dkallung

Good, glad to hear it.
 
You guys still have option to apply for AOS

Agree!  "Tampo and logical" sounds like an oxymoron
 
Crude translation for the benefit of others on this thread: "tampo" = tantrum, often expressed by giving someone the silent treatment.
 

First time I have seen tampo and logical in the same sentence)))) Luckily, I am in a tampo free relationship. If you are involved with a woman from the philippines or are thinking about it you DO need to know about tampo.

Yes, it looks she is setting up VAWA... 

look up and understand Tampo ... in the Philippines a logical action for a woman to voice displeasure and for you to apologize (you need not be wrong to apologize, it's something that works for them). 

Yes, we have decided to stay Married and file the AOS again, she is coming back here to Colorado on 2/24/2019.

I agree it sounds like a disaster, and the wildcard is what she tells the police.
 
I would start making plans to divorce, seek a lawyers help and get an escape plan in order.  Life is too short to be in a unhappy relationhsip

It sounds like your wife may feel cloistered, especially if she is living basically alone and can't take care of some basic needs. I hope you are giving her time to adjust!
 
You are unlikely to run into problems with law enforcement for what you described.
 

In her case the police  will not file a police report because  you are not coming  home, but who knows what she will tell them. She can  lie to  the police  and you might  have  some problems  with the Justice.
 
It seems to me considering  what you  are saying that your marriage is a disaster.
 

I think I am just ahead of you in the process. I am currently filling out everything to send to the embassy and my Fiance is doing her part too, so if you want help or ffor me to just tell you what I'm doing I'd be happy to. Here are the basic steps that have been laid out for me:
 
1) Petitioner: Receive NVC case number (mine starts with MNL for the Manilla embassy)
2) Petitioner: Prepare affidavit of support and financial documents (for me this is step two because I am using a service and it takes them a few days to prepare this for me while I do other steps)
3) Foreigner: Get NBI clearance and cenomar
4) Either: Fill out form DS-160 https://ceac.state.gov/GenNIV/Default.aspx (DO NOT save and come back, it often screws that up)
5) Foreigner: Pay embassy visa fee ($265). Deposit slip here http://ustraveldocs.com/ph/pmisdepositslip.htm?amount=265&country=philippines
6) Foreigner: Set embassy appointment, call or go to http://www.ustraveldocs.com/ph/ph-niv-appointmentschedule.asp
7) Foreigner: Medical exam, at least one week prior to interview
 

Can't use your only place to live as selling it would cause undue hardship. Get a second job that meets minimum requirements or slow things down until you make enough. Co-sponsors may help with sponsorship but living in the US is not cheap - insurance, medical care, vehicle doesn't just fall from the sky. I wouldn't bring anyone over that I couldn't comfortably pay for their expenses.
Separation is inevitable either before (k1) or during the marriage (cr-1) - you'll live.