your man even more and as for your friend, give her a little bit of education. she may be innocent and brainwashed hence her ignorance. "Education is the key", as sung by the late reggea artist, Lucky Dube, from South Africa. i suggest that everyone gets a copy of this artists cd as he sings extensively about our beatiful diffrent colours and the need for us as a people to be one. its ok to cry and after crying please gte on you tube and listen to his reggea. you may not be a reggea fun but the words will heal your heart. so get up stand, stand up for your right----that is BOb Marley.

[one...two...tree 2,762]

Leave your husband. The evidence is clear.

Damn you Steven, you read my mind.

Mister Smartypants that is exactly what I see "evidence" when I see your pic! "Evidence" of why you were actually selected for marriage! *wake up call*!

Let me word it this way. If my wife were questioning my sincerity because some schmuck of a friend tells me I shouldn't trust her because of such superficial reasons, I hope she would just go ahead and leave me because I couldn't take living with such a flake. I'm not trying to be mean....but seriously, think about your proposition.

[NickD 203]

Leave your husband. The evidence is clear.

Damn you Steven, you read my mind.

Mister Smartypants that is exactly what I see "evidence" when I see your pic! "Evidence" of why you were actually selected for marriage! *wake up call*!

Let me word it this way. If my wife were questioning my sincerity because some schmuck of a friend tells me I shouldn't trust her because of such superficial reasons, I hope she would just go ahead and leave me because I couldn't take living with such a flake. I'm not trying to be mean....but seriously, think about your proposition.

Either achingpainsad lacks self confidence or is very insecure, that is sad and can only question as to whom her best friend is. Your mate has to be number one in your life, that is just food for thought. Race should never be an issue in a relationship, DNA studies have already proven, we all came from a common source.