StephAnn2012

When I see the occasional post like (Approved after only 30 minutes, didn't even have time to finish the TV show I was watching) -
It makes me think about everything we have been doing so far and question it for a second. Then I realize something important to me.
I don't mean to be cynical, just skeptical. The timing of these rare cases is always bizarrely fast and lacking in substantive details. Although this could actually have happened in 66 days or 30 minutes, I tend to think that it is highly unlikely that someone could circumnavigate through a bureaucracy as thick as USCIS and get approved before all other applications that are ahead of them by many months.
Unless there is a life threatening causative event or unless their last name is Obama, it is just too good to be true and I suspect that there are those who join and post here, the ridiculous so that others will get even more frustrated than they already are.
Even if it is true, (congratulations, I'm jealous) - I look at the timelines of all the 2500 or so people who have documented their journeys here and 99.0% have journeys that are taking 180+ days to get to NOA2 -
I choose to think that the smarter thinking on my part is to trust the information of the 99% and put little stock in the fast and furious -
Now if the OP could tell us what they did that caused their paperwork to defy the laws of physics, that would be truly useful information. But as for me, I think the majority here are smart, judicious and for the most part have done our homework and accept the fact that God is Great and government is crazy.

I agree, you have received some very good advice here. The best thing I could suggest is for you to understand that she is a filipina and by nature, filipinas are dramatic. You need to remain calm and give her guidance. Tell her that this will end when the governments all decide that it is her turn. If she focuses on her problems, what she can't have, she will be very upset and create drama. I have found with my filipina fiancee that when she is very emotional and insecure, that is the best time for me to pull out my best reassurance speech. I tell her that nobody loves her the way I do and this journey we are on is part of the process and is necessary. I tell her how much I love her and how important it is that we remain positive. If she is stressed now, just imagine how she will interview.
The government will not react well to something so subjective as stress and depression, we all struggle with that as we wait for our number to come up. Just encourage her to focus on the process and to get involved in church, a gym, a job, a hobby, anything that will help her relax and spend her time wisely.

I agree, you have received some very good advice here. The best thing I could suggest is for you to understand that she is a filipina and by nature, filipinas are dramatic. You need to remain calm and give her guidance. Tell her that this will end when the governments all decide that it is her turn. If she focuses on her problems, what she can't have, she will be very upset and create drama. I have found with my filipina fiancee that when she is very emotional and insecure, that is the best time for me to pull out my best reassurance speech. I tell her that nobody loves her the way I do and this journey we are on is part of the process and is necessary. I tell her how much I love her and how important it is that we remain positive. If she is stressed now, just imagine how she will interview.
The government will not react well to something so subjective as stress and depression, we all struggle with that as we wait for our number to come up. Just encourage her to focus on the process and to get involved in church, a gym, a job, a hobby, anything that will help her relax and spend her time wisely.

I agree, you have received some very good advice here. The best thing I could suggest is for you to understand that she is a filipina and by nature, filipinas are dramatic. You need to remain calm and give her guidance. Tell her that this will end when the governments all decide that it is her turn. If she focuses on her problems, what she can't have, she will be very upset and create drama. I have found with my filipina fiancee that when she is very emotional and insecure, that is the best time for me to pull out my best reassurance speech. I tell her that nobody loves her the way I do and this journey we are on is part of the process and is necessary. I tell her how much I love her and how important it is that we remain positive. If she is stressed now, just imagine how she will interview.
The government will not react well to something so subjective as stress and depression, we all struggle with that as we wait for our number to come up. Just encourage her to focus on the process and to get involved in church, a gym, a job, a hobby, anything that will help her relax and spend her time wisely.

I agree, you have received some very good advice here. The best thing I could suggest is for you to understand that she is a filipina and by nature, filipinas are dramatic. You need to remain calm and give her guidance. Tell her that this will end when the governments all decide that it is her turn. If she focuses on her problems, what she can't have, she will be very upset and create drama. I have found with my filipina fiancee that when she is very emotional and insecure, that is the best time for me to pull out my best reassurance speech. I tell her that nobody loves her the way I do and this journey we are on is part of the process and is necessary. I tell her how much I love her and how important it is that we remain positive. If she is stressed now, just imagine how she will interview.
The government will not react well to something so subjective as stress and depression, we all struggle with that as we wait for our number to come up. Just encourage her to focus on the process and to get involved in church, a gym, a job, a hobby, anything that will help her relax and spend her time wisely.

I agree, you have received some very good advice here. The best thing I could suggest is for you to understand that she is a filipina and by nature, filipinas are dramatic. You need to remain calm and give her guidance. Tell her that this will end when the governments all decide that it is her turn. If she focuses on her problems, what she can't have, she will be very upset and create drama. I have found with my filipina fiancee that when she is very emotional and insecure, that is the best time for me to pull out my best reassurance speech. I tell her that nobody loves her the way I do and this journey we are on is part of the process and is necessary. I tell her how much I love her and how important it is that we remain positive. If she is stressed now, just imagine how she will interview.
The government will not react well to something so subjective as stress and depression, we all struggle with that as we wait for our number to come up. Just encourage her to focus on the process and to get involved in church, a gym, a job, a hobby, anything that will help her relax and spend her time wisely.

I agree, you have received some very good advice here. The best thing I could suggest is for you to understand that she is a filipina and by nature, filipinas are dramatic. You need to remain calm and give her guidance. Tell her that this will end when the governments all decide that it is her turn. If she focuses on her problems, what she can't have, she will be very upset and create drama. I have found with my filipina fiancee that when she is very emotional and insecure, that is the best time for me to pull out my best reassurance speech. I tell her that nobody loves her the way I do and this journey we are on is part of the process and is necessary. I tell her how much I love her and how important it is that we remain positive. If she is stressed now, just imagine how she will interview.
The government will not react well to something so subjective as stress and depression, we all struggle with that as we wait for our number to come up. Just encourage her to focus on the process and to get involved in church, a gym, a job, a hobby, anything that will help her relax and spend her time wisely.

I agree, you have received some very good advice here. The best thing I could suggest is for you to understand that she is a filipina and by nature, filipinas are dramatic. You need to remain calm and give her guidance. Tell her that this will end when the governments all decide that it is her turn. If she focuses on her problems, what she can't have, she will be very upset and create drama. I have found with my filipina fiancee that when she is very emotional and insecure, that is the best time for me to pull out my best reassurance speech. I tell her that nobody loves her the way I do and this journey we are on is part of the process and is necessary. I tell her how much I love her and how important it is that we remain positive. If she is stressed now, just imagine how she will interview.
The government will not react well to something so subjective as stress and depression, we all struggle with that as we wait for our number to come up. Just encourage her to focus on the process and to get involved in church, a gym, a job, a hobby, anything that will help her relax and spend her time wisely.

Forgottenlady - I'm wondering if you had a question behind the question. May I ask how long you have known your fiancee? How often do you speak with him? The reason I ask is that the feelings we all develop for a man or woman are very emotional and chemical at first. We are in love with the idea of being in love and things sound so promising that we put on rose colored glasses. Why am I saying all of this? Because I want to be honest with you about what to expect. Give yourself the opportunity to interview your relationship as if you were the Embassy Interviewer. Get with your fiancee and have him ask you the toughest question he can come up with about your true feelings about him, the age difference, religion, sex, money, the man's responsibility versus the woman's responsibility concerning house work, jobs, earning money, children and so on and so forth.
If you tackle these big issues during your courtship, having long, heartfelt discussions about whether you will have children or not, whether you will work outside the home or not, you will discover much more about him and he will discover much more about you. As you tackle these subjects with honest discussions, you will eliminate the fears that you have about what they will ask, because not only will you be prepared for almost any question, but you will have a clear understanding of his feelings on each of these subject.
Too often, couples just get on skype and are giddy and silly with each other and talk about nothing of real importance, because they "are in love" and things will just work themselves out.
I'm sensing that your real question was that you want to know how to be reassured that you are making the right decision and only you can answer that by going through these important discussions. The results of those will be mixed as with any couple and will require compromise by you and him.
I bet you guys make an amazing couple, just be sure that you have both eyes open and are not only prepared for the interview, but prepared for the radical change of leaving home, moving in with this man and spending the rest of his life as his wife.
I hope this post didn't sound harsh, I just had a feeling about some of the emotions behind your questions.
Good luck to you both!

Please relax - He is attracted to filipinas - there is nothing wrong with preferring one ethnicity over another in matters of the heart. Most men and women have a preference of hair color, skin color and tone, body type, language, religion, culture, personality, etc. - That is what makes the world go around. You had better hope that your fiancee or husband prefers your type, specifically you... I think we should all make allowances for the rest of the human race to pursue love in a manner which best fits them.
I am sure Finnish women are incredible in their beauty, wit and charm and I am quite certain your intended is glad he found you. Nobody can judge how you two got together, it isn't their place to even share an opinion other than to say cheers to you.
Cheers! Stephen

Andy,
The two year rule is in place to give you time to recover and it is a good rule I think. If you were married November 2011 and the marriage lasted "no more than a year" that means you are just now getting out of your marriage, right?
I am sorry to hear that your marriage didn't last. You referred to the warning signs that you chose to ignore. I was in a similar boat with the same result, but if I may, let me be very candid with you about what I have learned. I decided to divorce after 5 years of marriage because our marriage seemed to be getting in the way of her dates. Marriage has a way of making dating others more difficult I suppose. After the divorce, I decided not to date, not move forward, until I could look myself in the eyes and honestly say I had healed and was capable of being a great husband to a woman.
Any man here knows that going to the Philippines as a single or even a married man will result in lots of inquiries as to your availability, so that shouldn't be a concern, but before you venture down that path, just make sure you have given yourself enough time to honestly address all the reasons why you were willing to ignore the signs the first time and marry her anyway. That was the hardest part for me to admit to my family and to myself that I had married for all the wrong reasons to someone who clearly was not my soul mate.
I wish you much success, as for me, I am so glad I waited because God gave me a woman who makes me laugh, makes me cry and who laughs and cries with me. She has an amazing son who is 6 and I so look forward to raising him. We are connected spritually, emotionally and as crazy as it sounds to those who know me, she thinks I am quite sexy. We have been together for 15 months and I can honestly say it was worth the 3 year hiatus from dating that made me ready to move forward with another - I do believe the finest women in the world come from the Philippines, yes I am biased -
Stephen

Please relax - He is attracted to filipinas - there is nothing wrong with preferring one ethnicity over another in matters of the heart. Most men and women have a preference of hair color, skin color and tone, body type, language, religion, culture, personality, etc. - That is what makes the world go around. You had better hope that your fiancee or husband prefers your type, specifically you... I think we should all make allowances for the rest of the human race to pursue love in a manner which best fits them.
I am sure Finnish women are incredible in their beauty, wit and charm and I am quite certain your intended is glad he found you. Nobody can judge how you two got together, it isn't their place to even share an opinion other than to say cheers to you.
Cheers! Stephen

What a beautiful post. I too am so sorry for your loss. He was lucky to have been loved so well by such a sweet woman. I know that God is not finished with your life. God Bless you!
Stephen and Ann

Please relax - He is attracted to filipinas - there is nothing wrong with preferring one ethnicity over another in matters of the heart. Most men and women have a preference of hair color, skin color and tone, body type, language, religion, culture, personality, etc. - That is what makes the world go around. You had better hope that your fiancee or husband prefers your type, specifically you... I think we should all make allowances for the rest of the human race to pursue love in a manner which best fits them.
I am sure Finnish women are incredible in their beauty, wit and charm and I am quite certain your intended is glad he found you. Nobody can judge how you two got together, it isn't their place to even share an opinion other than to say cheers to you.
Cheers! Stephen

Please relax - He is attracted to filipinas - there is nothing wrong with preferring one ethnicity over another in matters of the heart. Most men and women have a preference of hair color, skin color and tone, body type, language, religion, culture, personality, etc. - That is what makes the world go around. You had better hope that your fiancee or husband prefers your type, specifically you... I think we should all make allowances for the rest of the human race to pursue love in a manner which best fits them.
I am sure Finnish women are incredible in their beauty, wit and charm and I am quite certain your intended is glad he found you. Nobody can judge how you two got together, it isn't their place to even share an opinion other than to say cheers to you.
Cheers! Stephen

SzhMli - You need to remember the following:
1. You are constrained by a 90 day window, once your fiancee is in the US.
2. You are dealing with the slowest office of USCIS.
3. You don't know what problems, challenges or delays might alter the timing.
My advice is to - Get your deposits back so you can sleep at night - work solely on the issues that need to be worked on to get your fiancee here - go to a Justice of the Peace when your fiancee arrives - (every city has many of them) and get legally married to meet the requirements - while planning the best wedding in the world together.
This will take the pressure off of you - because it is a fact - you don't know when you can have that big wedding yet!
Good luck to you!
Stephen and Ann (together in God's timing)

SzhMli - You need to remember the following:
1. You are constrained by a 90 day window, once your fiancee is in the US.
2. You are dealing with the slowest office of USCIS.
3. You don't know what problems, challenges or delays might alter the timing.
My advice is to - Get your deposits back so you can sleep at night - work solely on the issues that need to be worked on to get your fiancee here - go to a Justice of the Peace when your fiancee arrives - (every city has many of them) and get legally married to meet the requirements - while planning the best wedding in the world together.
This will take the pressure off of you - because it is a fact - you don't know when you can have that big wedding yet!
Good luck to you!
Stephen and Ann (together in God's timing)

SzhMli - You need to remember the following:
1. You are constrained by a 90 day window, once your fiancee is in the US.
2. You are dealing with the slowest office of USCIS.
3. You don't know what problems, challenges or delays might alter the timing.
My advice is to - Get your deposits back so you can sleep at night - work solely on the issues that need to be worked on to get your fiancee here - go to a Justice of the Peace when your fiancee arrives - (every city has many of them) and get legally married to meet the requirements - while planning the best wedding in the world together.
This will take the pressure off of you - because it is a fact - you don't know when you can have that big wedding yet!
Good luck to you!
Stephen and Ann (together in God's timing)