Helen Louise Pile

Your daughter can come. Your wife cannot.
I bet she is pretty fed up with you giving her advice in immigration matters.

I am glad that the people who already have children are disgrunted by the OP's statement. Their kids are here and it's great to hear of their success. Really great. Good for you guys for making it work.
Consider though that some are not as lucky as you and cannot make the best out of a situation that is very risky.
OP: I also think that deciding to get pregnant during the immigration process is stupid. In fact my doctor and I joked about it at my medical. She said I shouldn't get pregnant within 3 months of getting the MMR. I told her I was going to be married for a while before I decided to do that! She said something about wishing all girls were smart enough to do that.
The person who said the OP hasn't had children so cannot comment is ridiculous! Every single person is in that position when they have their first child. No-one ever goes into it with hindsight. Everyone is still allowed opinion on the matter.

all,
I know people can get out of shape, with the whole "im American #######" and I know the OP didn't mean to insult anyone. as most know as in a recent post, America was built by immigration, unless you were part of that original tribe (can't think of the name for the life of me) then somewhere down the line in your family, was an immigrant.
I am a little sensitive with that subject, as myself, a green card holder, and here legally, and working and paying taxes, I had a run in with one of those arrogant Americans who think that "he deserves something" for being American, being a Canadian, living in the south, I have a bit ob an accent, and get "where are you from " daily, well i was interviewing him for a job, yes interviewing him, and he asked me that question, and he boldly told me to go home, and im not welcome here, and that I am taking jobs away from the Americans. and he deserves a job before I do. well needless to say, I did not give him that job, and well, it did rub me the wrong way, so i do get a little hyper when i see posts when at first you think someone saying "i'm American" i deserve something. i know the OP didn't mean it that way, but were all here in the same boat, and alot are sensitive, so, on both sides, understand each other, and just quit, before it gets ugly. so much negativity here on this site lately. were here for "support" not arguing or belittling someone.
i know i kind of blabbered but i wanted to put my word in. for both the Americans, (not the idiots who think they are owed something, as they need to look at their family tree) and for us "immigrants" who came here for love, and love only.
Jen.

Am I the only person who believes that getting pregnant during either the fiance visa process or spouse visa process is ridiculous??
So many people write 'we accidently got pregnant' no you didn't, you were having unprotected sex and you got the obvious result of that - I fully understand that accidents can happen occasionally, but I would bet that, that didn't happen for the majority of people - it's the 21st century, so for the majority of people there really is no excuse. If you truly want a child very early on in the relationship then that really is your decision but my advise from the bottom of my heart would be to wait till the process is over - for the sake of the innocent child.
What happened to spending time together - why introduce a poor child in the mix of an already complicated situation?? My husband and I don't want to even consider children for at least 5 years because we absolutely love being with each other, we love being selfish and spending money on expensive shoes or bags, we love eating at adult restaurant, we love just being able to take off somewhere at the drop of a hat and we love waking up gone 12 in the afternoon on weekends - surely this is what new couples need? to spend each and every possible second devoted to each other and enjoying each other, and then when they're ready to share their love, decide to have a child.
How many time have I read stories of people wanting to expedite their case because of pregnancy; so many times people have written that they've been married 6 months and have a one year old child and things have gone wrong, I wonder why - you knew each other for a few weeks fell deeply in love, got pregnant, married then actually lived together and things have gone wrong because you didn't know each other - all I can say is poor child.
This is just my opinion and I'm sure I'll get met with lots of abuse, but like you I'm entitled to my opinion and I think more marriages, in and out side of the visa process would last a hell of a lot longer if people waited till they were ready as a couple to have a child.

Yikes.
Well I hope your marriage goes well.
Just be careful of wishing people harm. I think those things come back at you. (but I hope not)

Perhaps my point was not clear.
My point was to say that your personal opinions on such matters should not influence the law. My opinion on that does not mean I think that people who met online should have any different experience with USCIS than my husband and I did. I can separate the two things and respect the differences in relationships. Sometimes I read things on here and think that the person is just nuts for marrying someone...but I am able to accept that people are different and my personal conclusions on the matter are separate from their experience.
The OP states that he thinks it should be harder...so it should be harder. That is not a good enough reason. He has no real reason for what he thinks should mean a change in law....other than he thinks it. I think you need to be able to separate how you feel from what you think is right,especially when talking about the lives of others.
I hope my example did not offend. I often read about online relationships here where people meet once or twice and get married and so it seemed relevant. I do not judge anyone. I have my personal views but I value the experience of everyone and the right of couple/family to be together. I felt that was relevant to the topic.

I did not use the term 'into the mix'.
I said that the personal opinions of an individual should have no bearing on the relationships of others.
I was talking about the original issue of change to immigration law...not chat on an online discussion forum.

I had a relatively easy process to get my K1. Now I am in the US and have been married for almost a year I can look at it and say that casually...I did have it easy compared to a lot of people here and I am grateful for that and I admire the patience of those who have a more difficult journey.
I believe that the process is the way it is to prevent marriage fraud and so I'm ok with having to jump through the hoops and pay the money.
You may think it needs to be harder. That's fine. I have my own opinions on people marrying people they met online and have only seen a few times. They are my personal views and have no bearing on the lives of others or their relationships. I personally wouldn't marry someone I hadn't actually been able to live with first,at least in the same place. There can be a difference in your personal opinions and the ethical conclusions you draw on such matters.

Perhaps my point was not clear.
My point was to say that your personal opinions on such matters should not influence the law. My opinion on that does not mean I think that people who met online should have any different experience with USCIS than my husband and I did. I can separate the two things and respect the differences in relationships. Sometimes I read things on here and think that the person is just nuts for marrying someone...but I am able to accept that people are different and my personal conclusions on the matter are separate from their experience.
The OP states that he thinks it should be harder...so it should be harder. That is not a good enough reason. He has no real reason for what he thinks should mean a change in law....other than he thinks it. I think you need to be able to separate how you feel from what you think is right,especially when talking about the lives of others.
I hope my example did not offend. I often read about online relationships here where people meet once or twice and get married and so it seemed relevant. I do not judge anyone. I have my personal views but I value the experience of everyone and the right of couple/family to be together. I felt that was relevant to the topic.

I had a relatively easy process to get my K1. Now I am in the US and have been married for almost a year I can look at it and say that casually...I did have it easy compared to a lot of people here and I am grateful for that and I admire the patience of those who have a more difficult journey.
I believe that the process is the way it is to prevent marriage fraud and so I'm ok with having to jump through the hoops and pay the money.
You may think it needs to be harder. That's fine. I have my own opinions on people marrying people they met online and have only seen a few times. They are my personal views and have no bearing on the lives of others or their relationships. I personally wouldn't marry someone I hadn't actually been able to live with first,at least in the same place. There can be a difference in your personal opinions and the ethical conclusions you draw on such matters.

You are almost there! It is stressful but you sound organised!
Here's my advice:
1.I took copies of absolutely everything, all the forms, NOA's, medical stuff etc. (of course it wasn't required but I wanted to be prepared) I had them organised in an extendable folder.
2.Read the reviews of London and see what people were asked for, that helps to know what to expect: http://www.visajourney.com/reviews/index.php?cnty=United%20Kingdom
3.Make sure you have the evidence required for your Affidavit of support.
4.Prepay.
5.Take your debit card and some cash. (I can'tremember what you need for DHL but there are snacks and coffee you can buy too.
6.Take a magazine or small book....you might have along wait. (but you might not) My wait was almost 3 hours.
Oh and uh...take your passport. Probably obvious...but just in case!
Good luck!! It'll be great.
Helen

We did this also. There is also a space for iton the I-129F form somewhere.
And yes! Copies of everything!

HI all!
I just wanted to add my 2cents to the conversation and encourage anyone to volunteer before you can work and while you look for work. It keeps you busy and helps you get a job!
I volunteered full time when I arrived here on a K1 until I got my greencard and so when it came to job searching I had references who were in the US. That was a major factor in my getting the job because the man who interviewed me knew the person who gave me a nice letter of recommendation.
I have found it very easy to gain volunteer experience here in the States. Plus I made friends while doing it
Good luck everyone!!
Helen

Here are some links to organisations in NH which may be helpful.
http://www.newbeginningsnh.org/homepage.html
http://asafeplacenh.org/newsite/wordpress/
This link has a list of shelters:
http://www.divorcesource.com/shelters/newhampshire.shtml
This is a great list of resources: http://www.newbeginningsnh.org/sisteragencies.html
If I were you, I would also seek legal advice (Womens organisations can often provide you with legal advice) before taking your son out of the US without the agreement of the father.
My sister was in an abusive relationship and womens organisations helped a lot. I worked at one in Alaska and learned that they really can be a link to great support and information.
Very best wishes,
Helen

Geez louise.
Be careful talking such nonsense here. Someone could read this and get themselves into a lot of trouble by listening to advice this like.

It seems like this man has taken advantage of you and your caring and trusting nature in order to secure himself legal status in the US.
This does not seem to be a pleasant, healthy or particularly safe place for you to allow your child to be.
I hope someone can give you advice on what to do to report him for this.
Best wishes.

Disregard my posts.
Ijust read the links posted by Tahoma of the OP's previous posts.
Wow.
My 'advice' may serve to reassure other couples, but I fear may be wasted here.
It was entertaining though

Disregard my posts.
Ijust read the links posted by Tahoma of the OP's previous posts.
Wow.
My 'advice' may serve to reassure other couples, but I fear may be wasted here.
It was entertaining though

Disregard my posts.
Ijust read the links posted by Tahoma of the OP's previous posts.
Wow.
My 'advice' may serve to reassure other couples, but I fear may be wasted here.
It was entertaining though

Disregard my posts.
Ijust read the links posted by Tahoma of the OP's previous posts.
Wow.
My 'advice' may serve to reassure other couples, but I fear may be wasted here.
It was entertaining though

Disregard my posts.
Ijust read the links posted by Tahoma of the OP's previous posts.
Wow.
My 'advice' may serve to reassure other couples, but I fear may be wasted here.
It was entertaining though

It's not an excuse, their circumstances are different.
Coming here with the intent to stay and lying at CBP when you enter is visa fraud.
Being here and then deciding to marry and stay is legal.
If you and your fiancé had met in the US, or come here on holiday and decided to get married out of the blue or had a change in circumstance then this option would be open to you also. Sucks that it's not and you have to go down the K1 route, but it is not a 'loophole' or even wrong for others to be here on a tourist visa and adjust their status, if it is legal in their specific circumstance. Which is seems in the case of the OP, it might be.
Best wishes OP. Ignore people's judgments on your situation and stick to the facts people give you. As Harpa said, read the guides and gather as much information as you can before taking the next step.

I think the OP might be confused by this thread. (I know I would be!) Hopefully more clear (and perhaps less judgmental...) advice about the legality of the situation can be given from here on.
Good luck OP!

Hello! Idon'tknow whether you will be notified of this.I just wanted to say thank you. I hadmy 'hearing' in traffic court today to contest my ticket and the ruling was in my favour.
Helen

This made me sad.
Why are you asking other people if you are cheap?
You obviously consider yourself to be cheap because you are buying a relationship with this woman.
What makes you think you aren't worth more than that?