I have nobody to talk now and I am so lost and confused, please if you have any experience what can happen in my situation, please share your thoughts!
I am from Ukraine, entered US legally on K-1 visa in 2008, my husband is a citizen.
First of all I want to say - It was never a goal for me to live in US, it just happened because I fell in love with my husband and we decided that I will come to live with him in US. It was very very hard for me to adjust, I have no family here and I talk to my parents on skype every weekend (I have very tight relationship with my family) However I am very goal oriented person and started to work once I received conditional GC, first it was at Sears in fitting room, after 2 months - receptionist in animal hospital, and finally!!! now I am working as a professional for about 8 months - logistics specialist (I have Master's in Transportation Management from my country).
My husband is in professional industry too, let's say he is a geek))
I am Green Card holder (I received my permanent GC for 10 years in March 2011). Before coming hereI met my husband several times at my homeland so we did not have normal dating period. When I came over here, I saw that he is drinking every night about 12 beers! I am not against having couple drinks at a party or in weekend, but drinking EVERY day???!!! So long story short, he stopped for 6 months - did not drink a drop of alcohol, it was a good time and our relationships were really great! But then he started again... but much lesser amount - about 6-8 beers and sometimes every other night.
For about a year he reduced his drinking to 3-5 beers a night, but it is still a major concern for me and reason for many our fights.
I found psychologist to go and talk how the situation can be improved and she diagnosed him with PTSD (which he told me about a year ago he thinks he has - his parents were abusive and very manipulative with their kids; they loosened up a lot though - I have normal relationships with them).
About 2 weeks ago I started to talk to him again about him possibly stopping to drink and spending more time with me - i really want kids but drinking scares me, and I don't want to have drinking problems in my family, period! He told me that he will not stop it now because it helps him to cop with PTSD and it really helps but he wants to stop it is just not now. I told him that he has addiction and I can't live like this anymore... so we were arguing, I creamed a lot (my fault), I went to computer room to throw out the beer case and he stood in between and was holding my hands trying to calm me down and I pulled my hands out of his and accidentally slapped him on arm. Then I sat on the couch crying desperately... and police appeared...
It was out neighbor who called police, they asked questions and I was afraid they will take him to jail and I was not aware they could take me! So I just said I slapped him on a arm without saying he hold my hands and then I slapped him on arm accidentally... and they arrested me, put me in jail for almost 24 hours... to say that it was dramatic is to say nothing!...
I have been released, no bail, no-contact order. I have nobody to talk here, and I don't really want to talk about that, it is so embarrassing... I even lied to my parents that my husband and I decided to take time apart to work through personal problems... The only people I can talk about are the attorney and my therapist (I decided it would be useful for me to resolve some of my issues and anger).
I have pre-trial on Monday April 11, my lawyer is going to negotiate with prosecutor to drop charges based on self-defence but she estimates it will be more than one pre-trial and there is a chance I will be convicted (even my husband stated in court at first hearing I am no threat to anyone and we are going to marriage counseling)but now it is the city against me...
I have been told that I could be deported if i am convicted... Obviously I hope for better - charges dropped and my husband and I will work through this situation and will resolve everything... I miss him a lot, and I wish I were smarter and calmer and not screaming like idiot... but this situation is just ridiculous!
What are the chances I will be convicted?
What are my options then - deportation?
Do you think I still can save my marriage?
Thank you in advance
Edited by Kizana, 08 April 2011 - 11:54 AM.