davenella

I say take the offer to be in Madison each day,
and when yer not doing stuff (ESL, driving class, etc) then
hang out at the Madison Chamber of Commerce each day,
volunteering ...
you'll meet business owners in a non-job-hiring event, daily, and
when come time to actually chase a job,
they'll remember you !!!

I vote fraud. No romantic relationship with you, carrying on with someone else the whole time. His lies are pretty poor, I hope you don't believe the "I am helping a sick woman" line again. And the "snooping reminds me of my home abuse and gives me panic attacks" stuff. Yeah.
As far as ICE, you can make your report to them, there is a thread in this forum on how to do it. But I am not sure you have that much evidence. Cheating by itself doesn't always mean fraud. But I would report it to clear your conscience and then move on.
Sorry for your losses. Good luck.

Fill out all the AOS forms in your married name. Not sure what you need a credit/debit card for with AOS. Also, no need to send a copy of the SSN, just list the number on the forms where it asks. When you get the EAD/AP or your green card in your married name, then go to the SSA and get the name changed on the SSN.

I used original signes for the forms and scanned signatures for the intened to marry letter.

It is very simple. You love your husban, ok. But he is not showing you the same. He is treating you as a prisioner with no verbal or physical abuse. On the other side you describe how amazing your life was in your home country. The answer is there, in front of you. Go back and start again with the people that love you a lot and with the degree that you already have. Seems that you are way more happy and with more possibilities in the Philippines.
Good Luck!

CONGRATS!!!

Hey
what i did for the town or city "Lima 33" (33 is the area code) and the state country Lima-Peru.
Good Luck

We recently completed the K1 process and wanted to share some things that we've experienced in our journey.
Early adjustments for k1 Beneficiaries coming to the states.
1. WEATHER, IT'S COLD.
It's very hard to prepare someone for the type of cold that we are experiencing here in the midwest, but, one thing I can tell all cold weather sponsors, "be prepared to buy winter clothes" Get your wife/fiance' a nice coat, some gloves, a winter hat and some boots. Do this as soon as she gets here, do not delay. This may sound like common sense, but, set aside money in your budget for these Essential items.
2. FOOD
Try to find a local Asian market if possible, we have lumpia wrappers, Jufran, adobo, canton, bihon, Nagaraya cracker nuts, lechon sauce, stikko, tocino, langonisa and other home style treats. These comfort foods will make your spouse feel somewhat more comfortable in the strange new world they find themselves in.
3. FEELINGS OF ISOLATION
For the first few months, our spouses have no drivers license, they can't work, they have little or no social network and will be stuck at home a lot while we are at work. MAKE SURE that you get out every day and do SOMETHING, even if it's to get groceries, take a walk, ride a bike, join a gym, go to church, anything. Our spouses are used to having multiple avenues of transit with jeepneys, tricycles, MRT, cab, etc... Imagine the feelings of isolation that one must experience going to a new country and being stuck at home at the mercy of their spouse to take them EVERYWHERE. YOU MUST BE COMPASSIONATE about this. Provide access to SKYPE, YM, VIBER, Facebook, ANYTHING to stay in touch with family back home.
4. INDEPENDENCE
When my wife arrived, I had her iPhone and credit card in her married name waiting for her. As soon as she arrived she had the ability to communicate back home and money to spend. Speaking of money, Grab some currency, including US coins, and practice at the kitchen table with how much each coin is worth. Be prepared to explain why the dime is worth more, even though it is smaller than a nickel.
5. SLANG
Be prepared to explain all slang and be a translator for the every usage of the English language as it applies in the states. I asked my wife for a buck and a quarter at a flea market, she asked why i needed a bucket of water.... That's when it occurred to me that i had not done my job as her husband and changed my game plan a bit. We are so comfortable that I sometimes forget that she does not know many slang terms and I fall into a comfort zone, forgetting that slang is an improper use of the English language.
6. JEALOUSY
Look, if you are married to a filipina, she is going to be jealous.. deal with it. re-assure her, love her, again and again. Makulit sobra.
7. COMMUNICATION
It really goes without saying how important this is. If you don't communicate, you won't make it, period. As much as you may know your loved one online, it is a completely different world in the reality of living together. In the online relationship world, you still have space, you can end a conversation and have your personal space and privacy. In the real world, there is no space. You are in each other's space, especially in the beginning. You will be the center of a universe for your spouse, the only known variable in their world. Imagine leaving your family, your life, your friends, everything you've ever known, moving to a new country and marrying someone that you've maybe spent a month or two with in person. I can't stress enough that you must be understanding and allow for an adjustment. To do otherwise is just not fair. Seriously, prepare yourself mentally and emotionally. BE PATIENT
8. FIND A COMMON HOBBY
Find something that you love to do together, at least ONE THING. It can be anything, as long as you both love to do it. This will give you a foundation of doing things together and will instill some instant order in your rapidly changing life. We bought bicycles, joined a gym and found a church we both like. Those are the little things that gave us instant stability, something we could both agree upon and pursue together. It's really great for times when I just don't have anything intelligent to talk about, ( it happens) Sometimes we can just go work out and look at each other with nodding approval.
9. CREATE MEMORIES.
Take a lot of pictures! Especially during the "honeymoon" period of your relationship. Build as much good will as possible early on. YOU WILL NEED THIS LATER ON! Some days are better than others, that's just marriage. It is really nice to look at our Facebook or wedding album and look at our happy pictures. We borrow from the "good will" bank of happiness to see us through our trials. We often post happy videos and pics on Facebook for our friends and family to see. It is great to have the moral support of our social network, encouraging our marriage and love.
10. LAUGH
Look, there is enough pressure involved in this transition. Just remember to give each other a break, don't put too much pressure on every single decision. Just take one day at a time, remember what's important. Love each other. REMEMBER WHY YOU WANTED TO BE MARRIED IN THE FIRST PLACE. It may not always be easy, but it's always worth it.
feel free to add any helpful hints to the list. Our "visa journey" is really just life's journey.
Mabuhay.

Thank you so much everybody!
The feeling of being approved is A M A Z I N G!!!!!!!!!
The biggest GOOD LUCK for the ones who are waiting for the interview.

Thank you so much everybody!
The feeling of being approved is A M A Z I N G!!!!!!!!!
The biggest GOOD LUCK for the ones who are waiting for the interview.

Congrats !!!

Congratulations!

Congratulation!
That's so great! Hipe you guys would be together in the USA soon!

Freaking A! Congratulations davenella!

Awesome awesome!! And a big congratulations!!!!!

That's so awesome Congratulations and best of luck in your future life together

I don't have words to describe how happy we are now!
THANK YOU SO MUCH VJ! thank you for sharing life experiences, good and bad, information, EVERYTHING!
The interview appointment was today at Lima's embassy at 8:15 am. I am so happy that my fiance was here with me. We arrived at 6:30am and get in like at 7:15 am. By 9:19am we were OUT and with our visa approved. It was so easy. I will write soon a review about today. Meanwhile i will spend some time celebrating with my fiance!

WE ARE SO HAPPY!!!!!!!!
Good luck to everybody!

I feel you and i TOTALLY agree with you. This affects a lot and can screw you emotionally. it's hard to handle.
Hope we all feel better later.

Hello VJ!
I have my interview in 4 days, my fiance is coming tomorrow. We are totally anxious about it and we want to make a checklist here to see if something is missing, maybe with the stress we don't know what is it so we will need you all to give us some help.

So here we go:
1- I-129F form copy
- NOA 1 (the copy because our lawyer never sent the original)
-NOA 2, the copy and the oroginal
- Petitioner G-325A and G-28 sign
- Beneficiary G-325A and G-28 sign
- NVC letter
2- Following the letter of instructios from the embassy
- Passport of Petitioner and Fiance
- Appointment letter
- DHL Registration page
- Beneficiary birth certificate (certified by RENIEC)
- Certificado Judicial de Antecedentes Penales
- Certificado de Antecedentes Judiciales a Nivel Nacional
- Certificado Policial
- Police Records from Ecuador (They ask only if the beneficiary was there for a year or more. But i was only for almost 6 months several times so just in case)
-Passport pics (2)
- Affidavit of Support I-134 Form
- Some Pay Stubs
- Taxes 2010, 2011, 2012
-Medical Exam
-Evidence:
·Pictures (Chose some pics from every trip)
·Ring receipt
·Hotel receipts
·Boarding passes with tickets
.Declarations to intend (joint and separate)
.RFE copy
· Receipts from Lima
. Lawyers agreement
· Things we sent through mail
·Some Skype screenshots
·Some Facetime screenshots
. Some Facebook Screenshots (between me and her mom, him and my mom, both of us)
·Some emails (between both, me and her mom)
·Some Whatsapp conversations
· Wedding planner emails
·phone records
·Screenshot of my american number using the program MagiJack
·Copy passport and stamps
3- EXTRA
- Confirmation copy of the DS-160 online form
- Petitioner birth certificate
-Petitioner's daughter Birth Certificate
- Copy Social Security Beneficiary
- Marriage Certificate and Divorce certificate (ex partner from Petitioner)
- Job License
- Beneficiary ID
- Beneficiary's father passport copy (he is an american citizen)
- Letter of appointment of a past tourist visa beneficiary was denied on 2006
- A diary we both have since we met
I know we have a lot ... but it is small amounts of everything. It also doesn't mean that because we have all of this bunch of stuff they are going to ask for it. Probably they will not ask or Probably they will ask for some and we don't want to risk to make this longer.
I also know it will be overwhelming for the CO seeing all of this stuff BUT .... it doesn't mean that we will just throw it all to them. it's all JUST IN CASE.
I want to know if we are missing something?

THANK YOU!!!

I'm really sorry. Those are definitely bad news but what you say is that you get checked early? That means that you find it on time right?
It is good to know that your fiance will be there with you and that he is able to visit.
I wish you good luck from the bottom of my heart. Things are more easy when you are strong and have your love ones near!

Yes, you send in the I-131(AP) and I-765(EAD) at the same time as the I-485 to adjust status. The fees for the I-131 and I-765 are waived when filed with a pending I-485. It takes about 3 months to receive the EAD/AP and it is used to work and travel and re-enter the US while waiting for the green card to be approved. http://www.visajourney.com/content/k1k3aos

It was difficult but it definitely made us a stronger couple. We learned a lot about each other and we are just looking forward to being togther soon, God willing.

D,
I understand that it is overwhelming BUT you have to stay positive! Distance sucks! That's a fact! Don't wait to receive your case number! Call the NVC!! They will give it to you. I called the NVC on 22 October, they received the package the same day and she gave me the case number... I just received the letter from the NVC yesterday (1 Nov). Don't think about "denial". Be confident!
If y'all want to be together, you will help each other maintain confidence! AND soon, everything will be good!

- Start gathering everything required for affidavit 130.
- Make sure you meet 125% of the poverty line in what you make yearly. You can google 2013 poverty line, and just do the math. It's about 19,000.
- Figure out how much you have in checking and savings, bonds, life insurance and property you own.
- passport pics of both of you, more evidence (what you sent in the petition and new stuff), letter of intent to marry, letter from the bank with your account info, letter form your employer, tax returns of past two years (i was told Peru specifically asks for this. http://www.irs.gov/Individuals/Order-a-Transcript), tax w2s of past two years, birth certificate (I'm bringing both of ours just in case originals and copies), Your NOA2, your NVC letter, last 3 paystubs.
Sorry if I'm forgetting anything. A lot of these are not required, but wouldn't hurt to bring. Check out these links:
Scroll down to the "once approved" area
http://www.visajourney.com/content/k1guide
Info on support items for the affidavit:
http://www.visajourney.com/content/support
And then I stalked other VJ-ers to see what they brought just in case
What your fiance can do is make sure he understands everything he will have to do off the checklist they send him (I can get that to you) and make sure he has info of the two doctor's in Peru that are approved by the emassy for physicals (I can get that to you too!).
He can make sure his passport is good and not expiring soon, make sure he has passport photos and his birth certificate, and evidence he has of your relationship on his end.
He can't do as much until the embassy receives it but he can definitely be mentally ready to jump on the process!

Hi, thank you so much. I read your post a few days ago . Be strong because everyone has ups and downs. .
Thank youuuuu. Nice see many supports from VJers, .