RogJac

This is just an ack to let you know they received your request and will follow up with a decision.  Requested expedited process on 2/26 and received approval on 3/6/17.
I got both an Ack email and Approval email.  One approved, NVC does nothing else with the case. They immediately sent mine to the embassy.  I made my own appt and processed med requirement.  Best of luck. 

Tasha you are correct anyone can lie, however, the motive and benefits are huge in this case. Again, I am not one to cast a stone unto any one. All I am saying to the 62 year old lady-- Ma'am, no need to rush into marriage with a 22 year old guy. As you stated he has the ability to visit and I am assuming so can you. ENJOY ENJOY ENJOY and WAIT OUT. Best I can offer in my humble opinion.
ROGER OUT!! 

Ma'am, my advise would be to WAIT him out. He is here in the US as a visitor, he can visit anytime for up to 6 months as a visitor, continue to enjoy his company and love as you so stated BUT do not make the mistake to marry in a rush. If the love is true it will still be there in a few years. My sister who is younger than me, married a Nigerian about 10 years younger and rushed to be wedded. After the CG arrived, he was gone. The stories about these guys are REAL. ENJOY now but WAIT. 

Tasha you are correct anyone can lie, however, the motive and benefits are huge in this case. Again, I am not one to cast a stone unto any one. All I am saying to the 62 year old lady-- Ma'am, no need to rush into marriage with a 22 year old guy. As you stated he has the ability to visit and I am assuming so can you. ENJOY ENJOY ENJOY and WAIT OUT. Best I can offer in my humble opinion.
ROGER OUT!! 

Tasha you are correct anyone can lie, however, the motive and benefits are huge in this case. Again, I am not one to cast a stone unto any one. All I am saying to the 62 year old lady-- Ma'am, no need to rush into marriage with a 22 year old guy. As you stated he has the ability to visit and I am assuming so can you. ENJOY ENJOY ENJOY and WAIT OUT. Best I can offer in my humble opinion.
ROGER OUT!! 

Ma'am, my advise would be to WAIT him out. He is here in the US as a visitor, he can visit anytime for up to 6 months as a visitor, continue to enjoy his company and love as you so stated BUT do not make the mistake to marry in a rush. If the love is true it will still be there in a few years. My sister who is younger than me, married a Nigerian about 10 years younger and rushed to be wedded. After the CG arrived, he was gone. The stories about these guys are REAL. ENJOY now but WAIT. 

Tasha you are correct anyone can lie, however, the motive and benefits are huge in this case. Again, I am not one to cast a stone unto any one. All I am saying to the 62 year old lady-- Ma'am, no need to rush into marriage with a 22 year old guy. As you stated he has the ability to visit and I am assuming so can you. ENJOY ENJOY ENJOY and WAIT OUT. Best I can offer in my humble opinion.
ROGER OUT!! 

Best advise!!!  There is absolutely no reason to rush this.  If this is true love, slow down and smell the roses.  There is no need to marry immediately.  Go stay with him for an extended vacation.  Meet his family.  Embrace his culture.  When we take our rose colored glasses off at the end of the day, life and marriage takes work.  Give yourself the deserved time to test the waters of this relationship.  Five months is not a lot of time to be true to yourself in this sense.  This is the high, euphoric stage of any relationship, regardless of age. 
 
Please, take a step back.  Listen to the advise given here.  We have seen over and over situations like yours that have had disastrous endings.  Your case may be completely different.  This may truly be the love of your life, however, you do not have to rush it at this point.  Count the cost before making any permanent decisions.  We here are like family and we do not want to see you hurt.  We all know what it is like to be in love and know that love at times clouds our judgement.  
 
Wishing you all the best in your decision.  Ultimately, it is up to you what you determine is the best course.  I believe that you have a little doubt in the back of your mind because you reached out to your Visa Journey family.  Go with your gut!!  We as women, no offense to the men, were given instincts that we must listen to.  Take care of your heart sweetie!  It's a precious thing.

This email was from the embassy notifying me that they received my packet and have reviewed it..they basically just reminded me what to bring which was already in the p4 interview email from nvc..that list is at the last part which got me all stressed but my husband told me to just tell the truth if they ask for it..i guess ill just go with honesty..thanks for the advise?

Tasha you are correct anyone can lie, however, the motive and benefits are huge in this case. Again, I am not one to cast a stone unto any one. All I am saying to the 62 year old lady-- Ma'am, no need to rush into marriage with a 22 year old guy. As you stated he has the ability to visit and I am assuming so can you. ENJOY ENJOY ENJOY and WAIT OUT. Best I can offer in my humble opinion.
ROGER OUT!! 

Ma'am, my advise would be to WAIT him out. He is here in the US as a visitor, he can visit anytime for up to 6 months as a visitor, continue to enjoy his company and love as you so stated BUT do not make the mistake to marry in a rush. If the love is true it will still be there in a few years. My sister who is younger than me, married a Nigerian about 10 years younger and rushed to be wedded. After the CG arrived, he was gone. The stories about these guys are REAL. ENJOY now but WAIT. 

Tasha you are correct anyone can lie, however, the motive and benefits are huge in this case. Again, I am not one to cast a stone unto any one. All I am saying to the 62 year old lady-- Ma'am, no need to rush into marriage with a 22 year old guy. As you stated he has the ability to visit and I am assuming so can you. ENJOY ENJOY ENJOY and WAIT OUT. Best I can offer in my humble opinion.
ROGER OUT!! 

Perhaps the OP should move to Nigeria with him for a year or 2. If he really loves her he will agree. I doubt he will care where they live as long as they are together, right? 

Ma'am, my advise would be to WAIT him out. He is here in the US as a visitor, he can visit anytime for up to 6 months as a visitor, continue to enjoy his company and love as you so stated BUT do not make the mistake to marry in a rush. If the love is true it will still be there in a few years. My sister who is younger than me, married a Nigerian about 10 years younger and rushed to be wedded. After the CG arrived, he was gone. The stories about these guys are REAL. ENJOY now but WAIT. 

Tasha you are correct anyone can lie, however, the motive and benefits are huge in this case. Again, I am not one to cast a stone unto any one. All I am saying to the 62 year old lady-- Ma'am, no need to rush into marriage with a 22 year old guy. As you stated he has the ability to visit and I am assuming so can you. ENJOY ENJOY ENJOY and WAIT OUT. Best I can offer in my humble opinion.
ROGER OUT!! 

Red flags:
 
Age difference and you being the older woman.
Says you'll have to hide (be quiet) with the relationship. This pretty sure mean he has a family there and as soon as he is able too he would divorce you and apply for them.
Only met in October - Thats really not a long time with all these red flags
You haven't met his family - Now you are thinking many haven't done that and that is correct but they also didn't have these issues you guys have. In his culture that is important. Pictures with his family will be important. 
 
And a lot more. This will be very very very hard! ... And please really give it more time then just jump into this and share all your financial stuff with him. 
 
Time be patient and go visit him and him visit you again. Even better go live with him for a longer time!! Since he has money it shouldn't be a problem for him supporting you while you are there! 
 

Ever heard of people lying in order to get what they want? 

One thing, if your fiance prefers to go back to Nigeria instead to marry and adjust his status in US, maybe he is telling you the truth he loves you. If he wanted the green card only, he would marry you and stay as he can read in English and knows, the immigration process inside US is more secure than applying from Nigeria. He is not asking you for money, it's another good sign. I wouldn't judge all Nigerian people by the stories we read online, everybody is different. 
 
Also, not only Nigeria or Morocco people divorce after getting the green card, so many other countries do it, it's a mixed marriage, different culture and the people the same age, same race but from different countries may have much more differences than you and this Nigerian man.
 
It's true, the age difference is big, we have 30 years difference and we were approved relatively easy in Lagos for K1 visa. Only one thing I would be worry, in Nigerian culture the man needs to have children, at least one, you marrying him can't give him children, I don't know how true is he had a vasectomy but even in this case in a few years if you are still together, think about the possibility to adopt.
 
Anyway, you both love each other, go for it! Any marriage is a lottery, enjoy your time now and do what you believe is good for you both. I wouldn't be afraid of divorce once he gets his green card, young people the same age divorce even faster. So many immigration marriages end in divorce, all countries, not only Nigeria
Tasha 

Well, in 99.9% of such cases, the USC or Green Card holder is duped by the young man. We are discussing cases from all over the world here, why always Nigeria pops up for such kind of relationships? Other members of VJ mentioned, that they got offers of 50+ young Nigerian man to help them find an older women for visa purposes. 
 
So, this story is very common here, and hardly every ends well for the USC. Love makes blind. So my advice is, to
 
a) take care of yourself, there is a slim chance that the young man is feeling the way he says
b) there is very little chance that he would get a GC, as USCIS knows such cases, in fact, they may deal with 1000s of such cases just from Nigeria and Marocco alone every year. This is as suspicious as it can get. Why such storries almost never pop up from ESTA/Visa Waiver Countries but always involve younger man from 3. world countries? If this was a common relationship type, it would happend all over the world and not only selective in those high fraud countries.

Abi, 
 
most similar cases here ended very bad for the USC. We had women here who have been put in really bad situations after the foreigner got his GC and they only found out later that love is blind. They were made to believe that they press for the "process". Everyone could manipulate a partner to believe so. A 22 year old little boy, with a 62 year old women, just is not common. In fact, in places without immigration benefit, such relationships to end in marriage is 1 in a million. However, when immigration is involved from a 3. world country, such cases are VERY VERY COMMON. Thus, there is something else in play rather than love. Again - love makes blind. Take care of yourself and don't be tricked into believing something easily.  As for USCIS, of course you can file and try your luck, but they are well aware of such cases. In fact, all over the world, older well situated man mingle up with younger women and marry. This type of age difference and marriage is seen also without immigration benefit. However, a 22 year old boy to marry a 62 year old women, happens close to never anywhere in the world.
 
 
 

Also how I know he's aware of immigration issues. He knows that Uscis will ask how you two will have kids - so he told you about the vasectomy. He knows uscis looks for older women supporting younger guys financially - he tells you he has money and shows off his wealth. He knows that if he goes back to Niegeria you have slim chances to get fiance or marriage visas. I have a feeling he is trying to persuade you somehow to initiate the wedding in the US. So it doesn't look like he wanted it. It all might be super subtle but Nigerian men have this bad reputation for a reason. Be careful. 

I would get her employer to give a certificate (letter) of employment stating her current pay.  That along with 6 months of pay stub and that should suffice. 

Good luck guys. You are one step closer in this journey

Philippines ....paradise for the expedited, our little secret LOL.  You beach loving cocktail drinking folks ......   we love you ...good luck. 

Just recounting my experience for a more updated walkthrough (plus tips!) for those who have yet to take their medical exam at SLEC. Just a fair warning, though: this is going to be a very long and thorough post!
A bit of a background: my interview is scheduled sometime during the first week of January, but I decided to do the medical this last week of November because my family and I will be traveling in December and I most likely won't have time to do it later. And I didn't want to risk having my visa interview before our trip either, in case my passport gets held up at the USEM - which would lead to more issues and stress! Having your medical done in advance should be ok though, as long as you leave for the U.S., get married, and change status (someone correct me if I'm wrong here!) before the medical exam validity expires (6 months from when you took it).
DAY 1
I arrived at SLEC at 4:30AM on a Monday. I know, it was probably the worst time to go, but I had a LOT going on for the rest of the week and it was really just the best time for me to do it. There was already a pretty long line at that hour (which I half expected).
TIP FOR THOSE WHO PLAN ON DRIVING: there is a small parking lot right beside SLEC that opens around 6AM (this is an educated guess, based on my driver's observation - I just know for sure that it wasn't open at 4:30AM when we got there). ₱30 for the first 2 hours, ₱10 for every succeeding hour. I highly suggest getting there at 6AM, though, because it gets REALLY packed by 7AM, and I'm pretty sure it's not open yet before then. There is also street parking, but it costs a whopping ₱100 - though it's good for 8 hours, it's still the same price if you end up staying for less than that. There is no assurance of you getting a parking slot though (it's very limited), so I don't suggest driving there yourself. Would be good if you had someone drive you there (drivers can double-park in the parking lot as long as the car is attended to the whole time), or take an Uber/Grab/cab instead.
STEP 1: GUARD'S PODIUM AT ENTRANCE
I was given the number 59 when we finally got to the guard's podium (I spent around 1.5 hours in line).
THINGS THE GUARD ASKED OF ME:
Passport Photocopy of Passport's Bio Page NVC Letter (either the one sent to your USC fiance or from your Packet 3, if you received it - pretty sure an email from NVC if you don't have either works just as fine, too) Appointment Confirmation x 2 (if available only - really NOT necessary) SLEC Registration Page 4 pcs 2x2 I.D. pictures (with your full name written at the back)---the "hustlers" (people who try to sell you overpriced ballpens and passport covers) outside said I.D. pics need to have you in a collared shirt, but I'm not sure how true that is (I was in a collared shirt already in my I.D. pics, though, which I had done just in case!) TIP FOR THOSE WHO HAVE NO TIME TO PHOTOCOPY/HAVE THEIR I.D. PICS TAKEN BEFORE MEDICAL: there is a photocopy and I.D. photo store right across SLEC, and they are open at 4:30AM (probably earlier). Not sure how much it is for I.D. pics, but it's ₱2/page for photocopies (expensive, but expected). They can Photoshop a collared shirt onto you in your I.D. pic, too, just FYI.
STEP 2: REGISTRATION
I waited another hour or so to get to the Registration counter. Once there, I was asked a few questions about my travel history, past visits to the U.S. (if any), and the visa I am applying for. After, my picture was taken and my fingerprint scanned.
THINGS ASKED OF ME AT REGISTRATION COUNTER:
Everything the guard asked me (as detailed above) Photocopies of other, recent U.S. visas, if any (I had an expired student visa from 2014 and a valid tourist visa expiring 2025)---if you don't have photocopies of these, no worries, you can just give them at Releasing on Day 2 of your medical STEP 3: CASHIER
After the Registration Counter, I was told to proceed to the Cashier at the 3rd floor. It will be at the right, once you get out of the elevator, or straight to the left if you used the stairs. Someone will be there to direct you, too. There, I paid the exorbitant fee of ₱16,042.50. Truly a mind-boggling, heart-stopping amount, let's be honest here... but we really just have no choice! You will be given a receipt + a checklist stapled to it. Do not lose these pieces of paper! You will need to give this to the counter at every step, to have your name called.
STEP 4: X-RAY
Give your receipt & checklist to the counter and wait for your name to be called. You'll be given some forms to fill out, and to declare if you've had any history of TB (tuberculosis). FOR WOMEN: you will also be asked about the first day of your last period (know the date before going, you will be asked this 214098 times!!!). I waited around 30-40 minutes. Then I entered the X-ray room, where there was one dressing room and a larger waiting area. The other applicants and I just got dressed/undressed at the waiting area, since we didn't want to have to wait for the person inside the dressing room to finish. You will need to remove your top and bra and wear a gown. You also need to put your hair up, if your hair is long.
TIPS FOR THE X-RAY STEP: Bring hair bands, to put your hair up (but if you don't have any, no worries, they have a hair clip you can borrow). Try not to wear a necklace, as you'll only have to remove it for this step. Also, don't wear a dress, unless you don't mind being only in your panties under your gown (the back side will be open). You are allowed to wear pants and shoes.
STEP 5: LABORATORY
This was at the 4th floor, I believe (not 100% sure!). Waited around 30 minutes to be called. I was asked when I last peed and when my last period was (again!). They took a blood sample from me, and I had to return after an hour to provide my urine, because:
TIP FOR THE LABORATORY STEP: DO NOT PEE while waiting for this step. Actually, try not to pee at all after paying at the cashier (if you can hold it), because you need to provide a urine sample that has been in your bladder for at least an hour after you last urinated. I foolishly peed while waiting for this step (despite me knowing I had to pee for this step anyway - I don't know what I was thinking), thus the reason I had to go back in an hour! If you really can't hold it in, though, just pee (let's not risk you getting a UTI here). You can just do the next step (and still be productive), like I did, while waiting an hour for your pee to be urine-sample-worthy.
STEP 6: IMMUNIZATION INTERVIEW
This is done at the 2nd floor. At the interview, they will ask questions about your health history: if you've had so and so diseases, if you've had animal bites/scratches before and if you were given rabies/tetanus shots for that, if you've been admitted to the hospital in the past, etc. Pretty easy stuff, and the lady giving me the interview was very nice.
TIPS FOR IMMUNIZATION INTERVIEW: Know where your chickenpox scars are (if any) to prove you've had chickenpox before and not need a vaccine for that anymore.
STEP 7: PHYSICAL EXAM
I was first called for my weight to be taken. Then I had to sit down and wait. Then I was called again for my blood pressure and temperature. Sit down and wait. Then I was called again for my height and eye test (bring your glasses or wear contact lenses if you have poor eyesight!). Sit down, and prepare for the longest wait of your day. Not even kidding. It was really bad. Like 2.5 hours bad. You could literally watch an entire movie while waiting. Not cute.
After dying from utter ennui and lack of sleep, I was finally called. I praised the heavens and tried my best to regain the ability to walk (as I seemed to have temporarily misplaced it, sitting for that long in those stupid, uncomfortable plastic chairs you're supposed to wait in). And as though the gods were playing a trick on me, I rose from the seats at the waiting area only to be asked to sit again, in one of the seats line up outside the doctor's clinic I was to enter. I had to wait for another 20 minutes. On top of the 2.5 hours. At this point, feeling extremely famished on top of everything else, I had lost any semblance of joy and was seriously questioning the importance Filipinos place on efficiency in this godforsaken country.
Anyway, enough of my drama. At the physical, I was asked a series of questions in rapid succession. I can't remember it all, but these were some of the questions:
History of so and so disease/s? (There were so many!) History of mental illness? Depression? Suicide tendencies? Are you on any sort of medication? Any history of STDs? Do you smoke? Any experience with marijuana, shabu? After the questions, the doctor (female if you are female, and vice-versa) will ask you to strip naked and wear a gown. She will then inspect all of you, but very quickly (just a poke, squeeze, or glance for each part), so it's not too awkward, if you're worried about this part.
STEP 8: U.S.A. COUNTER
This is right outside the doctor's clinic where you get your physical. I left my receipt and checklist at the USA counter and was, again, as always, asked to wait. Then I was given my receipt back with instructions to return the next day for my results.
DAY 1 TOTAL DURATION: 9 HOURS (!!!) or 4:30AM-1:00PM
DAY 2
No need to arrive ridiculously early for this day, just go at the time written on your instructions paper. I had to come back at 9:00AM on this day, but I woke up late (lol) and arrived around 10:20AM instead. No worries if you're late, it doesn't matter too much.
STEP 1: GUARD'S PODIUM INSIDE BUILDING
Go straight to the guard's podium inside (to the right) and present your receipt. He will look your PDS (it's the number they give you at the start of the medical) up and stamp your receipt with the next thing you have to do. If you get stamped with IMMUNIZATION that means you passed the medical exam and don't need to do much else except get your vaccines! I was thankfully stamped with "immunization" and told to proceed to the 2nd floor to get my shots.
STEP 2: IMMUNIZATION
If you think this second day would mean less waiting, because, you know, it's just the releasing of your results and a couple shots, right? WRONG. WAITING IS APPARENTLY AN ESSENTIAL PART OF THIS ENTIRE PROCESS WITHOUT WHICH YOUR SLEC EXPERIENCE CANNOT BE WHOLE. I waited another 1.5 hours just to get shots. Yup. I even left and had some breakfast at McDonald's in the middle of waiting (yes, you can do that) because I just can't anymore. But when I came back it still wasn't my turn. Of course. I waited like 30 more minutes.
I got 2 vaccines when I finally got called into the Immunization Room. Then I was told to go downstairs to the Releasing Area.
STEP 3: RELEASING
Again, if you think releasing shouldn't be so bad, because they're only gonna just have to literally release your information to you, which they have had since the end of yesterday, I mean it just makes logical sense for that to be a fast process---WRONG! I don't know why or how - perhaps sloths reminiscent of those from Zootopia run the place idek, but it took them another ~2 hours to give me my results back. I could have watched Fantastic Beasts and Where to Find Them instead. Absolutely ridiculous. ANYWAY, so I get called after 2 hours of questioning my existence and life itself, and, after some questions, was given my documents sealed in a DO NOT OPEN envelope (to be taken to the Embassy for my interview) and a CD of my X-ray + a piece of paper to be given to the immigration officer at the airport when I arrive in the U.S.! FINALLY FINISHED OMFG NO MORE LONG HOURS OF WAITING AND HAVING EXISTENTIAL CRISES BECAUSE OF IT LET US CELEBRATE AND EAT CHICKENJOY
DAY 2 TOTAL DURATION: ~4 HOURS or 10:20AM - 2:30PM
Hope this long-### post helps everyone else who still need to do their medical! And I do apologize for the over-dramatic narration, but hope that you were at least mildly humored by my rather unfortunate predicaments. ;p