Philwithlove

From the US embassy manila website it says
4. NBI CLEARANCE: Applicants aged 16 years and older must have a valid Record Clearance for Travel Abroad Purposes from the National Bureau of Investigation (NBI). Clearances should be in the applicant’s current name, birth certificate name, maiden name, married name, and any aliases or nicknames ever used, including different spellings of all names ever used. An official letter of explanation from the NBI is required for any notation of “No criminal record”, "No pending criminal case” or “With derogatory record.” For immigration purposes, an NBI clearance is considered valid only for one year from the date it is issued. You may contact NBI at (632) 523-82-31 to 38. The NBI website is http://www.nbi.gov.ph.
So I think yours is just fine. Although mine has "for Travel U.S.A." as when the NBI asked me for my purpose, i said needed for my interview in US embassy. then they put that on my clearance.

Darren, my husband loves to cook on weekends as his way of being "sweet and loving husband" to me. Consider it and for sure, gretchen will love you more.
When visiting with other filipinas, although we dont talk tagalog that much, talking in any dialect/languages is no big deal for my husband. It's my bonding time with fellow filipinos and it's a break for "nose-bleeding talking in full english". LOL. Besides, American husbands of filipinas have their own crowd too. They go visit, have some beer and talk about their filipina wives too. LOL.
Next time you go visit with the visayan friends of gretchen, visit with the american husband, offer him some drink and with that, problem solved!

Darren, my husband loves to cook on weekends as his way of being "sweet and loving husband" to me. Consider it and for sure, gretchen will love you more.
When visiting with other filipinas, although we dont talk tagalog that much, talking in any dialect/languages is no big deal for my husband. It's my bonding time with fellow filipinos and it's a break for "nose-bleeding talking in full english". LOL. Besides, American husbands of filipinas have their own crowd too. They go visit, have some beer and talk about their filipina wives too. LOL.
Next time you go visit with the visayan friends of gretchen, visit with the american husband, offer him some drink and with that, problem solved!

6 months experience here in the US, we have concluded to go back to the philippines when we get old.
First, weather in the Philippines is great except for typhoons but its seldom. Here in the US, have to deal with snow/cold/tornados among others. Husband hates pushing snows. lol
Second, health. Going to a doctor in the philippines is easy and cheap. Not more than $10, a private doctor/specialist can look up to you, and free if you go to a government hospital. If you have philhealth and social security, you even get money as benefits and a 0 peso bill. Went to a doctor here in the US and even im under my husband's insurance, he still pays $30 and you have to adjust when the availability of the doctor unlike in our town in the philippines where you can go visit your doctor even he is home.
third, food. Most of the fruits, vegetables, fish, meat, etc are fresh. Very healthy and cheap. Unlike here in the US, most of the food are processed, frozen or canned. I miss going to our market in our town where in a dollar i already have a kilo of fish, some vegestables and some ripe bananas.
Fourth, finance. An average filipinos earn not more than $500 a month and with that, they can pay bills, feed even 5 kids, have a house help, and healthy and happy, etc.
Fifth, values. My husband likes our future kids to be like filipinos. Respectful to elderly, have a sense of "family", among others that my husband sees most of the kids here in the US are lacking or deteriorating.
More positive things on the list.
The cons living in the philippines for a foriegner is the safety. As bad people see foreigners as a walking dollar. My husband mingles with the locals and never been a "show-off" to anybody. Simple and humble so bad people wont have an interest. lol
Planning not to sell any of his investment here in the US so anytime we like to come back for a visit or what, we have a home here.
For now, earn and save here to make those plans work

In a country where pictures of school girls splashing in puddles are described as flooding, there will be no urgency to fix it either.
Between monsoon rains and Marcos' helicopters having to leave in the middle of shooting to fight Communists, Francis Ford Coppola found it difficult to finish an already over budget Appocalypse Now with no direction and severe cast problems. However, we did get to see some wonderful footage in Redux shot during the Filipino raining season.
Why do posters ask questions, and then complain about the answers?

I typically don't pry into the personal lives of strangers, but I am one of the people who asked WHY.
I apologize humbly, deeply, and sincerely for interfering in your private life. I hope you can find a way to forgive me. I thought that by having more information I could better give advice. I did not reazise my question was so offensive by I now understand that I am a horrible stanger and I should not have interfered in your life.
Please, please, please forgive me.

I'd suggest telling her neither one of you are ready to get married yet. Tell her you will continue your relationship. Send her back to PI and continue to support her
That's great for working off your guilt. Talk to her on skype everyday.
After 6 months or a year everything will be clear to you, then if you want to marry her with all her problems apply for another
visa.

I applaud you for taking an interest in firearms -- just as it did for the Pinay in the story, it might save your life someday. It's normal to be scared at the thought of shooting someone -- even up to the moment of squeezing the trigger.
"Fear is the true opiate of combat" and "Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional." -- both Unknown.
The BB gun is fine as an intro, at some point, you'll need to transfer the basement skills to an indoor or outdoor range. Nothing and I mean nothing can take the place of actually spending time on the range and getting the feel for a real weapon in your hands or shoulder. You need to experience the feel of the recoil, know the performance characteristics of your weapon, gain a healthy respect for its awesome power and you need to become very intimate with your weapon so even in darkness, you know how to operate all of its functions.
Your husband is lucky you have an interest in defending yourself, consider purchasing a handgun just for you, your very own. There are handguns designed for the smaller hands of women, then practice, practice, practice. Dry fire, live fire, reloading, unloading, learn how to take your weapon apart, put it back together. When handling it becomes second nature, your skills and technique have developed -- now you just go to the range and shoot on occasion to maintain your marksmanship skills, in other words, your ability to hit the bad guy.
Check out this video of Tori Nonaka, she was 14 yrs old in this video, she's now a 16 yr old USPSA junior champion. You certainly don't need to train to compete as she does, but self defense with a firearm starts with gaining a level of proficiency through practice on the range, which will build your confidence. The day you need your weapon, muscle-memory, the skill & technique you developed through practice and your confidence will make a perp regret he choose you as his victim. I included the video to inspire and encourage you and so you can see that women are just as good and better than men with firearms -- with proper training. Pay attention @ 1:17 and @ 1:27 in the video, Tori is deadly accurate.

I don't have the card yet but my AOS was transferred too last March 20 @ CSC. They said EAD usually take 2-3 months to process so maybe you will hear from them soon Good Luck!

I don't think they will ever ask for a CENOMAR for the petitioner as he is/was married in the app. If anything, the CO may ask for an annullment.
OP, there is this site that is very helpful. It is owned by this young but pretty blilliant lawyer in the Philippines. Go to the forums and ask for the validity of your fiancee's Philippine marriage and US divorce. See what he says.
http://www.pinoylawyer.org/

I see what you are going through. I have two boys, 12 and 5. Asawa ko and i are expecting a daughter. The boys will be step-brothers to the daughter. WE have been teaching and showing the boys photos, and talking about the baby as if already here including taking the youngest to the ob/gyn visits.
What you are going through needs to be dealt with by your husband. Even though you say it is not affecting your relationship with your husband, it is. Your heart is hurting for your daughter. And being 7, she is just getting into her own. the problem is the older kids are adopted. there is jealousy of the younger daughter because she has you. Her real natural mom. your husband needs to be the dad and set the ground rules. And "grounding" would be appropriate now. My boys know from a young age, I am not afraid to spank them, but I do it with moderation and with talking to them as well. I make sure they understand the punishment and why plus exactly what the punishment is. I do not threaten. I give warnings, then hand out punishment as needed. I am not advising this in your case. From the sounds of it, ground rules have not been set.
I advise you talk with your husband. have him set the ground rules. you take over being a mom to tall of the children. With the husband backing your lead. you have a dynamic of multi cultural family, with adoption on top of it. More then anything, you need to get the record straight with the children. Plus set the record straight as well. If ONE child asks, permit that ONE child, do not give blanket permission for ALL children. I suspect the older children are having the youngest ask because of the adoption issue. Treat all kids equally. enforce rules equally. Change is not going to come easy. And children seem to treat each other the way you are describing naturally.
My best advice, turn off the TV a couple of times, and play Uno, monopoly, life. Spend time making cookies. take them to McDonalds to play, or to mini-golf as a family. This is not going to be an easy road. Sending your daughter home does not solve the problem. removing your daughter will affect you, and make the other girl think she has won. Removing your daughter WILL affect you more and your relationship with your husband more. You need to stop the terror of the girl. If your husband refuses to asset you as the mom of the family. You really need to work on him to get his support. Your family is still not blended. You mentioned his children and your children. there is not thought of our children. Start thinking of her as your daughter, and what you would do to adjust her attitude. then talk with your husband. Maybe taking both girls o the philippines to stay with your parents for a week would change her. I do not know. But it may be a good start. Mainly re-inforce this is ALL of the family's home. If your husband does that, and he puts his foot down on name calling, and abusive behavior things will change. But you both must stand together as parents to ALL of your kids whether you gave birth to them or not.

Yes being in AZ, it is very interesting with a Filipina. Winter is cold and summer is hot. Spring and fall are close to Philippines. But now she understands what I mean by "dry heat" versus philippine "wet heat".
As for things to do: go see a movie, go to the malls, sit and drink a cold drink, get a bunch of friends together for a party..... you can always have an old movie fest at home.... if it summer go to the public pool. go for a drive, talk a walk in the woods, go to a museum, go listen to a band play, go work in the local church, help out a t a rescue shelter, find a local cooking class, go look at open houses, go brose a landscape nursery, go to a farmers market, go to a flea market, go visit a farm, take a tour of a power plant, walk around downtown, explore an areae of the city you have not taken her to, meet with the pastor of the church,
spend the day with the radio on, and cuddled up with her beside you on the couch holding her hand, brush her hair, tell you love her, and just be with her. cuddle up together for nap in the afternoon. go buy her roses, then tell her how each rose is special. Play ca game or tow with her... have her plan a special meal then go out and buy the groceries to cook the meal together.

use the passport number as the receipt number

All I can say is the person who posted the denial was probably so nervous so shaky during hte interview, then lost when the CO asked for something more and had no idea what to do. then hearing the denial totally sank their hopes. Without knowing the meeting, the process, what was taken, questions asked, and yes if there is any prior visa history of applications on either party. For all we know the denial could have been due to financial responsibility not being met, or maybe some jealous person filed a complaint. Or maybe she just was too nervous and flubbed the questions too much, or tried to answer in English and should have stayed in tagalog to do better. we just don't know. Only the person at the interview knows the reason or the full story..... I feel like being dragged by "junior" on this one.... just enough but not the full picture.....

I suggest you don't jump the gun and get married without having a plan. That won't accomplish anything. They will just deny your CR-1 the same way they denied your K-1.
What you need to do is sit down and very carefully analyze what happened at the interview. Look at all the red flags and gather evidence to counter them. Then perhaps you can think about getting married or re-filing K-1, whichever seems better.
The fact that you had such documentary evidence of your relationship and still got denied indicates that you probably had red flags that outmatched the evidence provided. You have to take care of those first.

money remittances for k1 is not necessarily required... visiting once is also not a problem...

Need clarification:
About husband and wife
1. No body said been married is easy.
2. There are a lot of ups and downs in the lifetime of a husband and wife journey.
3. For some of us is tougher than others. (Don't ask me the reason behind that)
About the OP:
1. He sounds like a very smart guy. He works as an I/T. Capable of solving complex problem. So the suggestion of he going to the'rapist is a none sense. It is as if some one is saying, look you are incapable of solving your own problems.
2. this will not be the first of last time you will be in this situation. So enjoy the ride while you are at it.
To the forum:
I know you guys are trying to help him but it sounds as if you want to disconnect him from his wife instead of connecting him. This is not a game. They got married they need to deal with their problems. I know I know it is easy to say than do but hey one way or another we all go through this.
Conclusion:
Don't let the stress or the form convince you that some of the things she is doing is not cute. YOU guys got married and I can sense the love between you two. The stress is on the way and once that kicks in, you better know how to deal with it. It is that simple. My parents 65years together. Ask them if it is easy? They will laugh at your face. But that laugh shows some kind of natural happines. Some kind of natural happines that no therapist can you get it.
Your job is very complex, this situation is a piece of cake for it.
Now tiger, go and handle that peace of cake.
Best of luck.
Oppss..I need to get back and deal with my own issues. I am already smiling before confronting her, if I don't do that, the things can escalate. We don't want that.

There are some american guys here that post and used words that for some of us seem owning the wife or calling the filipina as a product but i think that is not their intentions. There are people, i will include myself, that are not good in stating nor very good in communicating. Which end us into misinterpretation and miscommunication . And some are oversensitive and overacting in the posts that lead to a bigger problem. Either the american guy will be enlighten with what the comments or will it changed him or worst he got mad and divert the madness to the wife. I think we should be careful too (as a filipina myself) to our reaction if it will create confusion and worst broken relationships and marriages.
Alot of filipina or even their partners complains about the CFO and even blame the government for some additional time to spend in attending it. I believe CFO counseling is good if not the best for filipina who will go out of the country and marry a different culture. It gives guidance to what to do and where to go. what is violence and even how to manage the relationship. Of course most of the attendees don't listen anymore coz the mind is already in the US out of excitement and all that.
It is a fact that some of filipina marries kano for financial reasons, some because their relatives are in the US, the friends are in the US, and they wanted to be in the US too. So we cannot blame that some american generalizes us, filipinas, as one and the same as the other rotten ones. We cannot please everybody and the best way is not to attack the generalizes us, rather show to them the real good filipina.

There are some american guys here that post and used words that for some of us seem owning the wife or calling the filipina as a product but i think that is not their intentions. There are people, i will include myself, that are not good in stating nor very good in communicating. Which end us into misinterpretation and miscommunication . And some are oversensitive and overacting in the posts that lead to a bigger problem. Either the american guy will be enlighten with what the comments or will it changed him or worst he got mad and divert the madness to the wife. I think we should be careful too (as a filipina myself) to our reaction if it will create confusion and worst broken relationships and marriages.
Alot of filipina or even their partners complains about the CFO and even blame the government for some additional time to spend in attending it. I believe CFO counseling is good if not the best for filipina who will go out of the country and marry a different culture. It gives guidance to what to do and where to go. what is violence and even how to manage the relationship. Of course most of the attendees don't listen anymore coz the mind is already in the US out of excitement and all that.
It is a fact that some of filipina marries kano for financial reasons, some because their relatives are in the US, the friends are in the US, and they wanted to be in the US too. So we cannot blame that some american generalizes us, filipinas, as one and the same as the other rotten ones. We cannot please everybody and the best way is not to attack the generalizes us, rather show to them the real good filipina.

There are some american guys here that post and used words that for some of us seem owning the wife or calling the filipina as a product but i think that is not their intentions. There are people, i will include myself, that are not good in stating nor very good in communicating. Which end us into misinterpretation and miscommunication . And some are oversensitive and overacting in the posts that lead to a bigger problem. Either the american guy will be enlighten with what the comments or will it changed him or worst he got mad and divert the madness to the wife. I think we should be careful too (as a filipina myself) to our reaction if it will create confusion and worst broken relationships and marriages.
Alot of filipina or even their partners complains about the CFO and even blame the government for some additional time to spend in attending it. I believe CFO counseling is good if not the best for filipina who will go out of the country and marry a different culture. It gives guidance to what to do and where to go. what is violence and even how to manage the relationship. Of course most of the attendees don't listen anymore coz the mind is already in the US out of excitement and all that.
It is a fact that some of filipina marries kano for financial reasons, some because their relatives are in the US, the friends are in the US, and they wanted to be in the US too. So we cannot blame that some american generalizes us, filipinas, as one and the same as the other rotten ones. We cannot please everybody and the best way is not to attack the generalizes us, rather show to them the real good filipina.

I'll have to ask my Filipina unit what I think about this topic. Sorry, just yanking your chain with that term. Although she doesn't mind being called my Filipina in the least. Our gap is not far off the 20 year gap. But we're a great match. Took me a while to get her to understand that we are total equals and partners. Still she prefers I make certain decisions, and I've given up trying to change her mind about it. She's happy enough that she can ask for something and I say yes. To me its her making the decision, she just wants confirmation it fits in our budget. Can she be childish? Yes, she certainly can at times, but I'm sure theres been times I've been a bit childish to. My wife is a very traditional Pinay. She wants the man leading, the man protecting her and taking care of her. In return she takes care of me. But she's also learned I expect an equal partner. If there's house work to do, who ever has the least to do at the time steps in to do it. While she cooks most of our meals, when she's tired or busy I jump in and get it done. In other words she prefers we each do the tradition roles, but likes that we need not be locked into them 24/7. That we work together on whatever needs doing to maximize the time we can just enjoy our time together. That said, I do believe she would also be happy with 100% traditional roles. She could easily fill the bill and match the stereotypical Filipina. But that wouldn't mean I'd disrespect her for an instant. She's an incredibly gifted, intelligent and strong woman, no matter what role she fills. She can do things that totally amazes me, then act like the simplest thing is beyond her, because she wants me to do if for her. It just makes her feel good and loved when I do some things for her. Its what she grew up expecting, and now that she is a married woman, she just wants some things the way they were between her parents. Its just how she sees the world should be.
I understand your point about disrespecting their wives, I've seen it here and its just plain wrong, but I'm a little worried you might be telling couples how their relationship should be to. What roles each should play, and the woman should never take the submissive role. My wife loves taking the submissive role, but that does not mean there is anything submissive about her. Its just her comfort zone to operate out of as a base. I accept that as who she is, and she accepts me as who I am. Which is a guy who expects his wife to be his partner and equal.

im trying to know the intent of the person that gona reply based on her story. i try to analyze words and how they say things. in this story i dont know why i want to know the other side of the story. im bothered hearing the OP keeps saying she is a good wife, does everything and all good stuff that makes the husband look bad. i hear about this nephew and he is the only close relative, which i dont know, forgive me and i dont want to entertain the bad thoughts but reading the narration played dirty in my mind. if im in a bad situation and is being helpless and narrating my sad story i wont put smileys of crying and all that stuff.
just my opinion.

im trying to know the intent of the person that gona reply based on her story. i try to analyze words and how they say things. in this story i dont know why i want to know the other side of the story. im bothered hearing the OP keeps saying she is a good wife, does everything and all good stuff that makes the husband look bad. i hear about this nephew and he is the only close relative, which i dont know, forgive me and i dont want to entertain the bad thoughts but reading the narration played dirty in my mind. if im in a bad situation and is being helpless and narrating my sad story i wont put smileys of crying and all that stuff.
just my opinion.

im trying to know the intent of the person that gona reply based on her story. i try to analyze words and how they say things. in this story i dont know why i want to know the other side of the story. im bothered hearing the OP keeps saying she is a good wife, does everything and all good stuff that makes the husband look bad. i hear about this nephew and he is the only close relative, which i dont know, forgive me and i dont want to entertain the bad thoughts but reading the narration played dirty in my mind. if im in a bad situation and is being helpless and narrating my sad story i wont put smileys of crying and all that stuff.
just my opinion.

im trying to know the intent of the person that gona reply based on her story. i try to analyze words and how they say things. in this story i dont know why i want to know the other side of the story. im bothered hearing the OP keeps saying she is a good wife, does everything and all good stuff that makes the husband look bad. i hear about this nephew and he is the only close relative, which i dont know, forgive me and i dont want to entertain the bad thoughts but reading the narration played dirty in my mind. if im in a bad situation and is being helpless and narrating my sad story i wont put smileys of crying and all that stuff.
just my opinion.