gina_raluca

Obviously, you are not a reference point, and her decision is not for you to understand.
OP: Have you considered talking to a psychologist/therapist about your current distress? You mentioned in your post that you attempted suicide at some point. Especially during this stressful time, it may help you to talk to someone objective about the emotional abandonment/betrayal you are experiencing now. There are lots of free/sliding fee clinics associated with universities that offer training programs in Clinical/Counseling Psychology. If you need help with locating one of these, please PM me.

I apologize for the off-topic, but this post is extremely inflammatory:
Justashooter, your perspective on a foreign woman's expectations comes from your personal experience? Your wife and her family are expecting "big cash out of the deal?" Your post is a crass generalization and a huge offense to the people who come here with higher education degrees or pursue higher education here and find highly lucrative jobs. Or to those who come here and work together with their spouse toward building a better life. Your posts are extremely prejudicial.
Imported spouse? - is she a commodity? I sure hope this is not your attitude toward your wife.

I can't believe some of the ####### I'm reading in this thread. The OP loses all credibility to discuss others' comments written in "terribly" English, with their own disregard for correct grammar and proper use of punctuation. A person's age goes up by one each year, no more no less. Has anyone ever been able to sponsor their entire village with an approved I-864 before they get a green card? And isn't this a family based immigration community? As far as English being a requirement for immigration, how can we ask that of potential immigrants when we don't hold our own citizens to that standard. Sachinky, not every immigrant comes from a country where English is spoken, or have had the opportunity to go to college in the US. This is a nation of immigrants, even the American Indians were immigrants at one time. So unless you are from the Greater Rift Valley in Africa where it is believed the human species originated, your ancestors immigrated from somewhere else.

Somehow I randomly ended up in this forum, but the Texas drivers license thread caught my eye. A B1/B2 can't get a TX DL with just the visa as the list says. Anyone with an I-94 showing legal presence, must have at least 6 months remaining on the I-94. That's why a K-1 can't get a license with their I-94 because only 90 days is given to K1s. An EAD card shows a years authorized presence, so it works, for one year. All driver's licenses will expire on the date the legal presence expires. Your green card will get you a six year license. If you get the Temporary Visitor one for 1 year on the EAD, you will have to pay again to get the regular driver's license, not to mention waiting in line forever. So if the GC is going to come pretty fast, you might not want to bother with the temp DL.
The law in Texas changed Oct 1, 2008. Before that a person could have just a couple of weeks remaining on some form of legal presence and they would be issued a license good for 6 years. With a valid Texas license, they could use that as id and appear to be as legal as a born in Texas person. Because Texas laws were so lenient, illegals flocked from many other states to get a Texas driver's license to use as a form of id in their states. The federal government had put some pressure on the states to tighten their issuance of state ids to non-legal persons. So most states now have some version of having the license issued only for the length of time of legal presence.
Mexican driver's licenses are not recognized by Texas. An international driver's license (IDL) or international driving permit (IDP) is not going to authorize one to drive in Texas. That is merely a booklet with your driver's license information translated into many languages. It is to accompany your real license which must be accepted by Texas. So a Mexican license with a translation book into English, French, German, Italian, etc is still not going to allow one to drive in Texas.
I had an IDP which I got at the AAA travel office in Houston. It was suggested to carry one because I was going to be driving in Europe and the translations into the various languages would be useful for a foreign driver. Don't be fooled by scams that say it will give you some authority instead of having a government issued license.

Be careful. You aren't going to earn any respect around here by trashing Americans. Most US citizens are proud to be Americans, and wouldn't consider being "Americanized" to be a bad thing. Her husband's behavior would be equally unacceptable if he were a native born US citizen, and no American girl would tolerate it either.
I've heard a lot said about the family values of Asians. While I'll admit that their families tend to stay closer than American families, I've seen them screw other family members worse than many American families who are not nearly as close. Asian family values are different than American family values, but I don't see them as being any better or worse. If you disagree then perhaps the wrong spouse in your relationship immigrated. Why would you bring a spouse to a country if you have such a low opinion of it's values and it's people?

Really? Is this what everybody is going to argue about? This stupid law thats objectifying one minority that's not the only race who has ever came here illegally? This is such a BS topic. Everybody has their say in this one because they think their race is better, right? Of course its not targeted at asian people so they would never stop you in a mall in Arizona, I dont think its right for cops to stop me out of nowhere and ask for I.D. to prove something. I'm an american, a first generation hispanic american, and it's very insulting for the to do so. How dare everybody say that this law enforcement is necessary! I would never say this about another race, I wouldnt go "Hey, theres a pinoy, search him for papers!" or "Get the hell out of my country!". They deserve to work, they arent causing trouble, my mom mightve came here illegally, but she grew up in the states, went to school, worked and was treated like an american because she never got in trouble or wanted anything bad with anybody, now she's a citizen, like my dad and I'm proud for the product I am. I dont care what anybody will say to me after this post, my point of view has been cleared and Im happy with that. Oh, and way to go Arizona:thumbs: Because of this law, there will be a bunch more green card marriages thats going to make it harder for everybody else, way to go.

Because laws are enacted through legislation, by elected politicians. And if you generally trust politicians to always create sound and just laws, I've got some prime real estate I'd like to sell you on the moon. The Arizona law (SB1070) has been argued by prominent legal scholars as being in violation of our beloved U.S. Constitution. We don't blindly follow laws simply because they are made into laws. We have it within our American spirit, the sense to look at the merits or laws that are created, as to whether they are just or not.
It was only 40 years ago, that in many states, many Fil-Am couples (racially mixed couples) could not marry legally. And at the time, such laws that restricted racially mixed couples from marrying were popular. It wasn't until the Supreme Court ruled that such state laws were unconstitutional. So keep that in mind when you believe that all laws are good and never should be questioned or challenged. You owe it to yourself, especially being of Filipino decent, to know the history of race relations in this country. I'm willing to bet that you'd have a different outlook on Arizona's law, if your spouse happened to be pulled over while driving and was waiting for her Green Card in the mail. Without any proof that she is here legally, in Arizona she would be detained without bail until immigration would clear her name, which for anyone who has gone through USCIS knows, is not terribly expedient.

Unlike a used car, people do not come with a money-back guarantee. It's therefore wise to establish whether or not a couple is compatible before getting engaged and filing for a fiance visa.
I feel sorry for that woman who just gave up everything at her home country to travel thousands of miles to a foreign continent to marry the love of her life, only to find out she's not as good as your petitioning husband bargained for.

I'm sorry that this has turned into a discussion about diagnoses. Your friend does not seem interested in actually understanding what is happening, which is absolutely his right. I hope others will be able to advise you on what avenues are available to him for ROC.
Justashooter, my credentials are not relevant. I prefer to display them where it actually matters. I did not diagnose anyone and will never venture to this online. Whatever your background, diagnosing a psychological condition online is unethical. Imagine if the husband actually goes home and tells the wife that she has BPD; this is only going to make her feel more insecure and possibly trigger her. You don't know how someone is going to react when they hear about BPD, especially given the bad rep this diagnosis has (even among professionals). If you really wanted to help, you could have given advice on how he could respond to the emotional instability. You could have encouraged the husband to have her see a psychologist/psychiatrist. This is what someone who abides by the "do not harm" rule does.

when ICE is on a 'search' for an illegal alien, no warrant is needed to bust down the door.
Sorry. If ICE expects to need to be loaded for bear, if this person is hiding in some 'known illegal alien den', then ICE can do whatever they want, for apprehending the illegal alien.
If yer friend would want to spare his 'family' any further 'investigation and deportation' - tell yer friend to show up at the ICE office with a suitcase - at least he'll spare his family any arrest and deportation, yes? They've been in hiding, this long, using false papers, and now harboring a fugitive - so when ICE is at THEIR door, they will most likely take ALL of them in, for a small stay, until the fingerprints are validated in the national database.
I wish I had 'other news' for you, but - it is what it is. He's illegal, and needs to be gone. ICE will do their job - but your friend has a few moments now, to make a decision for 'just him' or 'all of the family'. He should make a choice, today.

German laws don't necessarily apply to Ukraine. Every country has different laws.
You look silly and self-righteous when you start inserting your own moral judgments and perceptions of consequences in situations you obviously know very little about.
Ukraine and Russia aren't Germany and if you come around in the beginning of May they'll make sure you hear about it.

Actually, sister, they try to do this...that is why they post that information on their website. But how many women truly listen? So many women just say - oh, no, not my man - "He loves me - loves my fat - loves my kids - doesn't mind that I've been married and around the block a few times - loves that I'm a Christian but I'll convert for him - loves that I'm independent" blah, blah, blah. Girl, please - they've seen it all...but what they've seen, too, is that many men are sooooo fvcking desperate to get the hell out of Morocco that they'll do whatever it takes to blow that popsicle stand. That they'll ride that rollercoaster so they can have a better life.
I don't know what is up with Casa because yes they seem to be denying in inordinate amount of cases lately, but somehow I believe that means they've been seeing some serious, serious fraud situations as well. Things do go hand in hand. I have a feeling that if they could tell some of these women to their face that they're blind as a bat, they would. But obviously, and it has happened before in MENA interviews, that when a consular officer told some women about their husband's/fiance's lies such as concurrent marriages, undeclared children, multiple visa filings, these women didn't do anything and just continued with the relationship. Desperation at its finest!!!
There are many people who have come through Casa and other MENA countries and they are happily married (and I say happily with a grain of salt because immigration marriages are tough) but for the most part things are moving along well. But, there are also quite a few who have had the greencard monster rear his ugly head. Just sayin'.

I don't know how much it applies to any of these situations, but "marrying for a green card" and "scamming for a green card" are not necessarily the same. My wife and I are people who didn't necessarily feel that we needed to be married, but understand that to get her green card (or, more accurately, for her to be able to carry on with her life and travel, work, etc), we needed to get married. We've been together for 6 years, have no intentions of being apart in the future, but also didn't feel like we needed to make a formal "marriage" commitment to one another to be committed to one another.
We're not scamming for a card, or anything like that, but the law says that for her to file for LPR based on our relationship, we have to be married. So, we are. Marriage didn't change our feelings or commitment to each other (which is a good thing), but it does grant certain privileges. Of course, we don't plan to get into this semantic discussion at the interview!
(our wedding invites (for the public ceremony) have this Lord Byron quote on them: "I have great hopes that we shall love each other all our lives as much as if we had never married at all.")

People do plan for this process. That's actually what the entire website is about.
I'm about to call you out now and I am sure you are not going to like it.
What you and your wife have done, in essence, is misuse the J1 visa she was granted. The purpose of her residency was to come here, teach, and return home.
So in essence, you and she are the ones who did not follow the plan.
However, even in that circumstance, the government allows her to file a waiver asking for forgiveness for having gone against the plan. Your problem is you are pi$$ed off about that. I actually think you are quite lucky to have the opportunity, given the fact you have broken a promise to the US government.
You are entitled to NOTHING from the US government insofar as your marriage to your foreign born spouse is concerned. So, the sooner you get that chip off your shoulder and do away with the entitlement mentality, the sooner you will be able to go about accomplishing the task at hand.

I'm sorry about your situation. Laurel Scott is an immigration attorney that specializes in waivers for this type of situation (falsely claiming US citizenship). You may want to contact her and set up a consulation with her. Based on the specifics of your husband's case, she may be able to tell if he has a chance to fight the ban or not. Good luck to you!

I'm sorry about your situation. Laurel Scott is an immigration attorney that specializes in waivers for this type of situation (falsely claiming US citizenship). You may want to contact her and set up a consulation with her. Based on the specifics of your husband's case, she may be able to tell if he has a chance to fight the ban or not. Good luck to you!

I'm sorry that this has turned into a discussion about diagnoses. Your friend does not seem interested in actually understanding what is happening, which is absolutely his right. I hope others will be able to advise you on what avenues are available to him for ROC.
Justashooter, my credentials are not relevant. I prefer to display them where it actually matters. I did not diagnose anyone and will never venture to this online. Whatever your background, diagnosing a psychological condition online is unethical. Imagine if the husband actually goes home and tells the wife that she has BPD; this is only going to make her feel more insecure and possibly trigger her. You don't know how someone is going to react when they hear about BPD, especially given the bad rep this diagnosis has (even among professionals). If you really wanted to help, you could have given advice on how he could respond to the emotional instability. You could have encouraged the husband to have her see a psychologist/psychiatrist. This is what someone who abides by the "do not harm" rule does.

Unfortunately, in a courtroom situation, a stack of email printouts is completely useless, ESPECIALLY if they themselves seem fine and you have only your word against hers that they are "lies". That and a buck might buy you a cheap cup of coffee, sorry to say.
Unless they are printed by the internet service provider's system administrator and are accompanied by a subpoena and a court-notarized letter to that effect, emails are just text files. They are the easiest things in the world to fake, and have no evidentiary value whatsoever!
I'm afraid it will be very, very difficult for you to show that the marriage was not entered into in good faith, and without being able to show that, your ex-wife should have no real difficulties filing an I-751 (with divorce waiver) on her own and obtaining a 10-year GC. She'll even probably get it early, if she's well-read here or is receiving good advice, because being divorced, she can file her I-751 now instead of waiting for the 90-days-prior-to-two-years mark.
She'll have to wait until the 5-year mark to naturalize, instead of being able to after 3, but that's peanuts by comparison.
Petitioners who are accustomed to the immigration system giving them some power or control over the beneficiary frequently receive this rude shock: once the 2-year GC is issued, the amount of control the petitioner retains over the process drops precipitously. Once divorce papers are signed, the amount of control goes to epsilon [as close to zero as you can get while still being distinguishable from zero.] Honestly, the desire for control manifested in the subject line is actually weak-to-moderate evidence that the marriage was entered into in good faith by your ex-wife. If this power dynamic was a part of the marriage, it was almost certainly a major cause of the divorce.
The smartest things for you to do right now are:
A ) Materially: make sure your locks are changed, she is removed from your bank accounts and credit cards and insurance, and that you do not contact or communicate with her except in public with neutral 3rd party witnesses present. Protect yourself financially, materially, and legally.
B ) Spiritually [and FAR more importantly], put every last ounce of effort you can muster into forgiving her, letting go, and wishing her well. The desire for revenge, to see her clapped in irons and loaded by ICE on the first plane to Cambodia is not only unrealistic [as in it almost certainly won't happen, see above], but harboring and encouraging that pleasant fantasy - even finding it pleasant - will in the long run do FAR more serious damage to your own soul than any consequences it will have to her. Let her go. She hurt you, and nothing can change that now, and she will have to deal with the consequences of that, in time. Desiring to hurt her back is only allowing her to do far deeper damage to you still.

He is asking that because the passports need to be valid for at least 6 more months after the interview.
Someone please correct me if it's more than 6 months.
OP: If it's 6 months, you should be fine. Good luck

I'm sorry that I cannot give you an answer about her immigration situation. I read your message and I wanted to say that I am sorry you are getting rejected like this. I am struck by the fact that you want nothing more than to still be married to her. I think we all deserve to be respected and treated accordingly. Best.

I'm sorry that I cannot give you an answer about her immigration situation. I read your message and I wanted to say that I am sorry you are getting rejected like this. I am struck by the fact that you want nothing more than to still be married to her. I think we all deserve to be respected and treated accordingly. Best.

I got an email for the RFE. It's for the PPC from Passport office. We had already mentioned on the Cover Letter that the Ahmedabad passport office DOES NOT provide the PCC w/o the interview letter!!! Other folks have done the same thing and they've accepted it.... why? o why us???
It's another story that we were able to get the PO PCC using the false checklist that they generated on May 4th. So if they don't budge, we'll send that out.
there goes any chance of a June interview... Now I can only hope for July!!

That it was received on May 12th does not mean it shows up on the operator's computer.
It would likely show up on the operator's computer when it gets looked at by an examiner/reviewer.
But I'm just guessing here.
My suggestion - just be patient and give them a few days.
By the way - I am in exactly the same situation as you.

From what I'e studied on here, you need a police report for every place you've lived 6 months or more in your country of NATIONALITY (state, city, province) AND a police report for every place you've lived 12 months or more OUTSIDE of your country of nationality.
I guess that is why we should ask to talk to a supervisor, but make sure you tell them that you just want to TALK to a supv not get your case REVIEWED by a supervisor!
I don't think you'll get an RFE gina_raluca. There were several folks who put where the beneficiary lived since birth and were fine.

What age did your start with? I had an attorney at that time & they messed up on that question too and put since hubby turned 9 which we didnt get an RFE for it but I had hubby correct it for the VFS stage in India. In your case if it flies through NVC, update the form for the interview. Best of luck! Hope you don't RFE!