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Very few of you have any idea of what it's like to be away from your spouse for 3 years. The distance will take a toll on the marriage. Having thoughts of divorce is normal. It doesn't mean that he wants a divorce!! But when you have something serious like this taking a toll on your marriage, things get very difficult. The "honeymoon" period for you newlyweds will wear off soon. Like Kaylara said, people settle into married life. Having a spouse far away for years is difficult. I have a feeling he will make it through this and be stronger because of it. I also think that many of you judgmental people telling him he has a false marriage or whatever will be the ones who will be divorced filing for "ROC" on your own. Karma, that's what it's called.

Dude I know U only want to get out of the marriage
but I have to say it...that $2500 would have been a
finisher for me I don't care whats the custom...I think
these games R being played a lot, tey have their home-town
B/Fand no intention to leave their country. Take it to the
brink and milk it...Just get your US divorce & move on

Yes you are married, unless your marriage was not legal in China. If it was legal, you are married.
Did you really marry on your first visit?
Edit: Now that I think of it, if your I-130 got approved, then your marriage was legal in China. You're married.

Its so nice to read a happy story here for a change, very refreshing! Good Luck with the rest of your journey!

Congrats, that is the best K-3 news I have ever heard.

thank you POA, submitting an online request to the ombudsman right now.

 
 I had a similar situation where they made a mistake and denied us due to abandonment. We emailed the ombudsman and after a little over a month USCIS approved our petition. Ombudsman coordinated with them and USCIS corrected their mistake. Submit a report here. This is what we did. https://www.dhs.gov/ombudsman-case-assistance
here is our post http://www.visajourney.com/forums/topic/432852-uscis-customer-service-error-merged/

looks like I've now acquired a lawyer....now the fun part begins...

True, I guess I learned the hard way, but it's still very sad to me that they are this hard to deal with. We had a very straightforward case with everything sent in at the very beginning...I guess no news is bad news with the USCIS....oh well. Attorney will be filing a motion to reopen on the grounds of new evidence (additional affidavits and documents establishing residence and marriage (lease/rent agreements, etc) as well as blatant erroneous information used for the decision on the part of USCIS. I will also be going to the local field office in person with the same paperwork in hand as well as everything else I can bring with me. I won't go down without a fight....

Honestly, I don't think there are very many here who have waited as long or longer than him. There may be a few but, for the most part, three years is pretty rare.

Very few of you have any idea of what it's like to be away from your spouse for 3 years. The distance will take a toll on the marriage. Having thoughts of divorce is normal. It doesn't mean that he wants a divorce!! But when you have something serious like this taking a toll on your marriage, things get very difficult. The "honeymoon" period for you newlyweds will wear off soon. Like Kaylara said, people settle into married life. Having a spouse far away for years is difficult. I have a feeling he will make it through this and be stronger because of it. I also think that many of you judgmental people telling him he has a false marriage or whatever will be the ones who will be divorced filing for "ROC" on your own. Karma, that's what it's called.

Hmm, I didn't go through every single post but I was wondering if she does go into AP (worst case scenario), could you move to India and teach English or something and stay with her during AP?

Late to the party here and somebody might have already said this but...
Depression can be caused by a lot of things and a lot of times we can somehow let our depression act as a blanket for all the other things we are going through, and then sometimes it's just the opposite. You may be depressed due to the circumstances of your relationship and your marriage, or that could just be another addition and the reason you are handling the stress the way you are is because you're already clinically depressed and may have been for a while. It's a chemical in balance and a lot of the time one incident and one difficult circumstance isn't going to trigger depression, it's a multitude of things.
In my opinion, if you generally feel like your relationship is causing a rift in your mental stability, and you are almost numb feeling to the thought of being in the relationship, to the point where you want to talk to other women etc, you should end it. It's not fair to you and it's not fair to her. You can't stay in a relationship because you're afraid to hurt their feelings or afraid of how they will react, that's not a substantial means for carrying on a relationship, and to me, that doesn't even seem like it would be a relationship anymore. You can focus on yourself, maybe talk to a therapist, explore your medical options, and then once you are okay, then you can explore the idea of sharing your life with someone again. Depression is a really REALLY selfish illness and it's out of your control, you can get so consumed with your own thoughts and feelings that even if you wanted to, you can't relate to other people. It's like an imaginary wall. Same with anxiety, it feels like it can hurt you, and ultimately hurt the people around you, and it's out of your hands.
I am speaking from experience (not the same situation exactly) but I know what it feels like when you cannot even trust your own choices and you have a million different decisions in your head but the depression makes you want to choose the easy way out. It gets better, you just need to make the first step, and sometimes it's healthier to be single in doing so, especially if your partner really isn't in the position to guide you through this.
Best of luck to you.

The Dude,
If you love some one, then have a courage to face the consequences, Loving someone is easy to be with the person you love and facing the issues are different thing, if you love her then keep loving her and bring her here and start your life, things get better, day by day ... keep the Faith ...

Like the above poster stated, unless requested only the past or more recents years ITR should be sufficient. Some people, depending on their personal situation(s), choose to send in more than one year. I only sent in one year, the most recent year's ITR and that was sufficient. Since, you are concerned with Brazil, you might want to research that country's specific requirement.
Best of luck!

it's consulate specific. Some ask for 3 years, some 1. Jordan required 3.

Very few of you have any idea of what it's like to be away from your spouse for 3 years. The distance will take a toll on the marriage. Having thoughts of divorce is normal. It doesn't mean that he wants a divorce!! But when you have something serious like this taking a toll on your marriage, things get very difficult. The "honeymoon" period for you newlyweds will wear off soon. Like Kaylara said, people settle into married life. Having a spouse far away for years is difficult. I have a feeling he will make it through this and be stronger because of it. I also think that many of you judgmental people telling him he has a false marriage or whatever will be the ones who will be divorced filing for "ROC" on your own. Karma, that's what it's called.

It's not the amount of time you get to talk to her, it's the quality of your conversations. You're, unfortunately, settling into married life, and then with your wife so far away. I know that a lot of people go through these same kinds of thoughts in the first year or so after getting married, and it's extremely difficult when you are not physically together. I agree with everyone who said that you need to go see a professional, and that you need to tell your wife what's been going on with you.
I can only tell you what worked for my husband and I. But your mileage may vary. Some people think it's awful, but we tell each other everything. We also take time to decompress every day with each other. That's about 20-30 minutes out of every day either on the phone or in person, where we just and complain and tell each other everything that pissed us off for the day. After that's off our chests, we move on and can just enjoy the rest of the time, because we've gotten the problems out of the way. If we've had limited contact for a few days, for whatever reason, we still make sure that we take that time to update each other on what's going on and getting our frustrations out. It's worked for us for 10 years.
I don't know if going to church would be helpful to you. I'm a Pagan, and our view of religious service and divinity is quite a bit different than a Catholic or Muslim. I meditate and try to take a few quiet moments each day outside just existing. Our eldest daughter goes to church every once in a while to "visit god" with my grandparents, and my grandmother helps her pray and that seems to make her a bit happier for at least that day.
And talking to people from here help a lot too. There aren't a lot of people out there who understand the kind of stress we're under. Sometimes it's nice to know that you're not the only person who is dealing with this.
If you're having a low moment, or are worried that you might hurt yourself, please shoot me a message. I check in throughout the day as much as I can, and I'll help you however I can. You're not alone.

Your input does not add to the discussion and the perceived negative insinuations of your comments negate whatever you are trying to say, as is usual from the posts I have read of yours Avery. At least I can take some comfort in knowing that some things don't change.

I'm really sorry, you are struggling. Talk to your wife keeping it all to yourself will only make you more depressed. I also agree you should talk to your Doctor or a therapist.

You know what the real kicker is? When I went online to look for advice, most places gave something along these lines: take a 6 month "cooling off period" to see what life will be like without them! HAHA! Well-f*cking_played universe!