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Just wanted to write a update. I want to Thank the ones for the great advise. I Did get a chance to talk to my mayor and he  had the electric company to send him another notice. He has 30 days to respond. If not.....I will let it stay just like it is. After I explain to him about my issue with the deposit and losing my old deposit. He said he made sure they have noted that my ex will not be able to turn anything off.  He can take his nane off, but no authority to turn anything off.  I am fine with that.  I have no intention on moving, nor opening new accounts.  No more worrying about his nane.  If late, or skip a payment, it will reflect on both of our credit report. I wouldn't do that.  I know some of you saw this not a big deal,  until you have to deal with it....I pray you don't.  A peace of mind is priceless.  Now case closed👍

Please find your way to free legal help and find out your options.  I understand that that is difficult if you do not have a car, but it is important that you know what you can and cannot and must or must not do.
 
Also, please ask yourself if the struggle is worth it.  You obviously love and cherish your kids.  Figure out what is most important for YOU, and use that path.
 
I'm so sorry for the struggles.  It's terrible when our dreams get smashed flat.
 
Sukie in NY

Is it hope&Love?  or praying& hoping? You sound like I May be messing up your game.  Not sure if you are the sponsor or whatever. I wish you well on your journey.  You must be a fan of my ex...lol.  You can send me the money if you like.   I take donation. God Bless you😂😂😂😂❤✈🇺🇸

OP, do as advised and contact the commander and/or a pro bono attorney OR pay the bill, close the account and
get a deposit for a new account (you may be able to transfer the previous deposit to the new one.
Show them evidence that he called to cut off your service.
Block the Ghana numbers.
You may never know why he is not taking his name off, he may be clueless on how things work here in regards to
utility companies.
Glad you moved on, sorry you had to go through this and it's ok to vent about this, it's frustrating to have a cling -on
messing up your name and credit.
 

Ok.....lol. I don't have any friends nor family in Ghana.  This was my home number. His family would always call my home number. All my family and friends call me on my cell number. I know it was him, because here in the U.S. we don't have power cuts every five minutes and your name have to be on the bill to place an I order to cut it off. I thought you would know this....unless this is not where you were born or never had anything I'm your name.

Is this another fan? You say him calling the electric company moving on? Stange numbers from Ghana all times of the night/morning moving on?  He is not moving on when he refused to take his name off my bills?  This man is not worried about his nane because I always pay my bills.  Moving on means stop playing games.  I will find a way to get it off.  I also believe in my country.  Nothing I could/would do compares to what he is dealing with. In God we trust.

I totally agree. I closed the joint account.  The money was sent to Ghana and other places/people.  I am slowly getting myself out of debt
 His name is off my vehicles.  Have extra protection on my credit/social security number, change passwords. Block all the calls that come from Ghana at random times in the morning.  Today I finally have someone who will talk to our mayor......this too shall pass.  My frustration became motivation.  

Is it hope&Love?  or praying& hoping? You sound like I May be messing up your game.  Not sure if you are the sponsor or whatever. I wish you well on your journey.  You must be a fan of my ex...lol.  You can send me the money if you like.   I take donation. God Bless you😂😂😂😂❤✈🇺🇸

You should try to find free legal advice. There non profit organizations that help women in your situation for free. Maybe you need to talk to someone beyond what you are sharing here (e.g. if he hid money, was it to avoid paying you during the divorce? Is he supposed to pay child support?).
 
I would be mostly worried if there are bills he is supposed to pay that have your name on them, because they could affect your credit score.
 
If his name is on utility bills you pay, they whenever you don't pay them on time, is going to be affecting his credit score. So more bad karma to him. If you rent, maybe the owner of the property can do something about the name on the bills, but I wouldn't worry. 
 
You don't want his name on any of your bank accounts. 
 

According to her he is.  It may leave him open to liability, but depending on the company's policy, it might also give him a voice in the services she receives.  I don't think it's unreasonable of her to be concerned, especially since she is describing someone who was not very forthcoming with her throughout their relationship.
 
OP, I think the advice you've been given to seek pro bono legal counsel and other advice from non-profits might be a very good start.  Or as someone else said, save up for a deposit for a new account.  I assume you would get something back from a deposit on the old account?

I don't understand why you would say that... If he is sending the electric company to her house to shut off the power then her not "letting go" is quite legitimate.  And if he has moved on then he shouldn't have a problem taking his names off the bills.

Is it hope&Love?  or praying& hoping? You sound like I May be messing up your game.  Not sure if you are the sponsor or whatever. I wish you well on your journey.  You must be a fan of my ex...lol.  You can send me the money if you like.   I take donation. God Bless you😂😂😂😂❤✈🇺🇸

Before he figures out that you know , print the phone bills and emails. Make more than one copy, send one to USCIS one to ICE keep one. Divorce him. If you don't he will file against you and he who files first has the most control over the outcome. Don't stay in a relationship with the idea of revenge. If he has play acted this long to get "his family" to the US play acting a little longer will not bother him and you will be setting yourself up for a fake fight, getting arrested and him filing VAWA on you. Do not forget to change passwords and remove/close all accounts he can access before he knows the jig is up or he will empty them first.

Actually answered your own question
she wrote supportive letter to immigration
she will look the fool she is
and i am sure any immigration attorney, if she really saw one, will tell her there is nothing she can do
keep your faith and stay strong 
keep a heathly distance from anyone who is touble / none of us need trouble
You really she would pay a lawyer ??? 
sounds totally insane
good luck to you

I totally agree that if its just a marriage gone wrong, just get a divorce(before he drain you of your bank account and dignity). In my case I collected tons and tons of evidence. My soon to be ex was also teaching family members and friends how to come here via the k1 visa, how to get your mate to put you out or divorce(trying to report abuse by their mate) writing down and recording every detail. He also taught many how to marry and join the military....then divorce. As he boast on VJ. THE QUICKEST WAY TO OBTAIN CITIZENSHIP. I was blessed to have friends who help me get in contact with the right people.. I have mailed all my evidence, including FB messages to other women, fake profiles with different names during our marriage and after our separation, membership to dating sites, and sworn statements from the women he was involved with. I have pictures and messages of him trying to hookup women to men from Ghana for a fee.. Also hidden money he is sending via friends to a private bank account(not paying taxes on this money) He is now back in Ghana(vacation after filing for divorce and getting his citizenship) Making plans to bring his child and her mother. If you think that you are a victim of a fraud marriage. You must have evidence, Just know that the decision is not up to you, but immigration and homeland security. Accept it and move on. That's okay, Just knowing that in the end karma is a B...... Some marriages are real, and I pray that the real ones will have a short journey to be with their loved ones. Take care

If your spouse used you for a green card and you can prove it , send the info in, but remember it is between them and him and you may never hear back. If your marriage is just falling apart it is best just to end it and move on. They are overloaded with reports of fraud from angry ex's

It requires compelling evidence and investigation by ICE then a court trial and conviction. It won't be done based on rumors or a relationship gone south. But sure, it happens if only rarely.

Oh, Shelinny... he has already been dishonest with you from the first moment, when he met you using a fake profile. The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior. Yes, there are real relationships coming out of every country including Ghana, but this one has ALL the red flags. As others have said, including the one who started this thread, it is extremely rare for a man from sub-Saharan Africa not to want children. I lived there for a year and never once met such a man. I was uniformly greeted with something like pity because I don't have children yet, from both men and women, and was urged to do so. While the cultures are not the same in every country and ethnic group, that seems to be a constant. The purpose of marriage is to have children; in fact the purpose of LIFE is to have children, and provide for them. I'm not kidding, there are even many Catholic priests who have semi-secret families.
It's one thing if a man already has some children and says he doesn't want more from his new wife, but I would even greet that with suspicion.
If a man was known to be infertile, he might have trouble finding a wife in his own community and THAT man might be interested in a bona fide marriage with a woman who couldn't have children either. (It would be rare to know this unless the man had had some kind of severe accident or disease that caused obvious damage.) That's a rare exception I can think of.
People sometimes ask me if my husband had wanted to come to the US before we met. I tell them, I would consider it a red flag if he'd told me he never wanted to and was only willing to move to be with me. I think the majority of the younger generation has at least considered it, and in my experience, think they would want to immigrate to the US--at least on some level. It's also a lot of pressure to put on a relationship, for one person to change continents and cultures and leave their entire family behind for the sake of one person. I'm happy that my husband is also looking forward to career and educational opportunities here, in addition to continuing our life together and starting our family.
I wish you the best of luck in life but hope that you will seriously rethink this. The process is so expensive and that's just the fees you pay at various steps--nothing compared to the difficulties that can come up if someone comes to the US for fraudulent purposes.

I agree 100%. You only known this guy for a couple of months and not sure if you have visit him, but make plans to do so. Live with him a couple of months....experience his lifestyle. Get to know him better. Personally I could not live where my husband is from, but maybe you can. Please listen to the advise you are giving....it beat having to get a attorney and trying to get out of situation/mess you will be getting yourself into. Letters, phone calls, Skype, and a short visit will not reveal the real person you want to commit yourself to for a lifetime.

It takes time. When my husband got here, we had that same problem. We have decided to do marriage counseling which has helped immensely. It's a lot of change. Even for people who live in the same country, same state, and same town when you move in with somebody it's totally different. So now take in cultural changes, personality traits, moving away from your family, adjusting to a new life for both of you, the fears you both have, it's normal. You guys have to learn how to manage the fights and not let the fights manage you. It sucks, but you're not alone. You have your VJ family.

With all that's going on, no wonder you're both feeling stressed and down. My advise will be to talk to each other. Get through the hard times together, don't let them tear you apart. Tough times should make you stronger as a couple. Talk about how you both feel, what's bothering you and how you can get through it together.
It seems money is tight but I would really try and focus on AOS. The faster you can get your EAD, the faster you can find a job and contribute financially.

Relationships always have to be proven and a marriage certificate is not enough, not sure what you are talking about,
no matter how long they were married.
The chances of him getting a visitor visa is 99% a no go. Instead of throwing money away for a B2 application, save and go to
Ghana and marry if he is still the 'one' after living with him for an extended time. You are rushing this, it is way too soon after a few
months. Get to know, really know this guy. Follow your heart but take your brain with you ! Feelings are just feelings and reality
can hit you hard if you aren't careful. If someone shows you who they are believe them, that includes being dishonest and lying
from day one. People don't just change over night because you are so special, they want papers and tell you everything you
want to hear and promise to give you the stars from the sky.
If you get fancy love letters, enter a few sentences in google, chances are they already have been used up by scammers.
I don't know you or him and do not want to judge but give you a little warning to be very careful due to what transpired
with his profile. Do not send any money if he requests it. If he resists skyping and answering the phone kick him to the curb.
Hope you find what you are looking for.

Ghana is prob one of the most difficult embassys to get by and thats with no red flags.If you are really in love and feel confident move to Ghana for a year it cant hurt you to one get time together to establish and to see if it will work out.
As far as visit visa especially since you have a relationship anyone here cant advice you on it so that you can get married on it since its a visa for non immigrant intent and coming on it and marrying would be fraudulant.
All i can say is getting a visit visa in Ghana not very likely.
Move to Ghana for the year and Marry seems like the best option.

what about if you dont divorce, and then he needs you to show up for ROC but you dont show up?? or you show up and say that he married you and its all a fraud and give proof at the ROC interview?? just a thought.. i am not sure though..
however, i would say to people their is a reason USCIS wants to see that you spent time with the family and friends.. that people KNOW you are married!!! that is a HUGE flag when you dont meet family members.. and if the guy you are dating has a very very small friend list on their fb.. dont be surprised if it is bc he has multiple fb pages.. just be aware! really sucks what happened to you, and i feel your pain! you spent alot of time, money, energy and trust in this man. however, the signs were all there so really you have no one to blame

What's the consulate gonna do. Divorce in the USA. It's valid here to remarry (unless you are trying to marry another Costa Rican)you should be fine.
Let him figure out what he needs to do to get a copy and register that in costa Rica since he is the ONLY one that would want to remarry over there.
DONT let this consume you, it will...let go and let God.