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[Butterfly307 77]

Great question.

Originally I planned to do it all myself. My fiancee is always on my case for being wasteful (sorry I'm an American ) so she thought there was no need for a lawyer. I did some research from this site and many others and had it 99% together when I ran into the Chinese mailing address thing, the Chinese home address thing, the forms just made me not feel 100% that I was doing it right. I worked hard all of my life and now make great money and the legal fees were just a small thing in my opinion, what was most important was to not get a denial letter. So I hired a useless lawyer without researching the right lawyer for our situation...

(Chinese baby facepalm)

We have some issues that can cause problems for K-1 once we hit the consulate, leaving us no room for appeal and another 6-8 months wasted It's risky and I don't want to waste more time. Going for a spousal visa on the other hand gives us more options if things get hairy at the consulate.

Besides, we have not met in a year now and any excuse to go to China is good enough for me. Marrying my baby in a couple weeks from now is icing on the cake. Leaving my new wife behind in China is going to suck though.

This time I have an attorney that can explain things in her Chinese Henan Dialect and it is just so much smoother having an experienced lawyer in our corner this time. My baby speaks English well 99% (I changed her British accent closer to my South Louisiana accent), I have learned a little Chinese (working on it) but there are still little pieces here and there that need a little explaining sometimes. Having the attorney that can speak to us on Skype in both languages gives us a feeling that we are not alone in this, it is buying a piece of mind and that is worth it to me when I am looking at another year of waiting.

It's a tough decision, but money is not an issue and I'm trying to leave myself options at later stages in the process, and I miss my baby.

That makes perfect sense! And good luck with the CR-1!

[CowBoE 429]

I haven't read entire message thread...

so at this point, are you going to get married and do the spouse visa?

Or try the K1 visa again?

Regardless, I wonder if you can find out definite denial reason,

so that you are better prepared next time.

I hope all goes well the next time.

[Mike and Yaoling 46]

I haven't read entire message thread...

so at this point, are you going to get married and do the spouse visa?

Or try the K1 visa again?

I have decided on the spousal visa but my fiancee is sleeping on it since it was 1:30 a.m. when we stopped Skyping with the new lawyer and I don't want to force her into making a quick decision when she is so sleepy. I'll update with wedding plans if she agrees to go the spousal visa route. The poor thing will be so exhausted tomorrow.

Regardless, I wonder if you can find out definite denial reason,

so that you are better prepared next time.

I hope all goes well the next time.

Me too. Thanks!

Edited November 6, 2014 by Mike and Yaoling

[Wendy71 26]

Great question.

Originally I planned to do it all myself. My fiancee is always on my case for being wasteful (sorry I'm an American ) so she thought there was no need for a lawyer. I did some research from this site and many others and had it 99% together when I ran into the Chinese mailing address thing, the Chinese home address thing, the forms just made me not feel 100% that I was doing it right. I worked hard all of my life and now make great money and the legal fees were just a small thing in my opinion, what was most important was to not get a denial letter. So I hired a useless lawyer without researching the right lawyer for our situation...

(Chinese baby facepalm)

We have some issues that can cause problems for K-1 once we hit the consulate, leaving us no room for appeal and another 6-8 months wasted It's risky and I don't want to waste more time. Going for a spousal visa on the other hand gives us more options if things get hairy at the consulate.

Besides, we have not met in a year now and any excuse to go to China is good enough for me. Marrying my baby in a couple weeks from now is icing on the cake. Leaving my new wife behind in China is going to suck though.

This time I have an attorney that can explain things in her Chinese Henan Dialect and it is just so much smoother having an experienced lawyer in our corner this time. My baby speaks English well 99% (I changed her British accent closer to my South Louisiana accent), I have learned a little Chinese (working on it) but there are still little pieces here and there that need a little explaining sometimes. Having the attorney that can speak to us on Skype in both languages gives us a feeling that we are not alone in this, it is buying a piece of mind and that is worth it to me when I am looking at another year of waiting.

It's a tough decision, but money is not an issue and I'm trying to leave myself options at later stages in the process, and I miss my baby.

Good on you for firing your lawyer why have someone who cannot do the job properly especially in a process like this. Good luck with your CR-1 I hope it goes a lot smoother than this process cannot wait to follow your progress, your a true southern man mine is from West Virginia living in Tennessee I do not know what my life would be like without him in it

[Mike and Yaoling 46]

Well my baby agreed to get married in China! So we are planning a wedding now. Just got to get a few papers together and a new visa. I could be ready to go in a week.

[Wendy71 26]

Well my baby agreed to get married in China! So we are planning a wedding now. Just got to get a few papers together and a new visa. I could be ready to go in a week.

Yay congratulations

[Maritah 77]

Congrats Mike! I wish you and your fiancé all the blessings in your marriage and all the luck in your journey!

Best regards!

[Mike and Yaoling 46]

Yay congratulations

Thanks!

[Mike and Yaoling 46]

I think we are going to try to salvage the K-1.

She is so fearful of her ex husband. He has a drinking problem and gets very violent. So she worries we have to keep the marriage a secret for 14 months.

Will update as things change.

Still waiting for the letter of denial to make the right choice.

[Kay&Jay 44]

I think we are going to try to salvage the K-1.

She is so fearful of her ex husband. He has a drinking problem and gets very violent. So she worries we have to keep the marriage a secret for 14 months.

Will update as things change.

Still waiting for the letter of denial to make the right choice.

While try to make your decision and stick to it,anyways I would advice you to wait for the denial letter and appeal to it ,it wont take long cause I believe its assigned to someone. Good luck

[d3adc0d3 186]

The K1 and CR1 take around the same amount of time.

Isn't there a way she can have a female friend or family member stay with her, or her with them while this is processing?

[Mike and Yaoling 46]

The K1 and CR1 take around the same amount of time.

Isn't there a way she can have a female friend or family member stay with her, or her with them while this is processing?

She has a female room mate that will have a baby this month and then move out to her husband. The new lawyer knows Kung Fu it seems. We are discussing many things.

[Mike and Yaoling 46]

This is so hard. Deciding what to do. Don't want to make another mistake. Try a fresh K-1? Get married? sigh....

Got the hard copy of the denial letter. New lawyer says it is a waste of time to appeal since USCIS was right, the first lawyer messed up too bad, we have nothing to appeal, just a waste of time and money.

We will spend a few days to talk and think about everything and try to make the right decision. Lawyer advises us to get married, less difficulty at the consulate that way. What to do... what to do...

[d3adc0d3 186]

This is so hard. Deciding what to do. Don't want to make another mistake. Try a fresh K-1? Get married? sigh....

Got the hard copy of the denial letter. New lawyer says it is a waste of time to appeal since USCIS was right, the first lawyer messed up too bad, we have nothing to appeal, just a waste of time and money.

We will spend a few days to talk and think about everything and try to make the right decision. Lawyer advises us to get married, less difficulty at the consulate that way. What to do... what to do...

Typically the CR1 route is much easier, plus when she enters she'll have LPR status, so you won't have to pay more out for AOS and whatnot.

Personally, I'd recommend the following:

1. She move and not tell her ex where she lives. If she has to meet him somewhere she can meet him in a public location.
2. If the above is not an option she either move in with family or friends, or have them move in with her.
3. She contact the local police and see if she can get a restraining order placed on him to stay away from her home and workplace.

Abusive men, especially ones with a drinking problem, won't stop until they can no longer reach you. She needs to do what she can to make herself unreachable.

[YamenWaad 45]

What was the denial for??