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What a bunch of BS, has there been any studies showing that the "good American" is the naturalized that considers himself American only? Please, give us a break, this country is a pure product of immigration...what are you afraid of?

She does have the right to know about who is living wth the kids, just as you do. If you did not inquire when her "other" moved in because of apathy or because you trusted her judgement, that is fine. But she has the right to know whether she is doing it out of concern or to make your life difficult may yet be determined.
No the USCIS is not in the habit of giving Visas to felons and drug dealers, and that is why they asked for the information they do, such as the G325A but they will not share that info with your ex, so if you tell her that the person is fine because she got a Visa, she may accept that or she may ask for the info to find out herself. If she has reason to believe there may be a danger to the children a court will back her up and require you provide basic information to determine if the concerns are valid.
I'm sorry you and your ex do not have a good enough relationship that you can introduce them and let her see for yourself that she is a good person, but as you can see just from the stories on here there have been many bad calls. Just give her the info and let her see that it is Okay.

Hi, I have read many of your posts and I felt compelled to reply today.
I hope my response comes across as helpful and I am in no way condemning you or your feelings, just putting across my point of view from the limited scope of your relationship that I have from reading your posts.
You seem to be placing all the blame on your husband for the problems you are having.
In my humble opinion, you should have discussed your issues while you were together instead of setting them aside, it is much easier to deal with things together face to face. I always take the view point that you cannot sort out a problem within a relationship on your own, many may disagree, but how can you realistically fix something with two parts by only utilizing one?
I think the main issue here is your cultural differences and they really need to be discussed. Your life and your husband's life are very different; the relationships within a family unit are different and the cultural expectations re: marriage are clearly different.It seems to me these are things you should have discussed before your marriage (but hindsight is always 20/20).
You want one thing and your husband wants another. You are disagreeing on fundamental things in regards to marriage. Regardless of who is right or wrong having views which are so clearly polar opposites can make for a very copasetic relationship, especially considering the fact you do not seem to work through the disagreement (this action needs to stop in my opinion).
Here are some things I feel you should do:
firstly, if I were you I would put myself in my husbands shoes and I would ask him to do the same.
I know you have done "the budgets", but how about asking him to do one and ask him how much he feels you can realistically send back to India after he has done some projections?
Consider your husbands role in his family unit, is he the provider? Is that how it is always been? If the roles were reversed how would you feel? Are you taking the provider away and potentionally leaving the family without(regardless of whether his brother could support the family or not, how does the dynamic work now)?
Ask your husband how he wants things to work once he is in the US? Does he feel you should keep seperate bank accounts, or roll everything in jointly? Does he want his things and his and yours are yours? If he wants everything seperate, does he understand he would be putting himself through law school?
Your husband and yourself and both making huge changes an sacrifices to be together, but he is leaving everything for you. Regardless of whether his quality of life may be better in America, leaving what you know is hard. Apart from the normal stress of moving to a different country that he is not familiar with your husband is leaving his family, a family that from your posts have stated that he supports. Your husband may feel guilt or regret and he may be being pressured from his family, have you asked? Your husband's loyalties lie not only with you and what you want but with his family aswell and from my limited knowlege in Indian culture (I have a few work colleagues) family is of the utmost importance and the son's generally help support the family.
Talk, talk, talk and talk some more BUT more importantly listen!
Ultimately, if your differences are too great or you are not able to settle your issues before he comes to live with you, then having him in the US could do more harm than good.
Please spend this time during your visa process to figure out if this is what you really want, if you can your husband can make it work despite your differences. It could be a lot worse if your husband got here and nothing was resolved.

I feel so sorry for you OP. I know you were only trying to do the right thing and you probably did not consider the ramifications clearly, this was an error in judgement, but we all make mistakes (is my opinion).
I wish you the very best luck, you have been given good advice here. If you ever need to chat, my inbox is always available.
Britt

I feel so sorry for you OP. I know you were only trying to do the right thing and you probably did not consider the ramifications clearly, this was an error in judgement, but we all make mistakes (is my opinion).
I wish you the very best luck, you have been given good advice here. If you ever need to chat, my inbox is always available.
Britt

I agree. Hah Try to live together and see what happens. He will support his family in India forever.

I often heard it's not a good idea to involve your parents to certain degree in your marriage, as they may not always look at things objectively, and may be more likely to lean towards showing preference to their child. I've heard quite a few marriage counselors mentioned it too. Perhaps it's better to seek the help of an independent third party, preferable a counselor, as they will look at things from a neutral perspective.
It might be a good idea that she and her husband had some sessions with the counselor she was seeing, since she mentioned that the counselor was familiar with the Indian culture.

Hi, I have read many of your posts and I felt compelled to reply today.
I hope my response comes across as helpful and I am in no way condemning you or your feelings, just putting across my point of view from the limited scope of your relationship that I have from reading your posts.
You seem to be placing all the blame on your husband for the problems you are having.
In my humble opinion, you should have discussed your issues while you were together instead of setting them aside, it is much easier to deal with things together face to face. I always take the view point that you cannot sort out a problem within a relationship on your own, many may disagree, but how can you realistically fix something with two parts by only utilizing one?
I think the main issue here is your cultural differences and they really need to be discussed. Your life and your husband's life are very different; the relationships within a family unit are different and the cultural expectations re: marriage are clearly different.It seems to me these are things you should have discussed before your marriage (but hindsight is always 20/20).
You want one thing and your husband wants another. You are disagreeing on fundamental things in regards to marriage. Regardless of who is right or wrong having views which are so clearly polar opposites can make for a very copasetic relationship, especially considering the fact you do not seem to work through the disagreement (this action needs to stop in my opinion).
Here are some things I feel you should do:
firstly, if I were you I would put myself in my husbands shoes and I would ask him to do the same.
I know you have done "the budgets", but how about asking him to do one and ask him how much he feels you can realistically send back to India after he has done some projections?
Consider your husbands role in his family unit, is he the provider? Is that how it is always been? If the roles were reversed how would you feel? Are you taking the provider away and potentionally leaving the family without(regardless of whether his brother could support the family or not, how does the dynamic work now)?
Ask your husband how he wants things to work once he is in the US? Does he feel you should keep seperate bank accounts, or roll everything in jointly? Does he want his things and his and yours are yours? If he wants everything seperate, does he understand he would be putting himself through law school?
Your husband and yourself and both making huge changes an sacrifices to be together, but he is leaving everything for you. Regardless of whether his quality of life may be better in America, leaving what you know is hard. Apart from the normal stress of moving to a different country that he is not familiar with your husband is leaving his family, a family that from your posts have stated that he supports. Your husband may feel guilt or regret and he may be being pressured from his family, have you asked? Your husband's loyalties lie not only with you and what you want but with his family aswell and from my limited knowlege in Indian culture (I have a few work colleagues) family is of the utmost importance and the son's generally help support the family.
Talk, talk, talk and talk some more BUT more importantly listen!
Ultimately, if your differences are too great or you are not able to settle your issues before he comes to live with you, then having him in the US could do more harm than good.
Please spend this time during your visa process to figure out if this is what you really want, if you can your husband can make it work despite your differences. It could be a lot worse if your husband got here and nothing was resolved.

Hi, I have read many of your posts and I felt compelled to reply today.
I hope my response comes across as helpful and I am in no way condemning you or your feelings, just putting across my point of view from the limited scope of your relationship that I have from reading your posts.
You seem to be placing all the blame on your husband for the problems you are having.
In my humble opinion, you should have discussed your issues while you were together instead of setting them aside, it is much easier to deal with things together face to face. I always take the view point that you cannot sort out a problem within a relationship on your own, many may disagree, but how can you realistically fix something with two parts by only utilizing one?
I think the main issue here is your cultural differences and they really need to be discussed. Your life and your husband's life are very different; the relationships within a family unit are different and the cultural expectations re: marriage are clearly different.It seems to me these are things you should have discussed before your marriage (but hindsight is always 20/20).
You want one thing and your husband wants another. You are disagreeing on fundamental things in regards to marriage. Regardless of who is right or wrong having views which are so clearly polar opposites can make for a very copasetic relationship, especially considering the fact you do not seem to work through the disagreement (this action needs to stop in my opinion).
Here are some things I feel you should do:
firstly, if I were you I would put myself in my husbands shoes and I would ask him to do the same.
I know you have done "the budgets", but how about asking him to do one and ask him how much he feels you can realistically send back to India after he has done some projections?
Consider your husbands role in his family unit, is he the provider? Is that how it is always been? If the roles were reversed how would you feel? Are you taking the provider away and potentionally leaving the family without(regardless of whether his brother could support the family or not, how does the dynamic work now)?
Ask your husband how he wants things to work once he is in the US? Does he feel you should keep seperate bank accounts, or roll everything in jointly? Does he want his things and his and yours are yours? If he wants everything seperate, does he understand he would be putting himself through law school?
Your husband and yourself and both making huge changes an sacrifices to be together, but he is leaving everything for you. Regardless of whether his quality of life may be better in America, leaving what you know is hard. Apart from the normal stress of moving to a different country that he is not familiar with your husband is leaving his family, a family that from your posts have stated that he supports. Your husband may feel guilt or regret and he may be being pressured from his family, have you asked? Your husband's loyalties lie not only with you and what you want but with his family aswell and from my limited knowlege in Indian culture (I have a few work colleagues) family is of the utmost importance and the son's generally help support the family.
Talk, talk, talk and talk some more BUT more importantly listen!
Ultimately, if your differences are too great or you are not able to settle your issues before he comes to live with you, then having him in the US could do more harm than good.
Please spend this time during your visa process to figure out if this is what you really want, if you can your husband can make it work despite your differences. It could be a lot worse if your husband got here and nothing was resolved.

Hi, I have read many of your posts and I felt compelled to reply today.
I hope my response comes across as helpful and I am in no way condemning you or your feelings, just putting across my point of view from the limited scope of your relationship that I have from reading your posts.
You seem to be placing all the blame on your husband for the problems you are having.
In my humble opinion, you should have discussed your issues while you were together instead of setting them aside, it is much easier to deal with things together face to face. I always take the view point that you cannot sort out a problem within a relationship on your own, many may disagree, but how can you realistically fix something with two parts by only utilizing one?
I think the main issue here is your cultural differences and they really need to be discussed. Your life and your husband's life are very different; the relationships within a family unit are different and the cultural expectations re: marriage are clearly different.It seems to me these are things you should have discussed before your marriage (but hindsight is always 20/20).
You want one thing and your husband wants another. You are disagreeing on fundamental things in regards to marriage. Regardless of who is right or wrong having views which are so clearly polar opposites can make for a very copasetic relationship, especially considering the fact you do not seem to work through the disagreement (this action needs to stop in my opinion).
Here are some things I feel you should do:
firstly, if I were you I would put myself in my husbands shoes and I would ask him to do the same.
I know you have done "the budgets", but how about asking him to do one and ask him how much he feels you can realistically send back to India after he has done some projections?
Consider your husbands role in his family unit, is he the provider? Is that how it is always been? If the roles were reversed how would you feel? Are you taking the provider away and potentionally leaving the family without(regardless of whether his brother could support the family or not, how does the dynamic work now)?
Ask your husband how he wants things to work once he is in the US? Does he feel you should keep seperate bank accounts, or roll everything in jointly? Does he want his things and his and yours are yours? If he wants everything seperate, does he understand he would be putting himself through law school?
Your husband and yourself and both making huge changes an sacrifices to be together, but he is leaving everything for you. Regardless of whether his quality of life may be better in America, leaving what you know is hard. Apart from the normal stress of moving to a different country that he is not familiar with your husband is leaving his family, a family that from your posts have stated that he supports. Your husband may feel guilt or regret and he may be being pressured from his family, have you asked? Your husband's loyalties lie not only with you and what you want but with his family aswell and from my limited knowlege in Indian culture (I have a few work colleagues) family is of the utmost importance and the son's generally help support the family.
Talk, talk, talk and talk some more BUT more importantly listen!
Ultimately, if your differences are too great or you are not able to settle your issues before he comes to live with you, then having him in the US could do more harm than good.
Please spend this time during your visa process to figure out if this is what you really want, if you can your husband can make it work despite your differences. It could be a lot worse if your husband got here and nothing was resolved.

Hi, I have read many of your posts and I felt compelled to reply today.
I hope my response comes across as helpful and I am in no way condemning you or your feelings, just putting across my point of view from the limited scope of your relationship that I have from reading your posts.
You seem to be placing all the blame on your husband for the problems you are having.
In my humble opinion, you should have discussed your issues while you were together instead of setting them aside, it is much easier to deal with things together face to face. I always take the view point that you cannot sort out a problem within a relationship on your own, many may disagree, but how can you realistically fix something with two parts by only utilizing one?
I think the main issue here is your cultural differences and they really need to be discussed. Your life and your husband's life are very different; the relationships within a family unit are different and the cultural expectations re: marriage are clearly different.It seems to me these are things you should have discussed before your marriage (but hindsight is always 20/20).
You want one thing and your husband wants another. You are disagreeing on fundamental things in regards to marriage. Regardless of who is right or wrong having views which are so clearly polar opposites can make for a very copasetic relationship, especially considering the fact you do not seem to work through the disagreement (this action needs to stop in my opinion).
Here are some things I feel you should do:
firstly, if I were you I would put myself in my husbands shoes and I would ask him to do the same.
I know you have done "the budgets", but how about asking him to do one and ask him how much he feels you can realistically send back to India after he has done some projections?
Consider your husbands role in his family unit, is he the provider? Is that how it is always been? If the roles were reversed how would you feel? Are you taking the provider away and potentionally leaving the family without(regardless of whether his brother could support the family or not, how does the dynamic work now)?
Ask your husband how he wants things to work once he is in the US? Does he feel you should keep seperate bank accounts, or roll everything in jointly? Does he want his things and his and yours are yours? If he wants everything seperate, does he understand he would be putting himself through law school?
Your husband and yourself and both making huge changes an sacrifices to be together, but he is leaving everything for you. Regardless of whether his quality of life may be better in America, leaving what you know is hard. Apart from the normal stress of moving to a different country that he is not familiar with your husband is leaving his family, a family that from your posts have stated that he supports. Your husband may feel guilt or regret and he may be being pressured from his family, have you asked? Your husband's loyalties lie not only with you and what you want but with his family aswell and from my limited knowlege in Indian culture (I have a few work colleagues) family is of the utmost importance and the son's generally help support the family.
Talk, talk, talk and talk some more BUT more importantly listen!
Ultimately, if your differences are too great or you are not able to settle your issues before he comes to live with you, then having him in the US could do more harm than good.
Please spend this time during your visa process to figure out if this is what you really want, if you can your husband can make it work despite your differences. It could be a lot worse if your husband got here and nothing was resolved.

Hi, I have read many of your posts and I felt compelled to reply today.
I hope my response comes across as helpful and I am in no way condemning you or your feelings, just putting across my point of view from the limited scope of your relationship that I have from reading your posts.
You seem to be placing all the blame on your husband for the problems you are having.
In my humble opinion, you should have discussed your issues while you were together instead of setting them aside, it is much easier to deal with things together face to face. I always take the view point that you cannot sort out a problem within a relationship on your own, many may disagree, but how can you realistically fix something with two parts by only utilizing one?
I think the main issue here is your cultural differences and they really need to be discussed. Your life and your husband's life are very different; the relationships within a family unit are different and the cultural expectations re: marriage are clearly different.It seems to me these are things you should have discussed before your marriage (but hindsight is always 20/20).
You want one thing and your husband wants another. You are disagreeing on fundamental things in regards to marriage. Regardless of who is right or wrong having views which are so clearly polar opposites can make for a very copasetic relationship, especially considering the fact you do not seem to work through the disagreement (this action needs to stop in my opinion).
Here are some things I feel you should do:
firstly, if I were you I would put myself in my husbands shoes and I would ask him to do the same.
I know you have done "the budgets", but how about asking him to do one and ask him how much he feels you can realistically send back to India after he has done some projections?
Consider your husbands role in his family unit, is he the provider? Is that how it is always been? If the roles were reversed how would you feel? Are you taking the provider away and potentionally leaving the family without(regardless of whether his brother could support the family or not, how does the dynamic work now)?
Ask your husband how he wants things to work once he is in the US? Does he feel you should keep seperate bank accounts, or roll everything in jointly? Does he want his things and his and yours are yours? If he wants everything seperate, does he understand he would be putting himself through law school?
Your husband and yourself and both making huge changes an sacrifices to be together, but he is leaving everything for you. Regardless of whether his quality of life may be better in America, leaving what you know is hard. Apart from the normal stress of moving to a different country that he is not familiar with your husband is leaving his family, a family that from your posts have stated that he supports. Your husband may feel guilt or regret and he may be being pressured from his family, have you asked? Your husband's loyalties lie not only with you and what you want but with his family aswell and from my limited knowlege in Indian culture (I have a few work colleagues) family is of the utmost importance and the son's generally help support the family.
Talk, talk, talk and talk some more BUT more importantly listen!
Ultimately, if your differences are too great or you are not able to settle your issues before he comes to live with you, then having him in the US could do more harm than good.
Please spend this time during your visa process to figure out if this is what you really want, if you can your husband can make it work despite your differences. It could be a lot worse if your husband got here and nothing was resolved.

Hi, I have read many of your posts and I felt compelled to reply today.
I hope my response comes across as helpful and I am in no way condemning you or your feelings, just putting across my point of view from the limited scope of your relationship that I have from reading your posts.
You seem to be placing all the blame on your husband for the problems you are having.
In my humble opinion, you should have discussed your issues while you were together instead of setting them aside, it is much easier to deal with things together face to face. I always take the view point that you cannot sort out a problem within a relationship on your own, many may disagree, but how can you realistically fix something with two parts by only utilizing one?
I think the main issue here is your cultural differences and they really need to be discussed. Your life and your husband's life are very different; the relationships within a family unit are different and the cultural expectations re: marriage are clearly different.It seems to me these are things you should have discussed before your marriage (but hindsight is always 20/20).
You want one thing and your husband wants another. You are disagreeing on fundamental things in regards to marriage. Regardless of who is right or wrong having views which are so clearly polar opposites can make for a very copasetic relationship, especially considering the fact you do not seem to work through the disagreement (this action needs to stop in my opinion).
Here are some things I feel you should do:
firstly, if I were you I would put myself in my husbands shoes and I would ask him to do the same.
I know you have done "the budgets", but how about asking him to do one and ask him how much he feels you can realistically send back to India after he has done some projections?
Consider your husbands role in his family unit, is he the provider? Is that how it is always been? If the roles were reversed how would you feel? Are you taking the provider away and potentionally leaving the family without(regardless of whether his brother could support the family or not, how does the dynamic work now)?
Ask your husband how he wants things to work once he is in the US? Does he feel you should keep seperate bank accounts, or roll everything in jointly? Does he want his things and his and yours are yours? If he wants everything seperate, does he understand he would be putting himself through law school?
Your husband and yourself and both making huge changes an sacrifices to be together, but he is leaving everything for you. Regardless of whether his quality of life may be better in America, leaving what you know is hard. Apart from the normal stress of moving to a different country that he is not familiar with your husband is leaving his family, a family that from your posts have stated that he supports. Your husband may feel guilt or regret and he may be being pressured from his family, have you asked? Your husband's loyalties lie not only with you and what you want but with his family aswell and from my limited knowlege in Indian culture (I have a few work colleagues) family is of the utmost importance and the son's generally help support the family.
Talk, talk, talk and talk some more BUT more importantly listen!
Ultimately, if your differences are too great or you are not able to settle your issues before he comes to live with you, then having him in the US could do more harm than good.
Please spend this time during your visa process to figure out if this is what you really want, if you can your husband can make it work despite your differences. It could be a lot worse if your husband got here and nothing was resolved.

Hi, I have read many of your posts and I felt compelled to reply today.
I hope my response comes across as helpful and I am in no way condemning you or your feelings, just putting across my point of view from the limited scope of your relationship that I have from reading your posts.
You seem to be placing all the blame on your husband for the problems you are having.
In my humble opinion, you should have discussed your issues while you were together instead of setting them aside, it is much easier to deal with things together face to face. I always take the view point that you cannot sort out a problem within a relationship on your own, many may disagree, but how can you realistically fix something with two parts by only utilizing one?
I think the main issue here is your cultural differences and they really need to be discussed. Your life and your husband's life are very different; the relationships within a family unit are different and the cultural expectations re: marriage are clearly different.It seems to me these are things you should have discussed before your marriage (but hindsight is always 20/20).
You want one thing and your husband wants another. You are disagreeing on fundamental things in regards to marriage. Regardless of who is right or wrong having views which are so clearly polar opposites can make for a very copasetic relationship, especially considering the fact you do not seem to work through the disagreement (this action needs to stop in my opinion).
Here are some things I feel you should do:
firstly, if I were you I would put myself in my husbands shoes and I would ask him to do the same.
I know you have done "the budgets", but how about asking him to do one and ask him how much he feels you can realistically send back to India after he has done some projections?
Consider your husbands role in his family unit, is he the provider? Is that how it is always been? If the roles were reversed how would you feel? Are you taking the provider away and potentionally leaving the family without(regardless of whether his brother could support the family or not, how does the dynamic work now)?
Ask your husband how he wants things to work once he is in the US? Does he feel you should keep seperate bank accounts, or roll everything in jointly? Does he want his things and his and yours are yours? If he wants everything seperate, does he understand he would be putting himself through law school?
Your husband and yourself and both making huge changes an sacrifices to be together, but he is leaving everything for you. Regardless of whether his quality of life may be better in America, leaving what you know is hard. Apart from the normal stress of moving to a different country that he is not familiar with your husband is leaving his family, a family that from your posts have stated that he supports. Your husband may feel guilt or regret and he may be being pressured from his family, have you asked? Your husband's loyalties lie not only with you and what you want but with his family aswell and from my limited knowlege in Indian culture (I have a few work colleagues) family is of the utmost importance and the son's generally help support the family.
Talk, talk, talk and talk some more BUT more importantly listen!
Ultimately, if your differences are too great or you are not able to settle your issues before he comes to live with you, then having him in the US could do more harm than good.
Please spend this time during your visa process to figure out if this is what you really want, if you can your husband can make it work despite your differences. It could be a lot worse if your husband got here and nothing was resolved.

I know this might sound Dorky , but have you considered your new home town? Have you done the tourist thing there? Most people never have the chance to be a tourist in their own town. You could do a quick mini honeymoon there/ here and then take your actual honeymoon in Mexico like you planned?

I'm not really seeing a problem here?
According to the K1 flowchart (above)
After the NOA2 it is around 2 weeks for the case to be forwarded to the national visa centre from the local service centre.
Then 1-4 weeks for the case to be forwarded by the NVC to the U.S embassy in the fiance(e)'s country.
Then 1 week for the embassy to receive and process the package and then prepare a letter to be sent to the foreign fiance(e).
Then 1 week for the forms/checklist to get to the fiance(e).
Then YOU DECIDE THE TIMELINE you send the forms to the embassy.
The 1 week once you send the forms in with the medical to get the interview.
THEN the interview is scheduled for 1 month after you get the letter.
This is what I would do.
1) As soon as you get NOA2 send away for the police check and schedule the medical.
2) Work work work - 2 weeks before work ends send off the forms and information to get an interview.
3) You should get the interview around 1 month after you send off for one, your fiance will be well and truly home by then.
4) Once approved book a ticket or even book a ticket once you have the interview date (though remember no one is ensured the visa)
You would probably skip the little visit before he moves permanently but spending a few thousand is not really worth it in my opinion, especially since you stating you were trying to save money. If you really want he can visit, it is fine to visit while a k1 is pending.

You may pursue any of the tests mentioned above here, in US. In fact, many of them could be done by your primary physician and not by a gynecologist or fertility specialist. Certainly, the price will be different, BUT I have faith that you WILL be taken care of.
Other than that, I tend to agree that the quality of medical services in Romania has completely changed, in a good way. The low costs are definitely a reality and hey, if my husband-the USC- and I wanted to be treated in Romania WE WOULD get the service, no matter what country we currently reside in. Cool, huh? Therefore, I do not appreciate the unrealistic scepticism or the way people tend to generalize their own negative perceptions/observations of reality and portray a whole medical system as being bad and ineffective. Ah, I forgot- a foreign medical system!How childish is that?
Needless to say, many foreign students choose to attend Romanian medical universities, not only due to the low costs but also due to the quality of education received there!Moreover, many Romanian doctors have been successful in doing their practice in other countries; and for those who think that the "Anesthesia" chapter is being skipped, I even happen to know a family of Romanian anesthesiologists in Long Island!
But let me tell everybody what haven't changed in Romania yet: people don't visit the doctor or the dentist, unless something hurts!Period. In countryside, as some people get older- again, NOT EVERYBODY, they may even refuse to call a doctor as they think their time to dye has come and they must accept it.
Romanians, in general, are not proactive in pursuing preventive check-ups, as people do here, in US. And in my opinion, that's the main source of their problems and NOT the medical expertise or the quality of medical services.
OP-goodluck with the K-1 process; I really believe that somehow time will solve your dilemma. I'm close to 35 myself, I havent finished my school yet but I still believe that I'm not too old to have children. Many couples here have children when they are in their 30s, NOT in their 20s. Furthermore, look at those Hollywood celebrities; they are in their 40s or 50s and they end up having healthy babies!Have some trust in your good, Romanian genes and forget about the age limits imposed by our culture!

Hi all, thank you for reading and any advice you can give me!
I have not moved yet, still in K1 stage, but I am a planner, like I assume most of us here are.
My partner has health insurance through work, with Aetna Medical PPO, but in my opinion it is fairly mediocre coverage and I want him to change it and for us to have something in the works for when we get married once our K1 is approved (if we can).
I have not read anything good about this company and am so scared that if he gets sick (he has never been sick) he would not be covered and could not afford the out of pocket expenses for something costly like cancer.
My questions are:
1) Is it difficult to get coverage outside of work?
2) My partner pays $350 a month from his wages into his health insurance, does he lose that money if going off a work plan?
3) Can he even leave the work plan?
4) Coming from O/S (Australia) do I need to bring any medical records with me or will a company just cover me if I have nothing pre-existing?
4)a) What if something happened and or I had something pre-existing , would that mean I would have to join a high risk pool insurer?
4)b) Is there a time frame for pre-existing illnesses? IE/ If when I was 2, I had an illness and had it treated would I need to state that as a pre-existing condition ?
** Thanks already to Vanessa who has answered lots of my health insurance questions already! I am just sooo paranoid about health care in the US.

The personal stuff:
I am very sorry you are unhappy and feel betrayed.
If it were me, I would be looking to see if my wife wanted to work on things, if she did then I would not assume fraud; If she did not, I would assume something more fishy.
The GC stuff:
Coming here on a spousal visa gets you a 10 year GC , or is that incorrect? I believe, if she has a 10 year GC the only difference between an immigrant married to a US citizen and one no longer married to a US citizen, comes into play when applying for citizenship/naturalization. You can apply for naturalization if you have been married with the same citizen 3 years after you got the GC, but if you are no longer married, you can apply for citizenship in 5 years (well, 4 years and 9 months, with the respective restrictions for being in the US in the meantime).
The unrelated stuff:
Lastly, just so you know as well, having a "non-complicated" abortion should not hinder your chances of having children, the risk is very low (I know this is off-topic, but you mentioned it and I would hate for you to have misinformation).

The personal stuff:
I am very sorry you are unhappy and feel betrayed.
If it were me, I would be looking to see if my wife wanted to work on things, if she did then I would not assume fraud; If she did not, I would assume something more fishy.
The GC stuff:
Coming here on a spousal visa gets you a 10 year GC , or is that incorrect? I believe, if she has a 10 year GC the only difference between an immigrant married to a US citizen and one no longer married to a US citizen, comes into play when applying for citizenship/naturalization. You can apply for naturalization if you have been married with the same citizen 3 years after you got the GC, but if you are no longer married, you can apply for citizenship in 5 years (well, 4 years and 9 months, with the respective restrictions for being in the US in the meantime).
The unrelated stuff:
Lastly, just so you know as well, having a "non-complicated" abortion should not hinder your chances of having children, the risk is very low (I know this is off-topic, but you mentioned it and I would hate for you to have misinformation).

Not sure that is possible to get it done "quickly", good luck though.
If you "claim" it as fraud that means that you believe it is fraud.

A number of posts containing inappropriate comments more suitable for Off Topic than the K-1 forum have been removed. The OP is not a troll but has obviously received some inappropriate advice. Please take this opportunity to present the correct information and remember that not everyone is as familiar with the process yet as you are and is still trying to learn what is involved. If you can't respond in a supportive positive manner, then please do not respond at all.

A cultural ceremony is not required for your K1.

You said "she doesn't want to go" and you have also said she said "she wants to go home". It seems you are not sure what she wants.
My advice would be to:
1)a)File for divorce and inform her of this fact.
or
1)b)Try counselling again and let her know things need to be fixed or you do not feel you can continue in this unhappy union.
2) Give her options ie/ does she want to go home or stay and make her own way here if you do get divorced( I would not back her into a corner and tell her you are buying her a ticket back, otherwise she might make things harder for you); does she want to work on things.
I cannot believe that if you love someone or had loved them previously that you would intentionally want to hurt them, even if your marriage does dissolve, I am sure it is better to dissolve it amicably and it will probably save you from heartache/ stress/ financial loss late.
IF you both entered in to the marriage in good faith then you cannot have her "deported" . Actually YOU can never have her deported, you can only report the marriage as fraudulent AND doing things like this/ saying those things to her as threats may encourage her to do the same thing, try to hurt you, she might file VAWA , report you to police etc etc and it could get messy. You cannot have someone deported because they don't "treat you nice".

Hi,
learning to drive is tough for anyone.
I have a few suggestions, from my own experiences, I hope they help!
1) Can your hubby go to driving lessons with you? Then he might be able to see what the teachers , teach and what they expect. He might then be able to teach you better.
2) I also asked my parents (they taught me how to drive) to let me drive around during our "lesson" and give me feedback afterwards, or to ask me to pullover to give me feedback if they felt they really needed to correct something I did straight away. Asking your teacher to save feedback and critisms to the end of the lesson made me feel more confident but also gave my parents (my teachers) perspective and time to think about how to react / respond to my driving so they weren't just yelling at me while I was driving which would have made me super nervous and scared.
3) When I first learned to drive, I would wait and stop for quite a while, until I felt safe to go or go faster. Try to explain you your hubby you are driving the way that feels right for you so as not to endanger him, yourself or other drivers.
4) Try to remain calm, do not get angry with your hubby when he is yelling at you, he is stressed, just as you are! Ask him not to get angry at you. Tell him you want to learn to do this just as he wants you to learn to do it too.
5) Give each other some incentives; when I learned to drive my Father knew he had a temper. When we went for a lesson and he successfully didn't lose his cool and yell and I did well we would treat ourselves to icecream or a dinner. These times after the lesson also gave us time to reflect on both of our performances and give feedback in a laidback setting.
** If all else fails ask your hubby to pay for lessons and tell him you feel it is better for your relationship if you do this on your own because you do not want to stress him out and you are sure he doesn't want you to be stressed or to keep failing. **