Knope2012

I don't think this process is all that complicated when you think about it.
You fill out a few forms (most of them repeat themselves, and they aren't difficult to fill out since they're about YOU), supply some evidence, write a check or two, show up for an interview that can sometimes last all of 5 minutes, and you're good to go.
Yes, there's waiting and yes some people at USCIS don't know their job as well as they should, but the system the way it is works for the most part. People who cheat the system and commit fraud are what made the system the way it is today and the way it unfortunately needs to be.
Time consuming and hell on your patience, sure, but complicated? Not really.

This rumor is spread by men that don't want to deal with a wife in the midst of pregnany hormones. They just want to see the finished product.

Here's my interpretation and speculation of what the redflags were.
The wife has overstayed her visa. She meets, falls in love with, and gets married to a USC man on disability in a matter of months.
Included with their application is pictures which were, at best, confusing. (Apparently there were pictures of friends in there?) At worst, they looked staged. The first question out of the IO when she saw the wife was "who are you?" That implies to me that she felt she had seen pictures of someone other than the wife in the application.
Also included with the application was a sealed I-864 package, demonstrating that the sponsor didn't really trust them with her information. Somehow the IO knew the maiden name of the sponsor, but the applicants did not. (When did the sponsor/friend change her name? How long have they been friends?) No one will ever know what else the sponsor might have thrown in that envelope.
We don't know what the other evidence included with the application was. But the evidence brought to the interview was, for the most part, weak.
Maybe there are lessons to be learned there for others. In any case, I don't see racism or discrimination. I see an IO doing their job. Maybe not nicely, but they're not required to be nice.

I'm sorry you felt I was accusing you of fraud, I at no point suggested such a thing, and instead was trying to show you what the IO seemed to be saying from their constant questions about Laura, and their comments about your financial situation.
I said it before and I'll say it again, this Laura person is very important. It would not be the first time someone didn't know the full truth about someone else. I'm not accusing her of anything, but maybe she has the same name as someone who has done something, maybe she looks like someone who has. I'd say it's name related though, especially as they referred to her as her maiden rather than married name.
But that's all moot because, as you said, you simply posted to tell people that they can request the interview end and speak with someone higher up the chain. You don't want help with your case, you have a lawyer. May I suggest then, if I may, that you report this thread to be closed by a mod as you have succeeded in your purpose to alert people.

Ok, well you clearly don't need any help. So I hope everyone reads this and quits trying to help you.

You know "felt" isn't fact. The officer, by the writings of the OP, never mentioned race at any point in the interview.
I've said this before, but when someone is self-conscious about something they tend to see what might not be there. Take, for example, getting your hair cut. If it's some new radical change and you're not 100% sure about it, you might hear someone laughing behind you and wonder if it was about you, you might see your friends and they don't say anything about it so you think "well if they liked it they'd say right?". If you saw them whispering as you walked up you'd assume it was about your hair and it's just so awful.
The OP needs to stop looking at his race and her race as an issue. Look instead at the other things the officer did or said. Stop being indignant about what they THOUGHT she was implying and instead look at what she said.
From the OP its obvious there's a red flag somewhere. The OP hasn't posted what information they mailed with the application, only what information they brought with them to the interview. From the IO's point of view... 4 months after meeting a illegal alien (with around 2 years of overstay), the OP married her and then they filed AOS. They have 30 affidavits attesting to relationship but they don't really mean anything, especially if the IO believes the marriage was arranged so the illegal alien was able to remain in the US, because of COURSE the OP's wife's friends would say the marriage is legit, they don't want her to leave, and the OP's friends would lie so he gets money.
This Laura person seems to be a bit of a trip up so I'm wondering if this Laura person has ALSO filed some form of paperwork and is suspected of marrying simply to remain. It would make sense if they believe you're part of some immigration ring... in fact, in re-reading your OP this is what I think is happening. This Laura person seems to be important, then she mentions how is the OP supposed to support a kid which implies that she thinks money has changed hands, or the OP's wife is working illegally or something else. I believe they think this marriage is fraud, you're unable to work so you accepted the chance to marry an illegal alien and get paid to help her AOS. Perhaps you should also find out what's going on with the 30 people who did affidavits. If they are in the middle of a process, there could be something you don't know and the age old saying "be careful who your friends are" might be playing a part here...

I thought we lived in a time when people knew how to prevent pregnancy. If you cannot afford the cost of having a baby or the baby itself then don't have one. It is not anyone else's responsibility.
This is how it works:
Sex=baby. If you cannot stop the baby with protection (and you cannot handle having one) then don't have sex. Simple.

Let's not misread my post. I said "if they start expediting based on pregnancy then people will start getting knocked up to save time". [emphasis added] I did not say you DID do that, just that if they started making it quicker for people who got pregnant people WOULD do that. It's not implying those kids would be unwanted either. People would just speed up their "family plans" in order to be together quicker. The smallest hope of getting through this process quicker will persuade anyone to do almost anything that's not illegal.
I also did not suggest you were poor. I said "financial hardship" would not be a good thing for you seeing you need to prove you'll support your fiancee (and soon child). In fact, you say you earn 5 times... that makes you "hardship" even less believable.
You need to develop a thicker skin if you think I was judging and criticizing you. USCIS can (and often do) do or say much worse.

Settle down, no one on this thread implied that you did as such.

Well, duh, how else are you gonna win over an insecure girl? By complimenting her, and laying it thick too. Read your own posts, I am too lazy to go back. You said it yourself that you are taken by his good looks, and young age, and that you see yourself as being out of his league.
And how did he show you off? As the love of his life, or as his victim, ripe for the milking? You would be surprised just how cruel people are, I know guys that would "show off" their new ladies to their friends, that snickered behind their backs, knowing the moment they put out, they're gone.

Dude, she's in medical school. Not exactly getting a communications degree from her local community college. Plus, it's obvious if you read her other posts, it's obvious that the money is about making a token gesture and not actually about paying her expenses.

That is kind of naive, sorry No black person, ever has been racist towards an Indian or a Muslim?

Being an African American man, I can break this down for you:
Back in the "good ole days" when slavery finally ended, there was still a lot of segregation going on here in the states, especially in the deep south. As african americans, we were told that we were inferior to white people, we couldn't eat in the same restaurants, swim in the same pools, or even go to the same schools. Heck, there are some famous cases of black men losing their lives for whistling at white women. Saying you were black and proud meant we were equal to everyone one else in the world, not 3/4 human like some people believe or part monkey.
Scholarships for black people were to ensure we got the the same treatment as everyone else. Google James Meredith, and you will see what they had to go through back then. He needed an army to protect him on his first day of school.

Are you serious OP? Add this to your other posts and this relationship is one huge disaster.

sorry OP.. but this thread needs to be closed.. seriously.. everyone here is just being repetative and just saying the same thing.. i know you need advice but it has been given.. 20x over saying just leave already.. how many more do you need?

OP - it is clear you are not happy. It doesn't matter what a catch other people think he is. You are not happy.
Are you really going to stay where you are because of the fear that there will never be a better man out there for you?
Life is beautiful. Be happy. Happiness does not require a man. They are a bonus, when they are the right one. Good men are out there. And life is wonderful regardless of whether one crosses your path.
Go make your path!
You are smart and obviously thoughtful about your personal choices. You are kind enough to see the good in others even when they hurt you. You deserve happiness.
You are not happy. Please think very carefully about spending any more of your days and hours this way.
Best of luck...
M

the man is using you. Person after person, post after post people have told you exactly what to do. Divorce him, move on. Do you honestly think someone here is going to try to convince you to stay married to this person? At this point you are dragging your feet as well. Move on with your life!!!!!

You have got the best advice from your parents! Listen to them.
This sounds like you wanted a brand new car and you have found it. It looks so great with all the options you need (I have those options in the pink).. Then when you had test drive, BAM!, you found something wrong with the engine! The drive was not as smooth as you thought, could not speed up and you could not control it as it wouldn't go to the direction you wanted it to go!
So... why you still want that car? It looks great with full options but it cannot take you to your destination!
(I didn't mean to really compare a man to a car, I hope you know what I mean)
What about in exchange for the ability to be yourself, to love yourself and to be proud of yourself?
Stop thinking about dating, searching.. you are not that desperate. Happiness comes from within, you don't need to have anyone to make you happy until you find the right one who really make you proud to be yourself and loves you as who you really are.
It is your choices.. to be suffered in marriage with this man for the rest of your life or to take a chance to find the right one which may come tomorrow, next month, next year, next 10 years or may be never.. but you can be happy throughout all those time.
It is not going to happen.

to the op.. let me start by apologizing to what i have to say.. there is no way to suger coat it and it seems that everyone here is pretty much saying the same thing.. you need to get your s#$#$t together and stop dreaming of what a good life you will be having by keeping your marriage intact.. you are a grown woman and need to make wise decisions.. there is no such thing as "and they lived happily ever after" anymore.. stop living a fairy tale life and just divorce the SOB and move on..

That's one perspective, sure - but I'm sticking to mine.

A virtual CPA that needs to be shown a loan repayment calculator? Something wrong with this picture. It's like showing a mechanic what a pair of plyers is.
Textbook manipulative triumph(again).
Being impressed with your manipulator's skill in denying your feelings is sort of like admiring how Jeffry Dahmer cut up his corpses. He probably got pretty good at it, and in isolation yeah it can be considered a skill I suppose. But when you open your eyes to what he is actually doing then it is more of an evil genius to be abhorred and not admired.
To get proficient at invalidating someone's feelings, all you need is zero empathy for them. That's what you are admiring in your husband, and why you came away sad. A person with empathy will tell you themselves how you feel and they'll do it correctly whether they have a different opinion from you or not.
What is classic about this situation is you put so much weight on what he says instead of what he does. If he just keeps repeating "I love you", he can get away with murder.

Insanity is making the same mistake over and over again but continuing to expect a different result.
Married too quick. Manipulated into it against your better judgement. You didn't talk about things beforehand. You didn't talk about things on your last visit either. Lecturing us about him needing to be mature & face the music - wow hon, look in the mirror. We just "enjoyed our time together". Yeah, I get it. Flowers and candy, kissy kissy - right on. Teen love. Totally irresponsible. When I read the part about him losing his job over seeing you while you were in India I thought wow - can it get any worse?
Exceptionally talented people are not exempt from stupid decisions. God I have made some real whoppers. But you have a naiive approach to love. Communication turns out to be vastly more important than the superficial lovey-dovey stuff you are getting an emotional high from in the short run before the train wreck of having to deal with it.
So all of this is going to hit the fan when he comes here. Oh well. I just hope that after it happens you see it all of your own doing. Sure, he's been manipulative since the day he met you but you are the one who right now says you have to keep running in front of the bus and not expecting it to hit you. Althouth the stuff you say to us sounds good sometimes, it is being said to us, as a sounding board, which I understand - but it isn't being said to him. Or agreed to. Both of you are pretending the last event didn't even happen. Just like before - push things off without resolving them. The important thing is to get him here quick, quick, quick!

Agree heartily with R. just above. OP, you rather remind me of me when I was much younger. I continually tried to "manufacture" relationships with totally incompatible people who weren't available to me in one or multiple ways, and I wouldn't accept otherwise. Head. Wall. Bang. Things got much better when I quit doing that.

I don't understand why the two of you didn't discuss your "issues" when you were last together.
It's so much better to hash things out face to face.