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He is trying to dodge owing you spousal support or division of property.

Statistically 50% will end up in divorce court.

Not really the point here but neither Iran nor North Korea ever wanted to invade the US, there was never any "risk" of America speaking "Iranian" or "North Korean". Neither of which is a language, by the way. They speak Korean in North Korea and Persian, Azeri, Kurdish, etc. in Iran. *Sigh*

get off her case, gary, if you have nothing nice to say, don't say anything at all, dang, you're so evil, don't you have anything better to do then monitor who writes what and play "inspector gadget" on here. geez

No they are not. Get over yourself.

u've gotta be effing kidding

Thank you, Peter Pan.
Some people have a talent for languages. Having studied English at school and watched subtitled TV all my life, I could pass for an American after less than a year in the US at 18+, a long time ago. Not the only language I learned like that, either. There's nothing suspicious about that.

Many abusive people don't want to file for a GC because they fear that by keeping the spouse "un-free" will force them to rely on the USC so the immigrant can't leave. Many men also fear "independent" women (there are a million on this board) so in an extreme version, keeping them chained keeps them dependent on the USC. That way they get a wife at home that depends on them totally no matter what they do.
I find it despicable to attack the OP's use of English as a reason to attack her or her story. The question of her English shouldn't be answered by someone who "lives with a Russian" but by people who actually speak at least two languages. Someone who speaks only one language is not capable, in my view, of understanding what it is like to learn a second language and what is possible. When someone gets attacked they would naturally get flustered and probably reply faster and make more mistakes. For a second language, speaking is not easier than writing for all people.
The OP is very possibly a hurting abused person who needs help, and is making all kinds of excuses because that is what an abused person does. USCIS can make an appropriate determination regarding her story (if she goes that route). It's not up to us.
OP - you got some good info on your options at the start of the thread.

Being Military does not make you a saint! I live in an area with one of the largest population of military in the country and let me tell you, no person, fighting for the country or not, is without fault. One of my best friends is a JAG officer, military people are in jail here for being child molesters, abusers, rapists, and more! Some of them officers! Spare us the guilt trip....
She is seeking advice, all we can do is take her at her word and steer her in the right direction.

Being a soldier and risking his life doesn't excuse abuse. Of course people are advising off her side of the story, what else would they do? That is the case for every single post here. Posters have to assume what is being said is true in order to give advice. I'm not sure where your hostility is coming from in calling her out as ridiculous and horrible based on ... the idea that she COULD be lying? We all could be, you included. But unless her spouse comes here to defend himself we will have to assume what she says is true. And it does read like a classic abusive relationship.

Because the husband is in the military he deserves more leeway? No sale. Take half of what's been told as the actual truth and the husband is not acting like a decent person.

I'm sure you would believe his side because that is what is going on right now. But actually his side is heard and mine is silent. That's why I'm still here with no papers.

This thread should likely be locked. Can't ask a question like this and not expect an emotional response.

Can I ask that we don't turn this post into an 32 page of hate and despite posting. Let's just give him facts and hope that the two shall review their relationship and move on.

I am absolutely pro-choice, but 6 months is too late. If she wanted an abortion, she should have done it months and months ago. Time to deal with the consequences.
What kind of adult takes out their hatred for another man on a child?
You have issues. The visa sounds like the least of them.

I cannot imagine any circumstance where a six month pregnancy would be terminated. It would not be an abortion, it would be a live birth. You cannot even begin to imagine the bond between mother and child, so I would guess that, once she has given birth, the odds are against her abandoning her child.
And, lastly, lying to obtain a visa to the United States is always a bad decision.

So you're wife's been here for all of three months and she doesn't have a job yet? Divorce that slacker.
Seriously, when I was a new and very young bride, trying to make my way in a foreign country, with no friends and no immediate family but my husband, I freaked out. A lot. I often thought, "I left all that behind for this -- to live in a country where people make fun of my accent, where I am always the last one to get the joke, the one who had to and has to compromise all the time?" And I'd get angry and say spiteful things like, "I wish I'd never come here" and "I want to go home." I'd pack my bags and call my parents and say that was it.
But I didn't leave. Why? I had a husband whom I loved, and who loved me, and who listened to why I felt so desperate. It was never about him, it was about feeling powerless in a situation that I willingly entered because I loved him. I remembered I had vowed to stay with him and support him in good times and in bad. Ours was no great love story, a pretty average transnational romance that ended after ten mostly happy years due to us just growing up and wanting different things in life. But what we were very good at doing was listening to each other and really trying to understand what was going on underneath frustration. It was part of our vows. Did you not make similar vows?
It's one thing if someone is being abusive -- emotionally, physically or otherwise -- and another if that person feels lost, powerless, confused. In the former case, leaving is obviously the right thing to do. In the latter, the relationship can often be saved. This goes for either sex, lest someone accuse me of naturally siding with a woman here. The immigrant spouse is going to take a while to get accustomed to his or her new environment. It isn't plug and play. I would encourage you to seek counselling if things "just aren't working out" before you walk away from a marriage.
While writing this, my boyfriend asked me what I was posting about and I told him. He's Korean-American, and he suggested (as did Mr Smiley above) that your wife reach out to the Korean community in your town. Do you live anywhere near LA by any chance? There's gigantic Korean community here if you live within driving distance. He was also shocked that anyone could complain about an immigrant spouse (whose first language is almost certainly not English) not having a job after three months when there are so many native speakers who have been unemployed for many months in this environment.
In any event, he and I both wish the OP and his wife the best and hope they at least work a little harder to try to make this relationship work. Better to put the work in now and realise it can't be saved than to regret not doing so.

You're from the UK. You entered into a bona fide marriage, right?
You'll be approved. Get on with your life.You have the I-797 extending the GC for a year. You can travel and work and EVERYTHING you could do before you started ROC. Sometimes ROC is fast and sometimes so slow people apply for citizenship before it's approved. Blame Obama if you like but frankly you look a little silly doing so.
If you really want to move back to the UK, be mindful that the rules for immigrant spouses have changed recently. Lots of info here: http://www.visajourney.com/forums/topic/372449-before-you-permanently-move-to-the-us/
Good luck, and be patient.

Yeah what does this have to do with Obama? Vermont has been slow - I guess when Bush was around, Bush was blamed? ;-)

What does Obama have to do with this he does not work for USCIS!!!Now if you so by chance get approve what are you gonna say to Obama government..Wow everyone has to wait so don't point fingers.

Any security clearances done in 1995 are going to be very different than those performed in today's post 9/11 world. A check on Selective Service registration might not even have been done at that time. Who knows.
I still think the real heart of this matter is whether or not Chris can get a US government job in the timeframe you would like. Have you investigated this more thoroughly? No offense meant, but he's an accountant. We have lots of those over here.
Whenever a family moves internationally, there's often one partner left behind to tie up the loose ends. Make a list of those loose ends before you decide you can't manage them on your own.
Check with a solicitor in the UK to find out just exactly what documents would be needed for a real estate closing if Chris were already abroad. Power of Attorney works in the US; might need something else over there.
And - not to be brutal - I am of the opinion that with four children to raise, you are far better off in the UK. Especially if you are still leaning on moving to the DC area. I'm sure you've given that plenty of thought yourself though and have a different opinion of what you want for your family.

Maybe if we called you Barry, you would get lost! Racism is never funny.

My fiance has e-mailed the GP's letter to the medical office in London and they've confirmed that they've received it. Hopefully it'll go to the embassy tomorrow!
Also, we just ordered our wedding cake topper! We're doing three mini cakes in different flavors since it's a tiny wedding.

That's what you're voting for when making your check-mark next to the GOP candidates. This is your new and improved GOP.

Their outrage is all but feigned. Those upset today are the same who applauded Reagan's full amnesty in the 80's.
Their pretense is purely partisan.