CanGirl

Not to worry, Harpa is right. He changed his mind at the last minute and asked me to come so I am on my way there right now. I honestly did want to go see him I was letting him decide if he wanted to see me.

There is no need to be rude. If you actually read any of my posts you would know that I did go visit him in the US and I am here right now. Thanks for your input.EDIT: BTW if we do get divorced I will not be going forward with the green card. I will withdraw myself, thanks! And whatever you believe has no bearing on who pays for the petition becuase they ask for a US bank account....
Haha thanks Soloenta! You always know how to make me smile. I did cook for him tonight

Not to worry, Harpa is right. He changed his mind at the last minute and asked me to come so I am on my way there right now. I honestly did want to go see him I was letting him decide if he wanted to see me.

Not to worry, Harpa is right. He changed his mind at the last minute and asked me to come so I am on my way there right now. I honestly did want to go see him I was letting him decide if he wanted to see me.

Not to worry, Harpa is right. He changed his mind at the last minute and asked me to come so I am on my way there right now. I honestly did want to go see him I was letting him decide if he wanted to see me.

Not to worry, Harpa is right. He changed his mind at the last minute and asked me to come so I am on my way there right now. I honestly did want to go see him I was letting him decide if he wanted to see me.

Not to worry, Harpa is right. He changed his mind at the last minute and asked me to come so I am on my way there right now. I honestly did want to go see him I was letting him decide if he wanted to see me.

Not to worry, Harpa is right. He changed his mind at the last minute and asked me to come so I am on my way there right now. I honestly did want to go see him I was letting him decide if he wanted to see me.

Not to worry, Harpa is right. He changed his mind at the last minute and asked me to come so I am on my way there right now. I honestly did want to go see him I was letting him decide if he wanted to see me.

Not to worry, Harpa is right. He changed his mind at the last minute and asked me to come so I am on my way there right now. I honestly did want to go see him I was letting him decide if he wanted to see me.

Dieseltu, I feel sorry for you. It would be interesting to hear other side, but considering that you wrote it seems to me like your wife is treating you very unfair and you're trying to put up with it. Sometimes you just need to stand up for yourself. Like somebody mentioned before, "Sweetie, you don't like the way I'm doing bla-bla-bla (washing dishes, cleaning...)? Do it yourself then any way you want, I've survived doing it this way for 30 years, so it works for me" - that's my position. Are you starting to yell at me? Fine, I will leave room/house and will not come back until you will calm down. You can not get state ID with glamour photo? Sorry, that's how it works, not a big deal, but if you want to complain, you can talk to DMV, because I can't change it.
Does it sound a little harsh? May be, but otherwise you will feel miserable all the time and it's not your fault. IMHO, marriage is a union of two adults, it's give and take, but your wife is acting like rebellious teenager with softhearted Dad and a active taker, it's not fair. She is trying to change you a lot, and that's not good. Like we joke in Russia, "when woman marrying man, she has a hope he will change. when man marrying a woman, he has a hope she will not change. and they both have wrong expectations." I think, when you're marrying someone, you should accept this person who he/she is. If you want and need to correct him/her in everyday life including lifetime habits like eating, cleaning, etc. - it's a very bad idea and often causing relationship fail.
When I came to the US, there also were plenty of things I didn't like. Barely existing public transportation, small talks, corn syrup in everything, apt. buildings and houses made of "wood and cardboard" and many, many other things around. But I never ever thought about bitching at my wife about it, because it's not her fault, she didn't make this country as a Legoland from scratch, and she is not responsible for these things. From your posts it seems like your wife is releasing her anger and disappointment with outside things at you personally and it's bad attitude.
Again, I definitely expected my wife to help me with adjustment here because many things are very different, but I'm not a child she adopted, so I didn't expect her to take me everywhere like a toddler and guide through every little step day to day. It takes some time to adjust, but biggest part of adjustment is willing to adjust and working on it by whoever is adjusting. You can not adjust someone from "outside" if this person is refusing to do anything about it.
Putting myself on your place, I would let her go home, because I wouldn't be able to swallow such emotional abuse from my wife. Before we even engaged I warned her that I never could and never will put up with a partner who will make scandals out of nothing, yell at me or will at me for no reason, she assured me she doesn't do such things and, lucky me, she does not.
If you love her so much that you simply can't stand letting her go and she wants a divorse and ticket to China, I don't know what to advise... you're very strong person if you handle such bad treating so good.
- Victor from Russia
It's not a Russian thing at all. Dishsoap is used in Russia by almost everybody, so if somebody from Russia thinks that dishsoap is bad for you, it's just a personal thing, nothing about being Russian.

Thank you for the prayers my friend! I'll do the same for you.
You can certainly be the sole sponsor for both packets. You only need a co-sponsor if your income is not enough to support your total household including your wife and daughter. Good luck!
Oh you're too kind. So happy I was able to help you clear things up!
Sorry to hear this Cangirl. Long distance relationships are difficult, but adding this immigration process truly makes it so much worse. Keep at it! Once you're together again your relationship will be much stronger because of this ordeal. Best wishes!
See you all in the June thread!

Thank you for posting this. My husband's 2013 tax transcript is now available online too.. Finally I can send in my AOS package

Looks good! Don't forget your I-864 forms for both petitioner and joint sponsor. I don't think petitioner has to include any kind of proof that they are an US citizen either. That was already confirmed at the USCIS stage. Also if you are not in China you don't have to wait for the confirmation email from EP. You can send your documents in and you will be automatically enrolled. (Call to confirm with NVC but that is what they told me and several other people when we called in about EP). Good luck

Try not to stress out about the checklist too much (I know it's easier said than done ). Your docs are in and not much that can be done about it now. Plus NVC is so inconsistent in their checklists, that you never know what will happen. Maybe they will skip right over it. I figure I've done everything that I can and tried my best to do it properly. If mistakes are made and checklists received, then all I can do is move forward from there and continue doing my best.
yes, St. Lucia is beautiful! One of the blessings (as well as the fresh tropical fruits mango, pineapple, etc!) that I'm trying to appreciate during the (fingers crossed) few months that we have left here.
something I just read recently (although not speaking about this topic at all) helps me feel better about this whole process:
"Great and overpowering as these sacrifices may now appear, they will, when viewed in their proper perspective, be adjudged as inconsiderable, and pale into insignificance when balanced against the inestimable advantages" of being with our loved ones for a life time.
I replaced the last part out of the quotations to fit all of our situations and hope that it brings a little solace to you and all others going through this process.

You don't sound dramatic at all. I'm so glad that you called back and talked to someone else. It's about time someone said something. These customer service reps have been getting away with being rude to us for too long.

Soooooooooooooo happy you got Lisa she is a sweet heart and a good supervisor. This is what needs to be done with each that abuses their position, it's uncalled for under any circumstances. So happy this will help so much and I hope people will complain and e-mail for Joy and her minion. I'm sure the problem will be fixed now and I'm so happy.
No your not being dramatic we are going through so much stress as it is we don't need this on top of everything else. Now relax know you did well and this just might avoid me or someone else crying on the phone. Thank you sweet heart I know it must have not been easy for you. God bless your sweet and kind heart.

A checklist was being generated for a Greek police certificate even though I had a letter in my IV husband's package explaining why it was unobtainable. When I called Shelley was very rude to me, talking over me in an authoritative way on a subject that I wasn't even asking about. Very insensitive, and she didn't try to help at all. I've gotten people who aren't willing to help me before, but never like this. By the end of the phone call I was crying and had to hang up.
So I called back and spoke to Lisa, who answered the same questions for me. After I asked about the checklist, I explained what happened with Shelley and she told me "you should never let anyone make you cry on the phone, you should have asked for a supervisor right then." So I asked if it would still be possible to speak with a supervisor, and she told me of course, that she would try to find one, but there's not always a supervisor around. (????) She found one, and when I got her on the phone she said "I'm very sorry that happened to you ma'am, that is certainly not the behavior we expect from our customer service representives." She wanted me to write a formal complaint via email. Then she initiated a supervisor review for the Greek police certificate thing -- I think she's going to personally review it as soon as she can pull my file. She made sure I was going to write the email complaint and apologized to me again. I probably talked to her for 20 minutes about my case.
I'm sorry if this sounds dramatic or over the top... I can't even explain how upset I was, and I'm not the type to have an emotional reaction over someone being rude.

This is amazing and thank you. I will definitely will be going for EP. I will call NVC and definitely confirm again when the time comes. I have another 4-5 weeks before it becomes intense again for me. Thanks again so much for everyone's input. LET THE SCANNING BEGIN!!!! LOLOLOLOLOL

that is 23 business days...
Never count weekends with the NVC.


Pretty cool you don't have to Enroll anymore.

Ah ok, make sense! I was thinking more along the lines of having to provide documents again, but it's just verification of legitimate documents.

OK... Who are you and what did you do to the real etrangais?

One more thing.... NVC cannot correct the AOS because it is a contract. YOU have to complete the form and sign it. All info must come from you. You wouldn't want them changing things around without your approval. You signed it. You are stating your income and you are sponsoring the beneficiary. Not sticking up for them, just explaining why they don't do corrections...

Good morning VJ family,
I read some posts this morning talking about "why can't NVC correct "small" mistakes" in the forms they get" or why can't they just write the correct income if the petitioner makes a mistake or why can't they check a box we left blank, and so on.
One very obvious reality we sometimes fail to take into prospective: NVC processes millions of packets. Most of us think that they should focus on our packets, but THEY CAN'T. If they start correcting things it will take double or may be triple the time it takes right now to turn around and review packets.
I'm not defensing the NVC as they make some stupid mistakes: they lose docs, they don't even follow the instructions on their forms.... but don't expect them to correct our mistakes.
I just wanted to throw that out there, food for though

Right now EP is optional for Canadians. Myself and one other VJ member have called to inquire about our EP confirmation emails and the operator told us both that we no longer have to wait for it. They told us just to send in our documents and we will be automatically enrolled in EP.
There have been discrepancies in the past with operators telling people different information so I would suggest that you call yourself and ask what is the best option for you. The only disadvantage I would see with snail mail is sending originals and the cost of sending packages. Good luck!