CristiFur

Agree, USEM recognizes the divorce so he is legally able to remarry as long as it's here in the US.

Well I've been here in the US for +30 plus years and have heard many people with plans and stories of how people would like to go and retire in the Phils when they reach the age of retirement and I have only known a few (less than fingers on one hand) that actually done it. And even when they do go, they dont sell everything they have and make a move for good.
For some of you that migrate here that are older and don't have kids that are living in the US I can understand it would be a bit easier to relocate. But once you have invested time, family, money and sweat and gets used to the living here I doubt many can leave the US for good. Many people think that their life would be like when they are there for vacation but many find out it's not the same and eventually return here. My lola has tried so many times but can't seems to stay there for good.
Many of the ones that we know returns because primarily of family kids..grand kids and also medical treatment.. etc..but also just the way of life they have been used to here.
My own parents now are also faced with this dilemma, it's been five years of planning but have not happened.

Well I've been here in the US for +30 plus years and have heard many people with plans and stories of how people would like to go and retire in the Phils when they reach the age of retirement and I have only known a few (less than fingers on one hand) that actually done it. And even when they do go, they dont sell everything they have and make a move for good.
For some of you that migrate here that are older and don't have kids that are living in the US I can understand it would be a bit easier to relocate. But once you have invested time, family, money and sweat and gets used to the living here I doubt many can leave the US for good. Many people think that their life would be like when they are there for vacation but many find out it's not the same and eventually return here. My lola has tried so many times but can't seems to stay there for good.
Many of the ones that we know returns because primarily of family kids..grand kids and also medical treatment.. etc..but also just the way of life they have been used to here.
My own parents now are also faced with this dilemma, it's been five years of planning but have not happened.

They buy it cause they can afford it and makes them happy. I consider myself a pretty practical person and most of the time will take practicality/functional over bling2x, but there are items that I'm willing to pay for the expensive brand.
Many people find happiness in many different ways!

Normal and acceptable to others, while others react the way you do. Having communication between them can't be avoided as they have kids, specially if they are young and have joint custody, but also depends on how frequent the communication are and type of discussion they are having. From your description, I'd say that a little bit overboard if they talk/text multiple times a day and talk about such topics.
My ex and I talk about once every 3 weeks most of the time and last about a couple of sentences, and that's because I have full custody of my son and she lives on the other end of state.
I guess this is really more of what kind of arrangement the divorced couple have.
Well you've told him how you feel so I hope he will respect your wishes..
PS..maybe you don't see it but sometimes it's better to be in good term with ex's, they can make your life a living hell sometimes..

They buy it cause they can afford it and makes them happy. I consider myself a pretty practical person and most of the time will take practicality/functional over bling2x, but there are items that I'm willing to pay for the expensive brand.
Many people find happiness in many different ways!

This happen to me when I had my Fiancee print and fill out the G325 and her letter of intent. When I received the forms/letter it was not the standard size paper, I asked why is the paper so big..lol.. she said that's what they use. Not wanting to make her feel bad and resend everything again I just cut it to 8.5 X 11.. to match the rest of the paper work.

I mean, how weak can a mind be to be manipulated by something that it is putting dirt to your body and life? I need an answer to that. I am not trying to offend anyone, just opening their eyes.
Take care.

You must be boring!!! have you ever heard "sometimes, dirt, filth, and the forbidden gives you the most pleasurable/memorable experiences in life.. you adventures people know what I'm referring too..
Trying having a mistress
You don't know what your talking about, did you know highly paid professionals and healthcare providers have a very high number of substance abusers (smokers and alcoholics, not to mention the rich and famous.. I think your the one with the lack of self steam and in need of glasses..

CONGRATS , Just when I'm about to lose hope on getting an approval before her Birthday on Monday, I got a texted to check the status and BINGO,APPROVED, hip hip horayyy yipiiiii Congrats to me too.. hahahaha!

Agreed visa in hands before any planning. For me I would not make any arrangement till she is actually here with me already. I know weddings are supposed to be special but with limited time I would just go with a simple civil ceremony and plan a grand reception sometime later. Putting a wedding together can be done within 3 months assuming you got everything picked out(reception area..dress..cake..band..etc..)and all services are available on your date and of course money..
Well your behind the wheel on this one bro so good luck on your planning..and Congrats!!!

I totally agree with you in the aspect of mental and psychological well being of the parents and children being apart specially if they are young have always been together. It would also be a lot easier to deal with it at one time. My Fiance parents are against bringing her daughter at the same time cause of the uncertainties of such arrangement. But I would not have it any other way. I just don't think she would b truly be happy and mentally sound if she was to leave her daughter..I know I would not if I had to leave the country with out my son. Just my 2 cents. Well good luck to all on our Journey..

I think your boyfriend has a bad paradigm (i.e., point of view) Is the job market tough in the US? Absolutely. Is there never enough money to go around? Absolutely. Is there stress from work and just life in general? Absolutely. But you know what would make me feel 100% better in all of these situations? Having my fiance/wife here with me to go through these together. If he is marrying you to make all of his problems go away, then that is not realistic. Neither husband nor wife should get married to solve all of their problems. Marriage is about facing problems together--not about making them disappear. PROBLEMS WILL ALWAYS BE THERE. It sounds like he might not realize that.

LOVE
I miss being able to commute because of the jeepneys and taxis.
The cheap movie tickets!
Cheap and good food!
The HEAT!
The aura when Manny Pacquiao has an incoming fight/ when he has a fight
Rice in McDonald's and in just about any American fastfood in the PI
Filipino humor
etc etc etc
HATE
too much heat (lol)
power tripping govt workers
etc etc etc

Maybe he is a romantic guy and wants to do a "TITANIC"

Maybe he is a romantic guy and wants to do a "TITANIC"

dont be such in a hurry...get the visa, buy the ticket...you dont want to be that person that says to themselves I wish i had just waited to save a couple hundred dollars. once you get your visa you will be secured to come here. Take the time to say "see you later" to family, friends and what not. You will need this time as you wont be able to see them for a while. I already told the misses that she will have to wait even if she gets her visa for a little bit before she has to come here and she agrees with me. So do the same with your love one. you have a lifetime to spend together. remember that

The petition will be rejected and returned. He can write a new check for the correct amount $340, and send it back. You are worried about the wrong thing.
Here is what you should worry about...
Your fiance did not know the correct amount to send and sent it using the logic of "too much is better than not enough" This is wrong. In many ways. I am guessing that it may have not been the only mistake he made. Just guessing. Did he have a CENOMAR from you? A signed letter of intent from you? A signed G-325a from you? Passport photos? Was all that included, translated if needed?
It will be a couple weeks before he gets it back so I suggest that HE come to this site and READ the instructions for the form I-129f and the guides on how to file a petition for a fiancee. Ask questions and get correct answers before sending it again. This will save you time in the long run. The correct amount to send is listed in the instructions
Do not send it back until you are sure everything else is correct. When the amount of the check you sent is wrong it indicates TWO things
1. No one read the instructions
2. Without reading the instructions it is virtually impossible to do this correctly

Why worry if everything you stated/claim is true and can be validated. Seems your more financially sound compare to some of the members.

It seems that you are asking if she can get a free trip home, and if so, how that is done.
I do not see a clear request for help in saving the relationship. I agree, 2 weeks is not enough time.
If you want to try to save the relationship, I would look at Pinoy support groups, if for no other reason to let her share stories and hear from other people that have made the transition and break out of speaking in english. (Has she complained of nose bleeds? And if you don't get that joke you need to study her culture.)
My guess is your fiancée has spent the last two weeks dealing almost exclusively with you and with being your "new girl" locally. Give her some space and independence maybe. I know one thing my fiancee and I anticipate will be that period of time between when she arrives and when she is able to develop her own life. In a way she will be trapped before she gets a drivers license, her own friends, etc. She has already looked at bus routes and wants to learn to ride a bike so she does not spend the first few weeks sitting at home during the day while I work. But for someone coming to a new country it can be a lot like captivity. Classes at a local community college, even art classes are also a good way to break out and get some independence and freedom.
And look at counseling options. Church, MSWs, etc. You may not be religious, but you might be surprised at how deep the faith runs in Filipinos even if they pretend to adopt American apathy toward going to church.
And accept that this is as much your problem as it is hers. You also need to adjust.
But most of all - seek professional help by trained people and don't rely just on things you read online.
Best of luck.

Ok, I'm going to see if I can offend everyone in one post...
All men everywhere will do stupid things for pretty girls. This character flaw isn't exclusive to American men. However, most American men are not as gullible as many Filipinas seem to think they are. In many cases, these guys know darn well that these girls don't really love them. He might only want a sex toy who will treat him like she loves him for a few years. Most of the time, they're just hoping she hangs around and plays nice until he either dies or gets tired of her. Many times these guys go into these relationships knowing that it isn't going to last more than a few years. The sad truth is that many East Asian and Pacific Island girls don't age very well. They're adorable when they're young, but start to deteriorate rapidly when they hit their mid 20's.
...Jim ducks while the Filipinas start throwing kitchen utensils at him...
This isn't really any different from rich old men in the US who marry young trophy wives. These guys know that these girls marry them for their money. As long as the girl acts like his wife then they're generally ok with that. If she does anything to humiliate him, like fooling around on the side, then the relationship is over.
A lot of the men who go to the Philippines are average looking older men with average incomes. These guys wouldn't have a prayer of getting a young trophy wife in the US, but it doesn't take nearly as much to get a young wife in a poor country. There are several reasons this happens a lot in the Philippines. For one thing, the country has a long and sordid history of sex tourism, like many Southeast Asian countries. For another, there's no strong cultural aversion in the Philippines to older men marrying younger women, especially when there's a financial advantage for the bride.
Obviously, the above doesn't apply to everyone. There are many many relationships which are genuine and sincere on both sides. I'm just saying that not all of the guys who are getting played are totally unaware of it. In many cases, they're playing each other.

you practically bought this little girl....why didn't you just settle with an american girl and save you a bunch of moolah and aggravation???? i wonder why...oh why...oh why? you knew what you were getting into..besides, you should've picked someone who is professional or someone as smart as you? naaahhh....you would not be able to manipulate someone who is mature and educated.

nyahahahaha!!!! magtirik na ng kandila. haaaayy.... like i said, i don't understand why these things have to be published here...
here's one simple advice for you, mr. american: little talk, little mistake. Good Luck!

What mountain area? Doesn't see have relatives or friends in Manila area? I am also afraid of flying or traveling alone but I guess as long as you know how and where to ask for assistance its not difficult. Besides, when submitting for a medical and interview, we may be confident at its best that everything goes well but always remember sometimes fates makes its game - meaning we have a percentage that along the way an uncertain / unexpected results comes in that will drag out the visa processing in a longer time. My fiance wanted to be with me too. Just like you, he was afraid of me traveling to an unfamiliar area, however the good thing is, I got relatives in Manila whom I can ask for help anytime.
If your money tight and more so afraid losing your work, maybe you need to think about some alternative than risking a big chunk in your life. Your work is important too but will it be worth the chance to risk it and turn around that the visa processing time may be extended? - I don't mean to sound rude I just think practicality works best nowadays. - Honestly, if me and your fiance had just been scheduled same time and she has none to be with. I would offer her a place where I stayed. I know my aunts doesn't mind visitors and even help as much as she can. It sucks coz I am done with my interview already. When is her interview and where is she from. I know I hardly know your fiancee and trust is a big time, both ways. But with your situation, financially, I know where you are coming and so I understand.