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What Causes Some People to Fall in Love With Prisoners?

Korin Miller‎June‎ ‎29‎, ‎2015
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David Sweat (left), Joyce Mitchell (middle), and Richard Matt (right). Mitchell is accused of helping Sweat and Matt escape from a New York prison earlier this month; she reportedly had romantic relationships with both of them. (Photo: New York State Police via AP)

People around the country have been riveted by the story of convicted criminals David Sweat and Richard Matt, who escaped from New York’s largest prison earlier this month. After weeks on the run, Matt is now dead and Sweat is in custody. But the story of how they escaped is intriguing, given that it was allegedly sparked by romance.

Joyce Mitchell, an instructor at the prison tailor shop where Matt and Sweat worked, was arrested in mid-June in connection with the escape. Sources tell NBC News that the married 51-year-old woman developed a relationship with Matt and “thought it was love.” A former prisoner told The New York Post that Mitchell also developed a relationship with Sweat, allegedly having sex with him an estimated 100 times in a prison closet. (Mitchell has maintained that she is innocent.)

But if the reports of romance are in fact true, they wouldn’t be the first time a prison worker has fallen in love with a convict (or convicts). This weekend, a prison food service worker in North Carolina was accused of helping inmate Kristopher McNeil escape, after developing a sexual relationship with him. Kendra Lynette Miller was arrested on Sunday and charged with having sex with an inmate, giving him a cell phone, harboring a fugitive, and aiding and abetting a fugitive, The Charlotte Observer reports. (McNeil was recaptured late Sunday night.)

Related: Why We Couldn’t Stop Watching the David Sweat and Richard Matt Fugitive Drama

It’s not just prison workers who develop feelings for inmates — those in the civilian world do, too. Scott Peterson, who was sentenced to death in 2005 for murdering his wife and unborn child, reportedly received dozens of letters from women and even two marriage proposals before he arrived at San Quentin State Prison. Erik and Lyle Menendez, who are serving jail time for the 1989 shooting of their parents, have both married women who reached out to them after they were imprisoned.

And though fictional, Orange is the New Black fans will remember the storyline in season 3 when inmate Lorna Morello receives visits from a line of prison pen-pals/suitors, even going on to marry one of them.

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Lorna Morello and Vince Muccio, her prison-pen-pal-turned-husband. (Photo: Netlfix)

But why are some people drawn to prisoners, even though they’ve been convicted of committing dangerous crimes? According to clinical psychologist John Mayer, PhD, who is often hired by law enforcement officials to evaluate the mental health of prisoners, it’s all about romance. “Their story before imprisonment conjures up adventure, love/hate, and being wronged,” he tells Yahoo Health. As a result, some people — many of them being women — get sucked in and want to help.

https://www.yahoo.com/health/what-causes-some-people-to-fall-in-love-with-122772638197.html

What do male prisoners have that a free man don't have? :lol:

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Interesting question, I always wondered about that one myself. Who knows how people think.


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Depends on the situations, but bad boy syndrome is one reason. Or they feel like they can't find love anywhere else...


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What causes low esteem men to fall in love with damsels in distress?

Here's a newsflash, they're not in distress.. they cause distress.

Reverse the male low esteem bit with female and you have your answer.


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"Bad boy" syndrome, highly likely.

Perhaps an extreme sense of wanting to "change" or "rehabilitate" the flawed inmate.


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What Causes Some People to Fall in Love With Prisoners?

I never understood this, really. I mean, come on, don't you want to have a partner that's a fully functional member of society?

Ages past, I remember seeing the monthly 'pen pal' magazines put out for the lonely hearts fellas inside o jail - the publishing company actually made a profit putting out this stuff. Now there's internet sites that specialize in putting these folk together, and they charge for releasing mailing addresses.

Regardless of the fun and profit - what I'll never understand is why anyone would seek a new romance with a human that's incarcerated. I just don't get it. Maybe it's my own personal failing as a loving, caring human, but I just don't get. Tis all an alien concept to me.


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Depends on the situations, but bad boy syndrome is one reason. Or they feel like they can't find love anywhere else...

Wimmens love bad boys. They can talk all the nonsense they want, but it's like trout swimming up stream they can't help it.

It's a genetic Alpha wolf thing.

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Always dislike these type of maps, we could put up a picture of say Canada and pick something like "Child porn" and find out which province Googles it more than the others since one of them has to be #1 even if it was just one guy..


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Wimmens love bad boys. They can talk all the nonsense they want, but it's like trout swimming up stream they can't help it.

It's a genetic Alpha wolf thing.

Wimmens might enjoy a one night stand with a bad boy, but a relationship ?no.

So called bad boys are there to be used and abused.

A bit of rough has its uses;)

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