InHisTime

@Vanessa, yes, your situation is different --- mine as well, that is why I came home when I knew that it's not gonna work out. Now I am slowly gaining back what I have lost when I came to the US thru K-1. My advantage is that I have a loving family and trusted friends, critical skills needed for a good paying quality job, and a very positive and happy spirit as God is always with me.
Having said that, NOT everyone is the same.... other immigrants feel they can't have it back home or they may be facing other difficult situation, so they tend to stay in the US and start life once again. We never know until we put ourselves in their shoes. Eveyone is unique though.
OP, please study your situation carefully -- the long term effects on you, financially and legally. Hope you come to a decision that favors you then and importantly it is good in the eyes of God. May the Lord bless you and give you peace !

Hello Sis, I hope by now you already have consulted a family lawyer / court in your area and that you have figured out what is best for you and your daughter. Fight your daughter's legal custody and bring her back home to the Philippines. Do not ever leave her with the father as you said he is an abusive one. Besides it is very hard, who is going to take care of the child everyday ? unless he could afford to hire a baby sitter. I'm sure he works, so no way he could give quality time with child. The child needs you tender love and care, and the way I feel you are a good mom. In fact, you agreed to come to the US and bring your daughter so that you all could be as one family. I respect if both of you don't want to marry anymore, it's all your decision. And that is admirable one. Don't ever settle for less just to get Green Card. It's going to haunt you and sure you will regret much later. There should be harmony, love, peace and understaning. It's not about living in America, it's the quality of relationship so that we all can live happily. While you still can, you are right in your decision to come home with your daughter before your 90 days expiration. Don't over stay as you will be out of status and such make you an illegal alien. Just get a legal custody, so you won't encounter any trouble. You can raise your child very well in the Philippines. Important she will grow in an environment full of love. It's not going to be healthy environment for you and child, if you continue to live in a toxic life with your abusive partner.
If the father is really responsible and caring for his daughter, I think he has to make an extra effort, he can visit your daughter in the Philippines or maybe voluntarily give child support without any demand from you --that if he is really has a good heart and truly loves his child. But never expect anything from him, just work hard and you can manage to give quality life with your daughter. We have a gracious God and He will never leave you alone. You will not be alone.... it happened to plenty of single mom, and they are fine and live a comfortable and life. Just learned your lessons and keep a positive future.
I wish you well and hope you leave the US with your daughter. I feel your pain, it's not going to be easy, but in time you will be over. God loves you and continue to pray for His mercy. Good luck and take care always of your beautiful child -- it's a great blessing, and not everyone is blessed to have one. --- InHisTime

@Vanessa, yes, your situation is different --- mine as well, that is why I came home when I knew that it's not gonna work out. Now I am slowly gaining back what I have lost when I came to the US thru K-1. My advantage is that I have a loving family and trusted friends, critical skills needed for a good paying quality job, and a very positive and happy spirit as God is always with me.
Having said that, NOT everyone is the same.... other immigrants feel they can't have it back home or they may be facing other difficult situation, so they tend to stay in the US and start life once again. We never know until we put ourselves in their shoes. Eveyone is unique though.
OP, please study your situation carefully -- the long term effects on you, financially and legally. Hope you come to a decision that favors you then and importantly it is good in the eyes of God. May the Lord bless you and give you peace !

1. As he entered on a K1 there is a chance he will be approved without interview. That's taking a while. If there's an interview and you attend saying "we're filing for a divorce once he has his GC" it doesn't' matter how much evidence you have of your relationship, they're going to think you're just helping him fraudulently get a GC. It just doesn't sound good.
2. You are locked into the I-864 until any of the conditions listed on the form occur. this does not mean that you need to pay him, or are liable for his debts, but you MIGHT be sued by the US government to repay any means-tested benefits he uses... and to be honest, with Obamacare making healthcare mandatory, we've got no idea what sort of eligibility changes may occur. I would say it increases the risks of him using those benefits because he "has to".
3. Usually 30 days after denial I believe.
4. Well outside of the I-864 no. If you interview it will look like you both lied in the interview and planned to divorce all along. Might make his ROC harder... might might might.
Personally I wouldn't do it. He can go leave the US, buy/rent another house, get another job (or see if he can get his old one back). It's not ideal but you would be protecting yourself. You don't need to write a letter with your I-864 withdrawal but you can if you like, stating that it's only because of the incompatibility. I have to ask why "being happy" means YOU sacrifice your financial security just so that HE gets to stay here. Why can't "everyone be happy" mean he returns to his home country, you continue on with your life. Why does he have to gain and you lose?
I've seen enough things occur on these boards over the years that the idea of letting theI-864 get locked in and being on the hook financially when you know your relationship isn't viable... is terrifying to me.
p.s. I am the immigrant. I would have gone home had the relationship failed. I would STILL return to Australia, even this long in. That's because I'm not here for the GC. I can make my way back home perfectly fine. Yes I gave up possession, work etc, but I can get those back.

This may be a little harsh but its how I see it- (very much along the lines of what Vanessa wrote)
Men are not inanimate objects. They are not like shoes that you can decide "he is the one for me" and the shoes got no choice but to comply. Its called free will. So while you may have determined that on paper you two are a good fit and in your heart he is the one, sadly it does not seem as if Danny feels the same.
If you go back and look at what hes telling you, really look at it- youll see that. He never says with the certainty you say it. You are the one for me. Its- I love you but this isnt going to work (because you are not the one for me). I love you but Im not ready (because you are not the one for me). I love you but I need to slow down because Im scared (since you are not the one for me).
Something happens when you find that right person. The one who is the right person for you. It makes all the pieces of the puzzle magically fit together and there is no 'but' in the sentences anymore.
When someone uses the word 'but' like that in a sentence its just to soften the blow. It means ignore everything I said before the 'but', what I really mean is whats after it.
Im getting the feeling you are going to a premarital consular and they are just stringing this out for additional sessions and fees rather then telling you bluntly its over and losing your business. You should seek out an individual consular in your area for a better perspective.

My wife had a hard time choosing to leave her country and family to come here. There were many discussions about who should move where. Her living in the Philippines, pretty much meant my career would be over, its just not needed in her country. She was very very close to family. As in her and her sister lived together and ran a business together. Where they lived was just blocks from their mother's home, and blocks from their brother's home. A very tight knit family with pretty much daily contact.
Life away from her close knit family has been hard for her to accept. There's many times when the hard homesickness hit where she wanted to move back. Its taken a lot of support on my side as she has very slowly overcome those feelings. Learning to live with American work rules, starting from the bottom again in a work path, loosing the fresh foods she was used to, all these things haven't been easy on her. She's had a much larger adjustment between her culture than you're going to have coming to the USA from Australia. But she's done it, although its take more than a few shed tears. After almost two years here, she's on the upswing in the adjustment stage. The sad days missing family and home don't happen now. She's found she's still close to her family in spirit, if not in person. And she knows when I retire, I'm willing to move to her country and she can act as my support as I adjust to there.
But the real thing is we're happy together. We enjoy supporting each other while we go through daily life. We have fun on our weekends, and have our little rituals of bonding all week long. We're completely dedicated to each other, and there's a comfort in that beyond anything your parents or siblings can ever give you.
Yes you're probably going to be homesick, most people have it to some degree. My wife's homesickness was one of the bad cases, and it took time and a lot of understand and support from me to help her through that. I never would have guessed it could be so hard. Other people have came here and barely had any homesickness at all. Wish that was the case for my wife, but its just not who she is.
Its totally normal to start worrying when the big move starts looming. Its normal to starting worrying when soon you're going to be married. Its completely normal to worry when ever big changes are coming up. Its normal to want to hold on to what is most familiar, and give it qualities it never had to you before. Seriously if your family would reject you because you moved to another country to be with the one you love, they're going to reject you for some other reason some day anyway. I'd seriously discount that fear, its not real or poorly placed. What you should possibly consider is if your husband to be is really the person for you. Will he be there and support you when you're at your worst and not just when you're at your best? Is he willing to live a less comfortable life for maybe quite some time while you rebuild a career here? Are both of you really dedicated to understanding and listening to the other even if you don't like what you're hearing? And even after that, still committed to doing what it takes to have a good marriage and life together? I think many make this move and get married things will all be puppies, kittens and balloons on the other side. But its a heck of lot of work and pain to adjust both to each other, to married life, and to a new culture by one of you. But maybe you know that, and that's your real fear, you've just failed to give it a voice. Think about it, talk with him real and from your heart of what scares you. Don't put decisions in the talk, don't put where or when or ifs, just talk about the feelings and fears. You might find he's all there for you and you should go, or you might find it wasn't right in the first place.
Good luck to you.

I got away this weekend my friends took me to Napa, its been a nice get away. My brother joined and was proud of me said he understands what I'm going through and wants me to stay happy... I love my brother so sweet, always trying to make the situation better than it is. He was always against arranged marriages especially overseas, for me. Said it will be a setback, trying to get someone settled being a woman. But I am still in Napa and enjoying every minute of it. Away from the chaos, some where quiet and relaxing. Away from the world. Glad am a short drive away from this place.

How could you not discuss all this with him before you guys got married?
Ask yourself...why not Peru? Why does it have to be him to put a hold on his life and change countries? And besides, the whole approach of how he needs to be home being a house-husband because you need someone to take care of the child is pretty dominant over him. How about changing your job? You admit yourself that it's not family friendly...then why are you still working there? You have a family. Why does he have to stay at home unhappily if he clearly doesn't want to?
All I'm saying is, if he were the woman people would be saying it's sexist to expect her to be happy staying at home (stuck without a driver's license) babysitting instead of developing his career or growing as a person.
The situation is even worse if he comes from Lima. The change from a 10-million-people city to a run-down place in the USA is plain AWFUL (I've been there). It's like asking a New Yorker to move to the countryside. And without driving the situation is a million times worse.
Honestly, you guys are married...how can you expect him to live in a situation that makes him so unhappy? Were you expecting him to fully and conveniently adapt to your life style while in the meantime you got a free nanny? You are unhappy because you were planning to add him to your life like an object, and he didn't let you.
I say you don't have to move immediately. What you need is a serious heart to heart conversation where you both decide TOGETHER what your next step is. My husband and I decided to stay here until he's done with school and then we'll move to Europe, where my sister lives (he's originally European). That would make us BOTH happy. I could never dream of imposing my lifestyle on him, and I am sure as hell he would never expect me to totally sacrifice my life for the sake of a crappy job of his. You guys are a team. Sit down over skype and talk things through. Decide together and make a plan. And don't think that somehow your country is better than his, or your life is more important, because that will only separate you more.
Also, all the stuff about school being a problem is a red herring. Your average private school in Peru is WAY cheaper than private schools here, and the quality of education in those schools much better than public education in America. Public education in Peru is #######, though - and the comment about all the research you will have to do...well, having a Peruvian husband probably means that he knows which schools are good and which aren't. Not all of them are for profit and even I can give you a list of really good schools that aren't run for profit and are insanely better than your average American public school. All this you can talk about and decide with him. Maybe he will go back to the US if you are willing to change some things, or maybe he will ask you to move to a bigger town. Maybe you will be totally happy living in a beach town in Peru...who knows. The only thing I know is you have to decide together, and you have to learn to compromise.

So sorry about you and your wife very awful experiences. I just hope that all (USCs and immigrants) learn important lessons from this story. Let's try to be honest, compassionate, gentle and sensitive with the needs of our partners so as to avoid related circumtances. I know it's hard to be perfect, but if we can, just fight fairly and communicate our thoughts clearly in a gentle, positve, and low-tone voice. Remember that in every action there is always an opposite reaction.
OP, if you really love your wife, hope you could still work out your relationship, no matter what's the outcome of her case. America is not the only place to spend and share quality life together. True love finds ways. Always try to seek God in everything you do, so you will be guided with the holy spirit. May God bless you and your wife.

Their I-864 has not been approved so he doesn't currently have any obligations and withdrawing it will prevent it from being approved.

Very bad advice You need to think before you say or act....is this the right thing to do ?
OP, I know your instinct (the small voice inside of you) tells you the right things to do. Never ignore "red flags". These things happened for good reasons that you may consider. Be thankful that at least you've learned this now while still in your place. It's more difficult if you were in the US with nobody to run to. Give some more time to know her (character) better, don't worry about your visa.....if she really changed for the better then you will find it out. It's not gonna be an overnight process. She needs to show or demonstrate good change for enough time, not just by saying. If later you find her emotionally matured...then she may start filing another petition or maybe write the US embassy and other concern agencies to reinstate your visa validity, if still possible. Important is you'll have a working and loving relationship with her, then immigration stuff can start working out....for both (love) sake. Good luck and may God bless you.

Very bad advice You need to think before you say or act....is this the right thing to do ?
OP, I know your instinct (the small voice inside of you) tells you the right things to do. Never ignore "red flags". These things happened for good reasons that you may consider. Be thankful that at least you've learned this now while still in your place. It's more difficult if you were in the US with nobody to run to. Give some more time to know her (character) better, don't worry about your visa.....if she really changed for the better then you will find it out. It's not gonna be an overnight process. She needs to show or demonstrate good change for enough time, not just by saying. If later you find her emotionally matured...then she may start filing another petition or maybe write the US embassy and other concern agencies to reinstate your visa validity, if still possible. Important is you'll have a working and loving relationship with her, then immigration stuff can start working out....for both (love) sake. Good luck and may God bless you.

Hi Debbiela, hope you feel so much better as the days go by. Thank you and I appreciate you for sharing your story here, it takes courage and effort to come out in a public forum to share personal experience. But I'm sure this could also help others. Love can sometimes make lovers blind, especially when you truly have a good loving heart.
Glad that you finally have moved out and now mending your broken heart. In time God will heal your heart completely. Just go on with your life, you deserve to be happy as you are a good person. At least you have done best in your marriage, it's his great lost, not yours. You will reap good karma....and for sure God knows about this. Take care of yourself and hopefully in time you would have the man you truly deserve. You are a good christian woman, so just let him go, never exhaust yourself anymore by doing any revenge, ....just continue trusting the Lord for God's plan for you is the best. God bless.

Hi Debbiela, hope you feel so much better as the days go by. Thank you and I appreciate you for sharing your story here, it takes courage and effort to come out in a public forum to share personal experience. But I'm sure this could also help others. Love can sometimes make lovers blind, especially when you truly have a good loving heart.
Glad that you finally have moved out and now mending your broken heart. In time God will heal your heart completely. Just go on with your life, you deserve to be happy as you are a good person. At least you have done best in your marriage, it's his great lost, not yours. You will reap good karma....and for sure God knows about this. Take care of yourself and hopefully in time you would have the man you truly deserve. You are a good christian woman, so just let him go, never exhaust yourself anymore by doing any revenge, ....just continue trusting the Lord for God's plan for you is the best. God bless.

Hi Debbiela, hope you feel so much better as the days go by. Thank you and I appreciate you for sharing your story here, it takes courage and effort to come out in a public forum to share personal experience. But I'm sure this could also help others. Love can sometimes make lovers blind, especially when you truly have a good loving heart.
Glad that you finally have moved out and now mending your broken heart. In time God will heal your heart completely. Just go on with your life, you deserve to be happy as you are a good person. At least you have done best in your marriage, it's his great lost, not yours. You will reap good karma....and for sure God knows about this. Take care of yourself and hopefully in time you would have the man you truly deserve. You are a good christian woman, so just let him go, never exhaust yourself anymore by doing any revenge, ....just continue trusting the Lord for God's plan for you is the best. God bless.

First and most important, how does any of this help the OP.
Second, she may not have overlooked anything, he may have been that good at lying (we all know people who are)
Third, making up statistics is a juvenile way to get attention
Fourth, the use of azz while taking about others level of education only shows your ignorance.
Lastly, I take your entire post personally offensive, I have no higher education, I am by your standards "well to do", I choose to be with my fiancé because she is exactly what I need in my life, not because I am a "beta male", or live with my parents. I have a full time job, NEVER been without one since I was 16. I don’t date American woman for my own reasons.
Please don’t attack anyone just because you have a bone to pick or are not happy with the chooses you have made, we are here to help each other not throw stones

I think it is best that they talk calmly to resolve issues. They are now married and they should fix their relationship. If they haven't married maybe it is easy to go back home.
If they can't work it out so it's time to give space or maybe resort to separation or divorce. I presume the wife was not ready to go back to her home country at the moment. Maybe because of high expectations from her family and friends. She has no job, as well as money.
And as a woman, especially if she is from the Philippines, there are women who still stay on marriage despite of unhappy relationships due to many factors like expectation of change, judgmental society, fears, dependency, etc.....
If she goes back home, will the husband file for divorce so she can be legally free to marry in the future ? This is important as there is no divorce in the Philippines, only annulment. If she files for annulment in the Philippines, it will cost her lots of money, like one or two hundred thousand pesos. I think this is one major reason why his wife don't want to return home that quickly. They are not finished yet. They need to talk properly and mutually decide the best options for them so at least when the wife comes home she could easily start life again despite of heartbreaks.
I know your friend could easily stop the immigration process by withdrawing his affidavit of support, but always remember this woman will not be with him if he did not file any petition for her. It's not easy moving out. It takes a lot of sacrifices and courage to leave your family and friends. Maybe if she committed fraud, adultery or is dishonest to his husband, I could quickly understand why his husband drove her to the airport. I believe everyone deserves a little compassion and understanding to at least lessen the impacts of negative changes in our lives. We are all answerable to God for our actions. Hence, doing FAIR actions is important. Just my two cents.

When I said he did not go by it the right way....I meant sit down come up with an agreement that's fair. Make sure we as the adults make this as painless as possible for the children. I am hurt yes, because I love him but I can not lose focus of what's important here and it is the welfare of my childern. I will heal over time but this is not about he or I but our children. They are the ones that are dependent. So this is not about attacking him, it's about making sure my children best interest is protected. Everyone has the right to chose what is in thier best interest, but when children are involved the best interest of the children should be first priority of all parties involved. Also I am not God what rights do I have to punish anyone. Barbara

Hi there! I am so sorry reading your story. I think you just need to move on with your life and kids. You could divorce her as well, so you would be free in the future. You may be telling true stories, but, right now, it's just hard to judge your wife. I'm sure, she also has valid reasons why she left. We all know nobody here at VJ exactly knows what happened between you and her. I'm just saying this, because, I too....had to come back home after I've seen and experienced how I was badly treated by one member of the family of my Fiance - which really affected our relationship. Things didn't turn out good as expected, as I felt everyday, I was living on hell or in the darkest side of the earth. It was very good that I had enough money when I went there so I did eat and enjoy America well.
I honestly tried my best to get along and understand their situation knowing what we went through a lot of hardships with the paper works and immigration expense, but, it's just hard to continue staying with selfish one, especially that it was not a genuine care.
To lessen damages and avoid conflicts, I decided not to marry and come back home before my 90 days expire. Let the future holds for us -- marriage shouldn't be taken for granted, therefore, if it wasn't right -- don't ever continue -- it's a sign that I have to slow down.
I like America - the place is nice and clean, but, still requires me with lots of hardships and sacrifices to have the life we all envisioned for. I was hoping that there had been a positive and inspiring atmosphere / environment in the house so it could greatly help adjust my life in the US, thus, sharing harmonious life with them. Instead of making things easy for me, they make it so difficult. I wasn't expecting all material things to be ready -- I was hoping to see genuine care and sharing. They maybe have thought that I have a hidden agenda in coming to the US. Trust is very important to me, so I could bring out the best in me and in the relationship. I think it was a blessing then because now I am back home and work happily. I had so much risks in getting to the US (leaving my home, family, friends, nice and secured job, and important of all -- ability and freedom to make decisions on my own). Now, I realized how good is God to me - enjoying normal life here with peace of mind.
I have no regrets in coming home -- at least, I tried to give out the best in the name of love !
My advice to the poster -- just move on ! Maybe it's not meant to be.
To other petitioners -- if possible, please create a positive and supportive environment when your Fiance / Fiancee arrives. It is very important as he / she is a total stranger in America -- especially at the start when she arrives (first 3 months is very crucial) -- because, after seeing America -- if she / he is not treated well, definitely he / she would want to go back home, feeling lonely and homesick, especially if he / she has a lot of good things left in his / her home country. Please give love to the fullest ! That's all we need --
Hope this serves as good input in avoiding your fiance / fiancee coming back home. Thank you all --- have a blessed day everyone !

I'm sorry for your post. It's really hard to give best advice in your situation as we only hear your side. As they say it takes 2 to tango. In every action there is always an opposite reaction. I think it is best that you buy her a plane ticket if she wants to go back to the Philippines. But, if not, then you may file a divorce if you think the relationship is not workable.
Through faith in God, maybe you should give another chance to work out ? Did both of you undergo counseling ? why not try it ?
If no more love, trust and respect, well, I think you have to divorce her and move on with your life. To deport her is not an honorable thing to do IMO. I believe she won't be in the US without love and sacrifices from both of you in doing all the paperwork. It just didn't work out I guess. Love and Marriage should be work out / nurture always. There is no perfect one. If she is a user, you should have known her better before filing. So, I guess she shouldn't be blamed or judged now that things have changed. There is no certain in life. We have to be responsible on our own actions.
To force her to join your religion is not good. Maybe she changed her mind and you have to respect her on this aspect. Maybe, in time she would want to, but, never force her. It takes time -- it won't be an overnight process. She has to see in you the goodness of what you are believing. It is good to lead by example. We need to practice what we preach so it could be emulated easily.
I believed it wasn't easy for her to leave the Philippines to be with you. So, pray for her so she could live well in the US without your support. Don't be bitter -- vengeance is awful and not a good christian act. Let God handles it as He knows best. Trust God. In this way, you could move on with your life with no regrets. It is always good to apply biblical approaches in solving our problems. It will make us feel better and have peace in our hearts.
I believe there is someone better for you -- pray for God's revelation. "All things happened for a reason". God bless you ! Great things will come to you if you allow God to take in control of everything.

Hello Sir, I am so sad about your story. When I read everything how you narrated your story, I just felt that you have a good heart. If you are telling all truth here, then I am telling you -- please MOVE ON and you don't deserve a heartless wife. She was very lucky to have you. Yeah, your financial support may not that enough, but she should be grateful and honored that her husband loves her and doing everything to make things work. She was so lucky and she clearly used you -- because if she isn't into just getting GC, she should try to work out and stay as you treated her well, especially now she got the GC. She can start working and contribute to the expenses of the family and start saving to achieve the quality of life she desires having to, but instead she left and abandoned you. What a life? Now, accept it and move on as God never sleeps.
I was on K-I and my kids were on K-2 and we decided to come home after staying together with my then Fiance because we find it so hard to blend with their house rules especially the attitude of my then mother-in-law to be. We were also accused of many things which we haven't done and always looking for our mistakes and very mean to us. So in short, we were not happy leaving in the US, so I decided to come home and didn't marry. I always think of the welfare of my kids. I work hard for them so I cannot just marry someone who would not accept them well. I don't want to marry just because of GC and then my kids weren't happy because of our situation. We live a healthy, comfortable and happy lives in our country so I expected that was also in the US.
We didn't over stay in the US so we have good background in the embassy. I have a good job here in my country and I am back with my life. I am sharing this to you -- to let you know that not all in third world countries are scammers of GC. Yes America is nice country, but what is important to me is peace of mind and I am loved well with the man I have given up my life and family here just to be in the states with him. I am saying your wife was so lucky because you have given him financial support, while me I haven't receive any money while I was there. But I was Okay with that as even then I am a very independent woman. I had to buy all foods that we need to eat while staying with them. I had to pay for all the shopping we had together with my kids. It was good I had some cash when I went there. So, I think not all would-be immigrants especially from third world countries are just after the GC. I am not bitter about my experiences but of course I have learned a lot of it and even thankful that God brought me be back home safely.
I wish you and your daughter the best of life. God bless.

Yes, there are bad women everywhere - all over the world. There are also good women all over the world. WE SHOULD NEVER GENERALIZE OUR PERCEPTION / CONCLUSION.
I hope next time when we give comments or posts here, we should always be careful of our words as we all come from different cultures / nationalities -- please try not to OFFEND anyone. And, perhaps, it would be very good if we make negative comments, with should be able to support it with good research findings or with an accurate and valid data. Thank you and God bless everyone.

OP, if you have doubts about her reactions about this "pre-nup agreement", I think you have to pause or take it slow. I'm a Filipina, but I think it won't matter to me especially when it affects our relationship. I have to understand that you have worked so much to acquire whatever you have right now. There is no certain thing is this world. Some people may change over time despite he/she loves truly now. We could never predict exactly what the future may hold for us. I think if she really loves, then, just accept the fact and still not bother about it. Important is how you treat him NOW and when she gets to the US. In time, she could find a job and maybe start saving for future. Both of you together once married could still start saving or acquire some wealth -- and that would consist your conjugal property, in the event that divorce may occur, at least you both have something to share or divide equally. Of course, you both have to work well in your marriage -- stay in love forever with God as the center in your family.
I hope you give a little time to know her better. She should be open enough to discuss this thing in an open and intelligent way, not getting pissed off. She has to be matured in dealing with this and other issues that may come in the future.