I need advice you all some VJ memberhurt me really painfully!

[aching-pain-sad 0]

Ok you all I need advice! My so-called friend has hurt my feelings very badly. I am sending this message anonymously because I do not want to let my identity be known but get advice from you all anonymously. Ok here is the story:

Ok, my so-called friend told me tonight that my husband may not love me because I am not his race. He is from another country and the women there are beautiful more than my race (she told me) and he must be using me obviously for green card. Ok, I am a woman of color, mixed race Cuban/Indian and African from the islands. I am not an ugly woman but since I am brown skinned it is a red flag that my huaband should have married a light skinned woman or a woman from his country. So, can you tell me what to do?

1. How can I know what to do? Should I leave my husband?

2. Is this person just being a jerk and should I just withdraw my friendship from her?

Please you all I keep crying. Do not judge me or think bad of me or make rude comments. I have been crying an hour. She really hurt me.

-Anonymous

Edited February 13, 2009 by aching-pain-sad

[panamania79 2]

Ok you all I need advice! My so-called friend has hurt my feelings very badly. I am sending this message anonymously because I do not want to let my identity be known but get advice from you all anonymously. Ok here is the story:

Ok, my so-called friend told me tonight that my husband may not love me because I am not his race. He is from another country and the women there are beautiful more than my race (she told me) and he must be using me obviously for green card. Ok, I am a woman of color, mixed race Cuban and African from the islands. I am not an ugly woman but since I am brown skinned it is a red flag that my huaband should have married a skinned woman or a woman from his country. So, can you tell me what to do?

1. How can I know what to do? Should I leave my husband?

2. Is this person just being a jerk and should I just withdraw my friendship from her?

Please you all I keep crying. Do not judge me or think bad of me or make ride comments. I have been crying an hour. She really hurt me.

-Anonymous

If this isn't a joke.....

Do NOT leave your husband !

This person is jealous and miserable,you don't need friends like that so cut him/her loose.

[Waldo 0]

I know I need to be practicing being a better husband and listening to peoples feelings. Let me outline this, Your freind told you what your husbands preferences for woman are based on her theory that pale skinned gals are better looking then dark skinned gals. Also for that reason alone he could ONLY love you based on getting a green card.

I think your going to be ok... ignore your friend and tell her waldo said she needs to stop reading smutty magazines on what men find attractive.

Edited February 13, 2009 by Waldo

[panamania79 2]

I know I need to be practicing being a better husband and listening to peoples feelings. Let me outline this, Your freind told you what your husbands preferences for woman are based on her theory that pale skinned gals are better looking then dark skinned gals. Also for that reason alone could ONLY love you based on getting a green card.

I think your going to be ok... ignore your friend and tell her waldo said she needs to stop reading smutty magazines on what men find attractive.

I've heard this comment before and it just so happens that the men from that particular part of the world want a little different flava !

This person is just stereotyping,not reading mags,you have to know how to read before you read a mag.

[aching-pain-sad 0]

So, you think he does love me? I am really scared. I mean I feel in my heart he does but now insecure.

[Waldo 0]

Never fear I found a group of woman that are the perfect race, skin color, hair color, Eye color for EVERY MAN!

[I AM NOT THAT GUY 5,715]

After you have had a chance to compose yourself, have a talk with your husband. Tell him what she said, and let him confront your friend. People like to meddle, out of jealousy, or just out of meaness. There is no sense letting some gossip-monger destroy your marriage. My wife gets weird comments at work too, and it is sad, but stuff like this will happen.

[Yoink 7]

Never fear I found a group of woman that are the perfect race, skin color, hair color, Eye color for EVERY MAN!

Where's the asian?

[Waldo 0]

There are no asian spices!

[Christie_Samir 0]

Ok you all I need advice! My so-called friend has hurt my feelings very badly. I am sending this message anonymously because I do not want to let my identity be known but get advice from you all anonymously. Ok here is the story:

Ok, my so-called friend told me tonight that my husband may not love me because I am not his race. He is from another country and the women there are beautiful more than my race (she told me) and he must be using me obviously for green card. Ok, I am a woman of color, mixed race Cuban/Indian and African from the islands. I am not an ugly woman but since I am brown skinned it is a red flag that my huaband should have married a light skinned woman or a woman from his country. So, can you tell me what to do?

1. How can I know what to do? Should I leave my husband?

2. Is this person just being a jerk and should I just withdraw my friendship from her?

Please you all I keep crying. Do not judge me or think bad of me or make rude comments. I have been crying an hour. She really hurt me.

-Anonymous

[Dr. A ♥ O 203]

1. Your friend is not your friend.

2. Sometimes competitive ppl want to cut others down so they can step ahead of you without regards for your feelings.

3. Go on with your life and live it and get all you want out of it and don't let anybody hurt you or block your way.

[Y's_habibitk 2]

1 drop your friend.

2 dont let what your friends say effect your gut feelings and love for your husband

3 drop your friend, did i say that already?

and 4

are you seriously thinking of leaving your spouse due to what some idiot told you about her perception of beauty?

please stop that

if you are for real..please follow instructions laid out above

[panamania79 2]

Never fear I found a group of woman that are the perfect race, skin color, hair color, Eye color for EVERY MAN!

[Koakland 0]

This post can't be real BUT if it is, you should not leave your husband becuz of what someone else says. If you leave him because you think he's using you for a green card, base your decision on something solid and not your friend's idiot opinion. Sorry but this is pretty ridiculous. Beauty comes in different forms, shades, shapes etc. Your love for your husband and the relationship that you have with him has to be strong enough to withstand one person's opinion on something so subjective as beauty. Please work on developing your self-esteem and improving your self-image.

Edited February 13, 2009 by Koakland

[Waldo 0]

no asian spice girls but I found these.