JeanneVictoria

You stand zero chance of winning your lawsuit and using words like you'll be suffering "extreme cruelty" will make you look plain - sorry to be blunt - stupid.
There's lots of work for highly skilled engineers that does not require security clearance and your story that you can't perform your duties without being a citizen and without a clearance makes very little sense - you're in a wrong place obviously. Will your opportunities increase when you become USC and get clearance - sure (so will mine), but you have no guarantee you will be granted clearance and - as far as I know - will not be eligible to top secret one anyway. Depending which country you're from, you mat not get a secret one either.
If you loose your job, your wife should easily qualify for Medicaid....
Also check your story - there is lots of people that get their I-485 approved on a same day but there's lots of them that don't.
At the end - it's your money to waste you claim you don't have, just your story seems very very weak.

You are "dating" a man you have yet to meet, Dont have money to visit his country in 3 months from now ( which is a low fare season being Feb) and he cant afford his own plane ticket/visa, Are different religions, already posting doubts about his real intentions towards you and his mother accepts you by just seeing your pic.
Only thing that made any great sense in your original post were your first 6 words.

Don't put in the waiver that your with husband suffers from severe anxiety disorder and literally can not go to sleep without you,because he grew up without you and until he met you I bet that he slept,otherwise he would be dead now.His mother has rheumatoid arthritis ,but you did not mention here that she is in a debilitated state that she needs him here to take her to doctor's appointment,give her medication, help her around the house,if his father is around and he has other siblings in the USA then her healthy problem won't be not enough to have a waiver granted. Find a lawyer to file the waiver,because the reasons you mentioned here are not strong at all.

Mexican laws are different than US laws, and US laws for immigration purposes are different. For US immigration purposes he would have had to adopted her prior to her being 16 plus a lot of other rules. He can adopt her in Mexico and she would be his daughter (if Mexican law allows) but she would not be eligible to immigrate to the US under the immediate relative rules.

Front loading is great advice. No one thinks Guangzhou is easy. But difficult consulates are all difficult in their own unique and culturally specific context ways. What flies in Guangzhou can be a big red flag in Egypt, that can't be glossed over. I've never seen anyone fretting over USCIS approval, except for a few weird situations where people were trying (always unsuccessfully) to get a waiver for meeting in person first. Getting to Point A is a given in the OP's situation. Front loading is not the end all be all though, which is where NY-BX's advice came in handy.

The OP has not mentioned any basis for immigrating to the US and has ruled out many of the normal options. Seems odd to come to the US for medical care. I have come across many people from the US who go elsewhere because of the cost.

Something tells me you don't think like a CO.

And your comment was nice?
Perhaps it would be wise not to read "rudeness" into people who are actually trying to be helpful. Pointing out that when it comes to interview questions, a sincere personal story is better than a canned, pre-scripted response for "red flag" issues isn't rude...its actually helpful.
When I started this process I asked my lawyer if we should just try to get my husband a visitor visa and then get married while he was here in the US. She very quickly responded to me "Well that would be fraud, and if USCIS realize you did that intentionally, he could get banned for 10+ years...bad idea!" But guess what, because we weren't trying to commit fraud, I didn't take it personal. I didn't get angry and accuse her of being "disgustingly RUDE" because she mentioned the word "fraud." I didn't feel threatened because I knew it wasn't fraud. I actually appreciated the info and we moved forward successfully.
No need to create drama with accusations. Romet is a big boy - he can stand up for himself (an did) - and we all wish him and his fiance the best. And I stand by my first recommendation. Worry about correctly compiling all the evidence you have to submit. For genuine relationships, the interview is a breeze.

People are not denied based on personal opinions or whims of consulars or any such nonsense. Not understanding the process, or having very little actual knowledge of the process seems to often fuel that absurd conclusion, but that doesn't make it true. People's real red flags are often embarrassing though, and personal, and it's a whole lot easier to pin blame on consulars than aspects of one's own personal life, or the lives of friends and family. If anything, throughout MENA, even though a couple consulates are some of the most difficult in the world, overall they seem to err on the side of giving a visa in the most absurd of circumstances, rather than denying them. They're far more generous, forgiving, and understanding than they're given credit for here.

You don't know what your "red flags" are and there are far more than you believe. It's not just the age difference, the secrecy from your family, the religious differences, and the pile you already know about.
But you keep on, knowing everything, and trying to find work-arounds. Let us know how that works out for you.

Interesting, did not know there was Ebola in India, I looked on the Times of India web site and they just mentioned Africa, and the US.

This thread is no place for bickering. And you will find you might get further, and may one day be taken seriously, if you drop the bolded, coloured, CAPS LOCK style of responding. Your post is hard on the eye, and difficult to read due to those affectations. If you think you have something useful to say, just do that.
When you have been around VJ long enough, you will understand why posters with experience do not sugar coat their responses. This OP has many issues, some of which he was unaware, and some which may be insurmountable. The "there, there, your love is true, your love is real" blather will not get the job done.

If you end up in a Stokes you have problems.

This was the entire problem, in the first sentence, and you haven't yet shown you learned this is the wrong reason to get married.
You can't drug your way out of this mistake.

Judgement has been passed by appropriate court judge seems like - nothing for us to judge. My question is why offer help to a convicted criminal ?
Just because this is what we do on this site ? Seriously ?

Again - complete nonsense. Civil surgeons sent me out to get shots elsewhere. It is the case with most of them, including this topic where OP is looking for cheapest place. Stop providing bad advice, you do not have to get vaccinations from civil surgeon - he / she just needs to see proof those had been done.
There is no medical for I-751 so I have no idea what are you talking about here - clearly you're confused.

Maybe congress should pass a law that anyone wearing a uniform flys for free and anyone in first class not wearing a uniform should get bumped back to coach to make room for those in uniform.

You know you make an excellent point and please note that I'm in no way referring to or offending the OP, but I have seen the nerves of some people who live abroad never file taxes and then come over to the US to get things like financial aid for school, medicaid and the works.
I think the government should start requiring proof of taxes paid in order to claim any benefit in this country. If you don't contribute, you shouldn't leech. Not to mention that I have seen several posts here about people who don't pay taxes because they work off the books.

the name is OBOLA now. jeez teddy, you're so two thousand and late.

You are under no obligation to file ROC for him. This will create no trouble for you and there are no laws saying you must. If you have evidence of fraud, you could report that, but it has to be hard evidence, not I heard, I saw, or someone told me so. It needs to be hard paper evidence, such as emails or texts he's sent saying he only married you to get a green card. You can report he is no longer in the home, once he is gone. If you move while he's in the USA and still under the I-864, you must report where you move to, but that is the only thing you're required to do by law. You should have filed charges when he abused you and left you bruised, gotten a protection order, and no longer had any contact with him. You should still get that protection order, and then change the locks. If you're really worried about him returning, then changing residence yourself for a while might be a good plan.
The ROC is not something you file. Neither was the AOS if he was a K-1 immigrant. They are both something the immigrant is required to file, but not the petitioner. If you were to call USCIS about either a ROC or AOS petition that your spouse filed, they could tell you nothing, as you're not the person filing and its none of your business what the status is or if they even filed.
What is important is you get yourself safe and out of this abusive situation.

YOU do not need to file within the time frame and you are under no obligation to file ROC. He needs to tell USCIS why ROC has not been filed, not you.
Step 1 - get divorced
Step 2 - move on

If he's abusing you like that, why are you even living in the same place as him? Getting away from him should be your concern. And you don't file the ROC, the immigrant files the ROC. They can file with your cooperation or not. Although filing without requires an abuse complaint from him about you, or a divorce decree. You should be worrying about your safety, not about his status right now.

No need to apologize. I appreciate the honesty. I totally saw those red flags but ignored them. I let her convince me into thinking she'd change and wasn't using me. Now I feel foolish to have even considered adjusting her status.

He entered as a Tourist with the intent of staying. Generally you can not adjust to another status using the VWP but an exception is made through a US spouse but if he said he was using the VWP to immigrate, well that is not allowed.
Anyway past history now. He abandoned his adjustment when he returned and any visiting will need to be done by you. As has been said he will need to obtain an Immigrant Visa through the Consulate, sounds like there are two choices.

She said it all...you should feel lucky she chose to date you. And she will remind you of this all the time, like when she wants clothes, or a car, or to spend time alone with you when you should be with your mother. And if she doesn't get what she wants she will threaten to leave you. It's all a game of mental abuse. She is a user and needs to use you to get her green card so she can stay here and start her life, which may or may not include you.