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Lumping people into one basket or generalizing is often not good to do. But if we want to go that route, often for women, security is very high up on the list and financial security falls into that category. In the PH I have noticed that women truly looking for a future and not for scamming, are looking for for men that are loving, kind and make them feel secure.. Just my personal observation.

I do so enjoy the discussion you generate @smore… 
Just a question, are you looking for advice, hope, to find a girlfriend from this thread? Are you solely focused on finding love in the Philippines? 

Maybe you are just not well suited for a long distance relationship especially someone as far away as SE Asia. I went to the PH 10x before my wife got here. A lot of things you explain are about what you desire and your Ideals. That does not leave much room for a partner's ideals and desires. Do you think you could find a foreign wife by going to her home to USA, and live happily ever after. Every person I know that has a Pinay wife has to take the wife home to visit family at least once every year or 2. Marrying someone from the Philippines will require international travel...Lots of it. Also like I said you need to spend time there and a lot of time talking to understand their culture. If you don't you will not be able to overcome the cultural differences. My wife and I talked 2-3 hours a day, EVERY DAY, for years before she got here. Most husbands and wives that live together don't spend that much time communicating. I think that your thoughts and ideas are very unrealistic. Nothing against you, I just want to share reality.

Maybe you are just not well suited for a long distance relationship especially someone as far away as SE Asia. I went to the PH 10x before my wife got here. A lot of things you explain are about what you desire and your Ideals. That does not leave much room for a partner's ideals and desires. Do you think you could find a foreign wife by going to her home to USA, and live happily ever after. Every person I know that has a Pinay wife has to take the wife home to visit family at least once every year or 2. Marrying someone from the Philippines will require international travel...Lots of it. Also like I said you need to spend time there and a lot of time talking to understand their culture. If you don't you will not be able to overcome the cultural differences. My wife and I talked 2-3 hours a day, EVERY DAY, for years before she got here. Most husbands and wives that live together don't spend that much time communicating. I think that your thoughts and ideas are very unrealistic. Nothing against you, I just want to share reality.

I am currently deployed to the Middle East with the US Army, and my job is a combat position. We started the filing process a few months before I deployed.  
I stated what the nature of our deployment has been like so far, like periods of no contact, the stress of having a immigration case while serving in a combat role, and that the most important priority is mission success, not worrying about a immigration proceeding. I also said that any information that my spouse or the embassy may need from me, I could be out of contact with them for several weeks at a time.
I had my CO signa memo stating that I was in fact deployed and what our purpose in the Middle East is for. 
I also provided copies of my orders, and included a personal statement (just under two pages). 
 
Perfect thank you! 

You need to create your account here https://www.ustraveldocs.com/ph/ and then you should be able to self schedule the interview.  The medical must be scheduled online  here  https://slec.ph/registration/us/ and must be completed before the interview.  Congratulations on the successful expedite,  perhaps purchase some lottery tickets too since successful expedites have been rather rare at US embassy Manila lately. 😁

Maybe you are just not well suited for a long distance relationship especially someone as far away as SE Asia. I went to the PH 10x before my wife got here. A lot of things you explain are about what you desire and your Ideals. That does not leave much room for a partner's ideals and desires. Do you think you could find a foreign wife by going to her home to USA, and live happily ever after. Every person I know that has a Pinay wife has to take the wife home to visit family at least once every year or 2. Marrying someone from the Philippines will require international travel...Lots of it. Also like I said you need to spend time there and a lot of time talking to understand their culture. If you don't you will not be able to overcome the cultural differences. My wife and I talked 2-3 hours a day, EVERY DAY, for years before she got here. Most husbands and wives that live together don't spend that much time communicating. I think that your thoughts and ideas are very unrealistic. Nothing against you, I just want to share reality.

Maybe you are just not well suited for a long distance relationship especially someone as far away as SE Asia. I went to the PH 10x before my wife got here. A lot of things you explain are about what you desire and your Ideals. That does not leave much room for a partner's ideals and desires. Do you think you could find a foreign wife by going to her home to USA, and live happily ever after. Every person I know that has a Pinay wife has to take the wife home to visit family at least once every year or 2. Marrying someone from the Philippines will require international travel...Lots of it. Also like I said you need to spend time there and a lot of time talking to understand their culture. If you don't you will not be able to overcome the cultural differences. My wife and I talked 2-3 hours a day, EVERY DAY, for years before she got here. Most husbands and wives that live together don't spend that much time communicating. I think that your thoughts and ideas are very unrealistic. Nothing against you, I just want to share reality.

Maybe you are just not well suited for a long distance relationship especially someone as far away as SE Asia. I went to the PH 10x before my wife got here. A lot of things you explain are about what you desire and your Ideals. That does not leave much room for a partner's ideals and desires. Do you think you could find a foreign wife by going to her home to USA, and live happily ever after. Every person I know that has a Pinay wife has to take the wife home to visit family at least once every year or 2. Marrying someone from the Philippines will require international travel...Lots of it. Also like I said you need to spend time there and a lot of time talking to understand their culture. If you don't you will not be able to overcome the cultural differences. My wife and I talked 2-3 hours a day, EVERY DAY, for years before she got here. Most husbands and wives that live together don't spend that much time communicating. I think that your thoughts and ideas are very unrealistic. Nothing against you, I just want to share reality.

Maybe you are just not well suited for a long distance relationship especially someone as far away as SE Asia. I went to the PH 10x before my wife got here. A lot of things you explain are about what you desire and your Ideals. That does not leave much room for a partner's ideals and desires. Do you think you could find a foreign wife by going to her home to USA, and live happily ever after. Every person I know that has a Pinay wife has to take the wife home to visit family at least once every year or 2. Marrying someone from the Philippines will require international travel...Lots of it. Also like I said you need to spend time there and a lot of time talking to understand their culture. If you don't you will not be able to overcome the cultural differences. My wife and I talked 2-3 hours a day, EVERY DAY, for years before she got here. Most husbands and wives that live together don't spend that much time communicating. I think that your thoughts and ideas are very unrealistic. Nothing against you, I just want to share reality.

Unless you are willing to travel, long distance is not for you. If you don't have time to learn the culture in a foreign country, a foreign spouse is not for you. I am living my best life, married to a Pinay for 6 years, started our relationship 12 years ago, 2 children, and happy as can be. I was willing to do the 2 things above.

My only comment is that anyone can present themselves as anything they want online, and could even keep up appearances in person for a fair amount of time before you start to know who they really are.  So for something important like marriage you probably should spend a fairly significant amount of in-person time being around each other before you start making any serious decisions.

If a man is only motivated by lust...then in today's world...there are zero benefits to a man getting married or seeking out any kind of binding relationship. Typically a man's sexual market value will only continue to increases as he ages while a woman's hits its peak in their 30s and rapidly declines thereafter. The only reason a man who is driven by lust would seek marriage is for the raising of children. Beyond that...men driven by lust are far better off simply bouncing from relationship to relationship continuing to upgrade his partner while not being financially tied to any of them.

I think it's been proven time & time again that women in general will always focus on their partners overall financial well-being whereas men are primarily motivated by love. It doesn't necessarily mean that all women are gold diggers per say...but it does speak to the importance that financial security means to a woman. I never understand why some folks seem to try to shame women in other countries for them to seek financially secure partners from other countries when women in other countries are looking for the same thing. If America was full of poor men & foreign men who were more financially secure had an interest in American women...we would be seeing the same situation happening in our country. You can't blame them for looking outside of their country if what they want is not as easily found in their home country. Men on the other hand rarely consider a woman's career or financial situation other than making sure she isn't bringing in huge debt or perhaps was in a questionable career path like a stripper or prostitute. At least for me...I really couldn't care less what career path my partner was in or if she just wanted to be a stay at home mom. I was more interested in whether she was a Christian, was she attractive to me, was she a good person, did she have a fun personality, did she have good morals & values, did I enjoy her company, could I make her happy, etc. 
 
As a man, when I found myself divorced and back on the market 4 years ago...I spent a good year healing by going to church, attending DivorceCare & other relationship related activities. I didn't necessarily feel like I needed it...but I also wanted to be sure that I took the time to heal so that I wouldn't bring any unnecessary baggage into any future relationship. I took the time to reflect on myself & more importantly define what it was that I was looking for in a partner. Identifying the things that I was no longer willing to compromise on in a future partner. As a Christian, I joined several of the single Christian groups at a few of our local churches & took part in their activities to get an idea of what was out there in my local area. During my initial search, I had not even considered looking outside of the country or even outside of my local area (except for perhaps back in my home state) for a partner. I personally met a lot of nice women & had expressed interest in a few of them which didn't pan out. In my past I was normally the kind of guy who found what he wanted & would pursue her but this time around I wanted to give God a say in things. So instead of pursuing women like I did in the past, I decided to simply express my genuine interest in a woman when I happened to find someone that I felt might be a good match...and if she didn't reciprocate interest, I would just accept that God had someone else for me & move on. I think I expressed interest in 2-3 women at that time...but none of them were interested. I also had a few women express their interest in me, but for whatever reason I wasn't interested in them.
 
At that point I expanded my search to the online dating world. It doesn't take long to realize that the majority of the dating profiles you'll find online are filled with fake scammers looking to take advantage of lonely people. You will also quickly realize that in the online space is primarily made up of people who are simply looking to hook up which wasn't something I was interested in at all. When you do happen to connect with other genuine people online...I think what you do quickly find is that there are a lot of broken people out there that haven't taken the time to heal from their past relationships. My first contact with a foreign woman (not scam related) was actually with a woman from the Philippines. We happened to connect on OKCupid. Up until that point, I hadn't really even given thought of looking outside of the US. I was also not fully versed with the Philippines culture or the challenges that the majority of the people face there...especially a woman who was in the province & didn't have regular access to a phone, internet, electricity, etc. At the time, it just sounded like yet another scam being played. While I was getting to know her, I decided to take the time to do watch some YouTube videos on the Philippines and Filipina women in general. This was roughly in 2019/2020 when most of the now prevalent YouTube channels on Filipinas didn't exist. But there was enough out there to peak my interest.
 
If you are dead set on finding someone in another country...then I would make plans to travel to that country for at least a week at some point in the future. Once you choose your destination...start taking time to learn more about the women there & their culture. About a month prior to your trip, start making contacts with women there via dating sights or even Facebook groups so that you have a few options when you get there. I didn't do this...but it has been suggested before to have 2-3 women there that you are interested in & date both of them while you are there to see if you have a genuine connection with any of them. If you don't, don't be afraid to just go to your local mall and simply walk around. I traveled to the Philippines...and to be honest...there were beautiful women everywhere. They aren't all physically beautiful of course...but there were a good amount of them. They may not all be interested in you...but I am sure that you can get at least a few dates if you put yourself out there.
 
In the end...you pretty much just have to be honest with yourself & figure out what it is that you are looking for. Are you just looking to date? Are you looking for a wife? Once you figure that out...then the rest just sort of falls into place...

If she has late registration, she will need her school records, class photos, even a letter or 2 from past teachers. Any doctor or immunization records, baptismal certificate. There is no where where they tell you this, but if she goes to interview with a late registration BC she will be given a 221g for these things. Better to have it all in hand when she goes to interview. This happened to my wife and we received a 221g which delayed the process while we got those records and sent them in.

Time and money to travel, to learn... Yes, that's essential.  Otherwise, I'm not saying love can't exist, but it's more of an epistolary/virtual relationship.  

If she has late registration, she will need her school records, class photos, even a letter or 2 from past teachers. Any doctor or immunization records, baptismal certificate. There is no where where they tell you this, but if she goes to interview with a late registration BC she will be given a 221g for these things. Better to have it all in hand when she goes to interview. This happened to my wife and we received a 221g which delayed the process while we got those records and sent them in.

Unless you are willing to travel, long distance is not for you. If you don't have time to learn the culture in a foreign country, a foreign spouse is not for you. I am living my best life, married to a Pinay for 6 years, started our relationship 12 years ago, 2 children, and happy as can be. I was willing to do the 2 things above.

Unless you are willing to travel, long distance is not for you. If you don't have time to learn the culture in a foreign country, a foreign spouse is not for you. I am living my best life, married to a Pinay for 6 years, started our relationship 12 years ago, 2 children, and happy as can be. I was willing to do the 2 things above.

Abortion is illegal, and getting birth control is and was discouraged if a unmarried female went to doctor to get like a depo shot.
 
There is no such thing as child support in Philippines.  USA has many more singles mothers than the Philippines by population, You didn't know that?
 
 

I only have extensive dating experience in the USA and Philippines
 
It seem as if in USA partners are looking for someone who makes bank
 
In Philippines most woman only want a 'God Fearing Man", who doesn't smoke, drink or gamble and isn't a playboy (Guy who has alot of side chicks). Money doesn't seem to be that important, they are more about "True Love".  Got to remember in PHilippines the culture and morals are more like in the 1950 in the USA.  

My first trip I went over there with a relative to see a house he was having built, I didn't know jack about the Philippines.  I meet alot of girls in person, never did the internet dating stuff and this was 15 years ago.
 
I got a pretty good feel for the culture, and on my next trip I went solo and got on dating site called Filipino Cupid if I remember correct.  I chatted with many girls, back then there were not that many scammers on there, Now of day I have no clue what is on the Asian Dating site.
 
But I met about 15 girls in person that I was interested in from all my chats over a couple of trips back then, probably chatted with close to 100 girls, for me  I met lots of gf and my wife. 
 
I still have one girls that I dated and was serious with from 10 years ago that I still court and date when I return to the Philippines.
 
Bottom line I would just fly to Philippines or Columbia and get there and then start looking for connections, Don't be one of those guys who chat with a girl for few months and you fly all the way to Philippines only to have her meet you at the airport and "Handcuff" you.  
 
Get to understand the culture in Philippines you will be ahead of the game.

These days that only works if they were Muslim when they married and that was reflected on their original marriage certificate.  They no longer allow for any sudden spiritual conversions immediately preceding a Muslim divorce.

Per the other post
 
If possible, make sure it's the non-Filipino/a that initiates the divorce so the Filipino/a's recognized as being unmarried back home - but if they don't plan to live there again it does not matter