I am scared..stressed..depressed...

[Dixie_Peach 1]

I gotta share one of my nightmares lol and those that read Off Topic will know what it means. I have been stressing so much and worrying about this and that because up till now nothing has gone wrong but this interview scares me....Ive never cared much for interviews....have not even had many job interviews due to being home with my kids when they were little and now Im a lady of leisure pretty much. Anyway....I went to bed the other night with my mind racing again as it has been doing of late.......the next thing I woke up in a sweat because they denied my visa on the grounds that I was a VJ Ho

iwish....glad it has helped some getting it out...you really are going to be fine....we all are.

Lorelle

Sorry to read about your being so stressed out. I think most of us have this happen to us in the journey and have to find other ways to deal with it. I know if I emerged myself into researching about AR/AP and staying busy in other things my mind seemed to handle it better. If I got too much down time I would then have some what ifs come up and I would have depression getting the best of me and then staying ill. Try and stay positive and I will be praying that all goes well.

Mary

iwish...

sooooooooooo sorry to hear that you are stressing this bad... but i can so relate! my stressing has been so bad that i am taking 2 anxiety medicines... and 1 mild anti-depressant... and some days, i feel like they are NOT helping still...

so.. i vent to my friends... my family... and i pray and read my bible... i leave my troubles at the feet of Jesus... then pick them up again... it seems i can't just leave them alone...

but... the good thing is that there are people here on VJ who genuinely care... and will truly listen when you just feel like you can't take it another minute...

i'll be praying for ya!

*hugs*

Lynne

[Movin on New Life 3]

Yes I agree, try to find some ways to relax, you wil need to be at your best for the interview.. Take a deep breath and keep the faith...what is meant to be is meant to be and as mentioned you do have options if a denial.. it is not the end of the road.. Also... the medical being SEALED and sent directly is procedure not being done because there is some big health secret! Will keep you in my prayers

[Waiting in Vancouver 6]

Personally, If you had a major medical problem (like some hidden disease or something) I would think that the doctor would be the one telling you and not some person at the consulate. Just relax and as other are saying here them sending the envelope directly to the consulate is apparently procedure (not that I would know this).

We all have worries, and I know in a month or so when I am about to have my interview I will be in the exact same state of mind that you are in. My fiancee and I are both what we call over thinkers. We think of the worst case scenerio and then double that then thats what we figure is going to happen to us. This sometimes adds uncesessary stress.

Sit down and relax and try to find anything that will keep your mind off of the whole process.

Good luck and SMILE life is too short

[iceyspots 0]

<---- Lorelle

Ok.. to the OP.. we all have our worries, hell I had every worry in the world last night as well because everything seems to be a disaster around my parts these days (OK I did get MY Visa this morning, that's good news).. but your fears aren't going to get any better, we will all have to go through the medical (or SO) and won't be able to see the results. It is in a sealed envelope whether it is delivered directly to the consulate, or given to you to deliver by hand. If it makes you feel any better, go to your private doctor and have him check you for the same thing they did, your D.O. isn't going to hide it from you, if that will ease your fears any more.

[Melo 1]

I have my medical the day after and I have gone and sprained my ankle... to get to the doc I have to go up a flight of stairs and am wondering how I am gonna do that!!!! I am not worried about the medical (even though I have severe asthma)... but I tell you what stresses me is the notion of being denied a visa coz I cannot stand GWB... and then there is one more thing that stresses me.... I love dancing and I can freak by myself whirling all over the place (despite my size)... but Paul and I are supposed to dance after the wedding.... I have this nightmare vision of falling and taking Paul with me from sheer force of weight...

So really we all have issues that bring about stress... hang in there....

[laylas 0]

I know what you mean

Well , I am a member of this board too ( just iwish, I have another nick and have been here for over 2 years) and since my interview date is approaching I am feeling really stressed, scared and afraid something bad will happen right in the last minute.

My problem is that I have quite some debits here and I am afraid they will deny me just because of it I am not the USC and I am going through the K1 right now.

Does anybody know if it is common for they to deny somebody just because of the debts they have ? is not that I am running away from them as I plan to pay off all of them but I am sure it ain't going to happen before I leave. Sorry to come here to this thread just to talk about my problem, but I thought it is the right place at this moment.

Thanks for the comprehension.

[Melo 1]

I know what you mean

Well , I am a member of this board too ( just iwish, I have another nick and have been here for over 2 years) and since my interview date is approaching I am feeling really stressed, scared and afraid something bad will happen right in the last minute.

My problem is that I have quite some debits here and I am afraid they will deny me just because of it I am not the USC and I am going through the K1 right now.

Does anybody know if it is common for they to deny somebody just because of the debts they have ? is not that I am running away from them as I plan to pay off all of them but I am sure it ain't going to happen before I leave. Sorry to come here to this thread just to talk about my problem, but I thought it is the right place at this moment.

Thanks for the comprehension.

Worry no more... for the K1 all they are bothered about is the USC

[gimygirl 0]

iwish ...

i'm glad that you were able to vent here on the forum, but it is quite telling that you could not use your real screen name. if you truly felt comfortable with yourself this would not have been an issue. there are many here on VJ that can empathize with the stress level and your situation ... we're all going through or have gone through the very same emotions at some point during our process.

you should try trusting and believing in yourself a bit more! good luck with the upcoming interview!

[nayalamb 1]

to the OP -

trust me, we've all had our sleepless nights and anxiety... you are definitely not alone!

all through the k1 process, i was hanging on the edge of sanity... every delay would reduce me to tears. i would worry and get stressed out and looking back, it was a tremendous waste of energy. we had a few setbacks during the process but we got through it just fine. i think what really saved me was the love and patience of my (now) husband and the amazing words of support and understanding from the VJers. they understand like no one else, how frightening and frustrating this whole thing can be.

the important thing is to keep your mind on positive things. you won't help anything by having a nervous breakdown.

if you had a serious ailment, the doctor would have told you because you would have had to seek treatment for it. in this case, no news is good news.

you will do just fine at the interview. just remember to be calm and confident. get lots of rest and know that you have lots of people who are behind you and wishing you well.

good luck!

[almaty 19]

I gotta share one of my nightmares lol and those that read Off Topic will know what it means. I have been stressing so much and worrying about this and that because up till now nothing has gone wrong but this interview scares me....Ive never cared much for interviews....have not even had many job interviews due to being home with my kids when they were little and now Im a lady of leisure pretty much. Anyway....I went to bed the other night with my mind racing again as it has been doing of late.......the next thing I woke up in a sweat because they denied my visa on the grounds that I was a VJ Ho

iwish....glad it has helped some getting it out...you really are going to be fine....we all are.

Lorelle

damn, sister lorelle i thought i was writing a positive letter about you being a vj ho..i did not know they take it as a negative

[laylas 0]

Thanks, Melo

I just worry because I don't know if they do any kind of check and think we might be running away to don't pay the debts.

[Mand 1]

Hello fellow vjs,

This is just a vent. I already have an account here with a timeline and everything. But I just wanna vent out with this new nick because I dont feel comfortable using my old. I hope all of you will understand.

So far everything went smooth for us; handling the petition, approved, getting packet 3 and 4, medical and now the final part is the interview which gonna be somewhere next week.

I have a a sudden "panic attack" and I just dont know how to deal with it. The more I prepared stuff, the more I feel I am not ready and my mind been thinking like non-stop of the possible visa denial. And even worse I am afraid if my medical report will turn out to be something bad....like hidden deseases I never knew.... you know all sort of visal denial possibilities.

This happened after the medical when the doc asked me alot of questions on my childhood athma. I just told her it was just a regular athma and never been hospitalized nor using inhaler.... and after that they said they gonna send the report directly to embassy, not for me to pick it up. So i guess i am getting all paranoid and stuff...like maybe they discover something and dont wanan tell me and just wait for the consulate to tell me? ( damn I need to stop thinking this way...)

Im sorry im just so stress with the upcoming interview..... if i didnt get the visa...I just dont know wat else to do because we have been seperated for 7 years.

Sometime I am just mad with this immigration process....... I am more depress before I started this whole thing. Yes my fiance knew about this and ask me not to worry.... but I cant help it.

Sorry for the vent I just need to let it out somehwere.....

Ah pet, I know exactly how you feel. (((hugs)))

I stressed so much over our K-1 visa too. When we got our NOA2 I was ecstatic for about half an hour, and then I began worrying about the NVC, the medical...you name it...I worried about it. And even though logically I knew we'd be ok, I couldn't help thinking of the worst scenarios.

The only thing that calmed me down was Rob saying that this process only determined where we going to live, the U.S. if approved, Ireland if not. It's a stressful process, there is no doubt about it, but try your best to think happy and positive thoughts Easier said than done I know!

And in regards to your medical, if anything abnormal showed up, the Doctor is bound by law to inform you first so you can begin any necessary treatment.

My heart goes out to you because I know how easy it is to stress about this process, but like I said...think happy thoughts

[mrswooten4ever 0]

The stress is normal and dont worry about the asthma . My daughter is asthmatic but hasnt used and inhaler for a few years. Dr who did the medical said it was childhood asthma and wrote it off! My interview is tomorrow and my stress levels are way off the scale. One of myold "panick attack" stress syptoms has returned - the left side of my face alternates between being numb and red hot! The other thing I do is blush very easily, mainly because I'm cursed with being part redhead and part blonde and have really fair skin. So I'm sure iI will be beetroot red tomorrow and the CO will think i'm a raving alcoholic.

Adele

Edited May 9, 2006 by MrsW2B

[Fandango 1,440]

Iwish, whoever you are, I am praying that you will storm the interview & the exam is just fine.

There is nothing I can reallu say to make you feel better because I am a chronic worrier....but I can tell you usually I"m worried over nothing. I hope this is the case for you as well.

I'm really curious, however, as to why you felt the need to disguise yourself? I fail to see the logic, but I'm sure you have your reasons

Best of luck!!!!

Edited May 9, 2006 by LisaD

[Katrinalexi 0]

Hidden diseases, well they are only worried about HIV STDs or something catching as far as visa denial goes aren't they? OK so it would SUCK if you had something else (and how likely is THAT? really?) - but stress won't help ease your health for sure!

Can a person be denied a K-1 visa for a previous STD that was not a virus and was treated with antibiotics and the person no longer has?