Kolewenoik31

I second that....Amen!
.......and Amen!

Well I met my fiance for the first time in March 2013. I was going to India and my whole family was worried sick because they thought I was going to get hurt. I went alone but he had lots of friends with him and I think that was more for my safety because he promised my mom I would return safe. I did contact the embassy in delhi to let them know I was there and I called my mom twice daily.
Now when we did leave the hotel my fiance always had a friend with him, and this was my first time out of the USA. I also did a lot of cultural research to make sure I was respectful to the people also.
Now I do admit it was scary going alone but in the end I felt safe and had a wonderful experiance and can't wait to go back to India when he has his interview!
I wish you luck in whatever you do!

I went alone the first time I met my husband face-to-face. I had already been talking to him online, webcam and phone for 3 years though. I was not afraid. I stayed with him in his home for a couple months.. hanging out, sight seeing, and meeting his friends and family. That was not a visit that qualified for the I-129F petition. I had no idea I would be filing back then.

I went alone the first time I met my fiance in person. It was probably the craziest thing I've ever done. My mother was terrified, but she had all my contact info and hotel info. She also made me email her everyday so she knew that I was still ok. Like KDH said, I could have died. Before I met him, I had talked to many other people online. I was more afraid to drive 6 hours to meet someone in the next state than to fly to India to meet my fiance. (I never met the other person.) I trusted him and I felt safe with him.
I think it's good that your friend has already met him. Still, make sure someone knows where you are staying and has good contact information for you. I hope you have a great time and a safe trip!

Amen!

Yes.

PRAYER

You scared me with your title
Congrats!

I'm so happy for my girl Lagoslove! Her hubby is here with her. I spoke to him on the phone and he sounds WONDERFUL! Her journey is complete now!! . I'm going to have my Hubby call him tomorrow or tonight!! LADIES! It can and will happen if it's in God's plans!!!! I think I'm more happy for her than she is LOL! We women deserve happiness!
LOVE Y'ALL!!

My fiance's Visa has been approved. Words cannot describe how happy we are. God is faithful. Thank you so much VJ family. For those of you that are still waiting, know that God is in control.

I think that despite the fact that some people have shown their obvious frustration in their posts. They have all been honest in trying to answer your questions. There really is no round about way of being with your spouse sooner rather then later, if you want this all done legally. My thought is, you now have many different answers to your question(s) so I would continue to research to see what your best options are... Like starting from scratch... Or hire an Immigration lawyer.
I don't claim to know everything about all this immigration stuff. But I do know that if there was a round about way where we could all be with our loved ones SOONER, we would be on it like a hot damn. Correct me if I am wrong, but that's what it seems like is going on here is trying to find a way around all the TIME of not being together....? Legally we all must wait.... I haven't seen my husband for 7months. There are others on these forums who have gone A LOT longer than that.... It is what it is...

I am probably going to get in 'do do' for posting this....
But really....
What happened to people being able to come to this forum and ask questions?! Regardless of them being hypothetical, or asked repeatedly, or even answered 1000 times over..... Or even asked in a different round about way?!
If you don't have anything NICE to say then DON'T say anything at all....
Quite frankly I am a little embarrassed at how mean some of these posts in this thread are....
This kind of thread and the posts in it are one of the many reason I chose NOT to make threads or ask questions.... Because some people are SO MEAN

Hello. My advice is to do whatever you think is best. I knew in my heart I wanted to have the wedding I dreamed of and that was not at the courthouse (not that there is anything wrong with that--I know that the important thing is the fact that you're joining your lives). I wanted to get married in the church I grew up in and have a wonderful party with all of our family and friends in attendance. We were very blessed with our timeline, so blessed. We started working with our vendors about 7 months before our wedding, and a few weeks after we submitted our K-1 paperwork. We had incredibly flexible vendors and ended up changing our date 3 times! Get everything in writing--and work with vendors who won't charge you to change the date. We sent out our wedding invitations as soon as he was approved for his visa and got married once he'd been in the states about 2 months. Everything was just as I dreamed it would be.
It is possible. It's a lot of work, a ton of planning, and a lot of prayer---but you can do it! Our wedding video below is proof. Best of luck to you! -Ashley
http://www.anecdotallyyours.com/blog/2013/06/21/ashley-and-gustavos-wedding-film-in-english-and-spanish/

To be honest, I always think that you should be ready to be married after you're engaged. The engagement is merely time to plan a wedding.

But that's a personal opinion.

With all due respect, that is not what you asked in the last post.
Also, I already answered your question in my first reply. Please reread my answer about getting married before the interview.

Given that you can cross the border easily compared to others you will have to do the soul searching to convience yourself that you just happened to come to the US and get married and decided to stay. Since you are asking about it now, you have the intent of doing this. Maybe not this timne or the next, but in 6 months you decide what the hell let's just get married. You do not know if they have entered anything into the system or not. Do you really want to risk this? You have the advantage of visitng almost at will. Think of all of us here on VJ that have to endure the wait and spend thousands of dollars for the USC to go to their country to visit because the beneficiary cannot get a tourist visa to visit the US. IMHO I would get married and file the proper paper work so there is absolutely no question on intent. I tend to be a bit risk avoidance where the government is concerned.
I would not base my decision on what a friend was able to do or not do. This is your life and you may not have the same person looking at your case, but someone who will be a real hardass and make things unpleasant for you.
Dave

Hey everyone thanks for all your support and ideas and suggestions.
Here is the latest update as to what to do:
The French administration is the more difficult side, but if i wait to come back to the US 2 weeks after we are married it IS possible to get the long-stay visa very quickly for France but I have no choice but to do so in Chicago (1-3 weeks processing time). We will call the French Embassy within a few hours and I can post official results asap.
Our plan: Get married in France June 7 (all the paperwork, translations, meeting with the mayor is all finished and good to go). 2 weeks later I fly alone to the US and go to the French Embassy to apply for the long-stay visa. In the meantime I go stay with friends and work for 1-3 weeks while I wait. Then I come back to France and turn in our i-130 packet and we wait together.
That so far seems to be the simpliest solution, I can work as soon as I arrive (In Michigan) so it will cover cost of the ticket and since I will have a long stay visa and married to a French citizen I will be able to work (In France) so it can help for getting us back to the US.
and Yes my boss knows how long the wait it, it is a very small company with only 3 employees and he is a close friend who is married to a Swedish woman so he knows the mess involved and is helping any way he can to get us back. So yes my job is available anytime.
I didn't intend to sound rude or to be special compared to anyone on this site who is waiting for their significant other who is far away, my sincere apologies.

Well said Billious. People are too harsh in these forums. Kudos to those who have the answers but if you can't share them without being judgy, than don't.

No loose screws.
They have the legal right to request a credit check on anybody that would be on the lease.
But that's beside the point. :-)

This is a place to ask questions and to share a common ground, not tear a person down. I understand that you were trying to provide information, but there is absolutely no need for your comment. We are all in this together, this at times can be extremely trying; there is no reason to make a person feel worse.

This thread is funny...it proves that all of us o here is trying to be humerous inspite of the stress involved with immigration. I like it...let's stay encouraged everyone.

Green.
I might be having a stroke.

“Holding one person criminally responsible for someone elses crime will never float. Makes no sense whatsoever.” – Really??? Then why did I have to sign an affidavit of support to attest that I would support my wife (then fiance) and ensure that she does not become a public charge?
If someone named Boiler does not know anyone here in the U.S. then this situation does not fit him/her. Our situation concerns family members.
MarknLuz need to read the news. The Senate is debating the bill this week and the House is scheduled to take it up next week.
Simply accepting that my wife’s parents can’t visit us here in the U.S. and we will always have to load up our family our four (or more later) to go visit them each time or at least until a few years until they can apply for a green card that they don’t want or need – that’s just ridiculous and preposterous.
If you don’t support this then just read it and move on. This legitimate situation applies to a lot of people. That is the point and target of my post – not to hear a lot of irrelevant opinions or debate our situation. Thanks.

Thank you, Aaron, for your questions. I appreciate an opportunity to have a dialogue with you on this issue and clarify some legitimate concerns that you raised.
You raise a good point regarding cost. First I would say that the current system is not cheaper for families like ours when it involves an application fee plus the hassle and expense of my in-laws taking an overnight train from their city in southern Ukraine to the capital of Kiev for an interview only to be rejected three times. What you seem to be saying is that because of the abuse in the system and the cost of enforcement we should just ignore families who want to visit each other.
But I do acknowledge your point regarding the cost to the government (and thus all of us taxpaying citizens) to hunt down and deport the criminals. I would not advocate anything to allow people to come here or stay here illegally or to increase the cost of enforcement. There should be a way to solve the issue without the cost being shared by everyone. If you stop thinking like a government bureaucrat and use common sense you could imagine a system where someone like my in-laws who seem to have pure intentions and have attempted to demonstrate such in their application, except for demographic factors beyond their control, could be required to have a U.S. sponsor who would vouch and ensure their return after a temporary lawful stay. Anyone who is deemed to be suspect could also be put into a special category which would require them to report back to the embassy for a follow up interview after their return from their stay in the U.S.

VanessaTony, thank you as well for your thoughts. I haven’t thought of your point regarding AOS in the US but that makes sense and could be another measure to help ensure that only those with appropriate intentions are admitted. I would have no problem with you including that in your letter in support of this issue as it seems to be an appropriate clarification. Thank you in advance. However, the system of applying for a GC multiple years into the future and then giving it up is just impractical and preposterous that many people have been forced to use such a path.

Hi ,, I proved to them my circumstances as why I can not go within those 2 years.. I proved my trip 2 and half years ago, also proved my mom was with me I included her boarding pass and passport stamp also a letter from her that she was with me and she said that our culture as muslims cann't visit a man and stay with if we are not married, I also included that I cannt leave my work and that I am supporting my 2 kids and I have one kid that has ADHD and is on medication(send pic of his medicine and script that shows what that med for ) and that he need daily care from me.. I also included all chat logs, messages, phone calls, money transfer, online cam shots together..pics of gift he sent me along with post office receipt ..Basically I put everything I have and could help them verify the relation ,,I know i was on high level of denial,,but when god wants to make it easy it happens,, All i could say for everyone do not lose hopw ,try to the last breath and you never know .Everyone here who read about me told me i will be denied and here we are approved ,,thanks to god and all who helped with their prayers to us and we pray to all of you..
Thank you best luck from the bottom of our heart to you all,, we know the feeling of the painful wait..just hang on out there..