Advice Appreciated

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Hello,

 

I am not sure if I have posted this in the right forum. I apologize in advance if I have not. I am in need of some advice. I met a woman 2 years ago who is from South America. We met at the start of Covid so travel to see each other was impossible but I did manage to see her three times in person. In November she applied and was granted an ESTA. She arrived in the United States in November of 2020. Since I am Canadian who works as a pilot I was laid off and stuck in Canada. I had tried to convince here not to come to the USA to try and enter Canada as the border was and is still closed to non essential travel. Of course she insisted on traveling. I could not enter the USA and she could not enter Canada. In and around 21 days before the 90 days in the United States approached, I suggested she return home and wait for the border to open and then fly directly to Canada when the border opened. She of course did not want to return home. We had an argument about this and she said "I am staying in the United States with or without you'. I could not believe what she had said during the argument. It made me rethink what her intentions were. She later apologized and said she said it out of anger. I decided to give her a chance and she seemed to display she was sincere about being with me. In and around 5 days before the 90 days was to expire I again suggested she should go home. She refused again. After the 90 days ended she decided she wanted to move from Miami to Buffalo to be close to the border to possibly enter Canada as Covid 19 cases were dropping significantly. While in Buffalo, Canada was hit with a 3rd wave again extended border closures.

 

She was living like a queen staying in nice hotels and eating for free everyday of course at my expense both in Miami and Buffalo.  About 7 weeks ago she started mentioning she was depressed and wanted a little puppy. She said she always dreamed of having a Dachshund but could not afford it. She bothered me every day for this dog. So stupid me I found a breeder and paid $3000 USD for a puppy. While waiting for the puppy to be delivered I suggested she go back to Florida and wait for the dog and I hoped to convince her to go back home and wait for the border to open while in Florida. Of course she said I am not going anywhere. I am staying in Buffalo until the border opens and the puppy is also arriving soon. She angrily refused to go back to Florida when I suggested it.

Fast forward to 6 days after the puppy arrived, she calls me and said her friend she met when she arrived in Florida said she should come back to Florida and wait for the border to open and I could fly down when the border opened. All of a sudden she was rushing to get to Florida and she had to go in the next 5 days as her hotel reservation expired in Buffalo, a reservation I was paying for. I said to her all of a sudden you are in a rush. At this point things are starting to run through my head as to what the heck is going on here. It cost me a bundle of money to ship all her personal things she accumulated while in the USA back to Florida. She insisted on riding the Amtrak because she was now in the country illegally and did not want to get flagged at the airport. So off she went and went back to Florida. As soon as she arrived in Florida she started acting weird. The first night she arrived she said her friend was coming over to see her and she completely went silent for 5 hours until almost 2:00 am. We would communicate by Whats app and never did an hour pass without contacting each other to make sure things were ok. I was very upset when she called me at 2:00 in the morning just having checked into a new hotel at 9:45 pm. I had no idea if she was ok or not. It was a heated argument.

 

The following night which was a Saturday, she said her friend was coming to pick her up to bring her to her home for dinner. Oddly, her friend who is apparently 63 years old and my ex is only 27, picked her up from her hotel at 9:45 pm. I really started wondering what the heck was going on at this point. Going for dinner at an elderly persons home at 9:45 pm? Very bizarre. I was worried about where she was really going at that hour. I send her a message at 12:10 am to ask if everything was ok. She did not read the message until 4:47 am on Whats App. She usually checks them within 20 minutes. The next morning I blew a fuse and asked her where the heck she was until after 4:30 am and not checked her message in over 4 hours. I was worried sick. She claims she was home before 2:00 pm. I knew it was a lie because I was going crazy the night before trying to make sure she was okay with zero response. I had the hotel go check on her at 3:00 am in case she fell ill in her room etc. They knocked repeatedly on the door with no answer. They opened the door for a wellness check at 3:45 am and nobody was in the room. After I told her this she became defensive and I told her we are finished and the relationship was over. I now knew she was using me to enter Canada or the U.S. Everything was too convenient when she arrived back in Florida. The next day I asked her if the dog was okay since she had just arrived from a three day journey to Florida with a pet transport. She said the dog is fine. I asked her if I could buy the dog some food and pay for her next round of vaccinations. Her answer was " no don't worry". Later in the day she made the mistake of saying in a text message "I am working now so I can pay". An ESTA to enter, an overstay and 48 hours in Florida and you already have a job and all kinds of money. She admitted her 63 year old friend found her a live in job with a Latino family paying her $10 hr cash for 6 hours a day. After hearing this of course I finally confirmed she was not with me for love.

I know this post has been a little bit long winded. I will get to the point now. I am a Canadian who travels to the United States weekly as I am a commercial pilot in Canada. I am worried now if she gets caught by ICE she will claim I was supporting her while she was illegal from the over stay. Not to mention she is working illegally in cash babysitting a 5 year old child. This was also a dream of hers if she entered Canada. Always looking for ways to stay in North America study, babysitting, marriage to me etc. She is still living in the Air Bnb in Florida I rented for her until the 11th of June. As a test, I asked her if she was able to pay for an apartment after that or did she need help? She said no thank you I can pay. I really let her know my thoughts yesterday in a way I have never yelled before. I accused her of using me and having all this pre planned for months which of course she denies. We are no longer on speaking terms. After spending over $30,000 USD on her hotel rooms, food, clothing etc while in the USA it is a real kick in the gut.

Now I ask everyone who has experience in ESTA and immigration matters, do I report her to ICE to protect myself if she is caught and tries to blame me for her overstay? She is now over the allowed 90 days, lied to the immigration office as to her departure date to go home upon arrival, she is now working illegally with a minor child and has everything she needs to survive because god knows I bought every item of clothes she need including a $3000 dog and a brand new Iphone 12.

 

I feel lied too, manipulated, abused and treated like dirt. She got what she wanted and moved on. I have been contemplating reporting her since I have a copy of her passport photo page, her cell phone number (until she likely changes it) and the name and address of the lady who got her the job. I do not mean harm on anyone but nobody is going to do me any favors if I am looked at as an accomplice to her sophisticated plan.

What are everyone's thoughts? Should I report her to ICE for all these violations and to protect myself in case she blames me for overstaying? I need to enter the USA frequently for work and I do not need this causing me problems every time I fly into the USA. Who would I contact and would they actually even bother with a case like this?

 

I appreciate everyone's thoughts and advice and I thank you all in advance!

 

Thank you,

John

[Mike E 11,754]

You keep saying that you could not enter the USA during Covid. This is wrong. Canadians and anyone else in Canada (with esta or visa) have been flying to the USA since the fake border closure.  Land border crossings are closed though.  
 

I really am surprised that a pilot wouldn’t know this.  What does a pilot think all those flights to the USA are doing? 
 

Stop giving her money.  Make a clean break.  
 

I don’t see any upside for you involving yourself with ICE.  
 

Btw what proof do you have that this woman is actually in the USA? Or that she even exists?

Edited June 1, 2021 by Mike E

[Scandi 4,299]

Nevermind, I read too fast...

Edited June 1, 2021 by Scandi

[SusieQQQ 11,588]

Just cut contact with her. You have no liability in the US for her actions.  You can report her to ICE if it makes you feel better, but realize they are unlikely to act on it. You Sorry this happened to you but it’s time to move on. Good luck. 

Edited June 1, 2021 by SusieQQQ

[Boiler 47,539]

So you got played for big bucks and are looking for some sort of pay back.

 

Chile is the only South American VWP country.

 

US has millions of illegals and the current Administration has no interest in this.

 

Move on.