What to do (in terms of immigration) when fiancee wants to go home?

[JoeDog 0]

So, my fiancee wants to go home. Cannot envision a successful transition and has demanded to return home.

Yes, I am heart broken, but no need to try and push this rope any further.

Question:

Other than buying a return trip ticket, is there any immigration associated steps to take.

She is K-1, Ukraine, still within 90 days.

Thanks for the condolences....

JoeDog

[payxibka 10,048]

So, my fiancee wants to go home. Cannot envision a successful transition and has demanded to return home.

Yes, I am heart broken, but no need to try and push this rope any further.

Question:

Other than buying a return trip ticket, is there any immigration associated steps to take.

She is K-1, Ukraine, still within 90 days.

Thanks for the condolences....

JoeDog

From an immigration standpoint, none whatsoever.....

[Rodney 0]

If she returns home and you are not married, there are no options.

[Kez/JWolf 6]

sorry to hear it has not worked out for you....

Good luck

[Texas Bound 0]

If she returns home and you are not married, there are no options.

I would notify USCIS cs. just to cover youself in the event she doesnt catch the flight home and makes a stop off. This should remove all legal responsibility off of you. Sorry & Good luck. Tell her it takes time for any transition. Maybe you can find her some groups from her country that she can speak & relate to.

[felnfrank 1]

how come it happened? mmmm just curious

[everandel 0]

She just got here on Nov 2 and she wants to go back, Wow

[JoeDog 0]

Thanks One and All!

I just wanted to make sure that there would be no INS issues on her way home.

Way to use the timeline function everandel! I can only think that the relationship link was too thin (obviously), and that the 5 extra IMBRA months got in the way. I could allocate her response to fear of the changes in her life, or someone else in the wings...

As she describes it, it is everyone and everything she knew and loved that are "in the wings." No linear, rational, Mr Fix-it Guy thinking can take that on. And where there is no faith.......

Joe

Edited November 9, 2006 by JoeDog

[meauxna 15]

Joe, I don't usually comment on these sorts of things, but if there is a girlfriend (or you can fake it reasonably well), really, a talk is in order. What person could seriously expect to move half way around the world and have everything feel 'normal' inside of a week?

I can think of a million and one reasons why someone might feel that way, but if I were doing that, I hope a good friend would take me by the arm and remind me of the bigger picture.

Maybe she needs a serious hug.

[sakurasama 0]

I am with you, Meaux. I know you are not asking for marital advice Joe but maybe a little manipulation (inher best interests, of course) could buy you some time. Don't push her but maybe suggest that since she is here she might as well as enjoy her "vacation". And with a little time she might see that freaking out a pretty normal response to a pretty abnormal situation (a long seperation, leaving you home and then <<BOOM>> getting married). Taking the pressure off might be what she needs to see things for herself. I wouldn't suggest it because it would be really unethical but maybe an unethical person could even lie about the avaliablity of flights it being so close to Thanksgiving and all.

[jasal 0]

I am with you, Meaux. I know you are not asking for marital advice Joe but maybe a little manipulation (inher best interests, of course) could buy you some time. Don't push her but maybe suggest that since she is here she might as well as enjoy her "vacation". And with a little time she might see that freaking out a pretty normal response to a pretty abnormal situation (a long seperation, leaving you home and then <<BOOM>> getting married). Taking the pressure off might be what she needs to see things for herself. I wouldn't suggest it because it would be really unethical but maybe an unethical person could even lie about the avaliablity of flights it being so close to Thanksgiving and all.

The man didn't ask for any of our advice concering his relationship with this woman. He simply asked about immigration issues and that is all. It's none of our business what happened. If he had wanted all of us to know what happened, then he would've told us. Otherwise it's just people being nosy about something that is none of their concern. He didn't ask for an "armchair evaluation" of his situation nor did he seek anyone's opinions or thoughts about his personal life. He's going through something right now that's tough and heart-breaking. If he needs a shoulder to cry on or someone to talk to, I'm sure he has friends and family that he can lean on. As for his fiance, she's an adult and she chose to come here to get married and now she's chosen to NOT go that route. For whatever reasons, she wants to go back to her home country. Whatever happened ain't none of our business. It's theirs only.

I am with you, Meaux. I know you are not asking for marital advice Joe but maybe a little manipulation (inher best interests, of course) could buy you some time. Don't push her but maybe suggest that since she is here she might as well as enjoy her "vacation". And with a little time she might see that freaking out a pretty normal response to a pretty abnormal situation (a long seperation, leaving you home and then <<BOOM>> getting married). Taking the pressure off might be what she needs to see things for herself. I wouldn't suggest it because it would be really unethical but maybe an unethical person could even lie about the avaliablity of flights it being so close to Thanksgiving and all.

What?? Why would you even make such suggestions? Lie? Be unethical? Vacation? The woman wants to go back to her home country. It's her choice. There's obviously alot here that none of us know about and Joe has already said that he's tired of "pushing this rope". And I don't remember reading anywhere in this thread where he asked any of us for our personal opinions and thoughts about HIS life.

[Sinergy 3]

I am with you, Meaux. I know you are not asking for marital advice Joe but maybe a little manipulation (inher best interests, of course) could buy you some time. Don't push her but maybe suggest that since she is here she might as well as enjoy her "vacation". And with a little time she might see that freaking out a pretty normal response to a pretty abnormal situation (a long seperation, leaving you home and then <<BOOM>> getting married). Taking the pressure off might be what she needs to see things for herself. I wouldn't suggest it because it would be really unethical but maybe an unethical person could even lie about the avaliablity of flights it being so close to Thanksgiving and all.

The man didn't ask for any of our advice concering his relationship with this woman. He simply asked about immigration issues and that is all. It's none of our business what happened. If he had wanted all of us to know what happened, then he would've told us. Otherwise it's just people being nosy about something that is none of their concern. He didn't ask for an "armchair evaluation" of his situation nor did he seek anyone's opinions or thoughts about his personal life. He's going through something right now that's tough and heart-breaking. If he needs a shoulder to cry on or someone to talk to, I'm sure he has friends and family that he can lean on. As for his fiance, she's an adult and she chose to come here to get married and now she's chosen to NOT go that route. For whatever reasons, she wants to go back to her home country. Whatever happened ain't none of our business. It's theirs only.

I am with you, Meaux. I know you are not asking for marital advice Joe but maybe a little manipulation (inher best interests, of course) could buy you some time. Don't push her but maybe suggest that since she is here she might as well as enjoy her "vacation". And with a little time she might see that freaking out a pretty normal response to a pretty abnormal situation (a long seperation, leaving you home and then <<BOOM>> getting married). Taking the pressure off might be what she needs to see things for herself. I wouldn't suggest it because it would be really unethical but maybe an unethical person could even lie about the avaliablity of flights it being so close to Thanksgiving and all.

What?? Why would you even make such suggestions? Lie? Be unethical? Vacation? The woman wants to go back to her home country. It's her choice. There's obviously alot here that none of us know about and Joe has already said that he's tired of "pushing this rope". And I don't remember reading anywhere in this thread where he asked any of us for our personal opinions and thoughts about HIS life.

The man doesnt have to ask for advice, we give it to people bc we care. And after going thru such a long and hard process its unhappy for anyone else to see someone else's relationship not working well. As human beings we reach out to those who are down or hurt or lost. She is prolly afraid and needs just a bit more time to adjust, i mean it has only been a few days. unless she has flat out told him "i dont love you i dont wanna be here" then YES i believe he should talk to her, find out whats going on, see if he can help in anyway to make her feel more comfy. but for someone who didnt want any advice on ANYTHING wouldnt have posted, he would have just sent her home. we are all nosey?? i dont think so, you post your life on here, your going to get responses. dont want the response, dont post. thats not for the OP btw.

for the OP, I hope things work out for you, its a heartbreaking situation, i know my husband missed his fam back home, never wanted to go back, but the "need" to go back home will go away once she is settled in, if she allows herself the time to do so.

[Donna A 4]

jasal,

if ur so worried about people being nosey....why did u come to this thread and not answer the question asked?

Maybe to cause trouble?

give the guy an answer or get out!!!!

u didnt do what he wanted either.

[chuckandkim 0]

[Erik 0]

Sorry to hear this Joedog...

How about moving to the Ukraine?