Daphne .

From one Dutchie to another, please think very carefully about doing the AOS, you really don’t want to be stuck in the US without being to work or leave for a good few months. You mention that “since you’re Christians you can’t/don’t want to wait any longer”, don’t make huge decisions based on primal desires/needs. I assume that’s what you are referring to? 
 
If possible (not sure how much time you have left on your Esta) why not get married now, leave the US after your visit and do the spousal visa (CR1) instead?

From one Dutchie to another, please think very carefully about doing the AOS, you really don’t want to be stuck in the US without being to work or leave for a good few months. You mention that “since you’re Christians you can’t/don’t want to wait any longer”, don’t make huge decisions based on primal desires/needs. I assume that’s what you are referring to? 
 
If possible (not sure how much time you have left on your Esta) why not get married now, leave the US after your visit and do the spousal visa (CR1) instead?

Time to put on your big boy/girl pants and take control of your life! I know it’s easier said than done and there might be some cultural things happening here but again, you are an adult. Get a new job, see if you can crash at a friend’s house until you find a room, etc. If your partner is financially stable enough, they can also support you for the time being. 

You can still visit her while your CR1 is pending, I did the same thing and had no issues. So you could still see each other while your CR1 is pending.  I am not sure what you mean by "traveling back and forth right now could cause danger while we're still dating and not married since we're already dating for 1.5 years"? If you have your mind set on adjusting status, you can of course do that now, just make sure that you don't make short-term decisions with long-term consequences. Good luck!

From one Dutchie to another, please think very carefully about doing the AOS, you really don’t want to be stuck in the US without being to work or leave for a good few months. You mention that “since you’re Christians you can’t/don’t want to wait any longer”, don’t make huge decisions based on primal desires/needs. I assume that’s what you are referring to? 
 
If possible (not sure how much time you have left on your Esta) why not get married now, leave the US after your visit and do the spousal visa (CR1) instead?

You can still visit her while your CR1 is pending, I did the same thing and had no issues. So you could still see each other while your CR1 is pending.  I am not sure what you mean by "traveling back and forth right now could cause danger while we're still dating and not married since we're already dating for 1.5 years"? If you have your mind set on adjusting status, you can of course do that now, just make sure that you don't make short-term decisions with long-term consequences. Good luck!

From one Dutchie to another, please think very carefully about doing the AOS, you really don’t want to be stuck in the US without being to work or leave for a good few months. You mention that “since you’re Christians you can’t/don’t want to wait any longer”, don’t make huge decisions based on primal desires/needs. I assume that’s what you are referring to? 
 
If possible (not sure how much time you have left on your Esta) why not get married now, leave the US after your visit and do the spousal visa (CR1) instead?

Continue looking for another job to become financially independent enough to be able to move out of your parents’ house. That will at least give some relief during the wait.
 
I understand how difficult it is to be caught in the middle (your parents disapproving of your relationship) but at the end of the day you are an adult and this is your choice. They are very likely afraid of losing you, you are planning to move to a new country. They might just be showing it in a very unpleasant way. 
 
There is no way to be able to live in the US until your K1 is approved, so focus on improving your situation during the wait. 

We had no joint bank account (still don’t), I was not added to any insurance or utility bill, we had nothing of that sort because I was still living in my home country and everything turned out okay. USCIS understands that couples who live in separate countries don’t have that type of evidence.

Time to put on your big boy/girl pants and take control of your life! I know it’s easier said than done and there might be some cultural things happening here but again, you are an adult. Get a new job, see if you can crash at a friend’s house until you find a room, etc. If your partner is financially stable enough, they can also support you for the time being. 

Time to put on your big boy/girl pants and take control of your life! I know it’s easier said than done and there might be some cultural things happening here but again, you are an adult. Get a new job, see if you can crash at a friend’s house until you find a room, etc. If your partner is financially stable enough, they can also support you for the time being. 

OP can try to visit using their Esta, but that’s about it.. They won’t be able to ‘stay’ until the I-129f is approved. 

Continue looking for another job to become financially independent enough to be able to move out of your parents’ house. That will at least give some relief during the wait.
 
I understand how difficult it is to be caught in the middle (your parents disapproving of your relationship) but at the end of the day you are an adult and this is your choice. They are very likely afraid of losing you, you are planning to move to a new country. They might just be showing it in a very unpleasant way. 
 
There is no way to be able to live in the US until your K1 is approved, so focus on improving your situation during the wait. 

Continue looking for another job to become financially independent enough to be able to move out of your parents’ house. That will at least give some relief during the wait.
 
I understand how difficult it is to be caught in the middle (your parents disapproving of your relationship) but at the end of the day you are an adult and this is your choice. They are very likely afraid of losing you, you are planning to move to a new country. They might just be showing it in a very unpleasant way. 
 
There is no way to be able to live in the US until your K1 is approved, so focus on improving your situation during the wait. 

I understand, but the marriage will happen in the US, where it is legal and the staff at the Embassy will treat it accordingly

Time to put on your big boy/girl pants and take control of your life! I know it’s easier said than done and there might be some cultural things happening here but again, you are an adult. Get a new job, see if you can crash at a friend’s house until you find a room, etc. If your partner is financially stable enough, they can also support you for the time being. 

Time to put on your big boy/girl pants and take control of your life! I know it’s easier said than done and there might be some cultural things happening here but again, you are an adult. Get a new job, see if you can crash at a friend’s house until you find a room, etc. If your partner is financially stable enough, they can also support you for the time being. 

OP can try to visit using their Esta, but that’s about it.. They won’t be able to ‘stay’ until the I-129f is approved. 

Continue looking for another job to become financially independent enough to be able to move out of your parents’ house. That will at least give some relief during the wait.
 
I understand how difficult it is to be caught in the middle (your parents disapproving of your relationship) but at the end of the day you are an adult and this is your choice. They are very likely afraid of losing you, you are planning to move to a new country. They might just be showing it in a very unpleasant way. 
 
There is no way to be able to live in the US until your K1 is approved, so focus on improving your situation during the wait. 

I understand, but the marriage will happen in the US, where it is legal and the staff at the Embassy will treat it accordingly

There is no official timeframe and also no benefit to waiting. Do it as soon as you have the marriage certificate.

Continue looking for another job to become financially independent enough to be able to move out of your parents’ house. That will at least give some relief during the wait.
 
I understand how difficult it is to be caught in the middle (your parents disapproving of your relationship) but at the end of the day you are an adult and this is your choice. They are very likely afraid of losing you, you are planning to move to a new country. They might just be showing it in a very unpleasant way. 
 
There is no way to be able to live in the US until your K1 is approved, so focus on improving your situation during the wait. 

Continue looking for another job to become financially independent enough to be able to move out of your parents’ house. That will at least give some relief during the wait.
 
I understand how difficult it is to be caught in the middle (your parents disapproving of your relationship) but at the end of the day you are an adult and this is your choice. They are very likely afraid of losing you, you are planning to move to a new country. They might just be showing it in a very unpleasant way. 
 
There is no way to be able to live in the US until your K1 is approved, so focus on improving your situation during the wait. 

Did you already know her before she entered the US? When did you meet her? Even if you met her the day she entered the US, discussing marriage (especially in her circumstances) seems VERY hasty.. 

UP TO 6 months per entry, but that is not a guarantee and also doesn’t mean that somebody can stay for 6 months, leave and come back for another 6 months.