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Just be aware that divorce doesn't cancel your obligations in the affidavit of support. Be careful

*Sigh**, But the reality is that you are just a stepping stone to better life in US.
Learn the lesson, protect yourself now, since she has shown you her true intention.

YES! I wanted to say the same, but I figured since I'm just a junior member I better keep it to myself. Lol

Sounds like you tried. Your legal reasoning is right on the money (your money, that is). Unfortunately, many foreigners don't understand the American financial culture and practice of sharing expenses. Cut your losses with her and don't give up on love - it's out there. Good luck!!!

You don't need to answers questions from others or defend yourself. The holier than though posters were not asked for opinions. . You came to ask your own question and what goes on in your marriage and personal life is just that, personal. Yes, you can pull the affidavit of support and what happens after that is up to her. She can either go home, or stay forever illegally in the US as she can never adjust status through anyone else.
Good luck!

Well, we all know that in USA, money grows on trees in your yards
OP should just pull the I-864 and move on.
Remember to protect yourself from any false abuse charge.

Sounds like you did try.

My reason for wanting to pull the affidavit of support is to protect myself. I am not happy in my marriage and neither is my wife. She has been here almost a year. In the beginning, I kept saying once she gets ead, job, phone etc, she will be less homesick and happy. Unfortunately, that is not the case. My wife doesn't communicate her needs and wants effectively. She doesn't communicate at all. Unless you consider the silent treatment and sulking for days at a time communicating. When I try to communicate my needs and wants, all I get is silence and a blank stare or a pillow over her eyes or her on her phone. Contrary to a few months ago, where I wanted her to work to pay for her ticket home, I am volunteering to pay for it now. I don't feel as though I am getting enough in return for what I am giving. My wife is working, she has a new iPhone and we agreed to have her contribute some of her earnings to pay for some of her/our expenses. Her 1st reaction is to send money home. I told her she can do that after she contributes to our home. This of course results in sulking and silent treatment for 2 days. I feel as though I have given it my best shot and without pointing fingers, it might be time to pull the plug. I don't want to stay the course because at this point I can walk away. If she gets the 2 year card, it will be more complicated to get divorced and she will be gaining rights that will put me in an unfavorable position. There is no reason to risk this for a marriage that I am not happy with. Additionally, my wife thinks the Philippines is better and I am tired of trying to sell her on why it isn't. If she likes the Philippines better, she should go back there and pursue an opportunity there.

It takes 2 hands to clap ....

Not really as your withholding the truth to obtain a visa that you prefer. That's fraudulent.

this is not a divorce or a legal site. Do you have a question regarding immigration?

Yeah that's true :/ Hope everything goes smooth for all of us!

And there are plenty of people unable to do stuff like joint bank accounts; is not some automatic no. For instance, I've been living in Korea and married a Korean here. There is no such thing as a joint bank account here... And we got approved with stuff like I mentioned above.

You are not looking at the correct form. Line 22 from the form1040 that KayDeeCee linked above.
For a K1 petition the I-134 is held to the same standards as the I-864. Follow that form instructions and you ought to be ok.
I agree that you should plan on having your joint sponsor prepare the I-134 using the 2015 information.
Assuming that you will also need the joint sponsor for adjustment of status, the same information will be used on the I-864.

Just photos? You should have more than photos.

Try an actual grocery store?
http://www.yelp.com/search?cflt=grocery&find_loc=Denton%2C+TX

I personally prefer the greek yogurt vs the runnier kinds. I have never had yogurt with cereal though... I've always used milk.

Hello All
I had a great opportunity Saturday evening to have dinner with and spend several hours with a director at the VSC. He is currently in charge of the department that handles I-751s among other things. His wife is an adjusicator that handles YOUR petition (if it went through VSC). His wife is Russian, arrived on a K-1 and is now a citizen. This man has worked for USCIS for many years and was at several local offices before being assigned to the VSC. His wife is a friend of Alla's and we were all at a dinner party for several American/Russian/Ukrainian couples Saturday. We had a long chat, he was very open and helpful. We talked about a lot of the things we see here on VJ and I was trying to remember all the "usual questions" I read about and pin him down for some answers. I also have asked him if he will give an "official interview" for VJ. He said he will check out the site and I will call him later this week. So, anyway I will try to cover what we discussed, he was quite frank and direct in his answers, not rude, not at all, but he knows his stuff and answers without hesitation. It turned into an impromtu and fun "interview" with me trying to remember all the hot button issues I see on VJ
I told him that the number ONE and number TWO "complaints" I see are Why is the VSC taking so long and why can't we get through to you guys?
Why is VSC taking so long, what happened? I was approved in 58 days!: We had problem with labor last year and lost many workers, we hired more last November and it took some time to get them trained. Some of the petitions were sent to California and we also assign people to different tyopes of visas. They will concentrate on one tyoe, get behind on another and then shift many people back to the other type. Lately we have shifted many, almost all, adjudicators to I-129fs, so that should make people happy. They will do that until they get caught up. Summer is a busy time for I-129fs, usually about June we get slammed with them. The winter or early spring is the slowest time for I-129fs, but then it depends what they have everyone working on also.
OK, why can't we get through to you? The 1-800 line is useless. Those are contract employees and they are trained to select answers from a menu of 14 answers. They pick which one is best for your question. There are thousands of visas being processed at any time and everyone is special and everyone has special circumstances and if we had direct lines we weould do nothing but field requests by petitioners to give them priority, we just can't do it. How would you feel if your petition got bumped because some woman called and cried on the phone and then her petition got moved up ahead of yours. We simply have to operate in a way that avoids any chance of fraud, corruption or unfairness.
So what about some people get approved ahead of others? Sme petitions have problems or delays, we do not hold back others for this. If an adjudicator has problems, he puts that one aside or sends an RFE and goes on to the next. The next one may be clean and gets approved right away, in just a few minutes, they adjudicate 15-20 petitions a day per person, and the ones with problems may wait weeks for the petitioner to respond to the RFE, or maybe it is a name check they are waiting for. Petitions are assigned as they arrive, when we are working on those petitions, but they do not go out the door in the same order they came in.
G-325a, Signed or Unsigned? Unsigned.
WHAT? Ok I have seen the memo but lots of VJ members got RFEs for unsigned G-325s, what gives? They do not have to be signed,they can be signed at the consualte interview. Some adjusicators haven't read all the memos, we get hundreds of the things, and maybe they make a mistake. If you want to be sure there is no mistake, sign it. Or send a letter expalining why it is not signed and request it be signed at the interview. Do you have that memo?
It is on the VJ website somewhere You can print a copy of that and send it with the I-129f and G-325a.
Fiancee intent letter? Signed or unsigned? Signed.
What about a faxed or emailed signature? When I was adjudicating, if I could see a signature, I accepted it, but many adjusicators will not. Signed is better.
Lawyer or no lawyer? For what?
Enough said. Now a hot issue, a very controversial one. There seems to be a trend in some countries of foreign men marrying American women and the women are considerably older. There is always a question if this is a problem. It never seems to be a problem for older men/younger women (My wife is 13 years younger, his wife is also considerable younger than him) Is it a problem? For us, USCIS, no. "Free to marry".
What about the consulates or for AOS or I-751? Consulates do what they do, it is not USCIS, some of them are bastards. Kiev is easy, they approve everyone (laughs), they used to be bastards but they got easier since they first started doing those in 2005, before then you would have had to go to Warsaw, you know. For AOS if they can prove they are legitimate we do not care about age but anything that is "not normal" for the culture will draw suspicion. They probably will not get a no questions asked interview (I had told him our AOS was "no questions asked")
What about birth certificates, some people have trouble getting them? This is a problem for us also. Some people, especially our younger staff, think all the world is like the USA. I remember one, when I was in the Kansas City office, the beneficiary was from Viet Nam, she was born in 1954 there was no birth certificate. The CO asked me about this and I looked at the file. I said "Do you know what was going on in Viet Nam in 1954?" She looked at me, straight faced and said "What, their computers were down?" If a birth certificate cannot be obtained they can usually get something from a church, a village official, something, and send that with a letter of explanation. Or just their passport and a letter explaining the situation (this applies to AOS more than I-129f as beneficiary birth certificate is not required for the petition, but I wanted to ask anyway, it seems a common question here)
What about extra documents? Proof of relationship? We don't need it, only that they have met for the fiancee visa.
What about the consulates? Consulates do what they do, as I said, some are bastards. They get whatever we get when it is sent on. I can't tell you what NVC and consulates do, I know some are terrible and some are really easy, but I do not know all the details of each. Kiev is easy, western Europe is easy, Nigeria is horrible, but you would not believe the scams from Nigeria, I get jaded. I am surprised a lot of them get visas and then we have to deal with them.
I have to ask for a collegue, Ecuador? Bastards.

What about changes? Are there any in the works? Is Obama ouching you guys to work faster? I am not sure Obama knows we exist. There have been no changes and no pressure other than the usual workload and shifting things around. I do not expect any immigration changes in the next year or two, at kleat not in rules or amnesty or anything like that. I do expect FEE INCREASES within the next year...across the board.
How much more? I cannot say, that is not my area, I just hear talk.
He added, "We try not to deny petitions, people really get angry and make lots of trouble. Denials usually come at the consulate or maybe AOS or sometimes even with the I-751. If we deny someone we need good reason, if they meet the criteria, we will approve it, they just have to give us what we need to approve them."
So how can I speed up my petition? You can't really. If it gets to be too long and if you can get a congressman or senator to call, that will get some action, but half the time those guys dont'' call or they do and the petition has only been there 3 months. Sometimes one falls through the cracks, gets overlooked, we are human. A congressman can get through and get them to dig it out if it has been too long, but I wouldn't call that "speeding it up". That's a fix for whn it is too slow.
we talked for some time more, about 5 hours altogether, briefly interrupted by Alla every now and again who had her own questions about the I-751 procedure which I posted in that forum, about VJ and other topics (his Navy days) He said he will check the site and gave me his home number. He said "call anytime but not 3 in the morning" I asked about an interview or answering prepared questions, he said possibly, he will check the site. He said many internet sites are advertisement for immigration attorneys or instructing people on how to pull scams, I assured him he would be very pleased with VJ and he thinks it is great that there is a good site for information and advice. (he never heard of VJ before this)
I can also say, that speaking to him, I heard so many of the same buzzwords or advice that I have seen right here, this is really a great site with some great folks giving some really great info.

We received notice that our petition was approved on March 9, 2016. Today I got another e-mail from USCIS saying that as of today it's been sent to the Department of State. Will I get another e-mail and or letter from NVC once they receive it or does this e-mail mean they've received it ?
Thanks in advance.

she said she wanted the pics to show people back home. Did you guys print everything out or something. I am like the CO I don;t truly understand in this day and age how you could have no trace of a wedding, pics together. Can you see why the CO has issue with this.
Who took the wedding photos. I know we had a photographer (a Professional). The people at your wedding did they not take one picture. Your Facebook posting. You have no backup pics of your wedding your visit together?
Has your wife checked her phone? where are her pictures backed up where are your pictures backed up?

Your actual report not just some case number.
Dwheels gave you good advice on the creative ways to get the pictures.
Can't you contact her best friend to locate the pics and scan them to you ?
What you mean they got lost ? Lost how ? In this day and age there are always some pics on the internet somewhere.
This sounds strange. Where is the camera or phone the pics were taken with ?
You did not save any for yourself ?

You don't need to live with the joint sponsor at all. They don't even need to live in the same state.

Marrying someone you don't love or want to be with romantically so they can get a green card is immigration fraud.
What the OP did was marry some they did love and wanted to be with romantically so they could get a green card and be together. That's what "married to get a green card" means here. That's not immigration fraud, calm down.
OP, divorcing makes no difference now. Don't worry about the effects of that on his immigration case.

You realize that marrying in order for him to get a green card is immigration fraud, no?

Did you mean to say this? How is it good faith if you say you got married so he could get a Green card. Goodness.
He was eligible to apply for citizenship since 2014. He doesn't you need you to do that. The 5 year rule applies and he no longer needs to be married to a US citizen. So sorry it didn't work out.

There is no such thing as an invitation letter for a visitor visa!!! Where do people get this idea??????? You must apply and be approved on your own merits, and your merits ALONE. A single woman from Nigeria with a US boyfriend has about a zero chance of getting a visitor visa to the US, even with very very strong ties to home(which you do not have).