SO CALLED RED FLAGS Im worried about

[forgottenlady 2]

Fiancée has relatives or friends in the U.S. who seem to be taking too large a role in match-making - He was introduced by my uncle who is his close friend at work.

Couple hasn’t spent enough time together in person- When he came here, we were only friends, or has the so-called Mutual understanding then I realized I am starting to love him each day of his short vacation in May, We were introduced sometime in April, First week. So we've been talking on Skype right before he decided to travel half way across the world just to meet me.

Very large age difference between the couple- he is 27 years older than me to be exact, I didn't know til I realized I am so in love with this man. It didn't bother me at all since he looks so charming and looks good to me.First time I saw him, I liked him and realized why not give me a chance to know him more

Can you guys help me see the real picture of our love story? I know its real, but of course the CO wouldn't really know how exactly how it feels. I am bothered with all this stuffs I saw on other internet websites where it says the three things I listed above are RED FLAGS?

I have seen some who got same story and got approved. but of course I also know that it is a case to case basis.

THANKS

[wilfon 30]

Fiancée has relatives or friends in the U.S. who seem to be taking too large a role in match-making - He was introduced by my uncle who is his close friend at work.

Couple hasn’t spent enough time together in person- When he came here, we were only friends, or has the so-called Mutual understanding then I realized I am starting to love him each day of his short vacation in May, We were introduced sometime in April, First week. So we've been talking on Skype right before he decided to travel half way across the world just to meet me.

Very large age difference between the couple- he is 27 years older than me to be exact, I didn't know til I realized I am so in love with this man. It didn't bother me at all since he looks so charming and looks good to me.First time I saw him, I liked him and realized why not give me a chance to know him more

Can you guys help me see the real picture of our love story? I know its real, but of course the CO wouldn't really know how exactly how it feels. I am bothered with all this stuffs I saw on other internet websites where it says the three things I listed above are RED FLAGS?

I have seen some who got same story and got approved. but of course I also know that it is a case to case basis.

THANKS

Hi, I would not worry too much. The requirements are that you two are both legally free to marry and have met each other in person within the last two year. The are couples that have a larger age gap than you guys and were approved. Follow the K1 guide and get all of your documents in order and always ask questions on here. Good luck to you

[forgottenlady 2]

Hi, I would not worry too much. The requirements are that you two are both legally free to marry and have met each other in person within the last two year. The are couples that have a larger age gap than you guys and were approved. Follow the K1 guide and get all of your documents in order and always ask questions on here. Good luck to you

Awww thanks Lyn

[QueenOfBlades 224]

Those three things could potentially be red flags, but they can't turn you down just for that. It is your job to make sure you prove without a doubt that it is a genuine, bona fide relationship. If you do, I'm sure you'll be fine.

[CaroSL 68]

Those three things could potentially be red flags, but they can't turn you down just for that. It is your job to make sure you prove without a doubt that it is a genuine, bona fide relationship. If you do, I'm sure you'll be fine.

Exactly. Focus on positive things and don't bring yourself down. If you are in a genuine relationship, focus on making it feel that way to the CO

[forgottenlady 2]

Thanks to CarolSL and to Queen of Blades I appreciate all your feedbacks! Yes CarolSL I am starting to be more positive.Thanks a looooot!

[fancygirl 1]

Fiancée has relatives or friends in the U.S. who seem to be taking too large a role in match-making - He was introduced by my uncle who is his close friend at work.

Couple hasn’t spent enough time together in person- When he came here, we were only friends, or has the so-called Mutual understanding then I realized I am starting to love him each day of his short vacation in May, We were introduced sometime in April, First week. So we've been talking on Skype right before he decided to travel half way across the world just to meet me.

Very large age difference between the couple- he is 27 years older than me to be exact, I didn't know til I realized I am so in love with this man. It didn't bother me at all since he looks so charming and looks good to me.First time I saw him, I liked him and realized why not give me a chance to know him more

Can you guys help me see the real picture of our love story? I know its real, but of course the CO wouldn't really know how exactly how it feels. I am bothered with all this stuffs I saw on other internet websites where it says the three things I listed above are RED FLAGS?

I have seen some who got same story and got approved. but of course I also know that it is a case to case basis.

THANKS

[forgottenlady 2]

Hi Fancy girl

[fancygirl 1]

Hi, Just to let you know I, the women, US citizen is 30 yrs older then my fiance. I was very worried about the age thing because it is very uncommon for older women, younger man. In his interveiw they never addressed it. He was approved fairly easy. He had to do administrative processing but he got his visa this week and will be here in US in March. Just take lots of photos when you are together and save everything like his travel documents, hotel recepts, to prove you have met in person. We had a chat history documented from 2008,tons of e-mails and phone calls. Save everything!! We also used a attorny, a firm that just helps with K1 type visas. Half the battle is having everything done correctly the first time. But now the second part of our the journey starts and I do not think it will be that easy for the AOS and I know the age thing will surely come up. But we are both adults and can live anyway we want. We just have to prove that we are in a legitment relationship.

[Boggy1974 124]

Fiancée has relatives or friends in the U.S. who seem to be taking too large a role in match-making - He was introduced by my uncle who is his close friend at work.

Couple hasn’t spent enough time together in person- When he came here, we were only friends, or has the so-called Mutual understanding then I realized I am starting to love him each day of his short vacation in May, We were introduced sometime in April, First week. So we've been talking on Skype right before he decided to travel half way across the world just to meet me.

Very large age difference between the couple- he is 27 years older than me to be exact, I didn't know til I realized I am so in love with this man. It didn't bother me at all since he looks so charming and looks good to me.First time I saw him, I liked him and realized why not give me a chance to know him more

Can you guys help me see the real picture of our love story? I know its real, but of course the CO wouldn't really know how exactly how it feels. I am bothered with all this stuffs I saw on other internet websites where it says the three things I listed above are RED FLAGS?

I have seen some who got same story and got approved. but of course I also know that it is a case to case basis.

THANKS

It is not an issue of whether the CO wouldn't really know exactly how you two feel towards each other or not. It's about the material evidence you present or provide to support your case that will 'speak' for your case.

Regarding "can you guys help me see the real picture of our love story?" -- I don't think it matters as to how anyone see your "love story". Not sure if you need any approval from anyone to see your real love story besides both of your immediate families and friends. That said, I see some positives with your story relating to having met some of the conditions for filing an I-129F petition.

First, per your story above, you two have met prior to filing any petition which will fulfill that one big requirement - meeting within the last two years prior to filing the fiance/e petition.

Secondly, I personally do not see the age difference as a drawback. 27yrs is a big enough an age gab but definitely it's not unheard of and an outlier. I have known couples who are 25, 30 and even 40 years older than their partners. It's how you two feels towards each other that is the most important thing. Of course a CO have every right under the law to ask a or two question about your age, but it's how you handle the question(s) that will do the trick.

I would say, spend your time gathering much info from the time that you two spent together. Take lots of photos, keep receipts of shopping, boarding/travel passes, iteneraries, receipts of gifts to each other, stamps of your passports etc etc. If you don't much evidence for your last meeting, I would suggest you plan another trip to meet prior to filing the petition. That would give you guys another opportunity to gather more info.

Again, it's the body of evidence you present about your "real love story" to the USCIS/CO is what matters not how anyone in a forum sees it. Good luck!

ETA: this is the link to the guide - http://www.visajourney.com/content/k1guide

Edited February 1, 2013 by Boggy1974

[Darnell 8,478]

older foreign man marrying younger USCitizen female? Sorry, when is that a Red Flag?

When the gender is reversed, that's some problem, at some places.

[CaroSL 68]

When the gender is reversed, that's some problem, at some places.

Gosh, welcome in the 21st century...Not a sexist world anymore... sigh

[Darnell 8,478]

come study at MENA, aye?

[Kazulie 132]

Gosh, welcome in the 21st century...Not a sexist world anymore... sigh

Gosh, welcome to immigration...it's a world of it's own and yes, still a bit sexist...

The woman being 27 or 30 or even 10 years older than the man is a HUGE red flag for a LOT of countires. When it comes to immigration.

Edited February 1, 2013 by Kazulie

[CaroSL 68]

come study at MENA, aye?

I know, I know, I know.... I know how it is ... I am still sad it is that way. (I am currently listening to old politician men pretending they are not sexist because 'they cook wonderful chikens, in the middle of a very serious political debate, youhou!!)

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Gosh, welcome to immigration...it's a world of it's own and yes, still a bit sexist... <br style="color: rgb(28, 40, 55); font-size: 13px; line-height: 19px; background-color: rgb(250, 251, 253);"><br style="color: rgb(28, 40, 55); font-size: 13px; line-height: 19px; background-color: rgb(250, 251, 253);">The woman being 27 or 30 or even 10 years older than the man is a HUGE red flag for a LOT of countires. When it comes to immigration.

yep...