DandT14

She's not trying to play the system. As jdh said, she asked a question. Why can't people just answer it without screaming "you're bad" at the person asking?
If, after she's told she can't use the VWP to immigrate, she goes ahead and does it anyway, then scream away.

AoS through the VWP program and the like is not a loophole. That of course doesn't mean it is not abused from time to time.
Further it doesn't look like these poor folks are out to abuse anything - they asked a question about the proper way to go about things and got an answer. No need for a bombardment.

I don't think that's how Darnell meant his statement to be taken. USCIS has long had a policy to issue advance parole to people with sufficient overstay to trigger a ban if they left. Many well-meaning but uninformed intending immigrants left the US after receiving advance parole, only to be told they triggered a ban when they left. Whether they trigger a ban now depends on how informed the CBP officer is when they try to reenter, since many field offices don't move until a formal policy directive is issued by the director. Issuing advance parole to someone who might trigger a ban if they leave is irresponsible on the part of USCIS, and borders on government entrapment. Bold text warnings in the I-131 instructions are not sufficient. If someone might trigger a ban when they leave then USCIS shouldn't issue them advance parole. That's what Darnell meant. I agree with him.

I've never heard of recent vaccinations causing an issue with a PPD. But you definitely can have positive PPD's (skin tests) and not have TB. We do them at my work and people from certain countries ALWAYS have a positive skin test but rarely have TB.

I'm not anti-divorce. But I do think people yell "abuse" and "divorce" a bit too easily here.
The situation you're living in would be stressful for anyone. It's totally understandable why you're depressed. You just had a baby too, and those hormones aren't helping the situation. Your husband is undoubtedly feeling the stress too. Yes, he has a job and gets to leave the house, but how good can he feel about himself, when he's not providing for his family?
Think this divorce thing through long and hard before you do it. It's best to live your life with as few regrets as possible.

I hope I misunderstood you.
Your new wife wants you to give up custody of your two young boys, because she wants her own? Great. Tell her to go find a guy who doesn't have children. I hope you're not even considering this. Put her on the first plane back.
Do you have any idea the damage it would do to your boys if you ship them off, essentially reject them, in favor of "new" kids? You can't do that to them. If she doesn't want your boys then she doesn't want you. End this before she gets pregnant. She will never treat your boys like her own. Don't hurt them that way, please.

Stupid would be putting yourself and your children in danger because of "stuff." Stuff is replaceable.
Your story is setting off alarm bells with me. It's too familiar (not my situation, but someone very close to me) and if your husband is anything like that man, it could get a lot worse. When someone like that doesn't get what they want, the threats escalate, and eventually they start carrying out the threats. It's not worth it, in my opinion.
I know the injustice stings. But you have to make the smartest choice.

I hope I misunderstood you.
Your new wife wants you to give up custody of your two young boys, because she wants her own? Great. Tell her to go find a guy who doesn't have children. I hope you're not even considering this. Put her on the first plane back.
Do you have any idea the damage it would do to your boys if you ship them off, essentially reject them, in favor of "new" kids? You can't do that to them. If she doesn't want your boys then she doesn't want you. End this before she gets pregnant. She will never treat your boys like her own. Don't hurt them that way, please.

I hope I misunderstood you.
Your new wife wants you to give up custody of your two young boys, because she wants her own? Great. Tell her to go find a guy who doesn't have children. I hope you're not even considering this. Put her on the first plane back.
Do you have any idea the damage it would do to your boys if you ship them off, essentially reject them, in favor of "new" kids? You can't do that to them. If she doesn't want your boys then she doesn't want you. End this before she gets pregnant. She will never treat your boys like her own. Don't hurt them that way, please.

I hope I misunderstood you.
Your new wife wants you to give up custody of your two young boys, because she wants her own? Great. Tell her to go find a guy who doesn't have children. I hope you're not even considering this. Put her on the first plane back.
Do you have any idea the damage it would do to your boys if you ship them off, essentially reject them, in favor of "new" kids? You can't do that to them. If she doesn't want your boys then she doesn't want you. End this before she gets pregnant. She will never treat your boys like her own. Don't hurt them that way, please.

I hope I misunderstood you.
Your new wife wants you to give up custody of your two young boys, because she wants her own? Great. Tell her to go find a guy who doesn't have children. I hope you're not even considering this. Put her on the first plane back.
Do you have any idea the damage it would do to your boys if you ship them off, essentially reject them, in favor of "new" kids? You can't do that to them. If she doesn't want your boys then she doesn't want you. End this before she gets pregnant. She will never treat your boys like her own. Don't hurt them that way, please.

Yes, I know a lot about abuse. I also know that we live in a culture where it's actually trendy to call EVERYTHING abuse. It's getting to the point where when a man gets mad and raises his voice (a totally normal human behavior) he's called abusive. She said "he raised his hand in anger". How do you interpret that? I interpret it as physically raising his hand, not hitting. Some people do that, it doesn't mean anything. I'd be more interested in knowing if she actually felt threatened. If my husband raised his hand to me, I'd probably fall down laughing. The rest of her story is being told from the perspective of someone who is seeing everything through a negative filter. How many women say their husband is "controlling" or "isolating"? It doesn't mean it's true, especially if she's dealing with postpartum depression. She has a 5 month old baby, her hormones are still out of control. I'd rather see her get help for that first before she labels her husband an abuser and runs out the door.
I support women who leave situations that are unhealthy for themselves and their children. But you have to be sure that's what's actually going on before you destroy a man's life. Seems clear to me he's suffering too. Well, suffering or cheating.

Yes, I know a lot about abuse. I also know that we live in a culture where it's actually trendy to call EVERYTHING abuse. It's getting to the point where when a man gets mad and raises his voice (a totally normal human behavior) he's called abusive. She said "he raised his hand in anger". How do you interpret that? I interpret it as physically raising his hand, not hitting. Some people do that, it doesn't mean anything. I'd be more interested in knowing if she actually felt threatened. If my husband raised his hand to me, I'd probably fall down laughing. The rest of her story is being told from the perspective of someone who is seeing everything through a negative filter. How many women say their husband is "controlling" or "isolating"? It doesn't mean it's true, especially if she's dealing with postpartum depression. She has a 5 month old baby, her hormones are still out of control. I'd rather see her get help for that first before she labels her husband an abuser and runs out the door.
I support women who leave situations that are unhealthy for themselves and their children. But you have to be sure that's what's actually going on before you destroy a man's life. Seems clear to me he's suffering too. Well, suffering or cheating.

I hope I misunderstood you.
Your new wife wants you to give up custody of your two young boys, because she wants her own? Great. Tell her to go find a guy who doesn't have children. I hope you're not even considering this. Put her on the first plane back.
Do you have any idea the damage it would do to your boys if you ship them off, essentially reject them, in favor of "new" kids? You can't do that to them. If she doesn't want your boys then she doesn't want you. End this before she gets pregnant. She will never treat your boys like her own. Don't hurt them that way, please.

I hope I misunderstood you.
Your new wife wants you to give up custody of your two young boys, because she wants her own? Great. Tell her to go find a guy who doesn't have children. I hope you're not even considering this. Put her on the first plane back.
Do you have any idea the damage it would do to your boys if you ship them off, essentially reject them, in favor of "new" kids? You can't do that to them. If she doesn't want your boys then she doesn't want you. End this before she gets pregnant. She will never treat your boys like her own. Don't hurt them that way, please.

I hope I misunderstood you.
Your new wife wants you to give up custody of your two young boys, because she wants her own? Great. Tell her to go find a guy who doesn't have children. I hope you're not even considering this. Put her on the first plane back.
Do you have any idea the damage it would do to your boys if you ship them off, essentially reject them, in favor of "new" kids? You can't do that to them. If she doesn't want your boys then she doesn't want you. End this before she gets pregnant. She will never treat your boys like her own. Don't hurt them that way, please.

I hope I misunderstood you.
Your new wife wants you to give up custody of your two young boys, because she wants her own? Great. Tell her to go find a guy who doesn't have children. I hope you're not even considering this. Put her on the first plane back.
Do you have any idea the damage it would do to your boys if you ship them off, essentially reject them, in favor of "new" kids? You can't do that to them. If she doesn't want your boys then she doesn't want you. End this before she gets pregnant. She will never treat your boys like her own. Don't hurt them that way, please.

I hope I misunderstood you.
Your new wife wants you to give up custody of your two young boys, because she wants her own? Great. Tell her to go find a guy who doesn't have children. I hope you're not even considering this. Put her on the first plane back.
Do you have any idea the damage it would do to your boys if you ship them off, essentially reject them, in favor of "new" kids? You can't do that to them. If she doesn't want your boys then she doesn't want you. End this before she gets pregnant. She will never treat your boys like her own. Don't hurt them that way, please.

I hope I misunderstood you.
Your new wife wants you to give up custody of your two young boys, because she wants her own? Great. Tell her to go find a guy who doesn't have children. I hope you're not even considering this. Put her on the first plane back.
Do you have any idea the damage it would do to your boys if you ship them off, essentially reject them, in favor of "new" kids? You can't do that to them. If she doesn't want your boys then she doesn't want you. End this before she gets pregnant. She will never treat your boys like her own. Don't hurt them that way, please.

I hope I misunderstood you.
Your new wife wants you to give up custody of your two young boys, because she wants her own? Great. Tell her to go find a guy who doesn't have children. I hope you're not even considering this. Put her on the first plane back.
Do you have any idea the damage it would do to your boys if you ship them off, essentially reject them, in favor of "new" kids? You can't do that to them. If she doesn't want your boys then she doesn't want you. End this before she gets pregnant. She will never treat your boys like her own. Don't hurt them that way, please.

I hope I misunderstood you.
Your new wife wants you to give up custody of your two young boys, because she wants her own? Great. Tell her to go find a guy who doesn't have children. I hope you're not even considering this. Put her on the first plane back.
Do you have any idea the damage it would do to your boys if you ship them off, essentially reject them, in favor of "new" kids? You can't do that to them. If she doesn't want your boys then she doesn't want you. End this before she gets pregnant. She will never treat your boys like her own. Don't hurt them that way, please.

I hope I misunderstood you.
Your new wife wants you to give up custody of your two young boys, because she wants her own? Great. Tell her to go find a guy who doesn't have children. I hope you're not even considering this. Put her on the first plane back.
Do you have any idea the damage it would do to your boys if you ship them off, essentially reject them, in favor of "new" kids? You can't do that to them. If she doesn't want your boys then she doesn't want you. End this before she gets pregnant. She will never treat your boys like her own. Don't hurt them that way, please.

I hope I misunderstood you.
Your new wife wants you to give up custody of your two young boys, because she wants her own? Great. Tell her to go find a guy who doesn't have children. I hope you're not even considering this. Put her on the first plane back.
Do you have any idea the damage it would do to your boys if you ship them off, essentially reject them, in favor of "new" kids? You can't do that to them. If she doesn't want your boys then she doesn't want you. End this before she gets pregnant. She will never treat your boys like her own. Don't hurt them that way, please.

I hope I misunderstood you.
Your new wife wants you to give up custody of your two young boys, because she wants her own? Great. Tell her to go find a guy who doesn't have children. I hope you're not even considering this. Put her on the first plane back.
Do you have any idea the damage it would do to your boys if you ship them off, essentially reject them, in favor of "new" kids? You can't do that to them. If she doesn't want your boys then she doesn't want you. End this before she gets pregnant. She will never treat your boys like her own. Don't hurt them that way, please.

I hope I misunderstood you.
Your new wife wants you to give up custody of your two young boys, because she wants her own? Great. Tell her to go find a guy who doesn't have children. I hope you're not even considering this. Put her on the first plane back.
Do you have any idea the damage it would do to your boys if you ship them off, essentially reject them, in favor of "new" kids? You can't do that to them. If she doesn't want your boys then she doesn't want you. End this before she gets pregnant. She will never treat your boys like her own. Don't hurt them that way, please.