Need a dvice please

[Otto 83]

Absolutely Speechless......

[kim&james 0]

wow.... please follow the advice of everyone on here and forget anything to do with this woman. What a horrible situation and I believe from what you have written that she is just using you.

Im so sorry this has happened to you and hope that you move on and find a nice lady who you can really share your life with. This woman you are involved with at the moment is not that woman.

[lucho562 0]

Drop kick her thru the uprights.....3 points

[JoeMama 0]

Drop kick her thru the uprights.....3 points

I agree with ya on this one! If the girl had balls, a good kick to 'em would do some good!

[wong_watkins 1]

Trust me, after she's done it once, she will ALWAYS. ALWAYS do it again.

I hate to tell you this, but I would personally just stop talking to her and end the relationship. It's not worth it.

[s2convt 0]

Save yourself the heartache and end it now. All you need to do is call the USCIS center where you submitted your I-129F to cancel the application.

The more you dig into this the more hurtful it will be for you. It's very difficult to overcome a heartbreak but you must begin now. Stop all communication with her, hold your head up and move on. You deserve better and time heals all scars.

I wish you a safe and peaceful path my friend.

Edited March 7, 2007 by s2convt

[WEI_WEI 0]

End it now.. I have been there done that. Even with the marriage, the first fight lead to me telling her I forgave her of her wrong.. and we still divorced.

Good luck... maybe you should find a girl in Singapore...

>L

[davort 0]

End it now.. I have been there done that. Even with the marriage, the first fight lead to me telling her I forgave her of her wrong.. and we still divorced.

Good luck... maybe you should find a girl in Singapore...

>L

Thank you for all yor reppplys it really help. I had blcok her from my e-mail and messenger. I just getting calls from her friend I think she is asking her to call me but I not unswer any one of then. Calls are expensive from there to california i'm sure they will stop calling soon. If not I will change my phone number. I fell better bu I still thinking on her. I had tell my friend and family too about this so they will not let me go back with her for any reasons. This is going to help I guess........Thanks,,,,

[William33 110]

Distance and the lack of face time, can cause discourse in a relationship, as evidenced in your case.

Heck, you have not even met in person!

The accusations of prostitution, without evidence to support it, is simply speculative.

How is it that we arrived at that, simply because she went to Singapore?

Was the money offered for spending, with no expectations?

What happened is wrong, with your relationship in mind, yet, you have never met in person.

The money piece, may be, and probably is innocent.

Either way, if you don't meet in person, you have nothing tangible. It is that simple.

Anyone that speculates prostitution, has not evaluated all possible answers to this issue.

Mate, all the best to you.

Trust me, after she's done it once, she will ALWAYS. ALWAYS do it again.

I hate to tell you this, but I would personally just stop talking to her and end the relationship. It's not worth it.

Edited March 7, 2007 by William33

[wildllama 0]

First, I agree with what everyone has said, you need to end this K-1 process and move on.

second and more importantly, you deserve better. You mentioned that you have a disability. I don't know what it is and I won't assume but I know that many people due to age, disability, previous divorces and many other reasons sometimes feel that they need to settle for a woman like this. No way. Don't ever settle for someone who won't treat you with the same respect you show them. The only thing worse than what you are feeling now is to share your life and home with someone and still feel alone, isolated and trapped in the relationship. Be strong, use your support network and you will get through this.

Good luck.

Ryan

[lirachadsbaby 0]

Hi Guys, I'm a december filer and I don't know if I want to keep going with the prosses. This is what happend. I found out that my fiance was unfaiful to me. She said that she travel to singapore for a working purpose and I found that she really went there to spend a weekend with a guy. I feel really bad because I was taking things seriously with her. I can't not sleep because of this. There is not doubt that she sleep with this guy. One of my fiancee cousing knows her pass word and she feel bad of what she was doing to me and she told her that she gave her 24hours to tell me the real reasons she went to singapore or she will tell me the true. so my fiance all wasy said that she did not sleep with this guys so what I did write the guy that was with her and singapore and he told me that yes that she spent the weekend with him. That he paid her for the ticket and give her 250dls. Then I thought that her couising should know more about this history and she did sent me a e-mail where she wasn sending him her pass port and tell him that she can not wait to be with him. This really broke my heart. Afther I show her the e-mail with the pass port that she sent to him she admited and told me that she god blind with money that she does not know what she was doing...A few hours ago I talked to her in the camera and she was crying and told me that she will kill herself if I liave her....could anyone tell me what I should do? After this all that is in my mind is that if she love me she should not had done this to me....please help.......should I just stop talking with her? she is being calling me and calling me trying to get my forgiveness

It only shows what she wants from you. If I'm not mistaken, you are also sending her money and still accepted the offer of the other guy. Its so disgusting to know such case. Wanting a money from the other guy? I think thats not the reason alone. She is not true to you. Meeting with other person and spending days in other country? wow! I cant do that. If she really loves you, she wont do it.

showed you that she was crying? I wont believe in such trick. Everybody can cry especially when they are caught. It's like an excuse to what she did.

Im so sorry for I have said these. I'M kinda hurt in the sense that there you are doing things for u to be together and this you would get in return? DISHONESTY! IF SHE WENT OUT WITH ANOTHER MAN, I'M SURE SHE CAN DO THAT AGAIN ANG AGAIN! WHAT IF SHE'LL DO THAT WHEN YOU GUYS ARE MARRIED?

DAVORT, YOU REALLY HAVE TO THINK A HUNDRED TIMES WITH THIS SITUATION. I FEEL FOR YOUR PAIN.

I JUST LOVE MY MAN SO MUCH!

[David-and-Mae 15]

Thank you for all yor reppplys it really help. I had blcok her from my e-mail and messenger. I just getting calls from her friend I think she is asking her to call me but I not unswer any one of then. Calls are expensive from there to california i'm sure they will stop calling soon. If not I will change my phone number. I fell better bu I still thinking on her. I had tell my friend and family too about this so they will not let me go back with her for any reasons. This is going to help I guess........Thanks,,,,

Good for you That kind of girl doesn't deserve a second chance, whatsoever... I hope you'll be able to move on easily. I know it's easier said than done but it's for your own good. The more you think of her, the more you'll get hurt so stop it. Just remember that there's a silver lining behind every dark cloud. God bless you!

Mae

[mmarlo 1]

like a bag of dirt. drop her.

[lizzie009 0]

forget that ######...they are right u deserved someone better!!! everything happen for a purpose..lets say u forgive her this time but we are not talking about here for just a day, it is certainly a lifetime commitment..everyone has a choice no matter what her explanation but still u cant deny the fact that she betrayed u that easily.....just forgive her and forget!!!!! move on!!!

[mmb 0]

End it now.. I have been there done that. Even with the marriage, the first fight lead to me telling her I forgave her of her wrong.. and we still divorced.

Good luck... maybe you should find a girl in Singapore...

>L

Thank you for all yor reppplys it really help. I had blcok her from my e-mail and messenger. I just getting calls from her friend I think she is asking her to call me but I not unswer any one of then. Calls are expensive from there to california i'm sure they will stop calling soon. If not I will change my phone number. I fell better bu I still thinking on her. I had tell my friend and family too about this so they will not let me go back with her for any reasons. This is going to help I guess........Thanks,,,,

I'm glad you were able to tell your family and friends as you will need their support.

Nobody deserves to be treated the way you have been.

Keep in mind for the future, you deserve so much better, I'm sure when you are ready you will find better.

Maggie