Hi, I live in the u.s. and I recently met A Jamaican man on Facebook....... I really really like him..... But I am not dumb so I would love some guidance please..... Thank you?

[PeTina 0]

[Georgia16 2,858]

Go on visits many of them, keep talking and enjoy your time together and if you get ready for more at some point the you can look at the guides on this site to see which path you should take.

[Asherbabe876 10]

Just be careful as any online relationship 

[Ben&Zian 4,397]

Take your time, rush into nothing. A lot of face time with him is good.

[PeTina 0]

Thank you! Great advice..... I will keep going with my flow and trusting my instincts?

[PeTina 0]

Do you have any obvious warning signs? I am very open and I have a hard time telling sometimes..... I'm not desperate.....I just believe In Love?

[Georgia16 2,858]

Just now, PeTina said:

Do you have any obvious warning signs? I am very open and I have a hard time telling sometimes..... I'm not desperate.....I just believe In Love?

If he keeps talking about immigration to US already then I would be a bit worried and then you can always say you want to immigrate to where he lives and if he totally backs out then it's not a good sign. 

 

Is there any red flags already?

[Maagiclady 29]

There is this....not saying he isn't on the up and up, but you asked for warning signs.  

https://rapidvisa.com/10-red-flags-that-your-fiance-is-a-scammer/

[Therealworld 90]

Hello my friend,

 

first of all if you got to visit and you have never been to jamaica stay at a hotel of your choice.  Can you tell me what parish he is from?  Look out for signs of asking for money too soon after meeting.  See if he has you speak to family really like mother father grandparents.  Call him at different hours of the night to see if he answers his phone. Look for no excuse for the phone to be off.  Dont let him start asking for you to put credit on his phone, I am sure he was doing it before meeting you.  I can tell you alot of tricks especially when it comes to the jamaican man.  But I will say there are a few good ones out there as well.  Hope this will be one for you.

[Therealworld 90]

29 minutes ago, Georgia16 said:

If he keeps talking about immigration to US already then I would be a bit worried and then you can always say you want to immigrate to where he lives and if he totally backs out then it's not a good sign. 

 

Is there any red flags already?

Well alot of people want to immigrate to the US for a better life especially coming from a place like jamaica.  Jamaica is hard and some want to migrate here make life and really earn an honest living.  Then you have some that want to come and run wild.  Some people dont like the suffering that goes on.  When people of have dreams they will yes talk of their dreams.  I have plenty of friends that wanted to come to the states but prefer to come by way of family members.  They dont want a wife because rumor in jamaica is that you migrate and you will end up on the street no where to go no family nothing.  So its a 50/50

[Therealworld 90]

26 minutes ago, Maagiclady said:

There is this....not saying he isn't on the up and up, but you asked for warning signs.  

https://rapidvisa.com/10-red-flags-that-your-fiance-is-a-scammer/

This link is great!!

[Georgia16 2,858]

2 minutes ago, babygurl said:

Well alot of people want to immigrate to the US for a better life especially coming from a place like jamaica.  Jamaica is hard and some want to migrate here make life and really earn an honest living.  Then you have some that want to come and run wild.  Some people dont like the suffering that goes on.  When people of have dreams they will yes talk of their dreams.  I have plenty of friends that wanted to come to the states but prefer to come by way of family members.  They dont want a wife because rumor in jamaica is that you migrate and you will end up on the street no where to go no family nothing.  So its a 50/50

I would still see it as a red flag 

[LionessDeon 2,060]

Just use common sense.  Meeting his family isn't always a sure sign of authenticity, as many a family member are willing to lie and portray if they could possibly benefit.

They will tell you you are the greatest thing on the planet, anything you want to hear.  Keep your eyes and ears open.  Don't be blinded by love.  Jamaican men are charming sweet talkers.  Keep your head.  Take it slow.  Talk about everything, but most of all watch his actions and behavior.  When you visit stay with him.  Hangout with his friends and family.  Observe.

There are many a sad Jamaican story here and on the internet.  Use the search tool.  Use google. Educate yourself on the culture and customs.

[Therealworld 90]

19 minutes ago, Georgia16 said:

I would still see it as a red flag 

Yes I understand, but I knew people who yes wanted to come here and to marry was the fastest way, but chose to wait for family.  There are honestly a few out there.  You got some that want to come here and then go back home, because they cant handle the change like they thought they would.  I am a US citizen, but grew up around Jamaicans all my life.  Here in the US and in Jamaica.  it is still a 50/50.  I turned someone down a few years ago, never knowing he was being filed for by his grandmother and wanted an honest relationship and yes wanted to come here with his daughter.  he is here with her living an honest life.  I know some who married only to be mistreated by their spouse in such a way it is inhuman.  Some are living a better life because it is what they desired but living it the right way.

[Therealworld 90]

16 minutes ago, LionessDeon said:

Just use common sense.  Meeting his family isn't always a sure sign of authenticity, as many a family member are willing to lie and portray if they could possibly benefit.

They will tell you you are the greatest thing on the planet, anything you want to hear.  Keep your eyes and ears open.  Don't be blinded by love.  Jamaican men are charming sweet talkers.  Keep your head.  Take it slow.  Talk about everything, but most of all watch his actions and behavior.  When you visit stay with him.  Hangout with his friends and family.  Observe.

There are many a sad Jamaican story here and on the internet.  Use the search tool.  Use google. Educate yourself on the culture and customs.

I totally agree.  Also when you visit, make sure that phone does not go off at night and ringer is on.  Also see how he treats you.  Does he bring you everywhere with him, and if he talks about money, explain that you are struggling yourself and that you don't have much money to pay your own bills. See if he sticks around and stops asking you. And when you go visit, make sure you are not paying for him his family and friends to eat and drink while you are there.