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So I called today, with him right there. They assured me that the fingerprints they have in the database file are good or they would have issued an RFE for new ones. That the agent had never been asked about this before but that the card shows as issued. But not good enough for Joseph. He had me make an infopass for the 17th so he can get yet another person tell him it is ok ( he actually wants it in writing because he is afraid that he will get trapped in Nigeria with this card when he travels )

WOW Ibogal thanks for the very personal story. Not many will be brave enough to admit they been scam. So thanks for that. Good looking out. I so agree with you.. But unfortunately many think 3000 emails, IM post and gosh we have to be Facebook friends constitutes a relationship or marriage. Yes and true enough Q & A does prepare the would be scammer to know you inside and out because truth be told most interviewee's fail because of their lack of confidence. I am a scammer and I go in knowing every little detail about you, your cousin and the mole on your aunties neck well i will fly through why would they suspect.
I mean I found out something about my husband just this week with filing out the school info on the DS-230. My husband taught english at a schiil for his NYSC. Like WOW. So oh well how ever you get the info is good.
This questions reminds me as a pastors aide we had a pre-marital questionnaire we gave each couple to fill out no right or wrong but makes for great discussion I feel thats all these are. Most the time we are so excited to talk, and text and just get a message from out love ones we don't get into all that deep stuff. Now I had the homor of living with my husband for 6 1/2 months in Nigeria and i got to see the good, bad and the ugly of him and so did he of me. It's all good we learn we grow.
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Yes of course we should know our spouses in and out before we marry them, but hey this is lagos we are talking about and they can take you off balance with questions that you didn't expect.... there are some little things we do not know about our spouse and everyday we found out new stuffs about them.... its better you familarize yourself with such questions that can be asked and get prepared with whatever may come your way.... Just WHAT IF the CO ask you some questions that you don't know about your spouse and your last 4 or 3 answers is 'I DO NOT KNOW' the CO may deny you..... Its totally up to you like you said 'YOU WILL NEVER SIT DOWN WITH YOUR SPOUSE TO GO THRU QUESTIONS'.....
I know 'everything' about my spouse but we still have to go through this questions and be prepared than rather just sit and wait until the day of the interview if they ask me a question about something my hubby told me like 4years ago and I have totally forgotten about it. This is the only chance we've got, so why not get prepared for it? waiting for 11 months or even 1 year is not HEALTHY for us.

My husband was browsing the forums today and came across this post, and brought it to my attention. After reading the above comments, I feel the need to comment.
First of all, I'm hoping the above quoted comments were given with all the best intentions at heart. If that is not the case then I must say my peace. Both my husband and I found ourselves in a very similar situation as blessed devine. Having lost my job in October, not being able to find another one since, and posting a very similar question on VJ about fee waivers. We were lucky and had some help withour AOS fees, suprisingly and very generously given to us, in the way of "pay it forward" (if anyone has seen that movie). I am still unfortunately out of permanent work, doing whatever job I can, temp, to pay the bills. My husband, still waiting for his EAD cannot work. I totally understand the situation you are in Blessed Divine. It is not a position of choice, nor a position one ultimately dreams of finding themselves in. It is very scary, stressful, and belittling. Given this, I don't understand for the life of me why someone would choose to type the above comments, in a response to question for guidance. This forum is geared towards helping each other through the various visa processes, and comments such as these are not helpful. To tell someone who is looking for a job, to keep looking is merely stating the obvious. To tell someone that they are already on governement assistance after such a short period of time is like a kick in the face. I assure you, to all those that may be fortunate enough to have the stability of steady paychecks, that any form of government assistance is not a medal of honor, not bragging rights to your friends, and not in anyway a premoter of good self esteem. I should hope that no one commenting or anyone else for that matter, would ever have to face the difficulties that come from being in a situation like this. But if this is not the case, and you do infact happen to fall into it, then I hope that you receive all the kindness, respect, and humility that you have bestowed.
On a side note, Blessed Devine, listen to Bobby, he gives great advice! Try not to worry too much, things always have a way of working themeselves out.
Best of Luck,
Shannon

Everyone seems a little hung up on Fee Waiver.. so here's the USCIS info on it: http://www.uscis.gov/portal/site/uscis/menuitem.5af9bb95919f35e66f614176543f6d1a/?vgnextoid=6fbad59ae8a8e010VgnVCM1000000ecd190aRCRD&vgnextchannel=fe529c7755cb9010VgnVCM10000045f3d6a1RCRD
Long story short, you CAN request a waiver of the fees if you can demonstrate an inability to pay etc... obviously the OP has tried this route and has had their application for a fee waiver denied.
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OP - this means that you will need to send your application with the fee.
You entered on a K1. As long as you married in the 90 days, then you are safe to file AOS with the $1010 fee. You CANNOT leave the US until your Greencard is approved OR you have an approved AP document otherwise you will have to start everything from the start again (only this time a marriage visa because you should be married now)
If you have been in the US 180 days past your I-94 date, then you will incur a 3 year ban on attempting to leave the US.. if you don't get your greencard. Which means that if you apply for your AP and it's granted AFTER the 180 days have passed you CANNOT use it. So in your situation, I think you should not bother sending off for the AP document unless you desperately need to visit home for a while as you're cutting it awfully close to the 180 day deadline (it will take around 3 months to be approved unless you expedite).
Best of luck and

It would be helpful if you could repost with some paragraph breaks. Currently it is difficult to read and understand what the important points are.

Lol at "marrying an older USC is far from the green card home run that most Nigerians think it is." If I was the consulate I may grant it just because this one is too much to be a scam! Who travels and doesn't take pictures! even of friends! Was she there for another person originally? Omg I know this is mean of me but I'm finding this whole thing too outrageous & funny to be a scam! Otherwise this is the worst scammer in the history of Nigeria.

You have a big uphill battle ahead of you, but you also have the gift of time and VJ in your arsenal! I highly suggest you use both to the fullest! As recommended, she needs to come for another visit and you need to get lots of pictures! Friends, family, different places, days and times. Not staged photos where you are always posing for the camera either! Real life experiences captured. It helps to designate a friend for this purpose.
Age will be addressed, be prepared with what you will say when asked. If you get an interview, you need to be fully prepared. Yet even that doesnt guarantee you a visa. So this is a love story, but your love alone will not see you through from a CO's point of view. Your character will be judged, your every movement will be watched. This is no picnic in the park. You must literally prove this isn't fraudulent, and if you go in there stating what you have stated in your post as to why there are no pics over the course of that many years, and no additional evidence, you will be denied.
You have come here to VJ, we all read what you say and we are strangers just as is the CO. Have you convinced any of us that this is real? I can only speak for myself, tho reading the responses given I can bet how many of us think there may be something going on that isn't on the up and up. And that is my final piece of advice. Think about what you are divulging and in what context, because if you can tell virtual strangers this information and we think something is up, imagine what the CO is gonna think! We can only go off of what you tell us, and I am not judging, just saying how it appears to the naked eye.
I dont want you to feel like we are ganging up on you, because truthfully, the best advice you can get is on this site. The harsh reality of it can hurt but if you use it and turn it around to be proactive in your case then you will be better off.

I have been tracking closely visa approvals both here and in the southern California Nigerian community ( for over a decade off line ) . The fraudsters have moved from letters from some gold heavy prince to trolling the web for a wife based green card ( sure beats the DV lottery ) and the consulate knows it. They also know no matter how many man years you have chatted online that it can all be a con job and if you just stop in for a quickie meeting and marriage the chances of it lasting 5 years is lower than the chances of winning the DV lottery.
Before you travel I would recommend some reading for you
I Do Not Come to You by Chance by Adaobi Tricia Nwaubani
A Culture of Corruption by Daniel Jordan Smith
Those that will scam you for the green card sometimes already have plans to leave before they leave Nigeria. They have a wife that they left behind ( not that you will know of ) or in an extreme case I know of the couple "ended" their marriage , each found someone online to "fall for" in the same geographic area , came to the US and somehow reconnected here. Newbies here don't like to hear what I say but those that have been around have watched and have seen the ones that laughed at me find out that I have no reason to lie about this. Look at the Nigerian portal, of the top 10 ( I am on it twice ) half were scammed for a green card. The failure rate is smaller for Nigerians intermarrying ( although some are doing it for non romantic reasons ) and is dismal for older , nearly menopausal woman in a marry me quick relationship with a 20 or less man.

When it comes to Lagos and knowing whats up NigeriaorBust knows her stuff. Plus just read the data go through the Nigerian Interview reviews. I dare you find anyone with one visit under 30 days got approved.

This is incorrect. For one, the K-1 visa expires once the beneficiary enters the U.S. The adjustment of status can be done at any time, but it doesn't have to be within the 90 days. The only requirement is that the petitioner and beneficiary be married before the date noted on the K-1 visa, which is 90 days. OP, be absolutely sure of that date!

Glad that you sent the letter. I am not generally on board with "sending them back" but the I-864 scares me.
As far as him getting picked up, well don't be so sure. Things have changed a lot.
"Today, Immigration and Customs Enforcement director John Morton announced that 396,906 people were deported during the 2011 fiscal year, the largest number in ICE’s history."
But you don't worry about all that - you've done your part by reporting/pulling, go forth and live life well.

Be careful of meeting him now, he may at any time find out about the lack of i864 and any meeting could be a wonderfull setting for a fight that gets him reason for VAWA. NEVER meet him alone again. NEVER EVER EVER

Watch out! Are you sure he has not found out you withdrew your support? That could be exactly why he is now claiming to love you and want to "work things out"!!

What part of Nigeria was your scamming Ex Wife from?

I have been on the road so I am a little late here. Make sure to withdrawl the affidavit of support ( it is his aos, you can't withdraw it but pulling the affidavit kills it ) Take all the emails that he has sent especially the one where he threatens to kill you. Take a copy of the same email to the local police and ask for a restraining or protective order. When he violates it , report him ( in most states even calling you once he is served violates it ) Change your locks , the passwords on your accounts and kill any cards he has access to.
You didn't marry a man , you married someone with the morals of pig ####. There are people that would pretend to be in love with a month dead cow if it would get them a green card. There is no concern for the damage they do to those they walk on to get there and they feel they are justified in what they do. You should not feel the least bit of regret for reporting his actions and letting the system take care of him. Shame on those that recommended that you just let him go. They are supporters of his behavior and all the others that think the sole purpose of a USC is to provide them with the quickie path to a green card. Even if the act is driven by desparation to get out of a third world country no one has the right to abuse the love of an innocent person for their own self advancement. Report him, cut him off and shut him off.

Thanks again for all the advise. This is where everything stands as of right now. We used a lawyer to process out K1. I got a hold of him today and updated him on my situation, he immediately drew up the letter to withdraw my petition for AOS. He also is sending me tomorrow to a local Uscis office here that has a fraud unit. At this point I still don't know where my husband is, and I am thinking I might never know. For many reasons this might be the best thing for me due to some of the threats, but to be honest it really is driving me crazy. I am taking advise of others and attempting to put my emotions on hold and do what I have to do to protect myself right now.

i think it is deliberate and they wanted popularity. stop feeding the trolls, seriously! and im sure exposing their plans is equivalent to failure.
my next status for fb update is: uscis, stop torturing my family!

it is obvious that he either has a contact somewhere that you were not aware of or was planning this all along. When he realizes that he will need his greencard he will be back.

It's not about vengeance or about seeking validation for it, is about justice, that's all it is!. Why would you allow people to wreck your home, play with your emotions, scam you,treat you and hurt you?. I truly believe we have to respond to any violation or abuse and not let people rob your peace and wrap your heart. Vengeance does not call for punishment. We have a system to protect us,many people are saying "oh Immigration won't do anything against him blah blah blah", well they are wrong! I go to the Immigration Court almost every day of the week for the past 10 years and I saw thousands of people being deported!. In 2011 the United states deported 396,906 people, 54.6% of them were criminal offenders, but 46% of the deportees were people out of status, illegal, fake marriage, people caught at the border etc, they are not sleeping, they work hard!
I am an attorney and I own a non profit organization who helps victim of domestic violence as well and our message is SPEAK OUT!!! To say let go, move on, forgive him/ forget him is not constructive. We build a strong society with moral values when we demand Justice! She said she was psychological and physical abused by her husband then she must not let him get away with freedom.We need to teach our kids to demand justice and respect because without justice a society would fall apart.
Report a fraudulent marriage to the ICE, call at (866) 347-2423.
"The moral arc of the universe bends at the elbow of justice".
(Martin Luther King, Jr).

@OP
If your wife is Nigerian,she should get a birth certificate from national population commission >
She should ask someone from her family to help her process it,if she wont be able to travel to get it herself

How/where did you meet? Was it online? Do you have chat logs and emails? Do you have friends and family that you have confided in or who have skyped/ chatted with your husband during the course of the relationship before and after the wedding? Ask them to write affividats attesting to what they know get them notarized and mailed to you (include the postmarked envelop of the ones mailed to you). Did your pics include both of you in the pics with the family/friends? Did you file taxes married joint? Did your marriage cert. have a seal? Are there pics of both of you and your officiant?
Get yourself together and fight

Seriously, what is he hurting you? I am pretty sure poster was not posting this information for you personally.

3.When he went to that interview he allowed a "immigrant consultant" help him with his forms which the man sent in FOR HIM,in which the man lied and said my husband was married and would definately return to Nigeria.(this was obviously not true,but the man assured him they would grant him a visa but never told MY HUSBAND what he had wrote and sent in on his behalf)So,when they asked my husband if he was married(2007) he said no,and of course that did not coincide with what the man had put on the petition that he sent in for him.(HUGE PROBLEM)
How exactly did the "immigrant consultant" send in the application for him? Applicants for visitor visas are supposed to hand-carry their application and supporting documents to the interview. Nobody by whatsoever mean can "send in" application on behalf of a non-immigrant applicant. The applicant has to appear in person with the application and supporting documents for the interview, no matter who is helping him/her, and your husband's application cannot be any different, except he was granted an exemption from the normal application process for visitor visa applicants. The truth hurts ...someone isn't telling the truth. He's got to be forth-coming with you so you can device a tactful way around the difficulty before you end up being entangled in another lies.

OP, don't be stupid. Seriously. Immigration to the U.S. isn't a game. Get your sh*t straight and stop trying to weasel your way in. Be an honest, noble man and file a divorce for your wife, and do away with the interview. You're making a mockery of all of us and what we're going through. Sickening.