Vanessa + Mario

I have boarding passes. My flight itinerary, my passport stamps and pictures of the two of us at many landmarks in cebu. Im hoping that will do the trick.

Im no rocket scientist and not trying to come off as a smart ###...but you ask what should we do now?......
Return the information they asked for, its quite simple

hi, getting the interview moved is not so much an issue. did you ever let nvc know you are planning on filing an i601a waiver? either way let them know so you can move the date. as far as the multiple voluntary departures, i have never heard of that. you may also find some good advice and forums on immigrate2us.net it has a lot of waiver info on it and tons of people at the same stage where you are at. there are also a lot of good attorneys they can recommend to you. i would get a second opinion from another lawyer before you file the waiver.

Thanks van mar for your reply. I guess I gotta wait till my EAD comes in. Good luck on your visa journey!

The bickerers should stop bickering with one another, please.
There's an old saying, origin unknown:
"A son is a son till he takes him a wife; a daughter's a daughter the rest of her life."
OP, all we can do is hope that you can work something out. Let us know the outcome of this.

I'm not here to argue with you guy. There are opinions and then there is factual information about visas and likewise. I suggest if you feel so strongly about his marriage and the opinions of other posters, you inbox him and give him your one on one opinion and leave the rest of us out of it.
Good luck to the OP on whatever decision you choose. I hope it's the best for you guys!

The OP asked for advice and opinions. Instead of you hijacking his thread and giving your opinion on other posters opinions, I suggest you stick to the topic at hand.
To the OP, I stand by my comments that you should remain supportive of your wife's decision. Your marriage may not be a traditional one early one, but you have a lifetime to work out the kinks. I'm not certain of what your job is in aviation, but I also work in aviation and logistics, so I'm going to assume that your company has a Latin/South American operation that will allow you to transfer or find work in Columbia. Or if not work with your company, I'm assuming that you may be able to find work in Columbia just as your wife would probably be able to find work in the US if she were to move here. As for my comment of a "stay at home wife", it is in reference to staying at her new home in America instead of running back and forth. I know you want a wife that lives and remains in the US, but moving to US doesn't mean her family, ties, and obligations end permanently either. Again, no one's marriage is perfect, and no one wants to continue to do the long distance thing, but it is possible given the many couples that have to do it years whether for work, finances, or simply completing the visa process. Furthermore, as I said before, this maybe something that last for a few month or maybe even a few years. If your wife can agree to a certain amount of time before returning home to the US permanently, I still find that a compromise. I doubt she would go through the CR1 process and marriage with you only to turn it down for a sick relative. Once again, it can be done. The question is, how committed you are to your marriage and are you willing to support your spouse while she looks after what I'm assuming once again is her last living relative. Let's be honest, it's not fair to ask her to choose between her family and her husband when you yourself said she willing to compromise for a time and have both. . .

I've never seen such an about-face like this before.
"Hate" and "repulsed" are such strong words that to move from them to a "million times better" sounds to me like the language being used is overly dramatic instead of accurate. This needs some explanation here, if you really are trying to help others:
Okay, so besides just telling him how you felt, what did you two decide to DO? Is he giving you alone-time, or what? Or was saying how you feel enough, and nothing has actually changed?

I hope you don't take this the wrong way but I think you're not the right person for him.
He is the one that should be freaking out, being completely out of his comfort zone, in a foreign country, waiting for you, in a home that is clearly not his and yet, you don't mention him being frustrated and stressed.
Maybe you did rush into this. Maybe it's just cold feet. However, this person whom you claim to love is being denied an honest dialogue with the person he is willing to spend the rest of his life.
Moving in together is difficult. He gave up everything he knew, including his country. You must give up half of your apartment, and share your life with someone else.
Do yourself a favor and talk to him so that you can give him the opportunity to return home before it's too late. He deserves no less than your honesty.
I don't mean to sound ill spirited or judgmental, so if my words sound harsh is because it appears to me that you're being dishonest with yourself and with him. This is the person with whom you're going to vow to spend the rest of your life. Start sharing sooner than later. Sit down, alone and perhaps in a neutral place and share your fears and your doubts. Give him the option - and the opportunity - to stay or leave, and do so in his own terms. Nothing you can tell him will hurt him more than deceiving him would.
Place yourself in his shoes. What would you want him to do is the roles were reversed?

i don't like that. he is a very understanding person and is giving me my time to adjust;
You'd rather he be demanding and inconsiderate?
however, i am scared. i know he loves me deeply and i love him too - just not as much as he loves me.
A relationship takes work.....and love is just one part. Are you willing to put in the effort?
i know it's fear talking, but i need someone to give me some sort of advice. i hate that i can't be open around him.
Why not? You're open to complete strangers more than a fiance? Think about what that says.
i hate that when i go to my own apartment now he is sitting there waiting on me.
Do you two have any common interests?
thank god for my brother who spends time with him while i am at work every day. honestly,
Yes thank god for the brother.....maybe you should be the one spending time with him.
i don't know what to do anymore.
Grow up?
i know many of you will tell me that this isn't the guy for me, etc..
Or, you're not the woman for him.

Good luck. not relevant to immigration processes.

Good luck.

Good luck to you!

Write them out just how they are, that's how we did it.

If it's a high-fraud or notoriously difficult country, then you should send more evidence. I think Egypt is a difficult one. The embassy will review all the info you send before the interview, and a lot of them decide before the interview even happens, based on what's in your file.
You don't need to send all of your chat logs, just pick samples from every couple months. Select conversations that show the progression of your relationship, planning to visit each other, discussing the future, conversations that only people in a real, serious relationship would have. Send photos from throughout the relationship, with different dates and locations, with family members and friends, but don't send 20 from one day at the beach.

A bit of a random post here but bear with me...
I came to the US on a K1 in July and i'm living blissfully happy with my wife here in California. This website helped me the whole way through the grueling process - I certainly could not have done it without all the support and advice this brilliant resource provides. US immigration can be unbearably drawn out and I remember toiling through days and weeks on my own wondering if it was ever going to end. It's a huge mountain of confusing paperwork and documentation and reference numbers and all kinds of strict administrative processes. It can also leach plenty of hard earned money out of your pocket, with no recourse to getting it back if it all falls through. Oh and on top of that I had further stress from minor historic offenses which could've cost me everything.
Its clearly long winded, hard work, and expensive. They don't make it easy.
So now I'm reflecting on this struggle, nine months after starting it all, from the privileged position of having successfully completed much of it. I'm living with my wonderful wife, I have permission to work, social security sorted and driver license on the way, and hopefully green card delivered in the not too distant future. I came from a position of disadvantage, I fought against it, I read hard and took advice, and I came through it.
This morning I updated my timeline and it felt great to be looking at all those blue boxes with green ticks. There's still plenty to do, I know, but I feel like a hill has been climbed and that feels good.
On the rare occasions I check back here at visajourney, I feel great sympathy for all the honest, well-meaning folks who are despairing at their current K1 circumstances. Its important to stay focused, keep your convictions, be honest, take advice from people who know better and be humble with Uncle Sam's way of doing things. I just want to let those people know that time falls away, things will move for you, and I wish you all the best in your struggle to get wherever you're going.
Keep the love and nothing can separate you from the person you've chosen to be with!
Peace,
D
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Probably not. You can usually find the required documents on the state DMV's site.
To prove Texas residency I showed them a copy of a bank account statement and a letter from USCIS.

Thank you, both. One more thing to cross off the list of things to worry about forgetting to worry about.

First- No 864, no immigration. Period.
If your dad hasnt signed it, or if he does sign it and you receive it and destroy it instead of submitting it to them- then your wifes immigration is at a halt. Until they have an 864 that meets the criteria- no visa.
As for your personal issues. Clearly you must see you and your wife are NOT compatible. People can come along and post all kinds of 'helpful
posts explaining her behavior or encouraging you to stick it out, but the bottom line is sometimes people are just not compatible.
You want a wife who will behave a certain way- due to her emotional trauma/history- she is not it. You state youd be fine with her if she actively sought therapy and took heavy meds. She has no interest in doing such. Just like you cant force a square peg into a round hole, you cant make your wife be the woman you want her to be. You have to accept her for who she is- problems and all and you dont. So---incompatible.
IMO you should NOT present the 864 to the consulate. Advise them that you are no longer intending to immigrate as you will be divorcing. Then file for divorce and move on.

Yes.

I moved to the US three months ago and I can honestly say it has been wonderful. Waking up next to my wife every morning and never having to do those awful airport goodbyes anymore is amazing. The journey to get a visa took us over 11 months and it was pretty hard on us but for the life that we have right now it was so worth it. There have been times when I've struggled to adjust to life in the US and felt homesick but my wife has been there for me every step of the way.
Of course we have our little arguments and disagreements, mostly joking ones over pronunciations and spelling, but I wouldn't change anything about our relationship for the world. It's lovely to read happy stories so please keep posting everyone

Hello Johnny,
What a sweet story, thank you for sharing.
I am from Mexico too and the super handsome love of my life happens to be a US Citizen. He is the most amazing man I have ever met... I get emotional just typing it.
Thank you for showing this side of the coin. Not everyone has the "American dream" Tons of people in Mexico and other countries have pretty good lives, a career, family, a LIFE! Things that we actually give up to pursue love.
God bless your family and your life.

Good morning everyone,
I do not know about the rest of you but it gets depressing seeing all the posts where someone was "scammed" so the love of their life can get that prized green card, they got married and the love of their life magically changed into someone they do not know, the love of their life left them and is now talking about VAWA, they found out the love of their life really had a secret lover back in their home country and once they got the green card they were going to bring that lover to the US, blah, blah, blah. I guess I could go on but I think you get the picture. Marriage is something real that real people that really know each other and want to spend the rest of their life together till death do us part so help us God desire to make that commitment. Finding someone on a web site and talking on Skype will find you in the first stage of love...Romantic Love. Hey I fully understand she/he and you experience the emotions of joy and excitement. The novelty of a new love leads you to think about your partner day and night, imagining all the possibilities of how this person can fulfill your deepest desires. You want to spend every moment of every day with your new partner in the bliss of newly discovered love. At this point (and I am sure each and everyone of you have heard) if it is too good to be true it usually is...but what a great feeling. You have to think about realistic and mature love and how the love of your life coming to the US will be thrown not only into a marriage but a complete different world from their home country.
okay I guess I will get off my soap box but I pray that everyone will step back and let common sense drive their decisions and not let emotions take control.
Elizabeth (my beautiful and wonderful wife) came from Mexico to work in the US on a TN visa. She is an accountant and we met while my company provided accounting consulting services for her company. There was zero conflict of interest when I asked her out to eat after we had known of each other almost a year. That night we sat and talked for over two hours and yes I was hooked (romantic love!). We dated for almost 6 years before I popped the question. Mind you we did not live together and simply dated. September 14th of 2013 we said I Do. I will be the first to say the whole visa process was very hard. Since we applied for a K1 visa she had to give up her TN visa and go back to Mexico City. The great news is she also had a tourist visa so was able to travel from Mexico to the US a number of times while we waited on USCIS as I also traveled from Atlanta to Mexico City a number of times. We made it through those times which made our relationship stronger. Our faith in God has been the foundation of our marriage. We have not waited for times to get bad (too late sometimes) before we try marriage counseling as we are doing that when the times are great. Our church offers a number of marriage seminars and counseling services which we have used. Those services have helped with the day to day life of being married and life itself. We do not have the perfect marriage but we are making every effort to keep our commitment to God until death do us part. Have we had a major disagreement picking out a color of paint when I painted the kitchen??? oh yes! But folks that is everyday life and what a joy it is to share it with your wife. I wanted to share some good news for a change and we will keep each and everyone of you in our prayers.
May God richly bless and keep you.
Elizabeth and John

expect secondary inspection, as a K-1 visa holder,
minimum-ly to get the fingerprints and eye scan done.
might be other stuff, depending on the notes found in the the CBP computer by a CBP officer. But don't aggrieve that, much, aye?

That won't work. He requires a Californian licence once he became a resident of the state of California, as stated above more than once.

Hi! I went to the DMV with my birth certificate, passport with visa (CR1), social security card for proof of signature and a copy of a Lease, stating my MA address. I didn't have my GC yet and they accepted my visa. If your husband is not included in a lease, then you can show your lease or home title and make a letter saying that he lives with you. If you are not sure you can always go to the DMV and ask. Good luck