Do couples give up too quickly?

[bora bora 1]

I know two women who were having troubles with their husbands and are now separated. Neither one was married more than 5 years. It seems to me that they just gave up...

Do people still fight to stay married?

[blah0323 0]

I know two women who were having troubles with their husbands and are now separated. Neither one was married more than 5 years. It seems to me that they just gave up...

Do people still fight to stay married?

I often ask others who want to walk away from their significant other...."have you done all you can do to save this relationship, before you walk away?" Most respond by saying they are tired or they give up.

I guess it has to be determine how much they really value their marriage, if they are they are willing to stay for better or worse.

[Kazan' Tiger 1]

In today's instant gratification society, people treat S/Os like channels on the television. (click) We need a whole lot more commitment. I would fight for my relationship, any day, over giving up. Of course, there are breaking points, but the reasons some people break up are paltry.

[sereia 0]

i put i couldn't tell ya...cuz each case is different. but i do think lots of people give up too easily!

[w¡n9Nµ7 §£@¥€r 123]

I don't care about other couples.

[Dr. Obvious 49]

Fight to stay married. I don't think you should fight to stay married. You either are supposed to be married or you aren't. Fighting for what isn't meant to be won't change anything. More like delaying the inevitable.

[Mags 112]

In today's society it is easier to walk away than it was, say, 20/30/40/50 plus years ago. There isn't the stigma of being divorced, nor do all religions condemn you if you are. So, I think that when people find themselves in a relationship going nowhere they can just divorce whereas they would have had to stay in previous years.

I do think that some people do give up too easily; they expect marriage to be a bed of roses when it is actually hard work most of the time. For them it is easier to divorce than make an effort.

Edited January 20, 2008 by Mags

[Jason-Sasha 1]

Every relationship gets tested. And there will be days when everyone just wants to walk away. Personally, I cant speak for others, but the bond that Sasha and I have is remarkable. And neither of us would give the other any reason to walk away.

[panamania79 2]

I know two women who were having troubles with their husbands and are now separated. Neither one was married more than 5 years. It seems to me that they just gave up...

Do people still fight to stay married?

I voted yes.Nowadays people think that couples are disposable.It's like "ok if I don't like this one,I'll just get another one."Believe me there have been times I have wanted to beat my SO upside the head,but I didn't.You just have to take it one day at the time.

[Kazan' Tiger 1]

Nice words!

I know the feeling too! Alla and I have something I have never felt before, a trust and bond that can handle any of life's difficulties. Neither of us would dream of doing anything to try and break it.

Every relationship gets tested. And there will be days when everyone just wants to walk away. Personally, I cant speak for others, but the bond that Sasha and I have is remarkable. And neither of us would give the other any reason to walk away.

[sj5 4]

most couples do tries to work their marriages than giving up quickly.

[JVKn'CVO 11]

Interesting results to this poll. 20 say yes, 0 say no

Saludos,

Caro

[snowfrostedlashes 0]

You can only save a relationship if both people are willing to seek help and to compromise and to give due consideration to the other person's needs. I don't think you can say that people give up too easily unless you've lived through whatever they've had to live through. Of course you shouldn't walk out after the first argument, but there comes a point sometimes where you recognise that it's never going to get any better than it is and you have to make a decision about whether you can live with that or not.

I think it's very sad if two people stay together merely out of a sense of obligation and make each other unhappy for the rest of their lives.

It's one of the reasons that I think maintaining a relationship at a distance can be a good thing sometimes because really all you can do is talk and you have time to learn a lot of both good and bad things about each other before you make a final commitment.

[Ban Hammer 12,827]

I know two women who were having troubles with their husbands and are now separated. Neither one was married more than 5 years. It seems to me that they just gave up...

Do people still fight to stay married?

have them trade husbands. things might work better that way.

[AtlantiCat 0]

In a nutshell, I tried to "make it work" with my ex-husband. However, when you try to sit down and talk to someone about the problems you're having and all he does is sit on the couch watching TV, eating chips, and ignoring you, it's very difficult to make it work. Especially when he makes no effort at hunting down a job, would never consider taking a minimum-wage job because he considers it "beneath him," and can't help out around the apartment because he's "sick" all the time.

I don't know about you guys, but I wanted to be a partner to my husband. I never wanted to be his f##king mother. That's not a relationship, that's a disaster.

It lasted a little over two years before we were separated. I don't consider that giving up too quickly, I consider that getting out at the end of my financial string and completely in debt because of a deadbeat who couldn't handle taking care of himself, let alone having any sort of concept of maintaining a relationship. I was nothing more to him than a prize to be won and once he'd won it, he didn't bother taking care of it. I felt that way in the very first months after we were married and it never changed thereafter.

Too quickly? Not quickly enough is more like it. I think that more couples need to get the concept of how to get out while the getting is good. You can't force a marriage to work when one person does not hold up his/her end of the bargain. Working through problems is one thing, but I've seen first-hand what happens when one person just doesn't give a shiite and it ain't pretty.