In need of advice

[Sonnenkind 0]

I am a permanent resident and me and my USC spouse are going through a very difficult time. He is emotionally abuse to the extend that I am scared. It went so far that he hired a private investigator to retrieve my text messages, which is as far as I know illegal since he had no court order. All I want is this nightmare to end and to be happy again. Now he threatens me that if I divorce him to report me to uscis for adultery and have me deported. He wants to use the text messages and emails to a friend as proof.

[blest.but.strest 50]

I am a permanent resident and me and my USC spouse are going through a very difficult time. He is emotionally abuse to the extend that I am scared. It went so far that he hired a private investigator to retrieve my text messages, which is as far as I know illegal since he had no court order. All I want is this nightmare to end and to be happy again. Now he threatens me that if I divorce him to report me to uscis for adultery and have me deported. He wants to use the text messages and emails to a friend as proof.

You are a legal permanent resident, you have committed no crime, you will not get deported because of adultery. If you feel like you can't fix your marriage and you are getting abused then just leave the guy, get a divorce and move on with your life.

Are you a conditional permanent resident or a 10 year card holder?

Edited February 21, 2015 by blest.but.strest

[together4evr 360]

Adultry is a Crime of Moral Turpitude. It is a deportable offense.

http://immigration.lawyers.com/deportation/grounds-for-deportation-moral-turpitude.html

[tuckin14 58]

Regarding the last post

(a) Adultery is only a crime in certain jurisdictions

(b) In many jurisdictions it is a misdemeanor. For example, in Maryland it is punishable by a $10 fine.

© USCIS is not going to conduct its own investigation into criminal activity. If you have not been convicted, USCIS is not going to prosecute you. Nor will police or prosecutors hurry over to arrest you because your husband's feelings are hurt. (But likewise don't expect them to be spending scarce law enforcement resources on nailing him for reading the text messages of a cheating spouse. If the private investigator is making a habit of hacking, maybe they'd go after him.)

On to the immigration matter. If you have your 10-year green card, you have nothing to worry about. He can't have you deported. If you still have your conditional green card, he can't have you deported either, but he can make it more difficult for you to have conditions on permanent residency removed. He can refuse to sign the I-751, in which case you would have to divorce him to apply. (In this context, "divorce" means having a legal separation or filing for divorce; the divorce doesn't have to be final - USCIS is very liberal in that regard.)

If you still have your conditional GC, you kind of have to choose. It sounds like he doesn't want the divorce, so you could agree to stay with him until you get conditions removed. In this case, he has every incentive to try to succeed in your getting your 10-year GC. Or you can separate and go it alone. His cooperation probably will not make a huge difference, but it can't hurt. However, it will be harder to get removal of conditions if you are filing as married, yet separated and heading for divorce. That's probably the worst option, but by no means impossible.

[Boiler 43,433]

Husband is seemingly claiming adultery, using innocent texts and e mails with a friend.

[Sonnenkind 0]

First of all, thank you for all the replies.

To answer the question whether I am a conditional or permanent resident: I have a 10 year greencard.

There is a lot more to this story but he basically comes up with new threats every day so that I would stay with him. I am just really scared because I don't know anymore what he is capable of and I know that if I leave he is going to make my life a living hell.

[Jawaree 717]

Adultry is a Crime of Moral Turpitude. It is a deportable offense.

http://immigration.lawyers.comthe/deportation/grounds-for-deportation-moral-turpitude.html

If OP was in certain parts of the arm forces it could be reported , but OP if he

dont want to work it out and start behaving then move on, he cannot deport you

cheating is not deportable or half the immigrants would be gone..Do U!... don't

take abuse

[NikLR 13,220]

Get divorced. I dont care if you're cheating or not but obviously you're unhappy. I'm really unsure why your husband wants to stay in an unhappy marriage either.

[Dave-n-Oksana 49]

You have a 10 yr greencard so your husband can't do anything. You are free to divorce and move on with your life, but if things are as bad as you are saying I would find a women's shelter and file a restraining order if you are in fear of your life.

[Pennycat 880]

He has no power over your immigration status. Period. It doesn't matter what he says and even if you were cheating on him, that is nowhere near a deportable offense, and isn't even an actual crime in most jurisdictions in the United States, despite what others have said.

He is trying to control you through fear. Don't let him. If you want to leave, you can leave. There are resources available to you to accomplish this.

[Avery Cates 1,141]

Divorce.

Move in with your current boyfriend/other husband.

The rest is details.

[Sonnenkind 0]

Thank you for all the replies.

I just wanted to give everyone a quick update.

I contacted a lawyer to get the divorce paperwork ready. All the actions my husband has taken are too extreme (e.g. preventing me from getting another job) and I just don't want to continue living like that. He doesn't understand and already said that he won't sign the paperwork (i didn't even ask for alimony or anything). He said he talked to a uscis officer and he sent uscis a letter including the phone logs. I truly loved this man but with actions like these he is just pushing me away. I am really at a loss here.

[Sonnenkind 0]

So last night I found out that my current greencard is missing in my wallet. Instead I found my expired 2year gc in there. Needless to say I didn't put the old one in there. He denies everything but I did file a police report.

On top of that he has an interview with uscis scheduled and he is accusing me of marriage fraud. Apparently the officer he spoke to said that more than likely i am going to get deported.

I am scared and do not want to get deported. How can I protect myself??

[Boiler 43,433]

Start by reading the replies above.

[nane1104 146]

You are a permanent resident, your husband can't just get you deported. As a matter of fact, HE can't do anything to you as far as immigration goes and ICE and DHS have more to do than going after someone who has been accused of cheating.

Leave your house.

File for divorce.

Apply for a replacement greencard.

Move on.