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Youseff,
If you really love her, then just love her like a MUSLIM.
If she is going to church, then ALHUMDILLILAH! She is GOING to church and she is not partying, drinking, doing drugs, etc.
She sounds like a GOOD woman. What is REALLY your problem?
Have you tried to look in the internet - www.jesusinthequran.org?
It's a wonderful resource tool.
You will always be a muslim and yet you can follow Jesus' principles and teachings.
For Jesus was born sinless according to the quran.
Jesus was the only prophet, Messiah that is made of flesh by the holy spirit,.... ACCORDING to YOUR Quran!
Go home and love your wife. Be patient.
Allah will reward you - Jazak-Alllah Khairn!

Brother,
I'm sorry for your struggles.
A true Christian would not force you to change religion. It's your wife's short-comings and not the Christianity within her that is forcing you.
"and We made her and her son a sign for all peoples." (Quran 21:91)
[Quran 3:46] When the angels said, 'O Mary, God gives thee glad tidings of a son through a Word from Him; his name shall be the Messiah, Jesus, son of Mary, honoured in this world and in the next, and of those who are granted nearness to God;


A true Muslim man would man up and stand his ground - like my husband.
Remember Allah (God) is watching you and knows your true intentions. If you are doing this to hurt or give Christians a bad name, even on your own wife, then Allah's wrath will bear hard on you after this life.
Be patient with her. Stand strong with her and know that she probably meant well.
Sister in Islam -and in the name of Christ, E

I am so sorry to hear this. As a Christian myself let me express that it isn't our job to enforce our religion onto people. It has to be from the heart to become a Christian not out of force. We are suppose to live by example not by force. This example is Christian love. I hope there are ways to remedy your relationship because I truly believe marriage is a sacred thing and not one to throw away no matter what the differences are. Maybe some marriage counseling would help. I would try this first. Take care and God bless

I don't know if you explained to her that in Islam we have to believe in Jesus pbuh and christianity. As a matter of fact since God told us to believe in those religions that means that we are already Christians and if you don't believe in Christianity, simply you can't be a muslim. I don't know if you have any basic knowledge about Islam. But muslims are required to believe all prophets and all religions and all the holey books that came to the prophets before Muhammad pbuh. That means that you literarely belong to those religions before you would be a muslim otherwise you are not. Explain that to her and give her some verses of the Quran so you can convince her of that. Divorce is not a solution for everything. Just be patient with her and explain to her Islam step by step, treat her like a kid who just started learning. I want to remind you that you have to have a strong belief in Jesus pbuh before you are a Muslim. Many people have a wrong understanding of Islam, go ahead and explain it to your wife, if she understood that you really believe in Jesus pbuh already tell her divorce is not necessary. I explained that to my wife, since she wanted to make me convert to and I suggested her to read some Quran. I didn't even make, her she read it herself at the end she wanted to convert. Be easy brother, force will not make it right. Remember: You can't force nobody into a religion, it's a choice. Besides it's between them and God. You can't decide what God wants. If he wants her to understand that you believe in Jesus pbuh she will. Don't force her. Don't forget, don't force her. The prophet Muhammad pbuh didn't do that. You don't either.

Brother,
I'm sorry for your struggles.
A true Christian would not force you to change religion. It's your wife's short-comings and not the Christianity within her that is forcing you.
"and We made her and her son a sign for all peoples." (Quran 21:91)
[Quran 3:46] When the angels said, 'O Mary, God gives thee glad tidings of a son through a Word from Him; his name shall be the Messiah, Jesus, son of Mary, honoured in this world and in the next, and of those who are granted nearness to God;


A true Muslim man would man up and stand his ground - like my husband.
Remember Allah (God) is watching you and knows your true intentions. If you are doing this to hurt or give Christians a bad name, even on your own wife, then Allah's wrath will bear hard on you after this life.
Be patient with her. Stand strong with her and know that she probably meant well.
Sister in Islam -and in the name of Christ, E

Well...
I've deleted my FB and have been "deactivated" for more than 1 year now. I couldn't be happier! I had that addictive need to attend to FB'ing. Then it hit me, why is the owner a BILLIONAIRE. IF he wanted us to be on FB, we SHOULD be paid to be FBooking, JUST as a journalist is paid to post news. Make NO darn sense!
I do miss the old days of "sharing/chatting/chewing the fat".
It's a matter of perception.
Three people at my workforce have been fired for posting photos that MY boss deemed inappropriate even it was during their off hours.
I am NOT going to lose my job over FB. There are parts of MY life I don't want to air out my laundry or for the world to see.
It's not easy to part from FB, but there's a whole 'nutter world out there to be explored.
E

Well...
I've deleted my FB and have been "deactivated" for more than 1 year now. I couldn't be happier! I had that addictive need to attend to FB'ing. Then it hit me, why is the owner a BILLIONAIRE. IF he wanted us to be on FB, we SHOULD be paid to be FBooking, JUST as a journalist is paid to post news. Make NO darn sense!
I do miss the old days of "sharing/chatting/chewing the fat".
It's a matter of perception.
Three people at my workforce have been fired for posting photos that MY boss deemed inappropriate even it was during their off hours.
I am NOT going to lose my job over FB. There are parts of MY life I don't want to air out my laundry or for the world to see.
It's not easy to part from FB, but there's a whole 'nutter world out there to be explored.
E

Well...
I've deleted my FB and have been "deactivated" for more than 1 year now. I couldn't be happier! I had that addictive need to attend to FB'ing. Then it hit me, why is the owner a BILLIONAIRE. IF he wanted us to be on FB, we SHOULD be paid to be FBooking, JUST as a journalist is paid to post news. Make NO darn sense!
I do miss the old days of "sharing/chatting/chewing the fat".
It's a matter of perception.
Three people at my workforce have been fired for posting photos that MY boss deemed inappropriate even it was during their off hours.
I am NOT going to lose my job over FB. There are parts of MY life I don't want to air out my laundry or for the world to see.
It's not easy to part from FB, but there's a whole 'nutter world out there to be explored.
E

My dear....
You speak in volumes and moved me to tears. What I say may make no sense.
Why? Dunno, but you are the chosen bride for your man. He has been assigned to watch over you.
I am on the SAME page, SAME boat, SAME situation....
I have sacrificed my old life to be the wife to a GREAT man. No one understands my man better than I do (aside from his family).
Embrace your new life. The yesteryear will become a faded bittersweet memory.
I oft wondered why my old flames never came back for me. I oft wonder what my man sees in me what no other has been able to.
"The All-American Girl, the Girl Next Door, the Homecoming Queen who sits home on Friday nights, Always a bridesmaid and never a bride." - fits me.
When it's time... I'm moving to his country.... and my man will be the only friend I have and embrace.

I know how you feel,
for me it was moving to the PH and missing the US...
and all I can say, what got me through, was opening my eyes to another world.
We are lucky. You know why? We get to see beyond the four walls of what God initially given us. And we are lucky enough to experience it.
What I learned from living in the PH for about 5 years is this:
1. The culture I grew in (in my case the city of NEW YORK) isn't the only culture that exist to man. There are beauties and wonders of the Philippine culture that i came to love. and there are aspects of it that i came to be annoyed with. I was able to understand, God gave me a chance to understand, that even if there are differences that we may never accept, there are moments when you feel alive with the enviornment around you, simply because you allowed yourself feel it.
2. I can adapt. I know that I'm stronger, stronger than most people. why? because I was able to adapt and live with a whole different culture. I was able to speak tagalog, eat from banana leaves, and prepared a bbq by sticking the fire to the uling.... hehe... But nonetheless, I become a stronger woman. If you felt like you can't control anything, know that you can control that. The strength that God gave you. Because each and everyday you have to build an once of that strength in order to be more than what you thought you could be.
3. I am more than what I appear to be. There were many aspects of myself that I lost when I moved to the PH. And i felt lost, insecure, unsure, weak, and vulnerable. And I was NEVER that person back in New York. I know how it feels to lose a part of yourself, and it scares up until now. But you know what? I learned so much about who I am. I fought that feeling to being scared. I stopped giving other people and fear the permission to make me feel inferior. I learned that I'm more that what NY has brought me up to be. And I'm sure where ever you are, it'll show you you're more than just the person reading this on VJ. You have the opportunity to redefine yourself. Make the wrong choices, right. Not that many people get that chance.
4. I learned how to breathe! Finally! I learned that no matter how bad or worse or sucky or shitty I'm feeling.... I learned how to STOP! and smell the roses. I learned how to look outside the box, have the most open mind, and accept the moments as they come. I learned that I can't control everything, and that it is always in God's hands.
5. Lastly, I learned that I GET TO CHOOSE HOW I FEEL. If I wanna be happy, okay. If I wanna be pissed off, okay. But I GET TO CHOOSE. and with that I saw that every moment that I pass by by being pissed and mad at the world, I lose another moment that can I can be happy. And I CHOOSE to make more memories of happiness than those of being pissed off...
So there you have it. I hope this helped you. I feel for you. And I'm sorry you have to feel that way. As for friends, what I learned is that the most genuine are the ones who are always there when you come back. You may not talk everyday, or hang out like you used to, but they are there. Same with family...
"Always together, and never apart. Maybe in distance but never in heart."
Goodluck.

Well...
I've deleted my FB and have been "deactivated" for more than 1 year now. I couldn't be happier! I had that addictive need to attend to FB'ing. Then it hit me, why is the owner a BILLIONAIRE. IF he wanted us to be on FB, we SHOULD be paid to be FBooking, JUST as a journalist is paid to post news. Make NO darn sense!
I do miss the old days of "sharing/chatting/chewing the fat".
It's a matter of perception.
Three people at my workforce have been fired for posting photos that MY boss deemed inappropriate even it was during their off hours.
I am NOT going to lose my job over FB. There are parts of MY life I don't want to air out my laundry or for the world to see.
It's not easy to part from FB, but there's a whole 'nutter world out there to be explored.
E

Well...
I've deleted my FB and have been "deactivated" for more than 1 year now. I couldn't be happier! I had that addictive need to attend to FB'ing. Then it hit me, why is the owner a BILLIONAIRE. IF he wanted us to be on FB, we SHOULD be paid to be FBooking, JUST as a journalist is paid to post news. Make NO darn sense!
I do miss the old days of "sharing/chatting/chewing the fat".
It's a matter of perception.
Three people at my workforce have been fired for posting photos that MY boss deemed inappropriate even it was during their off hours.
I am NOT going to lose my job over FB. There are parts of MY life I don't want to air out my laundry or for the world to see.
It's not easy to part from FB, but there's a whole 'nutter world out there to be explored.
E

Well...
I've deleted my FB and have been "deactivated" for more than 1 year now. I couldn't be happier! I had that addictive need to attend to FB'ing. Then it hit me, why is the owner a BILLIONAIRE. IF he wanted us to be on FB, we SHOULD be paid to be FBooking, JUST as a journalist is paid to post news. Make NO darn sense!
I do miss the old days of "sharing/chatting/chewing the fat".
It's a matter of perception.
Three people at my workforce have been fired for posting photos that MY boss deemed inappropriate even it was during their off hours.
I am NOT going to lose my job over FB. There are parts of MY life I don't want to air out my laundry or for the world to see.
It's not easy to part from FB, but there's a whole 'nutter world out there to be explored.
E

ask him to drop you off at the biggest university in the city, on his daily drive INTO his work, picking you UP from there AFTER his work.
Whilst yer at the university, get into the HR department, and apply for a job.

I appreciate everything you said. Well, i have known my friend for more than 3 years now, i know who she's and i know what it's like to live in her environment or that work environment.. no worries, i know the culture and how people and the way they live etc..
so wherever you're is NOT always glamorous and no matter where you're at we would rather be somewhere else.. maybe this is why you liked algeria.
thanks for wishing me luck.

Good luck - really. Just make sure you stay realistic with your expectations.

First things first, not in the necessary order.

Protect yourself and YOUR finances. Get copies of EVERYTHING! Use disposable camera if you need to make copies that way. Prepare for lock change at home - have reputable locksmith handy 24/7- inform that locksmith of possible oncall in the middle of the night. GET a so-called "vacation" escape plan - a refundable ticket to the next town or so... for your safety - don't go to your family. They can be tracked and .... undesireable results can stem from that. Remove any extra keys that HE has on his persons or at least lose his key on purpose... and make him think he lost his key (if possible). Have a suitcase ready full of copies, change of clothes, toiletries, and petty cash ACT normal - doesn't require Academy Awards to do this. have cell phone on your body and be prepared for 911, or video evidence... I mean you have to turn on video fast. Learn how to use a recording machine. Lot of smartphones have voice recorders. RESTRAIN yourself from hitting him - he can go VAWA on you. If you're hit, then you have evidence. Slip a note to your trusted neighbor to be on the alert.... Get divorce attorney or at least papers ready and you can file for Divorce In Absentia in case they bust his chops. Call these Alphabet men: FBI, ICE, CIA, DEA, ATF, SBI (state bureau investigations), FIDC, whatever... Contact the bank whom he banks with, and alert them about these "suspicious" monies.
We need to stop these criminals and PROTECT Americans!
Sincerely, E

First things first, not in the necessary order.

Protect yourself and YOUR finances. Get copies of EVERYTHING! Use disposable camera if you need to make copies that way. Prepare for lock change at home - have reputable locksmith handy 24/7- inform that locksmith of possible oncall in the middle of the night. GET a so-called "vacation" escape plan - a refundable ticket to the next town or so... for your safety - don't go to your family. They can be tracked and .... undesireable results can stem from that. Remove any extra keys that HE has on his persons or at least lose his key on purpose... and make him think he lost his key (if possible). Have a suitcase ready full of copies, change of clothes, toiletries, and petty cash ACT normal - doesn't require Academy Awards to do this. have cell phone on your body and be prepared for 911, or video evidence... I mean you have to turn on video fast. Learn how to use a recording machine. Lot of smartphones have voice recorders. RESTRAIN yourself from hitting him - he can go VAWA on you. If you're hit, then you have evidence. Slip a note to your trusted neighbor to be on the alert.... Get divorce attorney or at least papers ready and you can file for Divorce In Absentia in case they bust his chops. Call these Alphabet men: FBI, ICE, CIA, DEA, ATF, SBI (state bureau investigations), FIDC, whatever... Contact the bank whom he banks with, and alert them about these "suspicious" monies.
We need to stop these criminals and PROTECT Americans!
Sincerely, E

By 'large sums of money' what are you talking about, figure-wise?
...thousands;
...tens of thousands;
...hundreds of thousands?
Can you give us an idea of the amounts?
On an aside, that kind of secretiveness in a marriage could also spell imminent doom - failure of the marriage and certain heartbreak somewhere down the road.
Now on the issue at hand, get the bank name(s) and account number(s) and if its 'serious' amounts of money, contacting the FBI is the right path. In fact if it is very VERY very serious amounts of money, the FBI will certainly offer you witness protection for helping them nab a criminal.

Do not wait until the interview if there would be one. Act now by contacting a lawyer for consultation on how to proceed with the FBI. Change the locks and protect yourself. He is clearly "not into you" when he is secretive and will not share part of his income for household expenses aside from the dough he is accumulating in the bank accounts which points to criminal activity. Several bank accounts with large sums opened in secret .....geez !
Stop fighting with him and do not threaten him with the FBI for your own protection. Divert him away from what you know and what you intent to do.
Let him think someone else tipped it off. Withdraw your support if you still can. Do it yesterday !

Ghana is right behind Nigeria in 419 frauds. Many members of these gangs will try to get to the US to help the gang by funnelling money from innocent victims to the members back home. My guess is this is what is happening. Do NOT contact local authorities they are usually not well trained in these things. Contact the FBI , you don't want to mess around with these people and you don't want them to drag you down also. These people can be very very dangerous

So agreed with you.... Immigrating to the US is a big dream for a lot of people out there, and such interview processes should not be trivialized or downplayed.

Totally inappropriate....
- looking at her breasts - when she had paid you respect and you do this to the interviewer?

Totally inappropriate....
- looking at her breasts - when she had paid you respect and you do this to the interviewer?

Totally inappropriate....
- looking at her breasts - when she had paid you respect and you do this to the interviewer?