I would not recommend transferring careers into something you do not enjoy doing. This will only aggravate you more. Find something you are passionate about. It seems that you have the perfect setup, able to live with your family, but pride is getting in the way. I know when my husband and I arrive, we will not have the luxury to live with family long-term. It will be more of a short time, waiting for an apartment or house to be approved and lights turned on. I suggest you enjoy this freedom for now, and he needs to stop worrying about the kitchen.