Risks associated with marrying a foreign girl

[InnocentBystander 0]

Hello all. I didn't really know where to post this question, but this forum seems very friendly and insightful. My question is to those men (or women) from the USA who have married a foreign bride. FWIW, I do not assume there are more or less risks involved in marrying a foreigner than there is in marrying an American. I'm a little naive on the subject and I'd like to learn more.

I read divorce rates for K1 and K3 visa marriages are roughly 20%, which is great compared to the 50+% rates for American marriages. Do the rates vary much based on region? For instance, is the divorce rate higher for those marriages where the bride comes from Southeast Asia or the Caribbean, than say a bride from Russia or Norway? I have met some very sweet foreign girls, but I will be honest... my American buddies always tell me to watch out. They say they only want a visa.

I am not the sort of person who discriminates. I don't assume somebody from another nation has lesser values than I do, just because I am from the USA. To that extent, I will confess that I believe most normal men and women want something tangible in a partner. Whether it be money, security, love, his/her smile, his/her sense of humor. I think this is somewhat true at least.

There was this one cute Russian girl working at the beach and she called me after I gave her my number. She had to return home after the summer, but she was very sweet. All my friends told me she's Russian and that automatically means she loves you first and foremost because you can give her a green card and a better standard of living. Truth be told, I can't blame Russian girls if that is true. I mean, who wouldn't want a better standard of living? I think that's normal.

Perhaps some of you can shed more light on this subject. I ask this question, because it's a little scary nowadays to marry an American girl. The odds are against you. The statistics reveal over half the marriages end within a few years. So, by marrying an American girl, chances are I will be divorced and have to give up half of what I earned during that time we were married (regardless of whether she helped contribute to that). Even couples that have the best of intentions going in often end up in divorce. It's a little crazy if you ask me. So, I'm interested in the possibility of finding a girl in Russia or maybe some other country. Why is there such a stigma and no such stigma for American-American marriages?

[trinket 30]

If you want to live your life according to statistics then probably you shouldn't get married at all

[InnocentBystander 0]

If you want to live your life according to statistics then probably you shouldn't get married at all

I agree with your underlying sentiment, but certain statistics reveal a lot about mankind's attitudes and tendencies. Would you not agree?

[Old Dominion 26]

Go for it! You may end up distancing yourself from those who think it's unsafe for an American to court a Russian gal. You'll pick up new friends in the process. Yep, the risk is always there about what motivates her to look for an American husband but that will be true of any young woman who is "advertising" herself on one of the internet dating sites. As to the chances of marriage ending in failure, I think divorce is also fairly common in Russia and many other countries. Pay no attention to the statistics, but instead follow your own instincts.

[Nessa 23]

i think it's crazy to go try to find a partner from another country, but that's me.

[Teacher Mark 53]

....this forum seems very friendly and insightful.

Stick around friend!

[tallcoolone 102]

For me, I found paradise when I found the Philippines.

Woman are in shape and have nice figures, they are very easy on the eyes, and they are regarded as some of the most beautiful women in the world.

They tend to be very caring, and put family high on their value scale. They carry themelves like a woman should in public, they are not loud and they have a high regard for how they carry themselve in the public eye.

One reason is Divorce doesn't exist in PI, so the woman are not raised in a society like the USA where they can take a man to the cleaners in divorce just because they have a child.

I have heard American woman say many times "I will divorce you and take everything you own",. I have never heard an American man ever say that to his spouse.

[Ban Hammer 14,271]

....this forum seems very friendly and insightful.

Stick around friend!

be gentle, he's new.

I have heard American woman say many times "I will divorce you and take everything you own",. I have never heard an American man ever say that to his spouse.

very true

[NickD 203]

Where you find your true love is not limited to any specific area, but for now at least, limited to the earth. If you meet your love in a foreign country, helpful to have a couple of bucks in your pocket, USCIS is kind of greedy and you have to give them everything they want if you want to bring your love here and keep her here.

[jundp 191]

I guess people really do seek out 'love' like that, but it's a strange idea to me. I don't know, I guess to me it was a coincidence that my husband was from another country.

But I do think it's insulting when men come on here and act as though American women suck and aren't worth their time....

[happywifeymom 4]

For me, I found paradise when I found the Philippines.

Woman are in shape and have nice figures, they are very easy on the eyes, and they are regarded as some of the most beautiful women in the world.

They tend to be very caring, and put family high on their value scale. They carry themelves like a woman should in public, they are not loud and they have a high regard for how they carry themselve in the public eye.

One reason is Divorce doesn't exist in PI, so the woman are not raised in a society like the USA where they can take a man to the cleaners in divorce just because they have a child.

I have heard American woman say many times "I will divorce you and take everything you own",. I have never heard an American man ever say that to his spouse.

WOW! that was so nice of you to say that to asians especially women from the Philippines. Makes me feel like I am one of them although am not

[JVKn'CVO 11]

You'd be wise to make your marriage decision based on the person itself and not their nationality. Using stereotypes may seem like a nice shortcut to finding the right person, but it's far from substantial. Get to know her personally and spend time together, build your relationship so you can make a decision that's right for the both of you

Saludos,

Caro

[natty bumppo 297]

....this forum seems very friendly and insightful.

Stick around friend!

be gentle, he's new.

use the good lube ...

[w¡n9Nµ7 §£@¥€r 123]

Hello all. I didn't really know where to post this question, but this forum seems very friendly and insightful. My question is to those men (or women) from the USA who have married a foreign bride. FWIW, I do not assume there are more or less risks involved in marrying a foreigner than there is in marrying an American. I'm a little naive on the subject and I'd like to learn more.

I read divorce rates for K1 and K3 visa marriages are roughly 20%, which is great compared to the 50+% rates for American marriages. Do the rates vary much based on region? For instance, is the divorce rate higher for those marriages where the bride comes from Southeast Asia or the Caribbean, than say a bride from Russia or Norway? I have met some very sweet foreign girls, but I will be honest... my American buddies always tell me to watch out. They say they only want a visa.

I am not the sort of person who discriminates. I don't assume somebody from another nation has lesser values than I do, just because I am from the USA. To that extent, I will confess that I believe most normal men and women want something tangible in a partner. Whether it be money, security, love, his/her smile, his/her sense of humor. I think this is somewhat true at least.

There was this one cute Russian girl working at the beach and she called me after I gave her my number. She had to return home after the summer, but she was very sweet. All my friends told me she's Russian and that automatically means she loves you first and foremost because you can give her a green card and a better standard of living. Truth be told, I can't blame Russian girls if that is true. I mean, who wouldn't want a better standard of living? I think that's normal.

Perhaps some of you can shed more light on this subject. I ask this question, because it's a little scary nowadays to marry an American girl. The odds are against you. The statistics reveal over half the marriages end within a few years. So, by marrying an American girl, chances are I will be divorced and have to give up half of what I earned during that time we were married (regardless of whether she helped contribute to that). Even couples that have the best of intentions going in often end up in divorce. It's a little crazy if you ask me. So, I'm interested in the possibility of finding a girl in Russia or maybe some other country. Why is there such a stigma and no such stigma for American-American marriages?

You're an adult (I assume) so maybe it's time to start acting like one.

You can chart your own course or you can let your peers decide for you. Put another way, you can be a wolf or you can be a sheep.

Your entire article reeks of someone who cares way too much about what other people think.

Getting over that is step 1. Before you find a wife, find yourself.

[Amby 490]

....this forum seems very friendly and insightful.

Stick around friend!

be gentle, he's new.

use the good lube ...